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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Sexytime lingerie only?

I just saw an interesting comment on the brit award thread and was surprised, so wanted to open a discussion about it.

It was said that dua lipa should not have been wearing stockings when kids were watching.

Now this surpised me because I wear stockings not just for sexual reasons, but for day to day lingerie too.

My children have seen me put on a corset, girdle and stockings underneath my 50s swing dresses and petticoats.

When they first questioned what they were....as children are curious little beings....I told them the stockings make it easier for me to go to the toilet in my frilly dresses, and I dont spend half the day shuffling my tights back up.

The corset helps my back when standing or walking for long hours.

They have never batted an eyelid since.

I will wear tights on windy days though....for obvious reasons.

I think they are only sexualised if you make them so, and an innocent child would not know the difference.

So, do you think it is inappropriate for people to be seen wearing them day to day, or is it purely a sexual thing and would it make you uncomfortable to see it? X

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By *otsossieMan
over a year ago

local, but not too local

It’s just the Daily Mail readers getting upset at their pants twitching / fear of their partner having some sort of sexual awakening.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I prefer stockings, I find having reasonably long legs that if I wear tights I'm constantly pulling them up.

I didn't see the issue with dua lipa wearing them. If the kids had been watching I doubt they would have even noticed

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"It’s just the Daily Mail readers getting upset at their pants twitching / fear of their partner having some sort of sexual awakening. "

Maybe part of it but I am more focused on whether they think it is inappropriate for children to see

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By *rMrsBrightsideCouple
over a year ago

Newcastle

I saw her last night and thought she looked amazing and it just added something extra to her outfit. I think it is something people in the entertainment industry can get away with more than if you saw someone down the local like that.

I think it depends how they are worn and what with. I guess for me they are not something I wear everyday so I do associate them with being sexy.

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By *ustyshowoffCouple
over a year ago

Cyprus

It’s just another example of stupid people with too much time on their hands and no lives of their own.

When I was young my mom and most women for that matter wore stockings and suspenders, it’s just clothing ffs.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I prefer stockings, I find having reasonably long legs that if I wear tights I'm constantly pulling them up.

I didn't see the issue with dua lipa wearing them. If the kids had been watching I doubt they would have even noticed"

My thoughts too, just another fashion item

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"It’s just another example of stupid people with too much time on their hands and no lives of their own.

When I was young my mom and most women for that matter wore stockings and suspenders, it’s just clothing ffs.

I remember my nanna wearing them

haha

I didnt think anything of it

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By *rMrsBrightsideCouple
over a year ago

Newcastle

"It’s just the Daily Mail readers getting upset at their pants twitching / fear of their partner having some sort of sexual awakening.

Maybe part of it but I am more focused on whether they think it is inappropriate for children to see"

It wouldn't bother me if my children had been watching. I think it is more about the context and that was like a costume. It's no worse than what they see in some music videos.

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By *otsossieMan
over a year ago

local, but not too local

This is what I’m driving at, they’re choosing to sexualise it and judge. And then complaining that kids are, what, thinking it’s ok? Getting upset?

Honestly some folk are just out to be offended.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Stockings per se? No.

Stockings so that the suspenders are visible under a far too short skirt?

Also no.

A skirt that short that your thong is showing?

Also no.

Is it time that we stop blaming women for dressing "provocatively" and accept the problem lies with men that think how a woman dresses absolves men of responsibility?

Stockings are just long socks. Men used to wear them years ago with britches....

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By *ily WhiteWoman
over a year ago

I don't think it's inappropriate at all, it's like saying you shouldn't wear knickers every day because you wear them in a sexual capacity sometimes.

I've known plenty of women over the years who wear stockings in humdrum everyday life...for all manner of reasons from tights causing recurring bouts of thrush to simply finding stockings more comfortable.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I saw her last night and thought she looked amazing and it just added something extra to her outfit. I think it is something people in the entertainment industry can get away with more than if you saw someone down the local like that.

I think it depends how they are worn and what with. I guess for me they are not something I wear everyday so I do associate them with being sexy.

Kx"

I still dont think it matters for the point I was making.

Adults in the local may see them sexual, but do you think it is inappropriate for children to see them?

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By *emorefridaCouple
over a year ago

La la land

I remember my art teacher in primary school used to wear them. We as a few girls noticed so she showed us the clips. She said they didn't fall and roll down like tights and were more comfortable. So that has always been my attitude towards them.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Stockings per se? No.

Stockings so that the suspenders are visible under a far too short skirt?

Also no.

A skirt that short that your thong is showing?

Also no.

Is it time that we stop blaming women for dressing "provocatively" and accept the problem lies with men that think how a woman dresses absolves men of responsibility?

Stockings are just long socks. Men used to wear them years ago with britches...."

Exactly. Just because an adult sees it that way, doesnt mean a child would think it. To most kids they prefer the colours and patterns lol

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I don't think it's inappropriate at all, it's like saying you shouldn't wear knickers every day because you wear them in a sexual capacity sometimes.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I remember my art teacher in primary school used to wear them. We as a few girls noticed so she showed us the clips. She said they didn't fall and roll down like tights and were more comfortable. So that has always been my attitude towards them.

That is the perfect way to handle it. Matter of fact. If you shy away from it or get embarrassed then they would wonder why?

Straight up facts to why you choose to wear them, because believe me, I dont wear them to be sexy round tesco

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By *ermite12ukMan
over a year ago

Solihull and Brentwood

I have always had a thing, for ladies that wear stockings. Remembering my childhood, and not so much now. If a lady was wearing stockings on TV. I would dissapear to the bathroom. But only because this I perceived, was a turn on for me.

For some, a lady wearing a black leather coat is a turn on....cum to think of it

. Should leather coats be banned? Nope. But imho....stockings are very close to the line. But from my point of view. So very glad, ladies of all ages, continue to wear them. Especially RHT's.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm not sure why I need to know what kind of undergarments anybody wears in every day situations

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I wear hold ups or stockings every day under my dresses or skirts as I don't wear trousers at all.

My kids have seen me in various underware sets/stockings and have never questioned it.

I'm not doing anything sexual in that scenario by wearing it so no harm is being done.

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By * and R cple4Couple
over a year ago

swansea

It’s adults that have the issue and then the kids will wonder why these adults react to these things. Kid’s wouldn’t even bat a eye if it wasn’t for some adults reactions.

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By *ora the explorerWoman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts

I wear stockings or hold ups day to day as I don’t like tights x

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

I was born in 1956. My mum wire stockings and a girdle as every day wear. Tights were a very new thing and quite expensive by the time I got to the age that socks were no longer appropriate. I think stockings and corsets have become sexualised in recent years and people struggle to differentiate between people people who are just wearing them and people who are wearing them for sexual reasons. Hence the posts from guys who assume that any woman wearing stockings is doing so for men's pleasure.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I wear hold ups or stockings every day under my dresses or skirts as I don't wear trousers at all.

My kids have seen me in various underware sets/stockings and have never questioned it.

I'm not doing anything sexual in that scenario by wearing it so no harm is being done. "

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I was born in 1956. My mum wire stockings and a girdle as every day wear. Tights were a very new thing and quite expensive by the time I got to the age that socks were no longer appropriate. I think stockings and corsets have become sexualised in recent years and people struggle to differentiate between people people who are just wearing them and people who are wearing them for sexual reasons. Hence the posts from guys who assume that any woman wearing stockings is doing so for men's pleasure."

Agree completely, and as most of my fashion revolves around 50s clothing, well day to day anyway, then I see no harm in adding the stockings too x

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I wear stockings or hold ups day to day as I don’t like tights x"

I didnt realise so many did tbh, but it is refreshing to see I am not on my own here lol

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"It’s adults that have the issue and then the kids will wonder why these adults react to these things. Kid’s wouldn’t even bat a eye if it wasn’t for some adults reactions."

Yep, adults can sexualise it but they should not project that onto the innocent minds

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

Agree completely, and as most of my fashion revolves around 50s clothing, well day to day anyway, then I see no harm in adding the stockings too x"

Nor me. I love stockings, they look great and they're so much better for you than tights. Hold ups can let you down at the worst time too.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Dare I say this. I don't think they should as sexualised as they are and should be everyday wear and be something kids wouldn't bat an eyelid at.

The only thing I would struggle with is if my children in later life associated me wearing stockings in a sexualised sense. Particularly if I wore them around a male child. And that in itself is a worry as a result of stockings being sexualised and the fact that later in life the male child would be subjected to that sexualisation beyond my control.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Agree completely, and as most of my fashion revolves around 50s clothing, well day to day anyway, then I see no harm in adding the stockings too x

Nor me. I love stockings, they look great and they're so much better for you than tights. Hold ups can let you down at the worst time too.

I got let down by hold ups at the school gate. My left leg chose a very bad moment to end up round my ankle

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By *ora the explorerWoman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts

"I wear stockings or hold ups day to day as I don’t like tights x

I didnt realise so many did tbh, but it is refreshing to see I am not on my own here lol"

I know you don’t like people going on about it lol but seeing your pics really makes me want to try some of those corsets! X

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I wear stockings or hold ups day to day as I don’t like tights x

I didnt realise so many did tbh, but it is refreshing to see I am not on my own here lol

I know you don’t like people going on about it lol but seeing your pics really makes me want to try some of those corsets! X"

Haha, go for it, what do you have to lose

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By *om and JennieCouple
over a year ago

Chams or Socials

Ok, so this follows on from my comment where I thought it was inappropriate.

Yes she looked great - she is young, has a lovely figure, could wear a bin bag & still look gorgeous.

Yes it was part of a costume.

Yes people appear on stage wearing less.

Yes women (well everyone) should wear whatever they want.

I wear stockings & suspenders, they are more practical, comfortable & hygienic than tights, my sons have seen me wearing them (many years ago now), but would you walk round the streets with your suspenders showing?

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By *uriousscouserWoman
over a year ago

Wirral

"I don't think it's inappropriate at all, it's like saying you shouldn't wear knickers every day because you wear them in a sexual capacity sometimes.

I can't stand tights, so I wear stockings under my trousers or jeans. Hold-ups never hold up on my massive thighs, so it's always stockings and suspenders.

It's not a sexual thing for me, although sometimes I wear them to feel like I've made an effort and to give me a bit of a boost, in the same way I'll wear particular bits of jewellery or a particular perfume.

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

I have a great aunt in her late 80s shes a very stout lady and has never moved with the times. She still wears stockings and suspenders, girdles and corsets. Cant imagine thats very sexy

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Ok, so this follows on from my comment where I thought it was inappropriate.

Yes she looked great - she is young, has a lovely figure, could wear a bin bag & still look gorgeous.

Yes it was part of a costume.

Yes people appear on stage wearing less.

Yes women (well everyone) should wear whatever they want.

J "

If I saw her down the street dressed as she was on stage I would think she looked amazing and honestly it would not concern me if my children saw.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It’s just another example of stupid people with too much time on their hands and no lives of their own.

When I was young my mom and most women for that matter wore stockings and suspenders, it’s just clothing ffs.

I remember my nanna wearing them

haha

I didnt think anything of it"

Yeah but im surre your Nana didnt wear a dress showing off the tops though if you know what i mean.

I think there is a slight difference to wearing them everyday as normal clothing and how she wore them though, dont you?.

Im just kinda playing devils advocate as in reality i dont really care. Plus wouldnt most kids be in bed by then? I know i was until i was a teenager atleast

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By *ewfie02Couple
over a year ago

Ayrshire

The people complaining probably live in pyjamas and trackies

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"It’s just another example of stupid people with too much time on their hands and no lives of their own.

When I was young my mom and most women for that matter wore stockings and suspenders, it’s just clothing ffs.

I remember my nanna wearing them

haha

I didnt think anything of it

Yeah but im surre your Nana didnt wear a dress showing off the tops though if you know what i mean.

I think there is a slight difference to wearing them everyday as normal clothing and how she wore them though, dont you?.

Im just kinda playing devils advocate as in reality i dont really care. Plus wouldnt most kids be in bed by then? I know i was until i was a teenager atleast"

I still dont see the issue if I am honest, I wouldnt be bothered if my kids saw someone down the street like that and I dont think they would even look twice either.

They do have a very funky styled mother though so get used to it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i’ve just watched the performance and think the prudes that are complaining need to re examine their thought process for a few reasons

1. how are female artists supposed to win , they get slated for showing too much flesh, and yet dua shows no skin other than a tiny amount of thigh the entire performance and she is still getting crap for it

2. a brit award stage performance outfit isn’t every day wear - its a costume and none of the rest of it was overtly sexual or risque so if people have sexualised the stockings then that says more about their own thoughts

3. why should an adult performer actually have to censor their content/ clothing for children anyway? why is it their job to be appropriate for someone elses kids rather than the parents to decide what content they want to allow their kids to see

4. i feel like its just an extension of all the ways women are told they should mute themselves / body because it is sexualised by other people or the media - like the folk that get offended by public breast feeding, or the fact that mens nipples are ok on instagram but female nipples are banned - at the end of the day its a pair of tights with the top section missing - its not really all that sexual unless you make it so and then thats on you

oh i wasnt expecting to rant that much sorry

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By *icky and MandyCouple
over a year ago

Bournemouth

I……

……wearing my collection of nylon

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I don't think it's inappropriate at all, it's like saying you shouldn't wear knickers every day because you wear them in a sexual capacity sometimes.

i had the same thoughts about bras - some are sexy sure but its not their purpose

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"i’ve just watched the performance and think the prudes that are complaining need to re examine their thought process for a few reasons

oh i wasnt expecting to rant that much sorry

Well I appreciate your rant, as you said it so well, and I agree.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Ok, so this follows on from my comment where I thought it was inappropriate.

Yes she looked great - she is young, has a lovely figure, could wear a bin bag & still look gorgeous.

Yes it was part of a costume.

Yes people appear on stage wearing less.

Yes women (well everyone) should wear whatever they want.

J "

there are lots of things i wouldnt do because i dont think i can pull off the fashion of it while others do and i wouldnt bat an eyelid and thats how i see the suspenders showing in public thing

if you think about it the suspends sits mid to upper thigh depending how long your legs are - i see girls in shorts or dresses that show that part of their body all the time when the summer hits and its warmer , so why would a strap to hold up nylon in that same section of your leg suddenly make much difference

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If it's on a bank robber I have to say no I'm not attracted to them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Sexytime lingerie only?

I just saw an interesting comment on the brit award thread and was surprised, so wanted to open a discussion about it.

It was said that dua lipa should not have been wearing stockings when kids were watching.

Now this surpised me because I wear stockings not just for sexual reasons, but for day to day lingerie too.

My children have seen me put on a corset, girdle and stockings underneath my 50s swing dresses and petticoats.

The corset helps my back when standing or walking for long hours.

They have never batted an eyelid since.

I will wear tights on windy days though....for obvious reasons.

I think they are only sexualised if you make them so, and an innocent child would not know the difference.

So, do you think it is inappropriate for people to be seen wearing them day to day, or is it purely a sexual thing and would it make you uncomfortable to see it? X"

I don't see the problem wearing stockings, my Mum, Aunts and my Nan wore them. I just think the world has gone crazy and will find anything to moan about.

That sort of comment just goes to show what is on their mind 24/7.

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By *ancer36Woman
over a year ago

Stirling

I prefer stockings, I don’t see them as a bedroom only item

Tights are a royal pain in the arse and I rarely find any that are comfortable to wear all day.

Have always worn stockings to work in summer and tights in winter just for practicality reasons.

I say wear what makes you comfortable xx

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I prefer stockings, I don’t see them as a bedroom only item

Tights are a royal pain in the arse and I rarely find any that are comfortable to wear all day.

Have always worn stockings to work in summer and tights in winter just for practicality reasons.

I say wear what makes you comfortable xx"

Agree and for the winter tights problem, try Snag, they are awesome

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By *ancer36Woman
over a year ago

Stirling

"I prefer stockings, I don’t see them as a bedroom only item

Tights are a royal pain in the arse and I rarely find any that are comfortable to wear all day.

Have always worn stockings to work in summer and tights in winter just for practicality reasons.

I say wear what makes you comfortable xx

Agree and for the winter tights problem, try Snag, they are awesome

Aw thank you I’ve seen these and wondered if any good, I’ll give them a try

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By *ex HolesMan
over a year ago

Up North

I only wear them when I’m doing the local post office over

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"Ok, so this follows on from my comment where I thought it was inappropriate.

Yes she looked great - she is young, has a lovely figure, could wear a bin bag & still look gorgeous.

Yes it was part of a costume.

Yes people appear on stage wearing less.

Yes women (well everyone) should wear whatever they want.

J "

No I wouldn't. There's a time and a place in my opinion. I don't know if she does walk down the street how she was dressed last night though

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My 13 Yr old daughter told me they are coming back into fashion. She called it grandparent chic.

I asked her did she feel it was appropriate and her answer was interesting. She said that just because my generation had sexualised suspenders and tights that didn't mean her generation couldn't reclaim them.

She told me boomers were repressed and that gave them a sexual value. And my generation had copied that sexualisation because of movies.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"My 13 Yr old daughter told me they are coming back into fashion. She called it grandparent chic.

She told me boomers were repressed and that gave them a sexual value. And my generation had copied that sexualisation because of movies. "

Smart kid

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"My 13 Yr old daughter told me they are coming back into fashion. She called it grandparent chic.

She told me boomers were repressed and that gave them a sexual value. And my generation had copied that sexualisation because of movies.

Smart kid

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too smart most of the time. I gave her a feminist book for her 12th birthday and she has been educating herself since.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think Madonna wore worse in the 1990s! Remember Vogue and the cone bra thingy??

I think she looked great last night and I didn't even bat an eyelid - probably Fab has done that to me though

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"My 13 Yr old daughter told me they are coming back into fashion. She called it grandparent chic.

She told me boomers were repressed and that gave them a sexual value. And my generation had copied that sexualisation because of movies. "

i love this

except maybe the label grandparent chic

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If I'm wearing them it's sexy time

On others it can be either as far as I'm concerned I don't just assume

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don’t think stockings are inappropriate at all, I wear mine daily as well as in the bedroom.

They’re not that different from tights, I don’t really understand the big deal.

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By *hrista BellendWoman
over a year ago

surrounded by twinkly lights

I see them as sexy purely because I sexualise them

Its also not attire I would ever wear in work/mummy time, Its only when C comes out to play at the weekends

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By *tockingscouple69Couple
over a year ago

Pontefract

Paula wears on a daily basis and it's on a sexual thing if you make it so

Bloody hell it's clothing and lingerie get into 2021 not 1951

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By *ust RachelTV/TS
over a year ago

Horsham

I think the media has sexualised them for years, just look at benny hill shows. Showing women in tight fitting clothes, stockings and suspenders on show.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Unfortunately so many things are sexualised in life ... it's the downside of fab for me in reality!

Clothes are just clothes, people sexualise them (including all people here)

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By *othicslaveCouple
over a year ago

Norfolk

Trouble is ,finding the ones that sit correctly and some can look too much with what else you add, so just depends on the outfit and scenario, I do like a good fitting not over done pair with a corset and stilettos

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