FabSwingers.com forum: Coupling up....

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

On the back of another thread I was just wondering if you would couple up with someone from the forums.

There has been a few threads about forum relationships today and wanted to see if people are open to it or not.

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By *parkle1974Woman
over a year ago

Leeds

I have done previously with one. Would I do it again..probably not.

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By *gent CoulsonMan
over a year ago

Secret hideaway in the pennines

I have in the past, so am open to it with the right person

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I have done previously with one. Would I do it again..probably not."

Oh ok interesting.

If you did would you keep it a secret?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes absolutely, it's a big part of fab

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By *parkle1974Woman
over a year ago

Leeds

"I have done previously with one. Would I do it again..probably not.

Oh ok interesting.

If you did would you keep it a secret?"

No, if others didn't like it then tough. I'm not here to please anyone other than myself x

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Yes absolutely, it's a big part of fab

Thats how I see it.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I have done previously with one. Would I do it again..probably not.

Oh ok interesting.

If you did would you keep it a secret?

No, if others didn't like it then tough. I'm not here to please anyone other than myself x"

Totally agree.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have in the past, would I do it again probably not in a full o living together relationship but as a couple on here who knows.. at the moment I just want to enjoy life with special to me people.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

As a long term sexual/romantic thing? Probably not.

As a friends/sexual thing possibly.

As a friends thing, definitely.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Possibly.

Someone off fab in general is likely, off the forums I would be more cautious because it is a drama cesspool at times

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

we would probably concider it for a meet with someone else, but no more than that, but then we are already a couple, so its different

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By *orthern StarsCouple
over a year ago

Durham

There are definitely a few ladies that I would couple up with if any of them were interested. A girlfriend just for me would be fantastic. Mr fully supports me in this dream too.

Mrs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think most forumites would give me a wide berth

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By *aughtyandhandsomeMan
over a year ago

button moon

I have previously and maybe would again who knows.

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By *etcplCouple
over a year ago

Gapping Fanny

"we would probably concider it for a meet with someone else, but no more than that, but then we are already a couple, so its different"

This

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By *evil-AngelWoman
over a year ago

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"On the back of another thread I was just wondering if you would couple up with someone from the forums.

There has been a few threads about forum relationships today and wanted to see if people are open to it or not. "

I wouldn't mind a FWB from the forum, but I'm not looking for a relationship.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"On the back of another thread I was just wondering if you would couple up with someone from the forums.

There has been a few threads about forum relationships today and wanted to see if people are open to it or not.

I wouldn't mind a FWB from the forum, but I'm not looking for a relationship.

Neither was I!

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By *riar BelisseWoman
over a year ago

Delightful Bliss

Yes I already have a regular playmate on the forums and we don't publicise it because it's between us and I detest lampost pissing

I think If I were mono and found a exclusive partner then things probably would be different, but I'm not so my poly stable stays private x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

From the forums? Probably not, just cos I don't tend to get too close to other forumites.

But J and I met through fab, neither of us looking for a relationship....but y'know, shit happens

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By *aughtyandhandsomeMan
over a year ago

button moon

"Possibly.

Someone off fab in general is likely, off the forums I would be more cautious because it is a drama cesspool at times"

Agree with you there totally.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would yeah, most definitely.

Pm me haha

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have in the past and I wouldn't again...

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By *ily WhiteWoman
over a year ago

There's no telling who you're going to click with...if you're meeting people from the forums you never know what may happen, and if you're both open to the idea of something more then why not?

I agree with there being more drama on the forums though...especially where some of the more "popular" people are concerned

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yeah like a caravan to my car

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By *heNYCSausageMan
over a year ago

Everton

"On the back of another thread I was just wondering if you would couple up with someone from the forums.

There has been a few threads about forum relationships today and wanted to see if people are open to it or not. "

Yes. Have once before. Would do again.

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By *otsossieMan
over a year ago

Chesterfield

Friends / fun, yes.

More, maybe. Depends.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If I was single would I couple up on fab? Yeah. Probably.

Would I keep it quiet? Also Probably yes.

I don't feel jealousy in most situations but also I wouldn't want a relationship being public property.

There are a few fourimites I would enjoy spending time with.

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By *om and JennieCouple
over a year ago

Chams or Socials

"On the back of another thread I was just wondering if you would couple up with someone from the forums.

There has been a few threads about forum relationships today and wanted to see if people are open to it or not.

I wouldn't mind a FWB from the forum, but I'm not looking for a relationship.

Neither was I!

Nor us!!

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By *ora the explorerWoman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts

"There's no telling who you're going to click with...if you're meeting people from the forums you never know what may happen, and if you're both open to the idea of something more then why not?

I agree with there being more drama on the forums though...especially where some of the more "popular" people are concerned

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By *ora the explorerWoman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts

Possibly. Although probably not someone from the forums. It definitely wouldn’t be public knowledge though x

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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago

East London

I wouldn't.

I'm not looking for any kind of commitment from here beyond a friend with benefits relationship.

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By *ora the explorerWoman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts

"I wouldn't.

I'm not looking for any kind of commitment from here beyond a friend with benefits relationship.

Oh I thought she meant FWBs. A proper relationship. Hell to the no!! No chance. Never.

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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago

East London

"I wouldn't.

I'm not looking for any kind of commitment from here beyond a friend with benefits relationship.

Oh I thought she meant FWBs. A proper relationship. Hell to the no!! No chance. Never. "

I could be wrong.

We need clarification

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I meant a proper relationship.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I didn't get coupled up I last thread sadly

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By *ora the explorerWoman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts

"I meant a proper relationship. "

Ah! Definitely no then. I want the fun without the hassle

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I have done previously with one. Would I do it again..probably not."

May I ask W hy not? What are the pitfalls compared to a more ‘conventional’ way of meeting, although who knows what that is anymore?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I meant a proper relationship.

Ah! Definitely no then. I want the fun without the hassle

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Yeah.....heartbreaker!!

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By *aughtyandhandsomeMan
over a year ago

button moon

"I meant a proper relationship. "

Thought you meant FWB type of relationship! No not a real one but maybe fwb one again

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By *parkle1974Woman
over a year ago

Leeds

"I have done previously with one. Would I do it again..probably not.

May I ask W hy not? What are the pitfalls compared to a more ‘conventional’ way of meeting, although who knows what that is anymore?"

Not worth the hassle

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By *gent CoulsonMan
over a year ago

Secret hideaway in the pennines

"I didn't get coupled up I last thread sadly "
you and me both

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By *eyond PurityCouple
over a year ago

Sheffield

We coupled up but I wouldn’t say we were both prolific forum posters previously. We’d comment on certain things but more often than not we were lurkers...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have done in the past with a lady I know I would probably do it again with the right person or persons

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By *rumpyMcFuckNuggetMan
over a year ago

Den of Iniquity

As in a Relationship with a forum person , No .

As in a FWB with some affection thrown in , hell yeah

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

Friends yes. Full on relationship never

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By *lacksausageMan
over a year ago

Birmingham Airport

Done the coupling thing. She wanted more and started getting jealous so it didn't work.

Still friends though.

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By *B69Woman
over a year ago

Wiltshire

FWB yes

No time for a relationship

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

No. Never.

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By *atnip make me purrWoman
over a year ago

Reading

"On the back of another thread I was just wondering if you would couple up with someone from the forums.

There has been a few threads about forum relationships today and wanted to see if people are open to it or not.

I wouldn't mind a FWB from the forum, but I'm not looking for a relationship.

This for me too.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I did, it lasted 5 years with a 9 month break in the middle. Also had a short but emotionally intense very long distance thing from here during that break. I don't want another serious relationship for a good few years, especially not with anyone from the forum because that would mean long distance again and I haven't got the energy reserves for that level of commitment. FWB's I would definitely consider.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm already in a relationship, I'm greedy tho so wouldn't mind a regular playmate.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes I most definitely would long distance or short distance it can work

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By *indergirlWoman
over a year ago

somewhere, someplace

Never say never and all that to a relationship with someone from fab or the forums, but right now no, I'm happy with the fwb thing or one offs if there's a distance issue

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By *aitonelMan
over a year ago

Liverpool

I would.

Seems silly to completely close myself of from a potential perfect match. None of us really know who, when, or where we may meet that one person that totally changes everything.

For all any of us know, by fully dismissing the idea of it, we may be condemning ourselves to being forever alone or a life bad relationships. No matter how small a chance.

Saying that I'm currently not actively looking for anything anyway.

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By *pursChick aka ShortieWoman
over a year ago

On a mooch

Not something I look for, but never say never. You don’t know how things could naturally change or how you might feel for someone.

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By *isAdventure69Woman
over a year ago

Hampshire

I wouldn't "couple up" for less than mad crazy love, if that was to happen with someone from the forum ...so be it , but it's not an ambition

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Maybe. Maybe not.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nope

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I did, it lasted 5 years with a 9 month break in the middle. Also had a short but emotionally intense very long distance thing from here during that break. I don't want another serious relationship for a good few years, especially not with anyone from the forum because that would mean long distance again and I haven't got the energy reserves for that level of commitment. FWB's I would definitely consider."

The distance thing can definitely be an issue.

We are lucky that we were easily able to make it work.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I would.

Seems silly to completely close myself of from a potential perfect match. None of us really know who, when, or where we may meet that one person that totally changes everything.

For all any of us know, by fully dismissing the idea of it, we may be condemning ourselves to being forever alone or a life bad relationships. No matter how small a chance.

Saying that I'm currently not actively looking for anything anyway. "

This is my thinking.

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By *rincess peachWoman
over a year ago

shits creek

*lalalallalalaaaaaa*

My excitable side says "oooooo why not, it'sas good a place as any?!"

My sensible side says "don't be a fucking dickhead, been there, done that, build that wall, build it higher and when you think you're done chuck another few hundred feet up to be on the safe side"

I would be vary wary of making it public knowledge if I had a lapse and got with someone special. Again, been there and still have the scars.

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By *rincess peachWoman
over a year ago

shits creek

"I would.

Seems silly to completely close myself of from a potential perfect match. None of us really know who, when, or where we may meet that one person that totally changes everything.

For all any of us know, by fully dismissing the idea of it, we may be condemning ourselves to being forever alone or a life bad relationships. No matter how small a chance.

Saying that I'm currently not actively looking for anything anyway. "

Condemning myself to being alone really does feel like the safest and sensible thing for me. I think I'd be a fucking awful partner coz I'm so issued up. I get on my own nerves and those things that may seem endearing to start with would soon piss the other person off.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What comes to my mind, is how secure are you to get with someone off the forums, especially if both stay active...

Can you handle any possible insecurities that may present, with the possible flirting and banter that may be present, or that person not replying to one of your comments but to someone else's repeatedly...can you handle those feelings approatly, with out it becoming an issue between you two in the relationship

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By *riar BelisseWoman
over a year ago

Delightful Bliss

"What comes to my mind, is how secure are you to get with someone off the forums, especially if both stay active...

In the 23 months I've been on here I've seen some fab formed couples do handle all of that, some blow all their drama straight across the forums and some just fizzle out after a few weeks, its just like eastenders occasionally on here

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"What comes to my mind, is how secure are you to get with someone off the forums, especially if both stay active...

But we don't see what goes on in private, away from the forums

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By *asmeenTV/TS
over a year ago

STOKE ON TRENT

Yes x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I would.

Seems silly to completely close myself of from a potential perfect match. None of us really know who, when, or where we may meet that one person that totally changes everything.

For all any of us know, by fully dismissing the idea of it, we may be condemning ourselves to being forever alone or a life bad relationships. No matter how small a chance.

Saying that I'm currently not actively looking for anything anyway.

We all come with issues, Princess Peach, im fucked up cuz of lifes situations....I do my best not let them play apart in my life today, that doesn't always happen, n reunsolved trauma presents at times

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By *riar BelisseWoman
over a year ago

Delightful Bliss

"What comes to my mind, is how secure are you to get with someone off the forums, especially if both stay active...

But we don't see what goes on in private, away from the forums "

True... but I don't think I'd want to tbh

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"What comes to my mind, is how secure are you to get with someone off the forums, especially if both stay active...

But we don't see what goes on in private, away from the forums

True... but I don't think I'd want to tbh"

Neither would I, my own shit is enough to deal with lol

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By *abs..Woman
over a year ago

No I wouldn’t Lorna because there is no privacy. I don’t mind a brew but no shenanigans

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By *aitonelMan
over a year ago

Liverpool

"I would.

Seems silly to completely close myself of from a potential perfect match. None of us really know who, when, or where we may meet that one person that totally changes everything.

For all any of us know, by fully dismissing the idea of it, we may be condemning ourselves to being forever alone or a life bad relationships. No matter how small a chance.

Saying that I'm currently not actively looking for anything anyway.

Oh if that is what you feel is right for you then only you know. But you would view that way about all places for it to present itself?

We are all issued up in our own ways. Just how issues won't stand in the way of the right person, which is exactly why it makes them worth being open to.

The main thing is you do and look what is right for you! But if you are actually looking, would you limit your search or would you want as much chance to find as you can?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"What comes to my mind, is how secure are you to get with someone off the forums, especially if both stay active...

But we don't see what goes on in private, away from the forums "

This is exactly why I left for 3 years. Just wasn't worth the hassle of being on here and someone ending up feeling crap.

I do get that but if you're secure in everything, should it really matter? I mean, couples get flirted with and they handle it ok. Other people who have a partner at home (the ones who know they're on here) handle it ok. Should we therefore not be looking to see why it happens and try to fix that?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"What comes to my mind, is how secure are you to get with someone off the forums, especially if both stay active...

But we don't see what goes on in private, away from the forums

This is exactly why I left for 3 years. Just wasn't worth the hassle of being on here and someone ending up feeling crap.

If there is open honest communication, absolutely look at the root cause

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