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By *cooby5555 OP   Man
over a year ago

galway

Good morning all genuine question does another person passionately kissing your partner make you have feelings of jealousy more so than actually having sex with them

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By *aomilatteCouple
over a year ago

Midlands

Surely swingers should have no feelings of jealousy at all? For those that do it may not end well.

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By *heNYCSausageMan
over a year ago

Everton


"Surely swingers should have no feelings of jealousy at all? For those that do it may not end well."

There’s different types of swinging. Some swingers will only allow the woman to play, some only the man, some both. Some swingers are actually exhibitionists and won’t play with others but will allow others to watch.

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By *elshsunsWoman
over a year ago

Flintshire

Maybe you need to cut the kissing out ... should have the opposite effect

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

No, we don't kiss our fab meets passionately. Neither of us feels jealous over sex though.

What would make me feel jealous would be my partner being emotionally intimate with another person behind my back

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By *orthern StarsCouple
over a year ago

Durham

Not at all. Seeing my husband kiss another woman is a huge turn on for me. We wouldn't be swinging if either of us had jealousy issues.

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By *acey_RedWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool


"Surely swingers should have no feelings of jealousy at all? For those that do it may not end well."

None of us are infallible. It's ok to have wobbles as long as overall swinging is what you both want.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

nope

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By *acey_RedWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool

Personally no, I've not felt jealousy over either .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Butterfly’s... no feeling like it for me, complete turn on ,x

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"Surely swingers should have no feelings of jealousy at all? For those that do it may not end well.

None of us are infallible. It's ok to have wobbles as long as overall swinging is what you both want. "

I agree with this. You never know how you're going to feel in certain situations. The key is to accept that it's ok and to talk about it

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By *randmrsrusCouple
over a year ago

legbourne

For us it is a special part of it all. Mrs is a very tactile and passionate woman, kissing is part of sex for us. As long as it is ok with all parties, not a deal breaker though.

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By *acey_RedWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool


"Surely swingers should have no feelings of jealousy at all? For those that do it may not end well.

None of us are infallible. It's ok to have wobbles as long as overall swinging is what you both want.

I agree with this. You never know how you're going to feel in certain situations. The key is to accept that it's ok and to talk about it"

Agreed!

I'm perfectly happy with my partner fucking other people but when he used my pet name on the cat I saw red . It's mine!

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By *heVonMatterhornsCouple
over a year ago

Lincoln


"Surely swingers should have no feelings of jealousy at all? For those that do it may not end well.

None of us are infallible. It's ok to have wobbles as long as overall swinging is what you both want.

I agree with this. You never know how you're going to feel in certain situations. The key is to accept that it's ok and to talk about it

Agreed!

I'm perfectly happy with my partner fucking other people but when he used my pet name on the cat I saw red . It's mine! "

LvM

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I still get jealous.

It’s a feeling I very much enjoy.

If I stopped caring about her then we might as well just go out separate ways in my opinion.

Those feelings are all part of the experiences for me and I don’t think I’ll ever become desensitised towards them.

Whether it’s sex, kissing, a longing stare over a restaurant table or even just flirty banter at the bar I still get that pang of jealousy.

Then I override it because I know perfectly well that she’s watching me also and that her feelings are exactly the same.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Good morning all genuine question does another person passionately kissing your partner make you have feelings of jealousy more so than actually having sex with them"

Kissing is felt by some people to be more intimate than fucking.

Jealousy may be the aim in a cuck situation.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I still get jealous.

It’s a feeling I very much enjoy.

If I stopped caring about her then we might as well just go out separate ways in my opinion.

Those feelings are all part of the experiences for me and I don’t think I’ll ever become desensitised towards them.

Whether it’s sex, kissing, a longing stare over a restaurant table or even just flirty banter at the bar I still get that pang of jealousy.

Then I override it because I know perfectly well that she’s watching me also and that her feelings are exactly the same."

And the reclaim sex.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Not at all. Seeing my husband kiss another woman is a huge turn on for me. We wouldn't be swinging if either of us had jealousy issues."

This

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Definitely not a jealous feeling more a very excited feeling.

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By *aked2sumCouple
over a year ago

Coast

No love seeing the wife kissing touching caressing etc no jealousy at all in fact I find it more exciting than watching her actually having sex . The build up is the most exciting bit

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I still get jealous.

It’s a feeling I very much enjoy.

If I stopped caring about her then we might as well just go out separate ways in my opinion.

Those feelings are all part of the experiences for me and I don’t think I’ll ever become desensitised towards them.

Whether it’s sex, kissing, a longing stare over a restaurant table or even just flirty banter at the bar I still get that pang of jealousy.

Then I override it because I know perfectly well that she’s watching me also and that her feelings are exactly the same.

And the reclaim sex. "

Spectacular, when she calls out his name or asks me to call her by the other woman’s.

Kink isn’t a set format.

It’s not one size fits all.

Jealousy is a feeling I’d never want to lose.

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By *indergirlWoman
over a year ago

somewhere, someplace

With my ex yes there was a touch of jealousy, why wouldn't there be if there wasn't then there's no emotion towards them, but on the whole I actually used to find it a turn on to see him with another woman and the same for him with me and another woman (he wouldn't let us have another male)

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By *orthern StarsCouple
over a year ago

Durham


"With my ex yes there was a touch of jealousy, why wouldn't there be if there wasn't then there's no emotion towards them, but on the whole I actually used to find it a turn on to see him with another woman and the same for him with me and another woman (he wouldn't let us have another male) "

That was fair of him eh

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

There's a crucial difference between jealousy and possessiveness. Jealousy is I think a natural response when you care about and desire someone but possessiveness is an expression of power and control. One should be possible without the other.

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By *cooby5555 OP   Man
over a year ago

galway

Thanks for all the answers didn’t expect so many

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By *ubal1Man
over a year ago

Newry Down

Communication is key to resolving issues, such as kissing, as soon as the decision to swing with another couple is made.

If a trusting relationship is established then the barrier of kissing may be the first step can be addressed, then bareback, DP or DVP, strapons, and so on.

It's a matter of discussing and agreeing boundaries.

That's my experience.

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By *ea monkeyMan
over a year ago

Manchester (he/him)

Jealousy takes many forms.

Ideally I’d say that jealousy shouldn’t be a part of swinging but it’s a human emotion. Usually it’s based in fears of being replaced or losing something that is valuable to you, which requires rationalisation and might point to some work being done in the relationship (unless jealousy is the end goal).

I’d love to see a situation where negative emotions don’t play a part in swinging. Being jealous is normal, most people get pangs of it but acting on that jealousy isn’t (or shouldn’t) be part of swinging.

If you’re feeling jealous of your partners interactions, then I’d say that some communication needs to happen

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By *riar BelisseWoman
over a year ago

Delightful Bliss

I can see how it would affect many as kissing is extremely intimate, where as sex is seen more as "a hole is a goal pastime"

Personally I don't feel jealousy, I realised compersion with my feelings a long time ago with my first ever poly relationship at 18

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nope, we like kissing to be apart of our meet. Just not right without it for us

Her x

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By *ora the explorerWoman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts

Never experienced it. Never will. Someone passionately kissing a partner who I love. Definitely not for me.

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By *unsigntwoCouple
over a year ago

athlone

We as a cpl love seeing the other half kissing playing no jealousy here .. and we enjoy watching other play too ..

But there are people out there who would be jealous of friends playing with other friends

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By *indergirlWoman
over a year ago

somewhere, someplace


"With my ex yes there was a touch of jealousy, why wouldn't there be if there wasn't then there's no emotion towards them, but on the whole I actually used to find it a turn on to see him with another woman and the same for him with me and another woman (he wouldn't let us have another male)

That was fair of him eh "

Really was

Needless to say that relationship ended

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