FabSwingers.com forum: Not a winge but.....

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Hey guys...not a winge or a moan just something I want to get off my chest....I hate these popularity threads...big sigh...

Its the same people posting about the same people...and this is not a knock on those people...I enjoy the forums but I also feel disheartened on these threads...no BS guys but yes it is a slight knock to my self-esteem..I can and do laugh about it so not all bad lol.I do try and join in...but my face dont fit in on those threads...again im not knocking anyone who joins in...its the threads I dont care for...anyway its off my chest now...if anyone reads any of this...thanks...and everyone be happy xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not a whinge but.....it kinda is!

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By *oldswarriorMan
over a year ago

Falkirk

Try and not get involved with the toxic drivel mate.

Like most Web based social platforms, is easy for people to hind behind a screen to administer abuse.

Just block and report anything you find offensive.

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By *ora the explorerWoman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts

I’m not keen on the fabathons and the face pic Friday and the tits out Tuesday.

So I avoid them

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By *ex HolesMan
over a year ago

Up North

Give those threads a wide birth then.

You don’t have to be involved in every thread.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Try and not get involved with the toxic drivel mate.

Like most Web based social platforms, is easy for people to hind behind a screen to administer abuse.

Just block and report anything you find offensive. "

?????? Not said anything about abuse...

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By *ex HolesMan
over a year ago

Up North

"I’m not keen on the fabathons and the face pic Friday and the tits out Tuesday.

So I avoid them

Can I see your tits please?

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By *ora the explorerWoman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts

"I’m not keen on the fabathons and the face pic Friday and the tits out Tuesday.

So I avoid them

Can I see your tits please?

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham

What popularity threads?

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By *ex HolesMan
over a year ago

Up North

"I’m not keen on the fabathons and the face pic Friday and the tits out Tuesday.

So I avoid them

Can I see your tits please?

No"

Boring

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Not a whinge but.....it kinda is!

Read it how you want x

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By *gent CoulsonMan
over a year ago

Secret hideaway in the pennines

"Hey guys...not a winge or a moan just something I want to get off my chest....I hate these popularity threads...big sigh...

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By *irty desireWoman
over a year ago

newcatle

Easy thing to do.. don’t comment on those threads!!

Nothing is worth making you feel down especially not a thread of the same people blowing the same shit up the same arses

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I’m not keen on the fabathons and the face pic Friday and the tits out Tuesday.

So I avoid them

Can I see your tits please?

No"

I've seen them....they're ace!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When I first started in the forum I splurged my posts across all sorts of threads because it was all new. I joined in quite heavily with the 'popularity' type threads and after awhile got some responses.

I stopped on them as I got bored with writing the same things to the same people and reading the same things.

Now I pick and choose the threads/posts I respond to and very occasionally throw in a 'I'm in' to a 'popularity' thread but that's it.

If you enjoy a thread and enjoy posting 'I fancy you' type things then do it without the expectation of anything in return. And if you do get something back then that's a bonus.

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By *ora the explorerWoman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts

Also. I avoided your “unpopular” threads as I didn’t find them very inclusive. I’d seen someone get slated for commenting on there. Even though it looked like a laugh on the thread I didn’t because I thought will I be classed as too popular because I post a lot? So in my book that isn’t that pleasant either x

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Hey guys...not a winge or a moan just something I want to get off my chest....I hate these popularity threads...big sigh...

I do find it funny but still I try and join in...but if the face don't fit.....but I will be giving those threads a miss...just needed to get it off my chest x

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By *parkle1974Woman
over a year ago

Leeds

I may put a comment or two on but then step out of the thread when it becomes a 2-3 person show. Fab always has been a LPPC and always will be.

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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago

East London

It's just friends publicly flirting with each other, or strangers trying to get a shag.

Don't take it personally if you don't get a mention.

I like being some people's dirty little secret

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Not a whinge but.....it kinda is!

It was a bit of a whinge wasn’t it!!!!The forums are the forums and if they make you feel poo then just don’t read them ,it really can be that simple but that’s just my opinion!!

Tony

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Any thread you feel isn't for you, don't read it.

You will always have a clicky group of people. It's always been the way on here and it's the same elsewhere.

Why belong to a group that has no interest in you? Other people will be interest in you so find them.

I can tell you from my experience some of the women on here started a hate campaign on Facebook/WhatsApp group to stop others meeting me because of my outspoken views.

Be yourself, stick to your guns, don't chase, stand up be a man.

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By *ily WhiteWoman
over a year ago

There's always the option to scroll past those threads.

There are plenty of threads that I don't particularly like for various reasons, so I just avoid them. Simple

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By *a LunaWoman
over a year ago

South Wales

There are two ways of dealing with it.

Quietly seethe and make voodoo dolls or just gently let it wash over you like rainwater.

I go for the quietly seethe option because I’m a mardy mare

, but seriously, don’t let it get you down.

As I said on another thread, you may not get mentioned on any thread, but it does not mean that you go unnoticed.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

"Hey guys...not a winge or a moan just something I want to get off my chest....I hate these popularity threads...big sigh...

This is my personal opinion.

I get ya. There are obvious reasons why I don't join in those threads but I wouldn't anyway. I protect my self esteem by avoiding them

. The thing is though that just like the lottery, you have to be in it to win it

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By *ea monkeyMan
over a year ago

Manchester (he/him)

There are threads that are always going to be like that, it’s how the forums are and some people enjoy the sense of being perceived as popular, so they persist.

If you’re not of the body beautiful or the type of person that draws attention (not that there’s anything wrong with being so), then I’d recommend that you avoid those threads and look for those that are more likely to garner more attention for you.

We all have a choice on SM to avoid the aspects that can be injurious to our mental health, whether we do or not is up to us.

It’s great if everyone looks out for each other but it’s no ones responsibility to post or not post threads according to a persons ego.

It’s nice to be noticed but there’s only so many times that you can repeat futile actions before you just need to change behaviours

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

OP - just read what you want, there are no rules that say you must contribute to every new thread / post ok

Plus, why not post a thread of your own on a specific subject ??

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By *heNYCSausageMan
over a year ago

Everton

"Hey guys...not a winge or a moan just something I want to get off my chest....I hate these popularity threads...big sigh...

It’s all about the banter.

Take a page from my book. I go into every conversation with no expectations, then I’m never disappointed. Someone ignores me? I expected that. Someone doesn’t mention me? Expected that too.

And if your name is mentioned? BOOM! You still get the feel good moment.

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By *ex HolesMan
over a year ago

Up North

"I’m not keen on the fabathons and the face pic Friday and the tits out Tuesday.

So I avoid them

Can I see your tits please?

I've seen them....they're ace!"

Everyone’s seen them she just playing hard to get

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I’m not keen on the fabathons and the face pic Friday and the tits out Tuesday.

So I avoid them

You forgot the "look at me look at me" threads.... ha ha

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By *ora the explorerWoman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts

"I’m not keen on the fabathons and the face pic Friday and the tits out Tuesday.

So I avoid them

You forgot the "look at me look at me" threads.... ha ha "

. And those

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

Also op your opinion and feelings are valid

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By *aitonelMan
over a year ago

Liverpool

Here is the thing.

The vast majority of the time you won't be alone in that. The popularity threads are just one big circle jerk, that is what they are by nature. And you will actually be in the majority of not being mentioned or messaged or flirted with. It happens to all of us (well most of us).

You either go in to them and expect the very outcome that you get from them now (largely ignored) to avoid disappointment, so when that random moment comes along you do get a mention.

Or you just avoid going in to them because you can not fully accept that the outcome won't be in your favour.

It is pretty much what I do when I'm feeling like I can be bothered. Pop in, make a comment to be seen then forget about it.

Leave the worry of the popularity game back in high school and teenage years. Embrace the outsider life and let everyone else go about the fickle popularity competition. Life is so much better when you are not craving for the attention of others, regardless of who they are.

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By *ora the explorerWoman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts

"Here is the thing.

You either go in to them and expect the very outcome that you get from them now (largely ignored) to avoid disappointment, so when that random moment comes along you do get a mention.

Or you just avoid going in to them because you can not fully accept that the outcome won't be in your favour.

It is pretty much what I do when I'm feeling like I can be bothered. Pop in, make a comment to be seen then forget about it.

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By *parkle1974Woman
over a year ago

Leeds

"Here is the thing.

You either go in to them and expect the very outcome that you get from them now (largely ignored) to avoid disappointment, so when that random moment comes along you do get a mention.

Or you just avoid going in to them because you can not fully accept that the outcome won't be in your favour.

It is pretty much what I do when I'm feeling like I can be bothered. Pop in, make a comment to be seen then forget about it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Here is the thing.

You either go in to them and expect the very outcome that you get from them now (largely ignored) to avoid disappointment, so when that random moment comes along you do get a mention.

Or you just avoid going in to them because you can not fully accept that the outcome won't be in your favour.

It is pretty much what I do when I'm feeling like I can be bothered. Pop in, make a comment to be seen then forget about it.

Well said x

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By *indergirlWoman
over a year ago

somewhere, someplace

I go into the 'popularity' ones for a giggle, if I get ignored no skin off my nose, it's only an online forum, the peoples opinions that matter are the ones that I talk to privately be that on here or other methods x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just an observation Op from your previous threads but you seem pretty insecure so probably best to avoid the threads that make you feel like shit. Try and concentrate on the threads that you do like and stop highlighting the fact that you think you aren't "popular", be more positive and less negative and things might improve?

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By *rumpyMcFuckNuggetMan
over a year ago

Den of Iniquity

"I go into the 'popularity' ones for a giggle, if I get ignored no skin off my nose, it's only an online forum, the peoples opinions that matter are the ones that I talk to privately be that on here or other methods x "

Yes . This. Spot on

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By *rHotNottsMan
over a year ago

Dubai & Nottingham

"Hey guys...not a winge or a moan just something I want to get off my chest....I hate these popularity threads...big sigh...

Jusr remember the “popular” are often the most insecure, let them have their therapy it’s no harm

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By *oxy lady40Woman
over a year ago

bridgwater

I am not very popular on the forum , and I don’t really care , I am in real life and that’s all that really matters x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You have to accept that any woman posting in these type of threads your on about will be jumped upon because guys are desperate to be noticed.

It's a false inflated position for a lot of these women or they would be pulling left or and centre in the real world and have no need for fabs.

That's the reality of it, soon as many of them log off they go into depression or are lonely so they need men telling them how lovely they are.

So that's why you see so many look at me or threads aimed by men to name women they want to fuck.

It's a game for women to boost they egos.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just avoid them is the best advice I can give... Just because your name isn’t on a list doesn’t mean your not on somebody’s

There were a lot of people that didn’t post on the threads... so the mystery is you could be on theirs...

I personally didn’t make a list because I like a lot of people and I’d hate for someone to feel they were left out.

Keep positive OP and anyone else that feels like that.

We all make the forums what it is in our own way. Whether you post, make threads or just simply lurk we are all part of it and make it what it is

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By *wist my nipplesCouple
over a year ago

North East Scotland, mostly

It's a false inflated position for a lot of these women or they would be pulling left or and centre in the real world and have no need for fabs.

So you're saying some women only use fab because they can't pull in the real world? Can you back that up?

Mrs kf

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

The schoolyard attitude is very real, although it's not in any way unique to Fab.

It can be hard, but there's much to be said for going "well, ok, have fun with that" and not playing. Unlike actual children, we don't have to engage.

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By *heNYCSausageMan
over a year ago

Everton

It's a false inflated position for a lot of these women or they would be pulling left or and centre in the real world and have no need for fabs.

So you're saying some women only use fab because they can't pull in the real world? Can you back that up?

Mrs kf "

Not a woman but I can say I can’t for the life of trying pull anything with a pulse in the real world lol

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By *inky Biscuit DunkerMan
over a year ago

Gloucestershire

I'll let other people debate where whys & wherefores but, respect for opening up like that OP & I hope it's helped by getting it off your chest

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

"You have to accept that any woman posting in these type of threads your on about will be jumped upon because guys are desperate to be noticed.

It's a false inflated position for a lot of these women or they would be pulling left or and centre in the real world and have no need for fabs.

That's the reality of it, soon as many of them log off they go into depression or are lonely so they need men telling them how lovely they are.

So that's why you see so many look at me or threads aimed by men to name women they want to fuck.

It's a game for women to boost they egos.

The first part made sense, the second less so.

Op, don't put too much weight on these things. It is all a game - I'm not going to make disparaging comments about those who are named because it's unnecessary and you know, we should all #bekind. I can understand why it might dent your self confidence and that's valid but avoiding them is a good idea. I know some threads I'd never be named on/ignored so I just ignore them rather than let them contribute to any worries I might have.

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By *wist my nipplesCouple
over a year ago

North East Scotland, mostly

I hear you OP. Sometimes I post on such a thread then check back later and have no responses. Sometimes that puts me a little down, usually if I'm feeling a bit down anyway. Then I remember what I am in control of - myself - what I'm not - other people - and that my self-worth isn't defined by others.

Mrs kf x

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By *parkle1974Woman
over a year ago

Leeds

"I am not very popular on the forum , and I don’t really care , I am in real life and that’s all that really matters x"

I feel exactly the same. The opinions from people who don't know me, don't matter. I don't need to be on anyone's list...I'm on mine thats what counts x

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By *oxy lady40Woman
over a year ago

bridgwater

"I am not very popular on the forum , and I don’t really care , I am in real life and that’s all that really matters x

I feel exactly the same. The opinions from people who don't know me, don't matter. I don't need to be on anyone's list...I'm on mine thats what counts x"
exactly this

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By *ackformore100Man
over a year ago

Tin town

"Hey guys...not a winge or a moan just something I want to get off my chest....I hate these popularity threads...big sigh...

I do find it funny but still I try and join in...but if the face don't fit.....but I will be giving those threads a miss...just needed to get it off my chest x"

I know what you mean mate.

Just an observation. I don't go near them, as like you I'm not a fan of the sycophancy. I'd have thought in mental health week we could be a bit more supportive and inclusive.

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

To summarise OP, like most things Fab related, take it seriously and to heart and it'll sting - take it with a pinch of salt and see it for what it is and any sting is removed.

The nature of the site is such that "popularity" is perceived by many to be the be all and end all - truth is it's not, far from it - many of the "popular" are only perceived to be by their forum presence and the fact they are all over threads day and night so spring to mind more immediately than the who just quietly go about their business posting when they see things that interest them - doesn't necessarily mean those people are more popular though, just more visible.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yeah with some i don’t feel I’m in with the group. I just comment on things that interest me. It’s for this same reason I don’t cam.

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By *tephTV67TV/TS
over a year ago

Cheshire

"The schoolyard attitude is very real, although it's not in any way unique to Fab.

It can be hard, but there's much to be said for going "well, ok, have fun with that" and not playing. Unlike actual children, we don't have to engage."

This

I don’t read or join those threads I have little interest in playing popularity games.

I’ve been a member of various forums in the past from running to motorcycling forums. They always had a clique of some kind and as I was quite active my voice (comments) were heard and replied to.

I have taken some time away and login occasionally now just to see what’s going on. Those other forums are seeing more of me these days,

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By *riar BelisseWoman
over a year ago

Delightful Bliss

I guess it boils down to why you post on those threads, if it's because you want a flirty chat then maybe make your own one

We need the variety of threads to keep the variety of people coming In and creating different topics, post in what interests you and avoid what doesn't

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hi OP

Hope you’re ok mate, don’t play the popularity game drag you in. I personally don’t care wether I’m popular or not, I go in there to get away from life for a while, reading other people’s comments are funny wether I get any or not. Unlike what some say it’s not a LPPc it’s just banter.

The people I like I message and talk to out of the threads. Even guys, and after the weekend I had it’s nice to chat.

If you want to chat my inbox is always open noochie same as it is for anyone.

There’s a few I don’t message now because I’ve seen through them and how fickle some people are.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I hear you OP. Sometimes I post on such a thread then check back later and have no responses. Sometimes that puts me a little down, usually if I'm feeling a bit down anyway. Then I remember what I am in control of - myself - what I'm not - other people - and that my self-worth isn't defined by others.

Mrs kf x"

I think when you're feeling low is the worst time to post on those sorts of threads as you're relying on other people to pick you up and end up feeling worse when it doesn't happen. I've done it in the past for the secret service threads and it's not a nice feeling at all. I now just avoid them altogether, especially when I'm feeling down about myself because like you said, I'm the one in control of my own actions

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You shouldn’t worry about what other people think of you on here...... I don’t

...... just avoid those type of threads if you feel uncomfortable.... it’s meant to be fun....not to be taken seriously ..... chin up OP and keep smiling

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By *andyfloss2000Woman
over a year ago

ashford

Get what u mean! Reminds me of my kids at school when they never got picked for anything! If people are of low esteem it wont help to see all the "in crowd" to get picked! But that's life! I used to tell them! And toughens them up for later disapointments! But to me u are all gourgeous lovely peeps here! Well most

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You are entitled to express any opinion you like OP. If you want to moan, then moan.

The forums are popularity contests and there is nothing wrong with that because it represents life.

Attractive people get more attention. On here, in the pub, in the club, in school ect.

The problem is that we get to see the attention others get.

So we feel insecure and unwanted by comparison. It's why Facebook is so toxic. It makes you feel like shit because you see how good other people have it. All the time. In your face.

But it's also not reality. Behind a lot of confident photos of a perfect body is someone insecure who needs the validation. We don't see the insecurity or the fear. We only see the unattainable.

I am strongly considering deleting our account because its not making me feel good. I deleted twitter, Facebook and every other social app for the same reason.

And again ... it's not because I'm not getting attention or that the people here are not great. Its because I'm comparing apples and oranges and it doesn't make me feel good.

People having a pop at the OP because he's feeling shit about a type of thread doesn't help. It's not that everyone is butt hurt or anything like that.

It's just a normal human emotion and a little bit of empathy goes a long way

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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago

East London

"You have to accept that any woman posting in these type of threads your on about will be jumped upon because guys are desperate to be noticed.

It's a false inflated position for a lot of these women or they would be pulling left or and centre in the real world and have no need for fabs.

That's the reality of it, soon as many of them log off they go into depression or are lonely so they need men telling them how lovely they are.

So that's why you see so many look at me or threads aimed by men to name women they want to fuck.

It's a game for women to boost they egos.

Where are you getting your information from?

I'm fat and middle-aged, and I get interest away from Fab.

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By *parkle1974Woman
over a year ago

Leeds

"You have to accept that any woman posting in these type of threads your on about will be jumped upon because guys are desperate to be noticed.

It's a false inflated position for a lot of these women or they would be pulling left or and centre in the real world and have no need for fabs.

That's the reality of it, soon as many of them log off they go into depression or are lonely so they need men telling them how lovely they are.

So that's why you see so many look at me or threads aimed by men to name women they want to fuck.

It's a game for women to boost they egos.

I dont need or want anyone to boost my ego. I take compliments from here with a pinch of salt, especially when that person has never met me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Some like it, some don't.

A bit like some like anal sex and others don't.

You just have to accept its thing and not let it bother you.

I don't like certain types of threads but sometimes I comment on them in a way to show to my stance or view on them without being arsey.

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By *nfin8yWoman
over a year ago

Newcastle-under-Lyme

I think it’s a natural thing as far as SM goes to compare ourselves to other people in different ways - how attractive we are, how fulfilled our life is etc etc. It’s great to get positives strokes but getting no response or negative responses can quickly drag us down but that doesn’t make us an unattractive, unsuccessful or a bad person. I’m sure many others like myself have spent a lot more time on social media during the lockdowns - especially living on my own. I’ve got a lot out of SM at times just by having some contact with other people but when I find myself being drawn into a negative view of myself I take a break and get out into the real world for a bit. After all these Forums are just snapshots of people, of ideas etc. The problem often lies in the importance we attach to them when they are only a tiny part of a much bigger world.

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By *oxy lady40Woman
over a year ago

bridgwater

I think these threads are done to much

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By *uriousscouserWoman
over a year ago

Wirral

"I’m not keen on the fabathons and the face pic Friday and the tits out Tuesday.

So I avoid them

I love the fabathons because I end up perving on people I may never have looked at normally because they're out of my area or age range or whatever.

Always up for a perv

I do agree though, I don't look at the threads that aren't likely to interest me.

The joy of the forum - none of the threads are mandatory!

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By *irty desireWoman
over a year ago

newcatle

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By *irty desireWoman
over a year ago

newcatle

"I think these threads are done to much "

As are the ones that span off these threads!! But then the ops points must of hit a nerve for the thread created by a said popular person is basically dismissed any feelings of the op to boost there fucking ugly egos!!

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By *riar BelisseWoman
over a year ago

Delightful Bliss

"You are entitled to express any opinion you like OP. If you want to moan, then moan.

The forums are popularity contests and there is nothing wrong with that because it represents life.

Attractive people get more attention. On here, in the pub, in the club, in school ect.

The problem is that we get to see the attention others get.

So we feel insecure and unwanted by comparison. It's why Facebook is so toxic. It makes you feel like shit because you see how good other people have it. All the time. In your face.

But it's also not reality. Behind a lot of confident photos of a perfect body is someone insecure who needs the validation. We don't see the insecurity or the fear. We only see the unattainable.

I am strongly considering deleting our account because its not making me feel good. I deleted twitter, Facebook and every other social app for the same reason.

And again ... it's not because I'm not getting attention or that the people here are not great. Its because I'm comparing apples and oranges and it doesn't make me feel good.

People having a pop at the OP because he's feeling shit about a type of thread doesn't help. It's not that everyone is butt hurt or anything like that.

It's just a normal human emotion and a little bit of empathy goes a long way"

I hope you find peace x

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By *ackformore100Man
over a year ago

Tin town

I think the responses would be very different had one of fab royalty mooted the point.

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By *parkle1974Woman
over a year ago

Leeds

"I think the responses would be very different had one of fab royalty mooted the point. "

Oh didn't you know there is no such thing....everyone is equal

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By *rincess peachWoman
over a year ago

shits creek

I do get where you're coming from.

I steer clear from the "best" threads because if the natural progression of it is "big boobs are the best" for example, it can make me feel like I'm "less than" or lacking.

But, a lot of that really does come from how I'm feeling mentally and I know it's me being self destructive heading into those threads when I'm feeling low.

The word best gives a totally different vibe to me than "favourite" or "preferred", yet the second 2 are in fact what they really mean most of the time.

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

"I think the responses would be very different had one of fab royalty mooted the point. "

I think for the most part people have been quite sympathetic/empathetic - agreeing with the OP, explaining their views, not shutting him down. Quite a few posters on here respond to the post not the poster but maybe that's my confirmation bias coming out.

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By *ea monkeyMan
over a year ago

Manchester (he/him)

"I think the responses would be very different had one of fab royalty mooted the point.

I agree.

I think that this has been a pretty fair response to a question that could have descended into acrimony

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By *aitonelMan
over a year ago

Liverpool

"I think the responses would be very different had one of fab royalty mooted the point. "

Why? It's been a rather balanced thread.

There has been both empathy, and also constructive advice.

Just because people are not falling over themselves to overwhelmingly agree or cushion the op from bad vibes does not enforce the idea of "fab royalty" and that responses would be largely different. Yes, in the case of "fab royalty" you would certainly get posts supporting them from their friends, but the majority of responses would mirror this thread exactly.

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By *irty desireWoman
over a year ago

newcatle

Yet nothing has been said about the thread that has clearly come of the back of this one because its off fab royalty!! Just saying!!

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By *ora the explorerWoman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts

"Yet nothing has been said about the thread that has clearly come of the back of this one because its off fab royalty!! Just saying!!"

Which thread are you talking about?

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By *irty desireWoman
over a year ago

newcatle

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By *ora the explorerWoman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts

"Yet nothing has been said about the thread that has clearly come of the back of this one because its off fab royalty!! Just saying!!

Which thread are you talking about?

The one that’s pretending to be about intimation!! "

Oh right. I hadn’t really linked the two. That’s not very nice though. What the hell is fab royalty? This place is horrible today

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By *irty desireWoman
over a year ago

newcatle

"Yet nothing has been said about the thread that has clearly come of the back of this one because its off fab royalty!! Just saying!!

Which thread are you talking about?

The one that’s pretending to be about intimation!!

Oh right. I hadn’t really linked the two. That’s not very nice though. What the hell is fab royalty? This place is horrible today

Sorry spelt that wrong

It is .. and also opened my eyes a lot!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I’m not keen on the fabathons and the face pic Friday and the tits out Tuesday.

So I avoid them

Can I see your tits please?

No"

Awwww

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Am I the only one that’s horribly confused!? What’s going on …

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Hey guys...not a winge or a moan just something I want to get off my chest....I hate these popularity threads...big sigh...

Same shit inane drivel diffrent shovel........dont pay it no mind

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By *irty desireWoman
over a year ago

newcatle

"I’m not keen on the fabathons and the face pic Friday and the tits out Tuesday.

So I avoid them

Can I see your tits please?

Awwww

Did you eat that creme egg after the photo

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By *ora the explorerWoman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts

"Am I the only one that’s horribly confused!? What’s going on …"

I have no idea! I think I must be going around with my eyes shut. I just feel that it’s a horrible atmosphere on here today.

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By *rincess peachWoman
over a year ago

shits creek

"Yet nothing has been said about the thread that has clearly come of the back of this one because its off fab royalty!! Just saying!!

Which thread are you talking about?

The one that’s pretending to be about intimation!!

Oh right. I hadn’t really linked the two. That’s not very nice though. What the hell is fab royalty? This place is horrible today

Sorry spelt that wrong

It is .. and also opened my eyes a lot!! "

I missed it too. I'm normally quite good at spotting undercurrents. Must be losing my touch

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By *ancer36Woman
over a year ago

Stirling

"Yet nothing has been said about the thread that has clearly come of the back of this one because its off fab royalty!! Just saying!!

Which thread are you talking about?

The one that’s pretending to be about intimation!!

Oh right. I hadn’t really linked the two. That’s not very nice though. What the hell is fab royalty? This place is horrible today

Couldn’t agree more aren’t we all just people...what’s with the popularity contests and royalty phrases

I’m in competition with no one, like me or not it’s a personal choice

We’re all adults at the end of the day x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Am I the only one that’s horribly confused!? What’s going on …

I have no idea! I think I must be going around with my eyes shut. I just feel that it’s a horrible atmosphere on here today. "

I think I am too, I’m going to build a blanket fort and eat chocolate, coming ….?

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By *ora the explorerWoman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts

"Yet nothing has been said about the thread that has clearly come of the back of this one because its off fab royalty!! Just saying!!

Which thread are you talking about?

The one that’s pretending to be about intimation!!

Oh right. I hadn’t really linked the two. That’s not very nice though. What the hell is fab royalty? This place is horrible today

Couldn’t agree more aren’t we all just people...what’s with the popularity contests and royalty phrases

I’m in competition with no one, like me or not it’s a personal choice

We’re all adults at the end of the day x"

Exactly. What on earth is going on!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Am I the only one that’s horribly confused!? What’s going on …

I have no idea! I think I must be going around with my eyes shut. I just feel that it’s a horrible atmosphere on here today.

I think I am too, I’m going to build a blanket fort and eat chocolate, coming ….? "

room for a little one? I have chocolate orange giant buttons

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By *ea monkeyMan
over a year ago

Manchester (he/him)

"Yet nothing has been said about the thread that has clearly come of the back of this one because its off fab royalty!! Just saying!!"

I made my comments on the actual thread, rather than pulling across

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By *ora the explorerWoman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts

"Am I the only one that’s horribly confused!? What’s going on …

I have no idea! I think I must be going around with my eyes shut. I just feel that it’s a horrible atmosphere on here today.

I think I am too, I’m going to build a blanket fort and eat chocolate, coming ….? "

Yep definitely!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Am I the only one that’s horribly confused!? What’s going on …

I have no idea! I think I must be going around with my eyes shut. I just feel that it’s a horrible atmosphere on here today.

I think I am too, I’m going to build a blanket fort and eat chocolate, coming ….?

Yep definitely!!

Can I join you ladies ? I'll bring wine x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Yet nothing has been said about the thread that has clearly come of the back of this one because its off fab royalty!! Just saying!!

Which thread are you talking about?

The one that’s pretending to be about intimation!!

Oh right. I hadn’t really linked the two. That’s not very nice though. What the hell is fab royalty? This place is horrible today

Couldn’t agree more aren’t we all just people...what’s with the popularity contests and royalty phrases

I’m in competition with no one, like me or not it’s a personal choice

We’re all adults at the end of the day x

Exactly. What on earth is going on! "

Fab royalty lol I’d like to know who they are, I used to think like this until I realised there isn’t any. And the people you need to worry are the ones who comment on a thread and act all nice but pour poison in peoples ears in PM

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By *ea monkeyMan
over a year ago

Manchester (he/him)

"Yet nothing has been said about the thread that has clearly come of the back of this one because its off fab royalty!! Just saying!!

Which thread are you talking about?

The one that’s pretending to be about intimation!!

Oh right. I hadn’t really linked the two. That’s not very nice though. What the hell is fab royalty? This place is horrible today

Couldn’t agree more aren’t we all just people...what’s with the popularity contests and royalty phrases

I’m in competition with no one, like me or not it’s a personal choice

We’re all adults at the end of the day x"

I agree absolutely.

I heard the term first a few years ago and laughed my ass off. To consider someone better or a higher status because they message on the internet is ridiculous

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By *iddlesticksMan
over a year ago

My nan’s spare room.

This isn’t a whinge. Literally I’m quite happy with my lot in life really.

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By *ea monkeyMan
over a year ago

Manchester (he/him)

"Yet nothing has been said about the thread that has clearly come of the back of this one because its off fab royalty!! Just saying!!

Which thread are you talking about?

The one that’s pretending to be about intimation!!

Oh right. I hadn’t really linked the two. That’s not very nice though. What the hell is fab royalty? This place is horrible today

Couldn’t agree more aren’t we all just people...what’s with the popularity contests and royalty phrases

I’m in competition with no one, like me or not it’s a personal choice

We’re all adults at the end of the day x

Exactly. What on earth is going on!

Careful Tom, you’re starting to sound like me!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Am I the only one that’s horribly confused!? What’s going on …

I have no idea! I think I must be going around with my eyes shut. I just feel that it’s a horrible atmosphere on here today.

I think I am too, I’m going to build a blanket fort and eat chocolate, coming ….?

Yep definitely!!

Can I join you ladies ? I'll bring wine x "

Oh yes

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By *nfin8yWoman
over a year ago

Newcastle-under-Lyme

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Yet nothing has been said about the thread that has clearly come of the back of this one because its off fab royalty!! Just saying!!"

Utter rubbish

So was my post a woe is me post, mentioning losing a friend on Sunday to suicide

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Yet nothing has been said about the thread that has clearly come of the back of this one because its off fab royalty!! Just saying!!

Utter rubbish

So was my post a woe is me post, mentioning losing a friend on Sunday to suicide

I don't think people are talking about that thread really.

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By *irty desireWoman
over a year ago

newcatle

"Yet nothing has been said about the thread that has clearly come of the back of this one because its off fab royalty!! Just saying!!

Utter rubbish

So was my post a woe is me post, mentioning losing a friend on Sunday to suicide

This has nothing to do with your post , which many others including myself responded too you! You have lost me was there a thread made up off the back of yours??

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By *nfin8yWoman
over a year ago

Newcastle-under-Lyme

"Yet nothing has been said about the thread that has clearly come of the back of this one because its off fab royalty!! Just saying!!

Utter rubbish

So was my post a woe is me post, mentioning losing a friend on Sunday to suicide

Absolutely not a woe is me and perfectly understandable under the circumstances.

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By *uriousscouserWoman
over a year ago

Wirral

"Am I the only one that’s horribly confused!? What’s going on …

I have no idea! I think I must be going around with my eyes shut. I just feel that it’s a horrible atmosphere on here today.

I think I am too, I’m going to build a blanket fort and eat chocolate, coming ….?

room for a little one? I have chocolate orange giant buttons

Whatever I need to do to get my name on that guest list, I'm up for it.

Chocolate orange giant buttons. I'm such a tart for sugar.

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By *ea monkeyMan
over a year ago

Manchester (he/him)

"Yet nothing has been said about the thread that has clearly come of the back of this one because its off fab royalty!! Just saying!!

Utter rubbish

So was my post a woe is me post, mentioning losing a friend on Sunday to suicide

I think that people make judgement calls on whether a persons response is justified or not based on the subject and the wording of it.

It can then snowball according to the initial posts.

To be honest though, neither this or your thread have been responded to negatively in my view, but that’s my opinion

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Any thread you feel isn't for you, don't read it.

You will always have a clicky group of people. It's always been the way on here and it's the same elsewhere.

Why belong to a group that has no interest in you? Other people will be interest in you so find them.

I can tell you from my experience some of the women on here started a hate campaign on Facebook/WhatsApp group to stop others meeting me because of my outspoken views.

Be yourself, stick to your guns, don't chase, stand up be a man.

"
People may call you a 'conspiracy theorists' for claiming to have been hunted by a pack of wolves that work in relays!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Yet nothing has been said about the thread that has clearly come of the back of this one because its off fab royalty!! Just saying!!

Utter rubbish

So was my post a woe is me post, mentioning losing a friend on Sunday to suicide

I don't think people are talking about that thread really.

Which thread are ppl.on about I'm.confused by this easily done I know

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By *ambertMan
over a year ago

Cheltenham

Well that escalated

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Any thread you feel isn't for you, don't read it.

You will always have a clicky group of people. It's always been the way on here and it's the same elsewhere.

Why belong to a group that has no interest in you? Other people will be interest in you so find them.

I can tell you from my experience some of the women on here started a hate campaign on Facebook/WhatsApp group to stop others meeting me because of my outspoken views.

Be yourself, stick to your guns, don't chase, stand up be a man.

People may call you a 'conspiracy theorists' for claiming to have been hunted by a pack of wolves that work in relays!"
Who said that!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think the thing to bear in mind OP is that, putting things into perspective, those of us that frequent the forum regularly are a small subset of the entire fabs population. Therefore, it's a "beauty contest" with very few contestants and I wouldn't let it impact on your sense of self-esteem.

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By *nkforthekinkMan
over a year ago

london/fareham/brighton

"I’m not keen on the fabathons and the face pic Friday and the tits out Tuesday.

So I avoid them

Can I see your tits please?

Awwww

Did you eat that creme egg after the photo

Who’s got creme eggs?!?!

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By *parkle1974Woman
over a year ago

Leeds

Makes me laugh when someone automatically thinks a comment is aimed at them, ffs this place today is like a kids playground!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Yet nothing has been said about the thread that has clearly come of the back of this one because its off fab royalty!! Just saying!!

Utter rubbish

So was my post a woe is me post, mentioning losing a friend on Sunday to suicide

This has nothing to do with your post , which many others including myself responded too you! You have lost me was there a thread made up off the back of yours??"

Not at all I’m just saying people are allowed to post without the toxicity on here today.

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By * Lexi xWoman
over a year ago

stockport

"Am I the only one that’s horribly confused!? What’s going on …

I have no idea! I think I must be going around with my eyes shut. I just feel that it’s a horrible atmosphere on here today. "

It’s been vile for ages.

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By *irty desireWoman
over a year ago

newcatle

"Yet nothing has been said about the thread that has clearly come of the back of this one because its off fab royalty!! Just saying!!

Utter rubbish

So was my post a woe is me post, mentioning losing a friend on Sunday to suicide

This has nothing to do with your post , which many others including myself responded too you! You have lost me was there a thread made up off the back of yours??

Not at all I’m just saying people are allowed to post without the toxicity on here today. "

Its a vile place and not everyone has the strength for it!!

And them are the people I would rather chat with!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Yet nothing has been said about the thread that has clearly come of the back of this one because its off fab royalty!! Just saying!!

Utter rubbish

So was my post a woe is me post, mentioning losing a friend on Sunday to suicide

This has nothing to do with your post , which many others including myself responded too you! You have lost me was there a thread made up off the back of yours??

Not at all I’m just saying people are allowed to post without the toxicity on here today.

Its a vile place and not everyone has the strength for it!!

And them are the people I would rather chat with!!"

That’s cool! I’m the same

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over a year ago

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By *inger_SnapWoman
over a year ago

Hampshire/Dorset

I would suggest everyone gets out more.

I've had a lovely social coffee today in the park. Sunshine, peacocks and cockatiels... Honestly!

Plus great company.

Highly recommend it instead of festering in the forums moaning about people you don't know

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Its a vile place and not everyone has the strength for it!!

And them are the people I would rather chat with!!"

This

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sorry have to say this, it's a public forum with a wide ranging plethora of personalities, but ppl.plz give your heads a wobble, if your passed over or ignored by ppl you don't even know, will more than likely never meet, what does it. In the grand scheme of things, right here right now your all OK, its meant to be fun not toxic, I've been guilty of being toxic on here towards one, but gave my head a wobble...famous saying springs to mind ' LOVE FOR ALL, HATRED FOR NONE'..

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By *irty desireWoman
over a year ago

newcatle

"Sorry have to say this, it's a public forum with a wide ranging plethora of personalities, but ppl.plz give your heads a wobble, if your passed over or ignored by ppl you don't even know, will more than likely never meet, what does it. In the grand scheme of things, right here right now your all OK, its meant to be fun not toxic, I've been guilty of being toxic on here towards one, but gave my head a wobble...famous saying springs to mind ' LOVE FOR ALL, HATRED FOR NONE'.."

But sometimes its not easy for people too bust give there heads a wobble

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

But sometimes its not easy for people too bust give there heads a wobble

If there is a detrimental effect to ppl using the forums, then they need to look at the use of them, when the pain of not changing becomes greater than the pain of change itself, then it'll change

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By *irty desireWoman
over a year ago

newcatle

But sometimes its not easy for people too bust give there heads a wobble

If there is a detrimental effect to ppl using the forums, then they need to look at the use of them, when the pain of not changing becomes greater than the pain of change itself, then it'll change "

And i agree, but it takes time! The op is still trying to figure it out and get answers to his questions!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

But sometimes its not easy for people too bust give there heads a wobble

If there is a detrimental effect to ppl using the forums, then they need to look at the use of them, when the pain of not changing becomes greater than the pain of change itself, then it'll change

And i agree, but it takes time! The op is still trying to figure it out and get answers to his questions!"

If his self esteem is being knocked and feels disheartened then change has to take place, im not knocking or attacking him, it's evident that being over looked, ignored on certain threads, is having a knock on effect

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I haven't read the thread because I can't be arsed

I agree with the OP it is a popularity contest.

Just avoid them

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