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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Hi fabbers and fabettes

I really enjoy the forums and I try to take part but....I get put off the serious subjects by people's profile pic....I can't engage in something serious if the ops pic is him holding an erect penis or a woman with a gaping hole....so....here it comes..

Should forums pics be blank? Or just blank if its a serious subject? I know im gonna get hate but haters gotta hate....peace x

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By *imi_RougeWoman
over a year ago

Portsmouth

You can't dictate what others use for their profile pic.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What kind of serious are we taking about here?

Serious topics or them just saying 'I'm a serious person'?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don’t think profile pics should be explicit full stop. I think it’s intrusive, a bit like flashing. I think you should have to choose to see someone naked/intimately.

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham

No.

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By *olarbear73Man
over a year ago

Glasgow

An easy fix for you OP is to turn off pics and you won’t see any, this will only affect you

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"You can't dictate what others use for their profile pic."

Not dictating anything...asking a question to start a conversation

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By *ora the explorerWoman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts

Nah. I don’t really look to be honest when I’m commenting.

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham


"I don’t think profile pics should be explicit full stop. I think it’s intrusive, a bit like flashing. I think you should have to choose to see someone naked/intimately. "

You joined an adult site.....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I like seeing everyone's profile pics, I'd never remember who everyone was if I had to go by username alone. I'm not put off by a penis, serious people have penises too lol

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"What kind of serious are we taking about here?

Serious topics or them just saying 'I'm a serious person'? "

More to do with subjects of mental health or abuse

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No they shouldn’t be blank ... should be whatever the OP wants as their picture...

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By *a LunaWoman
over a year ago

South Wales

If it’s a long opening post by the time you reach a few lines down you can’t see their pic so it doesn’t bother me.

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham


"An easy fix for you OP is to turn off pics and you won’t see any, this will only affect you "

Oh yeah.... Forgot about that option

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I can relate to this. I've had some very deep and serious discussions on here all while the avatars are boobs, bums etc which can be strange but then I've also noticed if I'm that immersed in a conversation / debate then I'm not really paying attention to people's avatars apart from knowing who wrote what. I wouldn't like them to all be blank though, that's boring.

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By *atnip make me purrWoman
over a year ago

Reading

Its especially weird in the politics or virus threads.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Again....just starting a thread to create conversation....

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham


"Again....just starting a thread to create conversation...."

Which is what is happening....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hi fabbers and fabettes

I really enjoy the forums and I try to take part but....I get put off the serious subjects by people's profile pic....I can't engage in something serious if the ops pic is him holding an erect penis or a woman with a gaping hole....so....here it comes..

Should forums pics be blank? Or just blank if its a serious subject? I know im gonna get hate but haters gotta hate....peace x"

I don't think people here should be responsible for your reactions to their (within the rules) profile pictures. Seems a little immature that you can't concentrate due to the presence of a tiny thumbnail detailing a cock / vagina oe whatever...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No, pics help me remember who someone is.

Plus....it mostly a sex site, what do you expect lol

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"No they shouldn’t be blank ... should be whatever the OP wants as their picture..."

Sometimes there picture lessens the seriousness of the subject...might just be me then lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"......I can't engage in something serious if the ops pic is him holding an erect penis or a woman with a gaping hole....so....here it comes..

Should forums pics be blank? Or just blank if its a serious subject? I know im gonna get hate but haters gotta hate....peace x"

Prejudices (the literal meaning) are really negative when it comes to interact with people in any form, say virtually or personally. Try no to let yours get in control all the time.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I don’t think profile pics should be explicit full stop. I think it’s intrusive, a bit like flashing. I think you should have to choose to see someone naked/intimately.

You joined an adult site..... "

Yeah I know I did. My view is that common courtesy and decency still apply though. I don’t want to see everybody on Fab’s bits so don’t understand why people think it’s cool to thrust them in everyone’s face without asking.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hi fabbers and fabettes

I really enjoy the forums and I try to take part but....I get put off the serious subjects by people's profile pic....I can't engage in something serious if the ops pic is him holding an erect penis or a woman with a gaping hole....so....here it comes..

Should forums pics be blank? Or just blank if its a serious subject? I know im gonna get hate but haters gotta hate....peace x"

Don't participate in the "serious" threads then. People can display what they like and if it puts you off, tough.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It doesn't bother me. I have seen large cocks make really vulnerable posts and magnificent boobs say really profound philosophical ideas.

A profile pic is just a form of promotion.

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By *otsossieMan
over a year ago

local, but not too local

Maybe Fabswingers forum isn’t really the appropriate forum for serious subjects?

I appreciate we can’t be clowns/game show hosts all the time, but if there’s a dissonance then I think it’s the topic, not the site.

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham


"No they shouldn’t be blank ... should be whatever the OP wants as their picture...

Sometimes there picture lessens the seriousness of the subject...might just be me then lol"

How?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"No they shouldn’t be blank ... should be whatever the OP wants as their picture...

Sometimes there picture lessens the seriousness of the subject...might just be me then lol"

I get what you mean. I’ve posted sensitive things and had lovely replies and messages from people where the only part of them I can see is there cock or open legs. It’s a bit odd

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham


"Maybe Fabswingers forum isn’t really the appropriate forum for serious subjects?

I appreciate we can’t be clowns/game show hosts all the time, but if there’s a dissonance then I think it’s the topic, not the site. "

Ridiculous. We're all adults here and those who regularly frequent the forums develop bonds and friendships in the forums.

Even for those who don't quite often it's easier to talk about serious life stuff with strangers.

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By *wist my nipplesCouple
over a year ago

North East Scotland, mostly

I get where you're coming from, OP. When I joined fab I never imagined I would find myself participating in occasionally deep and meaningful chats with people! I quite like the incongruity of it It reminds me that there are real people with real thoughts and emotions behind the sexy pics. I like to discuss all sorts of subjects, and I like sex too. It's all parts of who I am.

Mrs kf x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Maybe Fabswingers forum isn’t really the appropriate forum for serious subjects?

I appreciate we can’t be clowns/game show hosts all the time, but if there’s a dissonance then I think it’s the topic, not the site. "

But it's an open forum where anything (within the rules) can be talked about so why not? Sometimes threads are started with the intent of being serious but sometimes they just fall that way. Should that be censored or banned?

Genuinely curious because I've started a few pretty serious/ deep threads myself.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I get where you're coming from, OP. When I joined fab I never imagined I would find myself participating in occasionally deep and meaningful chats with people! I quite like the incongruity of it It reminds me that there are real people with real thoughts and emotions behind the sexy pics. I like to discuss all sorts of subjects, and I like sex too. It's all parts of who I am.

Mrs kf x"

You worded it so much better than me

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By *heNYCSausageMan
over a year ago

Everton


"Hi fabbers and fabettes

I really enjoy the forums and I try to take part but....I get put off the serious subjects by people's profile pic....I can't engage in something serious if the ops pic is him holding an erect penis or a woman with a gaping hole....so....here it comes..

Should forums pics be blank? Or just blank if its a serious subject? I know im gonna get hate but haters gotta hate....peace x"

I don’t even look at the profile pics. Genuinely read the threads and if I find something funny to say then I say it.

Unless it’s a face pic swapping thread lol

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"No they shouldn’t be blank ... should be whatever the OP wants as their picture...

Sometimes there picture lessens the seriousness of the subject...might just be me then lol

How? "

Ok ill reply to you....when someone is posting something serious about mental health and not wanting to wake up and they are posting in a swingers forum with a picture of an erect cock...its not the cock im bothered by....its like a clown telling you your family have been in a car crash...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Maybe Fabswingers forum isn’t really the appropriate forum for serious subjects?

I appreciate we can’t be clowns/game show hosts all the time, but if there’s a dissonance then I think it’s the topic, not the site.

But it's an open forum where anything (within the rules) can be talked about so why not? Sometimes threads are started with the intent of being serious but sometimes they just fall that way. Should that be censored or banned?

Genuinely curious because I've started a few pretty serious/ deep threads myself. "

I think the fact you can chat about anything you want/need to (within reason) is one of the best things about Fab. We can all choose to join in or not. I think it’s a great space to chat.

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By *irty desireWoman
over a year ago

newcatle

A person with an erect penis or gapping hole.. is still a human with feelings!! Serious or not or am i wrong

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By *icolerobbieCouple
over a year ago

walsall


"Hi fabbers and fabettes

I really enjoy the forums and I try to take part but....I get put off the serious subjects by people's profile pic....I can't engage in something serious if the ops pic is him holding an erect penis or a woman with a gaping hole....so....here it comes..

Should forums pics be blank? Or just blank if its a serious subject? I know im gonna get hate but haters gotta hate....peace x"

Some should...

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By *otsossieMan
over a year ago

local, but not too local

I’m not a fan of erect cocks in general. I sort of tune them out.

Thinking about it, there have been some good points made above. I’m back on the fence. Dunno.

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By *a LunaWoman
over a year ago

South Wales

Some of my most meaningful chats have been with men who have their Willy as their profile pic

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"No they shouldn’t be blank ... should be whatever the OP wants as their picture...

Sometimes there picture lessens the seriousness of the subject...might just be me then lol

How?

Ok ill reply to you....when someone is posting something serious about mental health and not wanting to wake up and they are posting in a swingers forum with a picture of an erect cock...its not the cock im bothered by....its like a clown telling you your family have been in a car crash..."

But this is a swinger's site/sex site. If you're going to be upset by rude photos, maybe this isn't the place for you to be engaging in deep conversations? There are other sites where you can talk to people without seeing willies everywhere...

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham


"No they shouldn’t be blank ... should be whatever the OP wants as their picture...

Sometimes there picture lessens the seriousness of the subject...might just be me then lol

How?

Ok ill reply to you....when someone is posting something serious about mental health and not wanting to wake up and they are posting in a swingers forum with a picture of an erect cock...its not the cock im bothered by....its like a clown telling you your family have been in a car crash..."

I still don't get it. Maybe it's me. Just because someone's cock was once hard doesn't mean they're current situation is diminishes in anyway.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don’t tend to look closely at avatars, I tend to get caught up in reading the thread, and I’m more likely to check the user name, unless it’s a very distinctive and memorable avatar.

It doesn’t make any difference to the subject posted, because I associate that with the person rather than the picture I guess.

I’m not sure I understand why it matters, we’re all people.

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By *heNYCSausageMan
over a year ago

Everton


"I don’t tend to look closely at avatars, I tend to get caught up in reading the thread, and I’m more likely to check the user name, unless it’s a very distinctive and memorable avatar.

It doesn’t make any difference to the subject posted, because I associate that with the person rather than the picture I guess.

I’m not sure I understand why it matters, we’re all people."

You said exactly what I said but more eloquently

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"No they shouldn’t be blank ... should be whatever the OP wants as their picture...

Sometimes there picture lessens the seriousness of the subject...might just be me then lol

How?

Ok ill reply to you....when someone is posting something serious about mental health and not wanting to wake up and they are posting in a swingers forum with a picture of an erect cock...its not the cock im bothered by....its like a clown telling you your family have been in a car crash...

I still don't get it. Maybe it's me. Just because someone's cock was once hard doesn't mean they're current situation is diminishes in anyway. "

Again...I getting taken out of the seriousness of the subject if the posters pic is graphic....everyone is free to post to any forums or start a thread about anything...offering my take on things just to start a thread...I can always restart the unpopular gang thread!!! Lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Interesting

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By *abs..Woman
over a year ago

..

I can’t say I notice the profile photo that often. I think it’s fine as it is

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I don’t think profile pics should be explicit full stop. I think it’s intrusive, a bit like flashing. I think you should have to choose to see someone naked/intimately. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"No they shouldn’t be blank ... should be whatever the OP wants as their picture...

Sometimes there picture lessens the seriousness of the subject...might just be me then lol

How?

Ok ill reply to you....when someone is posting something serious about mental health and not wanting to wake up and they are posting in a swingers forum with a picture of an erect cock...its not the cock im bothered by....its like a clown telling you your family have been in a car crash..."

Great analogy.

Sometimes I just read the foruns without logging in. Then everyone has a blank avatar.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham


"No they shouldn’t be blank ... should be whatever the OP wants as their picture...

Sometimes there picture lessens the seriousness of the subject...might just be me then lol

How?

Ok ill reply to you....when someone is posting something serious about mental health and not wanting to wake up and they are posting in a swingers forum with a picture of an erect cock...its not the cock im bothered by....its like a clown telling you your family have been in a car crash...

I still don't get it. Maybe it's me. Just because someone's cock was once hard doesn't mean they're current situation is diminishes in anyway.

Again...I getting taken out of the seriousness of the subject if the posters pic is graphic....everyone is free to post to any forums or start a thread about anything...offering my take on things just to start a thread...I can always restart the unpopular gang thread!!! Lol"

My responses aren't meant to make you feel unpopular. They are to further the conversation that you wanted to start.

I am trying to gain an understanding of why you think this way because currently, in my opinion, your response to people who make serious posts but have their intimates on display comes across as somewhat childish. Almost like 'hehe, I can see your peepee'. I am trying to understand why you cannot separate the subject matter from the visual elements of the site.

If someone you knew on here messages you with some struggles but had their tits out would you struggle to reply sensitively?

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By *elle xWoman
over a year ago

Doire Theas

No I like profile pics I would be less likely to engage if they didn’t have a pfp

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham

So op. Have you looked into the option to hide all site pics as suggested on one of the earlier replies?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"So op. Have you looked into the option to hide all site pics as suggested on one of the earlier replies? "

No....ill stay away from the serious threads....maybe I've not posted correctly and people haven't understood the point I was making

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"No "

Great pic btw

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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago

East London

If all forum photos were blank I doubt I would bother.

We're on a sex site that allows nudity, so it's expected.

Try not to focus on the photos.

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By *elle xWoman
over a year ago

Doire Theas


"So op. Have you looked into the option to hide all site pics as suggested on one of the earlier replies?

No....ill stay away from the serious threads....maybe I've not posted correctly and people haven't understood the point I was making"

I think the point is that it’s their profile and they can post what ever pfp they like

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So op. Have you looked into the option to hide all site pics as suggested on one of the earlier replies?

No....ill stay away from the serious threads....maybe I've not posted correctly and people haven't understood the point I was making"

I understood what you meant.

I also understand what a question is.

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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago

East London


"So op. Have you looked into the option to hide all site pics as suggested on one of the earlier replies?

No....ill stay away from the serious threads....maybe I've not posted correctly and people haven't understood the point I was making"

What if someone has a serious looking face pic on a light-hearted thread?

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By *acey_RedWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool


"So op. Have you looked into the option to hide all site pics as suggested on one of the earlier replies?

No....ill stay away from the serious threads....maybe I've not posted correctly and people haven't understood the point I was making"

I'm afraid to say I personally don't understand. If it bothers you then using that option would be a solution.

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham


"So op. Have you looked into the option to hide all site pics as suggested on one of the earlier replies?

No....ill stay away from the serious threads....maybe I've not posted correctly and people haven't understood the point I was making"

So there is a site tool available that you can utilise in order to interact with any three you wish to yet you choose to cut yourself off instead of use it?

You're making yourself out to be some kind of unpopular martyr yet it's you putting all the barriers in the way.

I understood your post but don't agree with it. I see no relationship between avatars and subject matter on the forums.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My take on it is the idea of a mega serious comment from a cock for example.... It's quite funny if you step back a second, didn't get the impression the guys trying to tell anyone what to do in the sense of profile pics just a comment on the contrast, I could be wrong but it's how I took it

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Doesn't bother me...its a slight thing but I wanted to start a thread....I try to start threads that are conversation starters good or bad

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So op. Have you looked into the option to hide all site pics as suggested on one of the earlier replies?

No....ill stay away from the serious threads....maybe I've not posted correctly and people haven't understood the point I was making

So there is a site tool available that you can utilise in order to interact with any three you wish to yet you choose to cut yourself off instead of use it?

You're making yourself out to be some kind of unpopular martyr yet it's you putting all the barriers in the way.

I understood your post but don't agree with it. I see no relationship between avatars and subject matter on the forums. "

He was just asking a question. It's interesting to find out if people feel the same, whatever the subject is.

Not sure why there's so many annoyed people. He is allowed to have an opinion.

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By *nabelle21Woman
over a year ago

B38

No.

Folk should have what you want as their profile pic.

I never take that much notice if I'm in conversation, with the persons profile pic.

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By *nabelle21Woman
over a year ago

B38

They want *

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham


"So op. Have you looked into the option to hide all site pics as suggested on one of the earlier replies?

No....ill stay away from the serious threads....maybe I've not posted correctly and people haven't understood the point I was making

So there is a site tool available that you can utilise in order to interact with any three you wish to yet you choose to cut yourself off instead of use it?

You're making yourself out to be some kind of unpopular martyr yet it's you putting all the barriers in the way.

I understood your post but don't agree with it. I see no relationship between avatars and subject matter on the forums.

He was just asking a question. It's interesting to find out if people feel the same, whatever the subject is.

Not sure why there's so many annoyed people. He is allowed to have an opinion. "

Have I said he couldn't babe an opinion?

He expressed his distaste at seeing cocks discuss serious mental health issues. A solution was offered but he'd rather be able to say he is being kept out of threads because of it than use a simple, free, solution and making the site feel bad for himself.

He wanted a conversation yet if you try to enter into one he acts as if he is the victim and so misunderstood.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"So op. Have you looked into the option to hide all site pics as suggested on one of the earlier replies?

No....ill stay away from the serious threads....maybe I've not posted correctly and people haven't understood the point I was making

So there is a site tool available that you can utilise in order to interact with any three you wish to yet you choose to cut yourself off instead of use it?

You're making yourself out to be some kind of unpopular martyr yet it's you putting all the barriers in the way.

I understood your post but don't agree with it. I see no relationship between avatars and subject matter on the forums. "

Nothing to do with wanting to be unpopular...its was a small thought that I thought some people in the forums might have an opinion on what I said....and you all have great opinions....so thank you x

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By *onkyLemonsCouple
over a year ago

Nottingham

Cover the picture with your thumb if you don’t wanna see

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By *icolerobbieCouple
over a year ago

walsall

See, depending on threads, we have confusion as to whether cock pics are ok or not. This thread suggests it’s a yes.

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham


"See, depending on threads, we have confusion as to whether cock pics are ok or not. This thread suggests it’s a yes. "

For some. Not for others.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Half of the time I don't notice unless I fancy particular person.

It's just the part of the package. To me they are just little badges we wear. So I don't have to chase usernames..sometimes little glance at avatar is enough to make me stop scrolling through the thread. And why not.

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By *rder66Man
over a year ago

Tatooine

No, it's a swingers site for people who also like to have a discussion. If you don't want to see certain pics then go on a different social media site where you don't have to see certain pics bit can have the same discussions.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i dont really look at the pictures on the forum much tbh

i try but an terrible to keep track of usernames but maybe the fact i am awful at it is a good thing, means more often than not i respond just to what i read on the page rather than base any of it on what i already think of the poster

now and again a really great profile pic will catch my eye but mostly when just scrolling down my brain filters them out

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Cover the picture with your thumb if you don’t wanna see "

Like wanking it.

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By *adyBugsWoman
over a year ago

cognito

Maybe think of it as “seen one penis or one vagina and you’ve seen em all” then your mind might just glaze over profile pictures.

I much prefer something that tickles the imagination a bit than seeing all the goods before buying but that’s just me.

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By *iscean_dreamMan
over a year ago

Llanelli

Just don't look at their profile pic if it's getting serious is all I can suggest.

It's a adult site at the end of the day and it's full of exhibitionists

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By *rSshMan
over a year ago

Poundbury

Don’t really see Fab as a serious place on any level outside of the subject matter.

Many other platforms for serious content - a sex site is just that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Even dicks or cunts have brains

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By *oxy lady40Woman
over a year ago

bridgwater

It always make me laugh when I hear comments like this , it a sex site not a dating site

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So op. Have you looked into the option to hide all site pics as suggested on one of the earlier replies?

No....ill stay away from the serious threads....maybe I've not posted correctly and people haven't understood the point I was making"

i think people understand they just don’t feel the same way

we know what to expect in terms of avatars when joining fab

we know what to expect in terms of conversation on a serious thread

some of us can happily separate the 2 and focus on the conversation while ignoring the images

and some of us can’t and get distracted

i dont think the answer is to censor the site in terms of images or forum content as a whole , we just all got choose what the right option is for ourselves and it sounds like you may have decided avoiding serious threads is what is right for you

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By *bsinthe_boyMan
over a year ago

Luton

I'd say that I don't judge books by covers, and I'm able to take someone seriously including if they've got their dick out or are displaying stretched holes.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I just came back to add that I tried to assess myself and no I never felt like this. Ill turn that back.. I wouldn't have a clear face as profile pic. Yet it doesn't bother me that others chose to openly embrace being here. kudos to you. The ultimate goal of the website is embracing your sexuality, no? Whether you meet someone or not. I don't want that to be separate to forum version of me.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Just don't look at their profile pic if it's getting serious is all I can suggest.

It's a adult site at the end of the day and it's full of exhibitionists"

Its the balance of a graphic pic posting about a very serious subject...it detracts from the seriousness of the thread...in my eyes anyway...no problem if its a thread about pizza topping but when its a thread about abuse or mental health struggles then for me and probably only me it seems,it just dents the serious nature of the post....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Just don't look at their profile pic if it's getting serious is all I can suggest.

It's a adult site at the end of the day and it's full of exhibitionists

Its the balance of a graphic pic posting about a very serious subject...it detracts from the seriousness of the thread...in my eyes anyway...no problem if its a thread about pizza topping but when its a thread about abuse or mental health struggles then for me and probably only me it seems,it just dents the serious nature of the post...."

Maybe you are just very visually stimulated. Not necessary though just your thing.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Just don't look at their profile pic if it's getting serious is all I can suggest.

It's a adult site at the end of the day and it's full of exhibitionists

Its the balance of a graphic pic posting about a very serious subject...it detracts from the seriousness of the thread...in my eyes anyway...no problem if its a thread about pizza topping but when its a thread about abuse or mental health struggles then for me and probably only me it seems,it just dents the serious nature of the post...."

It us a site primarily for "swingers' or in view of the last year, 'swungers'

Sorry where was I? I do get your point to a degree but the serious question threads are a side room to the raison d'etre of the site.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Surprising how many 'it's a sex site' comments coming up.

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By *abs..Woman
over a year ago

..


"Doesn't bother me...its a slight thing but I wanted to start a thread....I try to start threads that are conversation starters good or bad"

It’s a good thread and has prompted opinions

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By *iscean_dreamMan
over a year ago

Llanelli


"Just don't look at their profile pic if it's getting serious is all I can suggest.

It's a adult site at the end of the day and it's full of exhibitionists

Its the balance of a graphic pic posting about a very serious subject...it detracts from the seriousness of the thread...in my eyes anyway...no problem if its a thread about pizza topping but when its a thread about abuse or mental health struggles then for me and probably only me it seems,it just dents the serious nature of the post....

Maybe you are just very visually stimulated. Not necessary though just your thing. "

I love some visual stimulation

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Just don't look at their profile pic if it's getting serious is all I can suggest.

It's a adult site at the end of the day and it's full of exhibitionists

Its the balance of a graphic pic posting about a very serious subject...it detracts from the seriousness of the thread...in my eyes anyway...no problem if its a thread about pizza topping but when its a thread about abuse or mental health struggles then for me and probably only me it seems,it just dents the serious nature of the post....

Maybe you are just very visually stimulated. Not necessary though just your thing.

I love some visual stimulation "

First thing i thought was: let's roleplay corrida. But I'm not the bull.

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By *iscean_dreamMan
over a year ago

Llanelli


"Just don't look at their profile pic if it's getting serious is all I can suggest.

It's a adult site at the end of the day and it's full of exhibitionists

Its the balance of a graphic pic posting about a very serious subject...it detracts from the seriousness of the thread...in my eyes anyway...no problem if its a thread about pizza topping but when its a thread about abuse or mental health struggles then for me and probably only me it seems,it just dents the serious nature of the post....

Maybe you are just very visually stimulated. Not necessary though just your thing.

I love some visual stimulation

First thing i thought was: let's roleplay corrida. But I'm not the bull. "

It's a Sunday so no bull fighting

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Just don't look at their profile pic if it's getting serious is all I can suggest.

It's a adult site at the end of the day and it's full of exhibitionists

Its the balance of a graphic pic posting about a very serious subject...it detracts from the seriousness of the thread...in my eyes anyway...no problem if its a thread about pizza topping but when its a thread about abuse or mental health struggles then for me and probably only me it seems,it just dents the serious nature of the post....

Maybe you are just very visually stimulated. Not necessary though just your thing.

I love some visual stimulation

First thing i thought was: let's roleplay corrida. But I'm not the bull.

It's a Sunday so no bull fighting "

Fine! Siesta then

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sorry OP!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So op. Have you looked into the option to hide all site pics as suggested on one of the earlier replies?

No....ill stay away from the serious threads....maybe I've not posted correctly and people haven't understood the point I was making

So there is a site tool available that you can utilise in order to interact with any three you wish to yet you choose to cut yourself off instead of use it?

You're making yourself out to be some kind of unpopular martyr yet it's you putting all the barriers in the way.

I understood your post but don't agree with it. I see no relationship between avatars and subject matter on the forums.

He was just asking a question. It's interesting to find out if people feel the same, whatever the subject is.

Not sure why there's so many annoyed people. He is allowed to have an opinion. "

Correct

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By *imi_RougeWoman
over a year ago

Portsmouth


"No they shouldn’t be blank ... should be whatever the OP wants as their picture...

Sometimes there picture lessens the seriousness of the subject...might just be me then lol"

Looks like it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'll post on any thread if I can think of something to say. Whatever the profile picture is doesn't put me off as I don't really pay attention to the pics.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I don’t think profile pics should be explicit full stop. I think it’s intrusive, a bit like flashing. I think you should have to choose to see someone naked/intimately.

You joined an adult site..... "

And a dick pic should tell you what that adult is.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Some cock avatars have raised some very excellent points, but I can’t bring myself to acknowledge their comment though.

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham


"I don’t think profile pics should be explicit full stop. I think it’s intrusive, a bit like flashing. I think you should have to choose to see someone naked/intimately.

You joined an adult site.....

And a dick pic should tell you what that adult is."

Male?

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By *iscean_dreamMan
over a year ago

Llanelli


"I don’t think profile pics should be explicit full stop. I think it’s intrusive, a bit like flashing. I think you should have to choose to see someone naked/intimately.

You joined an adult site.....

And a dick pic should tell you what that adult is.

Male? "

I was thinking excited or not

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Seeing a graphic pic as a profile pic doesn’t really change how I interact on a post as a whole, I don’t think. But I’m not sure how seriously I could take someone when the only piece of them I can see is genitalia.

I just see them as the ultimate unsolicited dick/pussy pic. I don’t think they’re polite, I do find them disrespectful. I appreciate that not everyone feels the same way though. It doesn’t upset me or anything as someone suggested to OP above. I think I see the forum on Fab slightly differently to the meeting side of the site. I find it impolite on the meeting side, I find it even more impolite here.

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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago

East London

In answer to your question: no, forum pictures should not be censored.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Seeing a graphic pic as a profile pic doesn’t really change how I interact on a post as a whole, I don’t think. But I’m not sure how seriously I could take someone when the only piece of them I can see is genitalia.

I just see them as the ultimate unsolicited dick/pussy pic. I don’t think they’re polite, I do find them disrespectful. I appreciate that not everyone feels the same way though. It doesn’t upset me or anything as someone suggested to OP above. I think I see the forum on Fab slightly differently to the meeting side of the site. I find it impolite on the meeting side, I find it even more impolite here. "

Impolite a little mild??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Thankfully, someone has finally asked this question. The amount of times someone has an explicit profile pic and commenting on a serious subject matter. It’s just off putting. I suppose a way round it would be to have a kind of emoticon as an alternative to a profile pic. Possibly for site supporters only as a way to fund it. Though people could just change the profile pic with something with, I don’t know. Clothed.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

My original point was not about censored pics...it was about me not taking serious post as serious because of the posters pic

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Seeing a graphic pic as a profile pic doesn’t really change how I interact on a post as a whole, I don’t think. But I’m not sure how seriously I could take someone when the only piece of them I can see is genitalia.

I just see them as the ultimate unsolicited dick/pussy pic. I don’t think they’re polite, I do find them disrespectful. I appreciate that not everyone feels the same way though. It doesn’t upset me or anything as someone suggested to OP above. I think I see the forum on Fab slightly differently to the meeting side of the site. I find it impolite on the meeting side, I find it even more impolite here.

Impolite a little mild??"

Well I could say a lot more, but I won’t. It’s each to their own of course. But my view is that it’s uncouth.

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By *icentiousCouple
over a year ago

Up on them there hills

Bit lost in this, thought sex was fun, not serious.

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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago

East London


"My original point was not about censored pics...it was about me not taking serious post as serious because of the posters pic"

Point made then, but you did ask a question.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"My original point was not about censored pics...it was about me not taking serious post as serious because of the posters pic"

It’s all linked though. The profile shows in all areas of the site. I agree with you though and know exactly what you mean. I don’t know whether it’s appropriate for people to have explicit pics in the forum when conversations are often of a serious nature.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Bit lost in this, thought sex was fun, not serious."

It is. But OP was talking about the serious threads that often appear in the Forum.

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By *icentiousCouple
over a year ago

Up on them there hills

This all smacks a little prudish, not overly open minded.

Well to me.

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By *icentiousCouple
over a year ago

Up on them there hills


"Bit lost in this, thought sex was fun, not serious.

It is. But OP was talking about the serious threads that often appear in the Forum. "

So sex is serious?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"This all smacks a little prudish, not overly open minded.

Well to me."

i think what someone said about perhaps some people are just more visually stimulated makes sense - that would explain why its distracting for them when others can just ignore the pics for the sake of the content

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By *ollycouple71Couple
over a year ago

manchester


"No. "

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By *hesblokeMan
over a year ago

Derbyshire village

The photos remind me who is who, because my memory for names can be shocking. - Mr.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Bit lost in this, thought sex was fun, not serious.

It is. But OP was talking about the serious threads that often appear in the Forum.

So sex is serious?"

No, sex is fun like you said. But the OP isn’t talking about sex, he’s talking about serious Forum content.

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By *iscean_dreamMan
over a year ago

Llanelli

At the end of the day, it's just a photo and shouldn't make someone come across less serious unless it's a silly photo.

I sometimes have everything on show but it doesn't change my ability to hold a serious conversation.

Maybe they should just make it so you can't see explicit pics if do want to.

Surly can't be hard to implement as plenty of other sites do it.

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By * and R cple4Couple
over a year ago

swansea

You can flip it around and say some people might find it uncomfortable to see these serious type threads on a adult only site.

It don’t bother me what posts people or make or what profile pic they have but like others have suggested if it bothers you then turn off pics when you are on the forums problem solved .

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"At the end of the day, it's just a photo and shouldn't make someone come across less serious unless it's a silly photo.

I sometimes have everything on show but it doesn't change my ability to hold a serious conversation.

Maybe they should just make it so you can't see explicit pics if do want to.

Surly can't be hard to implement as plenty of other sites do it. "

If your profile pic was of your erect penis and you started a thread about suffering with depression or not wanting to wake up in the morning....I couldn't take your posting as being that serious...

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By *icentiousCouple
over a year ago

Up on them there hills


"This all smacks a little prudish, not overly open minded.

Well to me.

i think what someone said about perhaps some people are just more visually stimulated makes sense - that would explain why its distracting for them when others can just ignore the pics for the sake of the content "

Not sure V.A.K translates through the internet.

However, morality does

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By *ex HolesMan
over a year ago

Up North

Not at all. I get a hell of a lot more messages when my avatar is just my cock. I always change my avatar to my cock when I post serious threads as well

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By *ablo minibar123Woman
over a year ago

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I find the explicit pics very off putting in direct messaging, but not on the forums as there are so many comments that I don't tend to even notice the pictures.

Now that I know there's a way of blocking the forum pictures, If it did start to distract me then I'd make that change for myself rather than wanting others to change something that bothers me.

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham


"My original point was not about censored pics...it was about me not taking serious post as serious because of the posters pic"

Should forums pics be blank? Or just blank if its a serious subject? I know im gonna get hate but haters gotta hate....peace x

This indicates your point was about censorship on the forums to help you deal with your issue of being able to compute serious subject matter with x rated pics.

You've had the available solution put to you but you gave openly said you won't use it, instead you will simply curtail your forum experience and not go onto serious threads.

That is of course your perogative but it seems a little restrictive.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"My original point was not about censored pics...it was about me not taking serious post as serious because of the posters pic

Should forums pics be blank? Or just blank if its a serious subject? I know im gonna get hate but haters gotta hate....peace x

This indicates your point was about censorship on the forums to help you deal with your issue of being able to compute serious subject matter with x rated pics.

You've had the available solution put to you but you gave openly said you won't use it, instead you will simply curtail your forum experience and not go onto serious threads.

That is of course your perogative but it seems a little restrictive. "

It would mean blocking the people i have fun with in the forums...like I've stated it was a small thought that I posted to engage conversation....I do tend to steer clear of serious threads...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've long suspected that many forum users have trouble processing forum content and get distracted by a person's avatar.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I've long suspected that many forum users have trouble processing forum content and get distracted by a person's avatar. "

You can say that again

Hubba hubba hubba

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham


"My original point was not about censored pics...it was about me not taking serious post as serious because of the posters pic

Should forums pics be blank? Or just blank if its a serious subject? I know im gonna get hate but haters gotta hate....peace x

This indicates your point was about censorship on the forums to help you deal with your issue of being able to compute serious subject matter with x rated pics.

You've had the available solution put to you but you gave openly said you won't use it, instead you will simply curtail your forum experience and not go onto serious threads.

That is of course your perogative but it seems a little restrictive.

It would mean blocking the people i have fun with in the forums...like I've stated it was a small thought that I posted to engage conversation....I do tend to steer clear of serious threads..."

No it wouldn't. There is an option (on the mobile app at least) whereby you can hide site pics.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I've long suspected that many forum users have trouble processing forum content and get distracted by a person's avatar. "

What did u say,.coundnt get past looking at your arse

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By *ora the explorerWoman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts


"I've long suspected that many forum users have trouble processing forum content and get distracted by a person's avatar.

What did u say,.coundnt get past looking at your arse "

I can’t even work out what your pic is!

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By *ora the explorerWoman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts


"I've long suspected that many forum users have trouble processing forum content and get distracted by a person's avatar.

What did u say,.coundnt get past looking at your arse

I can’t even work out what your pic is! "

Oh wait I’ve got it!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It doesn't bother me, think I've become desensitised to seeing photos of people's arses, cocks and tits now, I find it odd that my Facebook friends just share their faces

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By *iscean_dreamMan
over a year ago

Llanelli


"At the end of the day, it's just a photo and shouldn't make someone come across less serious unless it's a silly photo.

I sometimes have everything on show but it doesn't change my ability to hold a serious conversation.

Maybe they should just make it so you can't see explicit pics if do want to.

Surly can't be hard to implement as plenty of other sites do it.

If your profile pic was of your erect penis and you started a thread about suffering with depression or not wanting to wake up in the morning....I couldn't take your posting as being that serious..."

I've suffered with depression and suicide for years, just because someone has their dick out it doesn't make them a faker so why can't you take them seriously?

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By *izzy.miss.lizzyCouple
over a year ago

Pembrokeshire


"I like seeing everyone's profile pics, I'd never remember who everyone was if I had to go by username alone. I'm not put off by a penis, serious people have penises too lol"

I agree

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I've long suspected that many forum users have trouble processing forum content and get distracted by a person's avatar.

What did u say,.coundnt get past looking at your arse

I can’t even work out what your pic is!

Oh wait I’ve got it!"

Manage to wrap your head around it Nora

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By *andyfloss2000Woman
over a year ago

ashford

A face pic b best for sure x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"This all smacks a little prudish, not overly open minded.

Well to me.

i think what someone said about perhaps some people are just more visually stimulated makes sense - that would explain why its distracting for them when others can just ignore the pics for the sake of the content

Not sure V.A.K translates through the internet.

However, morality does"

i’m not sure i understand your point , what is the morality issue?

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By *rincess peachWoman
over a year ago

shits creek

I'm desensitised to it I think.

Also, my eyesight is getting worse anyway and to look at profile pics properly I need to zoom in. On top of that I focus on the words rather than the pictures.

I do get where you're coming from though.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No.

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham


"A face pic b best for sure x"

You've got your tits out

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By *andyfloss2000Woman
over a year ago

ashford


"A face pic b best for sure x

You've got your tits out "

And my face ? And my fanny? X

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By *inky-MinxWoman
over a year ago

Grantham

I have learned to block them out I think with years of practice.

I certainly do not want the forums to be profile pic free. A picture paints a 1000 words

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By *andyfloss2000Woman
over a year ago

ashford


"A face pic b best for sure x

You've got your tits out "

What I meant was is good to have face somewhere in pic as it's hard to figure out who it is if it's just a cock/fanny/bum I change my pic often but try have face somewhere in it! x

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By *ea monkeyMan
over a year ago

Manchester (he/him)

I’ve thought similar things and posted questions about it in the past.

It’s just one of those vagaries of fab and the forums specifically. It’s not unusual to be discussing the finer points of semantics with an erect member or mental health with a pair of breasts.

I guess I’m a little desensitised to it. It’s also important to remember that people can be and are many things at the same time, so why not naked and discussing philosophy?

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