FabSwingers.com forum: Banter v flirting

By *heNYCSausage OP Man
over a year ago

Everton

Just having a conversation with a a good friend (however I describe her I’m going to look bad haha) and the subject of banter and flirting came up.

I’m genuinely oblivious to flirting. I don’t know I’m doing it and I wouldn’t know if someone’s flirting with me.

Everything I say on the forums, to me anyway, is pure banter. I just like to have a laugh and I reply in threads with the first thing that comes to mind. I’ve seen messages the next day and didn’t even know I typed that haha

I don’t know I’m flirting. I don’t believe I would know how to flirt.

What’s your thoughts on banter v flirting?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Having nearly gotten myself in trouble on a previous thread of yours for bantering and being terrible at flirting, I now prefer LOD response of "No comment". Until I breakdown later in the thread and banter. Get threatened, told off for flirting or waffling on with no point relevant to original post, or warning coz reply to long and maybe angry and.................. what was the question?

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By *indergirlWoman
over a year ago

somewhere, someplace

Like you I'm oblivious to being flirted with or if I'm coming across as flirty, I just chat on here as if I would in person

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

Banter as a word needs to be erased forever from our beautiful language.

That aside, I think that what some dub that awful word, I see as flirting. There's nothing wrong with either of those things (except certain occasions). For the most part I'd say don't overthink it and keep being your flirty self Chipolata x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I see them as the same thing but the intended outcome might be different.

If you find you are making a point of replying to a particular someone on any thread with banter then that might be construed as flirting.

I would say I am oblivious to anyone who may flirt with me but may have an idea that I want to particularly reply to some more than others. But then I don't flirty flirt anyway (as in 'you're gorgeous' type of thing).

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

Oh and I genuinely don't think I'm particularly flirty. I'm possibly chatty with some people but it's more pseudo flirtation because it tickles me when I read their response.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Banter as a word needs to be erased forever from our beautiful language.

I hate the word banter too. Too many people use it as an excuse to act inappropriately.

I am also useless at flirting, think I missed that lesson in school

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Oh and I genuinely don't think I'm particularly flirty. I'm possibly chatty with some people but it's more pseudo flirtation because it tickles me when I read their response."

Schrodinger's flirt.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think they are different things. Mates can have banter with each other, doesn't mean they're flirting with each other though.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm a natural flirt, I don't realise I'm doing sometimes. I'm careful how and who I flirt with on here though and if it's serious flirting, it gets taken to PM's. I know I can flirt with my friends and nothing get taken the wrong way.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Why does everyone claim they can't or don't recognise flirting.... It's fun, nothing to shy away from and *stands up*

My name is Aimee and I'm an outrageous flirt

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Banter as a word needs to be erased forever from our beautiful language.

Best thing I've read all day!

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By *heNYCSausage OP Man
over a year ago

Everton

"Banter as a word needs to be erased forever from our beautiful language.

I’m not flirty!!!

That names sticking isn’t it?

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

"Oh and I genuinely don't think I'm particularly flirty. I'm possibly chatty with some people but it's more pseudo flirtation because it tickles me when I read their response.

Schrodinger's flirt."

Ha! This I like. Thank you p.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Oh and I genuinely don't think I'm particularly flirty. I'm possibly chatty with some people but it's more pseudo flirtation because it tickles me when I read their response.

Schrodinger's flirt.

Ha! This I like. Thank you p.

Are we bantering, flirting, flantering or flirting/not-flirting on the 'what is banter/flirting' thread?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Banter is two way conversation on comedical content

Flirting is conversation of an overt sexual connotations

I just like to shants (shit banter)

Real flirting goes on away from the forums

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I see them as two separate things. Banter (to me) is taking the piss (respectfully) and flirting relates to anything sexual.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Flirting is conversation of an overt sexual connotations"

I never flirt then. Unless all my bantering is flirting.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I just like to shants (shit banter)

Real flirting goes on away from the forums

I guess shit flirting is shirting ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Flirting is conversation of an overt sexual connotations

I never flirt then. Unless all my bantering is flirting."

Could call it blirting or flanter

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By *gent CoulsonMan
over a year ago

Secret hideaway in the pennines

I don't think I could properly flirt to save my life,most of mine is banter and bravado

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I just like to shants (shit banter)

Real flirting goes on away from the forums

I guess shit flirting is shirting ?

It could be!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think banter and flirting come hand in hand. I’m one that is attracted to banter in the sense I like a bit of back and forth.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"What’s your thoughts on banter v flirting?"

Pound for pound I would say banter would win.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Oh and I genuinely don't think I'm particularly flirty. I'm possibly chatty with some people but it's more pseudo flirtation because it tickles me when I read their response.

Schrodinger's flirt.

Ha! This I like. Thank you p.

Are we bantering, flirting, flantering or flirting/not-flirting on the 'what is banter/flirting' thread?"

Open the box and find out or not

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Banter as a word needs to be erased forever from our beautiful language.

I’m not flirty!!!

That names sticking isn’t it?"

Oh yes! PS Not flirting or banter, just fact.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Why does everyone claim they can't or don't recognise flirting.... It's fun, nothing to shy away from and *stands up*

My name is Aimee and I'm an outrageous flirt

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By *ogueAngelMan
over a year ago

Near Bath / Bristol

Banter can be flirtatious, flirting can be banterful... I think there's a cliche in the idea that you'd be mean to someone you fancied more.

Or maybe that's just most teen movies.

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By *arker secrets 321Man
over a year ago

West Bromwich

Love 2 flirt and av banter with someone ur friends with .but banter can b taken wrong or some times u can maybe offend without realising it .x

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By *phroditeWoman
over a year ago

(She/ her) in Sensualityland

Banter = exchanges to make the other person laugh and ideally retaliate in a similar way. I have banter with my colleagues but I dont flirt with them. (OK, most of them

Flirt = can be banter but has a sexual component, no matter how faint.

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By *hrista BellendWoman
over a year ago

surrounded by twinkly lights

I don't take either of it seriously on here purely because online Its not a natural thing for me to do

In person It's completely different, but I think this is down to me preferring voice conversations as I can read their emotions, in text I can take one passage and read it many different ways depending on my mood

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By *heNYCSausage OP Man
over a year ago

Everton

"I don't take either of it seriously on here purely because online Its not a natural thing for me to do

This!

In person, or in private DMs it’s a completely different question. But in the forums with strangers it’s surely just humour?

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By *parkle1974Woman
over a year ago

Leeds

Banter is having a laugh with someone

Flirting is making some intentions clear to others which is nice to see but when it overtakes a thread it can get a bit much....take it to PM if you want to continue x

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By *heNYCSausage OP Man
over a year ago

Everton

"Banter is having a laugh with someone

Flirting is making some intentions clear to others which is nice to see but when it overtakes a thread it can get a bit much....take it to PM if you want to continue x"

Exactly! I’m taking the piss. I’d never be serious in the forums, imagine how small I’d feel if I was publicly rejected? Bad enough being rejected in private

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

"Banter as a word needs to be erased forever from our beautiful language.

I’m not flirty!!!

That names sticking isn’t it?"

Probably.

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By *parkle1974Woman
over a year ago

Leeds

"Banter is having a laugh with someone

Flirting is making some intentions clear to others which is nice to see but when it overtakes a thread it can get a bit much....take it to PM if you want to continue x

Exactly! I’m taking the piss. I’d never be serious in the forums, imagine how small I’d feel if I was publicly rejected? Bad enough being rejected in private

Too many people take to heart though what is said on here and don't see that it is all a pisstake

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By *heNYCSausage OP Man
over a year ago

Everton

"Banter is having a laugh with someone

Flirting is making some intentions clear to others which is nice to see but when it overtakes a thread it can get a bit much....take it to PM if you want to continue x

Exactly! I’m taking the piss. I’d never be serious in the forums, imagine how small I’d feel if I was publicly rejected? Bad enough being rejected in private

Too many people take to heart though what is said on here and don't see that it is all a pisstake "

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By *orbidden eastMan
over a year ago

london dodging electric scooters

"Banter is having a laugh with someone

Flirting is making some intentions clear to others which is nice to see but when it overtakes a thread it can get a bit much....take it to PM if you want to continue x

Exactly! I’m taking the piss. I’d never be serious in the forums, imagine how small I’d feel if I was publicly rejected? Bad enough being rejected in private

Too many people take to heart though what is said on here and don't see that it is all a pisstake "

Exactly what she said

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By *ea monkeyMan
over a year ago

Manchester (he/him)

To be honest, I really hate the term banter. It seems to be the coverall term for teasing or mocking someone, with or without their knowledge and say so. That’s how I see the word at least.

Flirting is a different thing, it’s what most people do on the forums and carries no significance

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Flirting is friendly chat with a sexual overtone or content. It can mean there's genuine attraction and interest or it can just be playful with no intent. In real life its usually easy to differentiate but less so online, I think.

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By *heNYCSausage OP Man
over a year ago

Everton

"To be honest, I really hate the term banter. It seems to be the coverall term for teasing or mocking someone, with or without their knowledge and say so. That’s how I see the word at least.

Flirting is a different thing, it’s what most people do on the forums and carries no significance "

I would have called that bullying. Banter is having fun with likeminded individuals or groups.

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By *phrodite_AdonisCouple
over a year ago

Wouldn’t have a clue if someone was flirting, totally oblivious

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By *acey_RedWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool

"I see them as two separate things. Banter (to me) is taking the piss (respectfully) and flirting relates to anything sexual. "

Some of us flirt by taking the piss

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By *heNYCSausage OP Man
over a year ago

Everton

"I see them as two separate things. Banter (to me) is taking the piss (respectfully) and flirting relates to anything sexual.

Some of us flirt by taking the piss

But you’re always taking the piss out of me

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By *acey_RedWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool

"I see them as two separate things. Banter (to me) is taking the piss (respectfully) and flirting relates to anything sexual.

Some of us flirt by taking the piss

But you’re always taking the piss out of me

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By *heNYCSausage OP Man
over a year ago

Everton

"I see them as two separate things. Banter (to me) is taking the piss (respectfully) and flirting relates to anything sexual.

Some of us flirt by taking the piss

But you’re always taking the piss out of me

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By *orthern StarsCouple
over a year ago

Durham

We have banter with friends, banter in our books is non sexual. Banter is well understood, especially up North. As for flirting, apparently I'm a natural flirt, I don't even know I'm doing it sometimes. It's very much my nature and personality.

Mrs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don't agree with Chipolata.. sorry the OP, banter can often be sexual, flirting can also be banter. A lot of flirting on here is to make the flirtee laugh without a chance of sleeping with them. Especially in Covid times.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"To be honest, I really hate the term banter. It seems to be the coverall term for teasing or mocking someone, with or without their knowledge and say so. That’s how I see the word at least.

Flirting is a different thing, it’s what most people do on the forums and carries no significance "

What word do you prefer for banter, bantz or banterino ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Like you I'm oblivious to being flirted with or if I'm coming across as flirty, I just chat on here as if I would in person"

I'm exactly the same. I'll just chat away with anyone in here. If it comes across flirty, I've no idea I'm doing it.

Also, it'll depend on how they read it too I guess. Open to interpretation really x

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By *a LunaWoman
over a year ago

South Wales

I take it all as gentle ribbing.

Some folk are just naturally flirty, so I take it all with a pinch of salt.

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By *rHotNottsMan
over a year ago

Dubai & Nottingham

"Banter is two way conversation on comedical content

Flirting is conversation of an overt sexual connotations

I just like to shants (shit banter)

Real flirting goes on away from the forums

Shants is good, I also like to see two angry guys maligning fools of themselves and not giving up , I call that cantor.

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By *heNYCSausage OP Man
over a year ago

Everton

"To be honest, I really hate the term banter. It seems to be the coverall term for teasing or mocking someone, with or without their knowledge and say so. That’s how I see the word at least.

Flirting is a different thing, it’s what most people do on the forums and carries no significance

What word do you prefer for banter, bantz or banterino ? "

Prefer Banter

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’ve been told I’m a flirt, I just naturally do it, I don’t know how much it comes across on here though.

I’m not keen on the word banter, as someone else said, it’s quite often an excuse for bad/offensive behaviour, I think we should use the words witty repartee or ripostes?

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By *ex HolesMan
over a year ago

Up North

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Banter is two way conversation on comedical content

Flirting is conversation of an overt sexual connotations

I just like to shants (shit banter)

Real flirting goes on away from the forums

Shants is good, I also like to see two angry guys maligning fools of themselves and not giving up , I call that cantor. "

Two ladies would be a flantor (flounce banter)

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

"...I think we should use the words witty repartee or ripostes? "

Giving it too much credit there.

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By *heNYCSausage OP Man
over a year ago

Everton

"...I think we should use the words witty repartee or ripostes?

Giving it too much credit there.

Or just say that I’m a funny bastard haha

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By *asmeenTV/TS
over a year ago

STOKE ON TRENT

Both same

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By *ea monkeyMan
over a year ago

Manchester (he/him)

"To be honest, I really hate the term banter. It seems to be the coverall term for teasing or mocking someone, with or without their knowledge and say so. That’s how I see the word at least.

Flirting is a different thing, it’s what most people do on the forums and carries no significance

What word do you prefer for banter, bantz or banterino ? "

I prefer the term badinage. It makes things seem so much classier before I ask to see their norks

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