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"I'm definitely in the reserved camp on Forum and very selective about what I give away. But that soon changes as I get to know people more directly, not quite an open book but still a decent page turner. "What's the next chapter  | |||
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"I'm a pretty open book" You seem like Lacey | |||
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"I don't give much away at all, either on the forum or in private chat " I didnt think so. | |||
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"Very much reserved in the forum's. I open up much more to people once I have been chatting a while through PM's. Kx " Yes. I wish we could see bit more of you here again | |||
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"I got told I was ‘aloof’ the other day, my first thought was I’m nothing like a back scrubber. " But you do look like Idris. | |||
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"I'm always honest and myself but try to keep back on the forums (didn't once). Private message and chats will start to be more open." Once bitten, twice shy ? Fab is definitely a learning curve. | |||
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"Honest outside of the things that might make me look unsexy. Less sexy. Fewer sexies. Whichever. " Not sure  Let's just focus on more sexy | |||
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"I got told I was ‘aloof’ the other day, my first thought was I’m nothing like a back scrubber. " More like Sponge. Producing a mass of bubbly words. | |||
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"I like to think I'm pretty open in the forums. Happy to chat about anything "Easy peasy then | |||
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"im unknown. none of you know the real me. unless youve met me of course." Then you are the one to get to know! | |||
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"yeah I'm pretty open I think - about as open as I would be on 'normal' social media!" I'm generally much more open on Facebook but then I don't show my arse there so who knows ? | |||
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"I’m honest in what I say on here, opinions / thoughts. However, it is rare I will share anything I deem personal. That only comes with built trust and there are very few of those around. " one of the nicest women on here/ classy profile, and talented. see i said it!  | |||
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"I'm definitely reserved and don't let many in. I generally stick to the feel good moments. "Definitely don't give them away | |||
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"I share as much as I'm able without getting a time out (not the chocolate bar)" I think the posts where you've shared personal experiences have made a lasting impression on many people. | |||
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"I’m honest in what I say on here, opinions / thoughts. However, it is rare I will share anything I deem personal. That only comes with built trust and there are very few of those around. " Our privacy has the value we put on it. | |||
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"I got told I was ‘aloof’ the other day, my first thought was I’m nothing like a back scrubber. But you do look like Idris. " Sorry, missed this one ! Didn't mean to give you the Elba. | |||
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"I share as much as I'm able without getting a time out (not the chocolate bar) I think the posts where you've shared personal experiences have made a lasting impression on many people. " And I'll continue to do so if it saves someone else from feeling alone and/or helps them understand their confusion or own emotions a little better. I'm at the stage in life I'd rather share my "why" than my bodily fluids. | |||
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"I’m very reserved on the forums but very open in person." OK. Let's have a coffee | |||
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"I am very open, always "You do come across just as you say | |||
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"I share as much as I'm able without getting a time out (not the chocolate bar) I think the posts where you've shared personal experiences have made a lasting impression on many people. And I'll continue to do so if it saves someone else from feeling alone and/or helps them understand their confusion or own emotions a little better. I'm at the stage in life I'd rather share my "why" than my bodily fluids." Sharing what eats your soul is more therapeutic than eating someone's privates. I think | |||
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"I'm not particularly open on the forum - there are easy topics that I'd happily waffle on about (and do) but for the most part I compartmentalise people. I don't mind listening to others, I'm eternally curious. I don't tend to share too much about my private life on the forums or in messages on here. " How about if you meet in socials, is that quite different? (I've not been so genuinely curious). | |||
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"I like to think I'm pretty open in the forums. Happy to chat about anything
Easy peasy then"I'm not 'that' easy | |||
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"Open, I think." You are. I feel like I know you a little thanks to that. | |||
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"Trying to be open minded, definitely not sitting on the fence "Jumping over the fence then ? | |||
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"On the forum, it depends on my mood. There are times I feel like sharing and times I'm more guarded. Privately, I share more as I get to know people better. " It's healthy to have some guard I suppose. Protective. | |||
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"I'm always honest and myself but try to keep back on the forums (didn't once). Private message and chats will start to be more open. Once bitten, twice shy ? Fab is definitely a learning curve." Worse, I got riled at an assumption and told why I don't think like that. Released too much detail. | |||
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"I like to think I'm pretty open in the forums. Happy to chat about anything
Easy peasy then
I'm not 'that' easy "OK. Easy to digest as you come across | |||
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"On the forum, it depends on my mood. There are times I feel like sharing and times I'm more guarded. Privately, I share more as I get to know people better. It's healthy to have some guard I suppose. Protective. "I think so, it's definitely a balancing act between worrying I've overshared and people not really getting to know me because I've been too guarded. | |||
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"On the forum, it depends on my mood. There are times I feel like sharing and times I'm more guarded. Privately, I share more as I get to know people better. It's healthy to have some guard I suppose. Protective.
I think so, it's definitely a balancing act between worrying I've overshared and people not really getting to know me because I've been too guarded. "The ongoing dilemma | |||
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"Trying to be open minded, definitely not sitting on the fence
Jumping over the fence then ? "Depends what is in the other side | |||
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"I'm always honest and myself but try to keep back on the forums (didn't once). Private message and chats will start to be more open. Once bitten, twice shy ? Fab is definitely a learning curve. Worse, I got riled at an assumption and told why I don't think like that. Released too much detail." Ah, I'm sure most of us have said too much in anger. | |||
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"I am very open, always
You do come across just as you say "Good, I like that | |||
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"My stories a pieces of my soul, my forum posts are totally different! " I think you're American? The home of confession culture rather than us reserved Brits ? | |||
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"I’m very reserved on the forums but very open in person. OK. Let's have a coffee "Would love to | |||
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"Very much reserved in the forum's. I open up much more to people once I have been chatting a while through PM's. Kx Yes. I wish we could see bit more of you here again "Well u get to see more of me | |||
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"I chat or occasionally flirt on forums or messages, but the deep stuff happens off fab, on kik, or WhatsApp if I really like them "I like that. A selective reveal. | |||
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"I’m very reserved on the forums but very open in person. OK. Let's have a coffee
Would love to") yay | |||
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"Very much reserved in the forum's. I open up much more to people once I have been chatting a while through PM's. Kx Yes. I wish we could see bit more of you here again
Well u get to see more of me "Ah roll on Dec | |||
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"Im an open book with some things. Other things id never mention" Some need to remain hidden treasures. Or deeply buried memories. | |||
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"I'm a lot more guarded now than when I was on before. " May I ask why? | |||
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"Very reserved on Fab full stop lol until I'm chatting to someone on WhatsApp! " It's nicer. Voice messages and all. So much more personal and precious as you get 1:1 time. So is Telegram | |||
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"Would say I am in both I am a open book about something’s other things I try to keep to my self or in less I trust or we meet mostly I am just me " Have you made those choices by experience or instinct? Looking for pointers here ! | |||
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"I'm a lot more guarded now than when I was on before. May I ask why? " I was going through a divorce the first time I joined and in emotional turmoil, although I didn't realise at the time to what extent. I wore my heart on my sleeve and was emotionally needy and vulnerable, oversharing and generally seeking validation in the wrong places. A couple of people took advantage of that. I'm in a much healthier place now and don't feel the need to seek validation from anyone other than myself. | |||
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"Cx very much an open book, i am who i am, if not for you then leadt you know Px much more reserved " But it didn't stop you getting together. | |||
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"I'm a lot more guarded now than when I was on before. May I ask why? I was going through a divorce the first time I joined and in emotional turmoil, although I didn't realise at the time to what extent. I wore my heart on my sleeve and was emotionally needy and vulnerable, oversharing and generally seeking validation in the wrong places. A couple of people took advantage of that. I'm in a much healthier place now and don't feel the need to seek validation from anyone other than myself." This sort of resonates. To progress! And growth. | |||
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"I'm a lot more guarded now than when I was on before. May I ask why? I was going through a divorce the first time I joined and in emotional turmoil, although I didn't realise at the time to what extent. I wore my heart on my sleeve and was emotionally needy and vulnerable, oversharing and generally seeking validation in the wrong places. A couple of people took advantage of that. I'm in a much healthier place now and don't feel the need to seek validation from anyone other than myself. This sort of resonates. To progress! And growth. " And thanks for sharing in open. | |||
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"Erm....my username..... I share more in private. "You milk that username in so many ways  | |||
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"Im an open book with some things. Other things id never mention Some need to remain hidden treasures. Or deeply buried memories. " i agree and some things are just not for an open forum | |||
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"How much do you give away ? When you post on Forum are you an open book or do you sit in the reserved camp? Would you say that changes when you message people and chat directly? Please share as much as you like
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"Cx very much an open book, i am who i am, if not for you then leadt you know Px much more reserved But it didn't stop you getting together. "Lol nooo Learnt by my mistakes, known him. Since i was 11 when i was the reserved one and he was a tease. Now i say what i feel lol | |||
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I’m an open book......unless you ask me a question that I don’t want to answer "Nobody should push you for an answer if you feel its private | |||
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"Cx very much an open book, i am who i am, if not for you then leadt you know Px much more reserved But it didn't stop you getting together.
Lol nooo Learnt by my mistakes, known him. Since i was 11 when i was the reserved one and he was a tease.
Now i say what i feel lol
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"Would say I am in both I am a open book about something’s other things I try to keep to my self or in less I trust or we meet mostly I am just me Have you made those choices by experience or instinct? Looking for pointers here ! "Bit off both sort off | |||
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"How about if you meet in socials, is that quite different? (I've not been so genuinely curious)." Socials like the big gatherings? Well most people are rather excitable and talk about shared things - Fab, how good it is to meet you, how they are finding Fab... basic, generic questions. Most people go to have a good time, a couple of drinks and want to talk but it's not really the time for deeper conversations if that makes sense? As far as one to one (or one to two socials), even then I'm a bit guarded. It's easy to deflect questions away from yourself and most people are happy to talk about themselves, which I like, don't get me wrong. | |||
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"Cx very much an open book, i am who i am, if not for you then leadt you know Px much more reserved But it didn't stop you getting together.
Lol nooo Learnt by my mistakes, known him. Since i was 11 when i was the reserved one and he was a tease.
Now i say what i feel lol
Aww are you childhood sweethearts??"Yes we never realised that we actually both liked each other, he was my brother's best mate. | |||
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"I am probably more honest on here than I am in real life. Or am I? " Who knows? Anyone? | |||
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"Cx very much an open book, i am who i am, if not for you then leadt you know Px much more reserved But it didn't stop you getting together.
Lol nooo Learnt by my mistakes, known him. Since i was 11 when i was the reserved one and he was a tease.
Now i say what i feel lol
Aww are you childhood sweethearts??
Yes we never realised that we actually both liked each other, he was my brother's best mate. "I'm a sucker for these stories ) beautiful you have grown together. | |||
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"I'm very much an open book in person with people I know well, but on the forums I'm more private and think more carefully about what I say. Mrs" We shall find out at that party you keep promising to hold;-) | |||
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"I got told I was ‘aloof’ the other day, my first thought was I’m nothing like a back scrubber. " Aloof? Emotionally or with your opinions? Certainly one interpretation of the word is wholly Inaccurate. | |||
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"How about if you meet in socials, is that quite different? (I've not been so genuinely curious). Socials like the big gatherings? Well most people are rather excitable and talk about shared things - Fab, how good it is to meet you, how they are finding Fab... basic, generic questions. Most people go to have a good time, a couple of drinks and want to talk but it's not really the time for deeper conversations if that makes sense? As far as one to one (or one to two socials), even then I'm a bit guarded. It's easy to deflect questions away from yourself and most people are happy to talk about themselves, which I like, don't get me wrong. "Thanks Meli, yes I meant the big social gatherings, and keeping it fun and lighter there definitely makes sense. Deflection..is that a half way point between reveal and reserve? | |||
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I’m an open book......unless you ask me a question that I don’t want to answer
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"I think because the forums can be read by anyone on the internet I feel some people should, perhaps, share a little less sometimes "I hope everyone on here makes informed choices. | |||
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"I'm far more reserved in the forums than I am in person, or private chat. C" Just dripping a little goodness here and there making people curious. | |||
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"I'm open to some things in the forums, in pm's more so" Would you give away which things ? | |||
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"The forums are publicly accessible, so I limit what topics I get involved in. I prefer the happier and pointless threads to discussions and show us your tits stuff." Its easy to forget sometimes how publicly this all is. | |||
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"OP...playing here now: Another day.....another day......I do believe....another day...... It’s always going to remind me of you now.
There, thought I’d share that."I can only think of: Another day I paradise, when it comes to my company | |||
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"I'm open to some things in the forums, in pm's more so Would you give away which things ?" i avoid the drama, the arguments, and the things i know nothing about, being from texas, thats quite abit, | |||
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"Some and some for me. I’m an open book generally, but there is also a fair bit that I keep private. I share with friends that I chat with, but not on the forum. " I'm repeating myself but did you learn how to draw those lines by experience on here, or just your preference from the outset? | |||
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"I'm very much an open book in person with people I know well, but on the forums I'm more private and think more carefully about what I say. Mrs We shall find out at that party you keep promising to hold;-)" One day | |||
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"I have my moments of being more reserved or more open." In general or only on Fab ? | |||
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"I got told I was ‘aloof’ the other day, my first thought was I’m nothing like a back scrubber. Aloof? Emotionally or with your opinions? Certainly one interpretation of the word is wholly Inaccurate." Thanks dude, I’ll have to ask her! | |||
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"OP...playing here now: Another day.....another day......I do believe....another day...... It’s always going to remind me of you now.
There, thought I’d share that.
I can only think of: Another day I paradise, when it comes to my company "You haunt my dreams There’s nothing to do but believe Just believe Just breathe | |||
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"I'm open to some things in the forums, in pm's more so Would you give away which things ? i avoid the drama, the arguments, and the things i know nothing about, being from texas, thats quite abit, "One of my heroes, Bill Hicks, was from Texas so I won't hear a word against it | |||
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"I'm pretty much myself "The angelic creature then? | |||
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"It depends, there are some things I’m happy to talk about. Some things I can agree on a thread about because I’ve been through the same, But I’m also very private and guarded about myself, in real life too. X " I do that too. I'll share what helped me for example but without sharing gory details of what happened. Somewhere in between then. | |||
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"I have my moments of being more reserved or more open. In general or only on Fab ? " Both, I think, for me, it all depends on subject matter, and other factors. | |||
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"Some and some for me. I’m an open book generally, but there is also a fair bit that I keep private. I share with friends that I chat with, but not on the forum. I'm repeating myself but did you learn how to draw those lines by experience on here, or just your preference from the outset? " I’ve always been a very open person, but I’m learning to keep things to myself more, to hold my cards closer to my chest. Just growing and learning I guess. | |||
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"Some and some for me. I’m an open book generally, but there is also a fair bit that I keep private. I share with friends that I chat with, but not on the forum. I'm repeating myself but did you learn how to draw those lines by experience on here, or just your preference from the outset? I’ve always been a very open person, but I’m learning to keep things to myself more, to hold my cards closer to my chest. Just growing and learning I guess. " Why do you feel the need for to be less open now? | |||
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"Some and some for me. I’m an open book generally, but there is also a fair bit that I keep private. I share with friends that I chat with, but not on the forum. I'm repeating myself but did you learn how to draw those lines by experience on here, or just your preference from the outset? I’ve always been a very open person, but I’m learning to keep things to myself more, to hold my cards closer to my chest. Just growing and learning I guess. " I've always been a shy and reserved person and have usually tried to make the opposite journey. I'll wave as we pass on the way ! | |||
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"Used to be totally open , but so many people take advantage so now I'm a closed book "This seems to be a recurring theme. In what way would they take advantage? | |||
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"Used to be totally open , but so many people take advantage so now I'm a closed book "I'm sorry to hear that. You can't pour from empty | |||
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"Some and some for me. I’m an open book generally, but there is also a fair bit that I keep private. I share with friends that I chat with, but not on the forum. I'm repeating myself but did you learn how to draw those lines by experience on here, or just your preference from the outset? I’ve always been a very open person, but I’m learning to keep things to myself more, to hold my cards closer to my chest. Just growing and learning I guess. I've always been a shy and reserved person and have usually tried to make the opposite journey. I'll wave as we pass on the way ! "As am I OP. I’m trying to be less inhibited, reserved and closed. | |||
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"Some and some for me. I’m an open book generally, but there is also a fair bit that I keep private. I share with friends that I chat with, but not on the forum. I'm repeating myself but did you learn how to draw those lines by experience on here, or just your preference from the outset? I’ve always been a very open person, but I’m learning to keep things to myself more, to hold my cards closer to my chest. Just growing and learning I guess. Why do you feel the need for to be less open now?" I think I’ve learnt from oversharing in the past maybe. | |||
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"Some and some for me. I’m an open book generally, but there is also a fair bit that I keep private. I share with friends that I chat with, but not on the forum. I'm repeating myself but did you learn how to draw those lines by experience on here, or just your preference from the outset? I’ve always been a very open person, but I’m learning to keep things to myself more, to hold my cards closer to my chest. Just growing and learning I guess. I've always been a shy and reserved person and have usually tried to make the opposite journey. I'll wave as we pass on the way ! "I think for me, it’s finding a middle ground. I’m still fairly open, but I keep some things to myself, or just share with trusted people. | |||
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"Some and some for me. I’m an open book generally, but there is also a fair bit that I keep private. I share with friends that I chat with, but not on the forum. I'm repeating myself but did you learn how to draw those lines by experience on here, or just your preference from the outset? I’ve always been a very open person, but I’m learning to keep things to myself more, to hold my cards closer to my chest. Just growing and learning I guess. Why do you feel the need for to be less open now? I think I’ve learnt from oversharing in the past maybe. " I heard someone else mention this term, over sharing, today. It’s obvious what it means but what are the implications of it. I’d never heard the term before today, or perhaps I hadn’t taken notice of it until today. | |||
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"I give away bit and pieces here and there. Sometimes I just blab because thats what mood dictates. I give away hints. I overuse grin emoji if I don't want to be taken too seriously. But together they still are just little crumbs. I keep the majority of the loaf (love and loathe ) for the ones who are hungry to know more. And listen to the more truthful/accurate version of me."I think you’ve described a fair bit of me. | |||
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"Some and some for me. I’m an open book generally, but there is also a fair bit that I keep private. I share with friends that I chat with, but not on the forum. I'm repeating myself but did you learn how to draw those lines by experience on here, or just your preference from the outset? I’ve always been a very open person, but I’m learning to keep things to myself more, to hold my cards closer to my chest. Just growing and learning I guess. Why do you feel the need for to be less open now? I think I’ve learnt from oversharing in the past maybe. I heard someone else mention this term, over sharing, today. It’s obvious what it means but what are the implications of it. I’d never heard the term before today, or perhaps I hadn’t taken notice of it until today." People don’t need to know everything so they, and I’ve got to a point where I don’t want people to know everything. | |||
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"I give away bit and pieces here and there. Sometimes I just blab because thats what mood dictates. I give away hints. I overuse grin emoji if I don't want to be taken too seriously. But together they still are just little crumbs. I keep the majority of the loaf (love and loathe ) for the ones who are hungry to know more. And listen to the more truthful/accurate version of me.
I think you’ve described a fair bit of me. "Hello fellow crumb dropper | |||
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"I only share snippets, unless it’s about my Christmas habits then I over share
I don’t like to give too much away on here. "Yes ! We all know you love shagging your tree | |||
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"Some and some for me. I’m an open book generally, but there is also a fair bit that I keep private. I share with friends that I chat with, but not on the forum. I'm repeating myself but did you learn how to draw those lines by experience on here, or just your preference from the outset? I’ve always been a very open person, but I’m learning to keep things to myself more, to hold my cards closer to my chest. Just growing and learning I guess. Why do you feel the need for to be less open now? I think I’ve learnt from oversharing in the past maybe. I heard someone else mention this term, over sharing, today. It’s obvious what it means but what are the implications of it. I’d never heard the term before today, or perhaps I hadn’t taken notice of it until today. People don’t need to know everything so they, and I’ve got to a point where I don’t want people to know everything. " Thanks for sharing that. I think that’s how I’ve always felt what you’ve described but people accused me of being closed. How odd. I feel only those I share my life with are the ones who are privy to all of me and the superficial me should be enough for everyone else. I suppose the only difference how superficial is superficial. I think I’m fairly open but not wholly so. | |||
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"I only share snippets, unless it’s about my Christmas habits then I over share
I don’t like to give too much away on here.
Yes ! We all know you love shagging your tree "Only at Christmas the rest of the year I like to play with my front bush | |||
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"I only share snippets, unless it’s about my Christmas habits then I over share
I don’t like to give too much away on here.
Yes ! We all know you love shagging your tree
Only at Christmas the rest of the year I like to play with my front bush " | |||
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"I'm a bit of both it all depends on the situation." Chameleon then ? | |||
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"On the forums far less open than I may have been in the past,...but then I'm here far less than I used to be... Now I mostly just log in read and wander back to the cave. Those who might want to know me have to get past my guarded nature, that was probably always the case, but now I rarely post anything meaningful in the forums, and private messages don't often come my way. Away from here, in the "real world" I'm usually far more at ease... " Not making poetic ripples anymore, I noticed. You are wandering off far too often ! | |||
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"I only share snippets, unless it’s about my Christmas habits then I over share
I don’t like to give too much away on here. "I was here at Christmas Babs and don't remember that! Look forward to your reveal this December | |||
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Yes ! We all know you love shagging your tree
Only at Christmas the rest of the year I like to play with my front bush "I'd assumed you were a tree hugger, not a shagger. Everyday a school day, etc | |||
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"I just chatter & enjoy the less heavy contentious threads - I'm here for fun & giggles. I don't share easily. But once I've made a connection, I will let my guard down. Eventually "Do those connections always take time Red ? | |||
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"I just chatter & enjoy the less heavy contentious threads - I'm here for fun & giggles. I don't share easily. But once I've made a connection, I will let my guard down. Eventually
Do those connections always take time Red ? "No, not always Leo. I've a couple of good friends on here that know a little of the real me. X | |||
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"I’m here for connecting physically and mentally " Like me you joined in lockdown so making those connections hasn't been easy. Good luck as things change. | |||
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"I only share snippets, unless it’s about my Christmas habits then I over share
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I was here at Christmas Babs and don't remember that! Look forward to your reveal this December
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"I'm more like the Beano. "A great role model CG - funny and popular | |||
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A great role model CG - funny and popular "And i come cheap. | |||
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"An open book (which no one wants to read) here. M X" Not so ! I just read your excellent shampoo joke and when I'd worked it out had a good chuckle | |||
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"I'm more like the Beano.
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"I probably share too much. I'm an open book. " I really enjoy your Forum contributions, those chapters in the book. | |||
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"I probably share too much. I'm an open book. I really enjoy your Forum contributions, those chapters in the book." Thanks Leo I appreciate that. Sometimes I bore myself though. Or I get frustrated because it feels like you are shouting into the wind and no one can hear you or is listening | |||
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"I probably share too much. I'm an open book. I really enjoy your Forum contributions, those chapters in the book. Thanks Leo I appreciate that. Sometimes I bore myself though. Or I get frustrated because it feels like you are shouting into the wind and no one can hear you or is listening " I've certainly felt that at times and you think, why did I bother sharing? But often people do read and notice things without replying directly so you can still be heard without knowing it. | |||
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"I probably share too much. I'm an open book. I really enjoy your Forum contributions, those chapters in the book. Thanks Leo I appreciate that. Sometimes I bore myself though. Or I get frustrated because it feels like you are shouting into the wind and no one can hear you or is listening I've certainly felt that at times and you think, why did I bother sharing? But often people do read and notice things without replying directly so you can still be heard without knowing it." exactly. A wise woman told me to assume people are nodding along with what I write. She was wise or had great tits. One or the other | |||
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"I probably share too much. I'm an open book. I really enjoy your Forum contributions, those chapters in the book. Thanks Leo I appreciate that. Sometimes I bore myself though. Or I get frustrated because it feels like you are shouting into the wind and no one can hear you or is listening " Or you just hear echo of your own words. But those days pass. And someone comes sits and actually listens. I hope. | |||
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"Thanks for all posts this evening. I'll reply to any others tomorrow." Thanks for the help Leo. One of the most smooth co run threads I've ever done. and thanks for what you've decided to give away on this thread. | |||
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" Thanks Meli, yes I meant the big social gatherings, and keeping it fun and lighter there definitely makes sense. Deflection..is that a half way point between reveal and reserve? " Yes, the big socials are meant for fun and lightness really. They are really interesting, one day you should attend one! It's a field day for people watching.
I'd never considered deflection to be on that scale before, it's more a learned behaviour borne out of experience and bias.
I wouldn't say I'm particularly reserved but perhaps I am. Revealing requires trust, the knowledge the other is listening and interested in you and won't use information as a weapon. The few I know accept me as the whole and not the facets I still don't share all with.
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"I'm more like the Beano.
A great role model CG - funny and popular
And i come cheap. "Rubbish. The amount I’ve spent on cake and Stormtrooper memorabilia.....but you’re worth every penny. | |||
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"I probably share too much. I'm an open book. I really enjoy your Forum contributions, those chapters in the book. Thanks Leo I appreciate that. Sometimes I bore myself though. Or I get frustrated because it feels like you are shouting into the wind and no one can hear you or is listening Or you just hear echo of your own words. But those days pass. And someone comes sits and actually listens. I hope. " I have had one or two really cool people reach out and let me know that they hear and that really helped. One aspect of my personality is what I call Irrational Confidence Guy. He has taken over post writing duties. He just assumes he's interesting and wise. I like I.C.G. | |||
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"I haven’t experienced information about what I reveal being weaponised and can’t imagine why people would do such a thing. What is it they do with what you have shared that makes it a weapon? I understand very obvious threats such as revealing who you are to your family and friends but I suspect people mean that it’s being used in a more subtle manner." And I think that would make an excellent thread in itself. We didn't think too many questions in OP would do thread any good this time. Just wanted to narrow it down. thanks for getting so beautifully involved in this one. All of you. | |||
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"I haven’t experienced information about what I reveal being weaponised and can’t imagine why people would do such a thing. What is it they do with what you have shared that makes it a weapon? " Oh that's far too much sharing for this thread. | |||
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