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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

When commenting on posts, and ppl feel the need to write this on the end of their comment, that to me, is looking to start something unnecessary... I know ppl have diff opinions, but I wish this place was friendlier. Some are out to jump at your throat no matter what you say. *** HAPPY MONDAYYY PEOPLE ***

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By *opsy RogersWoman
over a year ago

London

Right back atcha!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"When commenting on posts, and ppl feel the need to write this on the end of their comment, that to me, is looking to start something unnecessary... I know ppl have diff opinions, but I wish this place was friendlier. Some are out to jump at your throat no matter what you say. *** HAPPY MONDAYYY PEOPLE *** "

Oh FFS get a life

Just kidding

We need more friendly people

(and more sex)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

you havent gotta rise to the bait

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By *iewMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

I do get what you are saying but I believe the last 2 weeks have demonstrated how friendly this place is.

OK, maybe a few disagreements but on the whole great banter, good laughs and a fantastic buzz.

We just all need to keep it going, will it last.... only time will tell, there will always be a few differences of opinions but also fantastic laughs.

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By *riskygazMan
over a year ago

birmingham

some people just arnt happy unless they have something to bitch about lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"some people just arnt happy unless they have something to bitch about lol"

I am a grumpy old woman, and i like a good moan.

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By *emmefataleWoman
over a year ago

dirtybigbadsgirlville


"When commenting on posts, and ppl feel the need to write this on the end of their comment, that to me, is looking to start something unnecessary... I know ppl have diff opinions, but I wish this place was friendlier. Some are out to jump at your throat no matter what you say. *** HAPPY MONDAYYY PEOPLE *** "
Ok points id like to make here....

1. YOU put a thread up saying it was a "pisstake" that the queen hadnt shown her face at the closing ceremony of the olympic games.

2. YOU said that we sing god save the queen so she should have been there.....

3. You have posted on the forums a few times so know what n how to post and are NOT a newbie.

4. The country has been feeling so patriotic over the last few weeks, it is Diamond Jubilee this year, also we have had London 2012, so those of us that ARE patriotic and some of us that arent may or may not disagree with you.

5. When you post something in the forums that is YOUR opinion, be aware that others MAY NOT agree with YOUR opinion, but they also have THEIR OWN opinions.And they will voice these.

6. Very convieniently you say i wish this place was friendlier, it is....it can be....it sometimes isnt, but if you start a thread that people feel passionately about expect people to disagree with you.

Have Fun

Femme xx

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By *abloBackMan
over a year ago

London

You take a week when I am away in negotiations over the film of THAT book to say its really nice and friendly here!

Fuggers

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Think I remember being blocked on a jokey thread I'd posted...possibly the dry cheeky humour went over the head lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i like these forums and most of the people on them.

the same subjects do come up a lot in different forms but on the whole i enjoy the wind up.

its funny, i get abusive messages from guys calling me this and that because of my posts.

real tough guys these lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"i like these forums and most of the people on them.

the same subjects do come up a lot in different forms but on the whole i enjoy the wind up.

its funny, i get abusive messages from guys calling me this and that because of my posts.

real tough guys these lol"

so you admit to being deliberately contraversial then ?

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By *emmefataleWoman
over a year ago

dirtybigbadsgirlville


"i like these forums and most of the people on them.

the same subjects do come up a lot in different forms but on the whole i enjoy the wind up.

its funny, i get abusive messages from guys calling me this and that because of my posts.

real tough guys these lol"
same as you then?

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By *yrdwomanWoman
over a year ago

Putting the 'cum' in Eboracum


"i like these forums and most of the people on them.

the same subjects do come up a lot in different forms but on the whole i enjoy the wind up.

its funny, i get abusive messages from guys calling me this and that because of my posts.

real tough guys these lol"

I wouldn't ever send you an abusive message about your posts, but I do think you do it for effect and one day people are just going to start ignoring you.

Not sure I'd want my reputation on these forums to be 'that person who only posts nasty things to wind others up', but I am sure you're fine with that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Love the banter and debate, differences of opinion, differing _iews and occasionally a good argument. But l have started to switch off at how personal some people can get for no apparent reason. And it does seem to be on the increase sadly. Only a few days ago a complete thread was taken out simply because 2 women were just very abusive to another. And l ask myself: Why?

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By *Ryan-Man
over a year ago

In Your Bush

I am blocked by a few people in here. I cant recall ever deliberately offending anyone. However, it is easy to misinterpret things through forums, texts or emails

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"some people just arnt happy unless they have something to bitch about lol"
yes maybe your right .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"i like these forums and most of the people on them.

the same subjects do come up a lot in different forms but on the whole i enjoy the wind up.

its funny, i get abusive messages from guys calling me this and that because of my posts.

real tough guys these lol

I wouldn't ever send you an abusive message about your posts, but I do think you do it for effect and one day people are just going to start ignoring you.

Not sure I'd want my reputation on these forums to be 'that person who only posts nasty things to wind others up', but I am sure you're fine with that."

He's not the only guy to be it tho, there are certainly others who are worse and provoke bad feeling.

I like the forum as it is, I'd be so bored if everyone was kissing ass all the time. If there's something you dislike then challenge it, can't be much simpler than that really, its only a discussion forum, people can switch off and out of it all anytime they like

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By *phroditeWoman
over a year ago

(She/ her) in Sensualityland


"

I wouldn't ever send you an abusive message about your posts, but I do think you do it for effect and one day people are just going to start ignoring you.

Not sure I'd want my reputation on these forums to be 'that person who only posts nasty things to wind others up', but I am sure you're fine with that.

He's not the only guy to be it tho, there are certainly others who are worse and provoke bad feeling.

I like the forum as it is, I'd be so bored if everyone was kissing ass all the time. If there's something you dislike then challenge it, can't be much simpler than that really, its only a discussion forum, people can switch off and out of it all anytime they like "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I was using the Scotland forum and just came onto these ones a couple of weeks back and these are so much friendly , to many bullys on the Scotland forum, great banter here xxxx

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By *abloBackMan
over a year ago

London

Mine are usually enforced

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have my own brain capable of having independent thoughts, making my own judgements, and have my own opinions.

Peeps cannot and should not expect me to agree with their _iews and opinions at all times.

I am "sunshine yellow" most of the time, however, rub me up the wrong way, and my claws will come out.

Simples!

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By *phroditeWoman
over a year ago

(She/ her) in Sensualityland

It always amazes me how people have their own very unique style of posting, choice of words, emoticons and generally their sense of humour. To the point that you recognise somebody by their style of writing even when they changed their profile name - its uncanning how the personality always shines through.

It is nice to see such diversity - even if I dont always agree with the content or type of thread, I have the choice to ignore or move onto a thread that I like.

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By *isscheekychopsWoman
over a year ago

The land of grey peas and bacon

This is fab world and if someone don't agree with what you have to say then its their choice. We all have freedom of speech and we may disagree in certain things. As long as people don't get personal or comment not very nice things on purpose then its about sometimes seeing things from other points of _iew.. I have learnt a few things from people in here and sometimes changed my mind when an arguement is presented with evidence.. we are who we are..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It always amazes me how people have their own very unique style of posting, choice of words, emoticons and generally their sense of humour. To the point that you recognise somebody by their style of writing even when they changed their profile name - its uncanning how the personality always shines through.

It is nice to see such diversity - even if I dont always agree with the content or type of thread, I have the choice to ignore or move onto a thread that I like. "

Totally agree with that , if we were all the same in forums it would get a tad samey, but i do draw the line at kicking people when there down or following the heard to rip someone to bits and belittle them in posts , it reeks in the Scottish forum to many people getting kicked in the teeth by cliques its not nice, a great debates fun but should be kept light hearted and have patients to listen to everyones _iews before entering into it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It always amazes me how people have their own very unique style of posting, choice of words, emoticons and generally their sense of humour. To the point that you recognise somebody by their style of writing even when they changed their profile name - its uncanning how the personality always shines through.

It is nice to see such diversity - even if I dont always agree with the content or type of thread, I have the choice to ignore or move onto a thread that I like.

Totally agree with that , if we were all the same in forums it would get a tad samey, but i do draw the line at kicking people when there down or following the heard to rip someone to bits and belittle them in posts , it reeks in the Scottish forum to many people getting kicked in the teeth by cliques its not nice, a great debates fun but should be kept light hearted and have patients to listen to everyones _iews before entering into it "

Have u dyed ur hair again vicky!!!!

xxxxxxxxxxxxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It always amazes me how people have their own very unique style of posting, choice of words, emoticons and generally their sense of humour. To the point that you recognise somebody by their style of writing even when they changed their profile name - its uncanning how the personality always shines through.

It is nice to see such diversity - even if I dont always agree with the content or type of thread, I have the choice to ignore or move onto a thread that I like.

Totally agree with that , if we were all the same in forums it would get a tad samey, but i do draw the line at kicking people when there down or following the heard to rip someone to bits and belittle them in posts , it reeks in the Scottish forum to many people getting kicked in the teeth by cliques its not nice, a great debates fun but should be kept light hearted and have patients to listen to everyones _iews before entering into it

Have u dyed ur hair again vicky!!!!

xxxxxxxxxxxxx"

yeah im blond again Paddy lol

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I have never once on any post, said that someone's opinion is wrong. I have once challenged, as I have my own feelings on a situ. My point was simple, with a previous post, someone turned my thoughts on a subject around, to be then personal against me. Not the thread or the thoughts I presented within it. It has happened with 98% of the posts I converse in. Either at myself, as older women seem to think I need them lecturing me, all about how opinions work, yada, yada. I tried a few weeks ago to find a little place n voice within the walls here, but once again * not made welcome. Sad that ppl do not just keep to the post. Thankfully tho, I am very happy using my fab account and these ppl will not actually be influencing or my usage. Just a shame really.

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By *emmefataleWoman
over a year ago

dirtybigbadsgirlville


"I have never once on any post, said that someone's opinion is wrong. I have once challenged, as I have my own feelings on a situ. My point was simple, with a previous post, someone turned my thoughts on a subject around, to be then personal against me. Not the thread or the thoughts I presented within it. It has happened with 98% of the posts I converse in. Either at myself, as older women seem to think I need them lecturing me, all about how opinions work, yada, yada. I tried a few weeks ago to find a little place n voice within the walls here, but once again * not made welcome. Sad that ppl do not just keep to the post. Thankfully tho, I am very happy using my fab account and these ppl will not actually be influencing or my usage. Just a shame really. "
you are too sensitive....from the fact you have had replies you have been made welcome...because people disagree with some stuff you put up doesnt mean you are not welcome.....yada yada yada.....welcome

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I have never once on any post, said that someone's opinion is wrong. I have once challenged, as I have my own feelings on a situ. My point was simple, with a previous post, someone turned my thoughts on a subject around, to be then personal against me. Not the thread or the thoughts I presented within it. It has happened with 98% of the posts I converse in. Either at myself, as older women seem to think I need them lecturing me, all about how opinions work, yada, yada. I tried a few weeks ago to find a little place n voice within the walls here, but once again * not made welcome. Sad that ppl do not just keep to the post. Thankfully tho, I am very happy using my fab account and these ppl will not actually be influencing or my usage. Just a shame really. "
You keep posting ... if you see people same ones keep doing this to you and feel your being bullies mail fab and report .. Theres no need for that here ...Some think if clever with words wright a good post thay can get away with alot .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Listen I don't care what you think, because what I think is right and that is the only thing that counts and it really isn't fair of any of you to pop my happy little bubble and tell me that I'm wrong and that you are right. It just shows how uncaring and insensitive you really are, when you have an opinion that is different to mine. Its against my human rights for you to criticise me, and I'm going to go and cry and when I'm done I'm calling my lawyer, who isn't made up by the way. I know that my grammar, spelling and punctuation is awful but I wasn't privileged like you and therefore as an under privileged individual, you have even less rights to criticise me. So There!

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By *iewMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

[Removed by poster at 14/08/12 12:30:40]

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By *abloBackMan
over a year ago

London

I thought this was one of those fluffy posts so stayed out, still not sure what the argument is though

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Listen I don't care what you think, because what I think is right and that is the only thing that counts and it really isn't fair of any of you to pop my happy little bubble and tell me that I'm wrong and that you are right. It just shows how uncaring and insensitive you really are, when you have an opinion that is different to mine. Its against my human rights for you to criticise me, and I'm going to go and cry and when I'm done I'm calling my lawyer, who isn't made up by the way. I know that my grammar, spelling and punctuation is awful but I wasn't privileged like you and therefore as an under privileged individual, you have even less rights to criticise me. So There!"
I know that my grammar, spelling and punctuation is awful ... so your in the jo club your welcome , xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I have never once on any post, said that someone's opinion is wrong. I have once challenged, as I have my own feelings on a situ. My point was simple, with a previous post, someone turned my thoughts on a subject around, to be then personal against me. Not the thread or the thoughts I presented within it. It has happened with 98% of the posts I converse in. Either at myself, as older women seem to think I need them lecturing me, all about how opinions work, yada, yada. I tried a few weeks ago to find a little place n voice within the walls here, but once again * not made welcome. Sad that ppl do not just keep to the post. Thankfully tho, I am very happy using my fab account and these ppl will not actually be influencing or my usage. Just a shame really. You keep posting ... if you see people same ones keep doing this to you and feel your being bullies mail fab and report .. Theres no need for that here ...Some think if clever with words wright a good post thay can get away with alot ."

How on earth is someone disagreeing with you end up being bullying? There are a lot of decisive people on here and they are not always the ones who are clever with words. You are right though about one thing some play a game and get away with a lot.

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

In 4 1/2 years ive only ever had two abusive mails, regarding the forums and they where both from trolling young lads that sent messages to everyone. Ive had plenty of "discussions" with people in pm who may not share my _iews and the other way round. I think the word "bulling" is brandished around far to often and if it carries on it will lesson the proper meaning of the word

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By *atisfy janeWoman
over a year ago

Torquay

I agree...the word bully is over used lately on here, seems to be the 'In word' and it is cheapened by people bandying it around at the slightest opportunity.

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By *ugby 123Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

O o O oo

I think the real victims of bullying would feel that their problem is being trivialised by people who think disagreeing with someone is being bullied.

If you think disagreeing is bullying, then maybe forums on any site are not for you.

I am not sure how anyone gets on in real life if someone disagreed with them.

However, sometimes it is pretty obvious people have started threads/ posted with the intention of picking on what another member who they clearly don't like has said....those posts when noted are normally dealt with with either a reminder they need to keep issues away from the forum or bans if they have broken rules.

Either way, the summary at the top of the forum rules should sum things up, take the forums as fun and you can't go far wrong. If they are annoying people to the point of it bothering them when they are logged in, then maybe it is time to switch the PC off.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"When commenting on posts, and ppl feel the need to write this on the end of their comment, that to me, is looking to start something unnecessary... I know ppl have diff opinions, but I wish this place was friendlier. Some are out to jump at your throat no matter what you say. *** HAPPY MONDAYYY PEOPLE *** Ok points id like to make here....

1. YOU put a thread up saying it was a "pisstake" that the queen hadnt shown her face at the closing ceremony of the olympic games.

2. YOU said that we sing god save the queen so she should have been there.....

3. You have posted on the forums a few times so know what n how to post and are NOT a newbie.

4. The country has been feeling so patriotic over the last few weeks, it is Diamond Jubilee this year, also we have had London 2012, so those of us that ARE patriotic and some of us that arent may or may not disagree with you.

5. When you post something in the forums that is YOUR opinion, be aware that others MAY NOT agree with YOUR opinion, but they also have THEIR OWN opinions.And they will voice these.

6. Very convieniently you say i wish this place was friendlier, it is....it can be....it sometimes isnt, but if you start a thread that people feel passionately about expect people to disagree with you.

Have Fun

Femme xx "

As patronizing as this is - there are many points that I have not actually mentioned out of my mouth that you jumped on a high horse to explain to me. People's opinions are what count, not tarnishing myself for having my own opinion!! As to this notion of bulling going around * the forum does have regular offenders of it. Ppl think as they are adults, it is healthy debate or "opinions"... But frankly there are a few ppl here that pick up on an opinion, then start onto someone's character. Someone mentioned going off crying or upset, reallly?? Lol, you lot on here * good and bad, have made me laugh. I even received a wonderful message "in my opinion" over this very post, and the goings on within the forums. Yes * adults do bully, yes, there are mannny forms of it, but please, do not be ignorant ppl to state it is not rife on here!

Umm, Femme, I happened to waffle on, after the points I were saying to yourself, this is a general post * not aimed at anyone. And Femme, I'm sooo a beef gal myself

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By *iewMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn


"I think the real victims of bullying would feel that their problem is being trivialised by people who think disagreeing with someone is being bullied.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I think the real victims of bullying would feel that their problem is being trivialised by people who think disagreeing with someone is being bullied.

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There are many forms of this topic!!

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By *iewMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn


"I think the real victims of bullying would feel that their problem is being trivialised by people who think disagreeing with someone is being bullied.

There are many forms of this topic!! "

of course there are, I totally agree and people can go too far on here and when they do, they are punished

if I am honest and this is not directed at you but every time I see someone mention how unfriendly this place is, i always look to see what they have posted....8 out of10 times they have never/hardly welcomed anyone, given advice to any newbies.... the regulars have, but the snipers at the regulars... hardly ever.

but I will repeat, it could be friendlier... We all could try harder.

It is worth saying that every day I see less of the regular posters over the last couple of years still posting and volumes of newbies... that is great. I see more guys trying to lighten the place with good banter, injecting fun in the place.

As a regular you are dammed if you do, dammed if you don't.

all the best

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I think the real victims of bullying would feel that their problem is being trivialised by people who think disagreeing with someone is being bullied.

There are many forms of this topic!!

of course there are, I totally agree and people can go too far on here and when they do, they are punished

if I am honest and this is not directed at you but every time I see someone mention how unfriendly this place is, i always look to see what they have posted....8 out of10 times they have never/hardly welcomed anyone, given advice to any newbies.... the regulars have, but the snipers at the regulars... hardly ever.

but I will repeat, it could be friendlier... We all could try harder.

It is worth saying that every day I see less of the regular posters over the last couple of years still posting and volumes of newbies... that is great. I see more guys trying to lighten the place with good banter, injecting fun in the place.

As a regular you are dammed if you do, dammed if you don't.

all the best"

I have only written in a few posts myself. It has been over something I feel I have something to say on... And indeed, if I have a feeling of something... Not everyone has been offensive or otherwise. I have found good topics, and indeed included my opinions on helping newbs too. I have said it before, and stick by it, chat rooms are def a favourite of mine. X

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By *emmefataleWoman
over a year ago

dirtybigbadsgirlville

I have to agree with Rugby and View collectively on this and a couple of other posters also......i dont get that disagreeing is bullying? Hey ho, its been interesting and an eye opener....but i know that some people, do and have played the victim, trivialising the meaning of the word bullying.....which is contemptable to say the least IMHO. I will NOT perpetuate the "disagreement" any longer as i am sure , no postitive.... that bandwagons will be jumped on via pm .....but i will not stop disagreeing on stuff if its my opinion and i feel the need to do so.....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

God, you get a nice lil forum where you can say just about anything you like so long as it's within the rules but it seems there's just no pleasing some.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

People use the bullying term far too easily. At the slightest hint of someone disagreeing or saying something some don't like its brought out. I have no doubts some people on the forum are very manipulative, there will be others sending personal messaging the naive to do so too, it happens on other forums and as it does here. I always wonder if people are as week willed and devicive in real life but as they are the sort of people who hold no interest to me I will never know.

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By *phroditeWoman
over a year ago

(She/ her) in Sensualityland

Disagreeing and bullying are two different things. Disagreeing is about having another point of _iew independent of the person(s) involved whereas bullying is about a personal attack/ vendetta.

Generally the forums are ok most of the time and I would imagine it is quite a difficult job to "mod" them. Overall most people seem to have fun on here most of the time?

I do think that for anybody new it takes a little while to get used to the way of saying things, to learn what is acceptable and what isnt and to read between the lines. No different from joining any other group online or in real life.

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By *Ryan-Man
over a year ago

In Your Bush

Everybody has an opinion. Everybody is entitled to an opinion. Some people are very good at expressing theirs in an open forum, whilst others mock or scorn alternative _iews in order to get their point across. Sometimes this is done unwittingly but more often than not it is by someone that has total disregard for another posters comments. These people usually think there shit doesn't stink.

Unfortunately it is what it is. Take it in your stride and go and think up new pics to take .

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

My last thoughts on this subject - I simply made my point. I have never actually belittled, disagreed openly or scorned upon any _iew held by others. I do not need patronizing lessons from anyone either on what "OPINIONS" are. It is simple for all to see here, the ones that have this misguided "friendly" manner!! Take care 1 n all.

Happy, safe, sexy swinginggggg x x x

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