FabSwingers.com forum: People who leave.

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

So since I joined fab I have never left or there were few times I have hidden my account and I was just thinking some people come and go all the time.

Just out of curiosity I was just wondering why those of you that have left and come back did you always intend to come back?

Couldn't stay away?

So just wondering on what people's reasons are and what would make them leave and come back.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"So since I joined fab I have never left or there were few times I have hidden my account and I was just thinking some people come and go all the time.

Just out of curiosity I was just wondering why those of you that have left and come back did you always intend to come back?

Couldn't stay away?

So just wondering on what people's reasons are and what would make them leave and come back. "

I’ve had times where I would leave/give up coming on here because of the difficulty in getting to chat with someone (being a guy), however, I’ve ended up coming back because I enjoy the forums and have met a few great people on here

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"So since I joined fab I have never left or there were few times I have hidden my account and I was just thinking some people come and go all the time.

Just out of curiosity I was just wondering why those of you that have left and come back did you always intend to come back?

Couldn't stay away?

So just wondering on what people's reasons are and what would make them leave and come back.

Out of interest did you always have the same username or was it a "fresh start" each time?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"So since I joined fab I have never left or there were few times I have hidden my account and I was just thinking some people come and go all the time.

Just out of curiosity I was just wondering why those of you that have left and come back did you always intend to come back?

Couldn't stay away?

So just wondering on what people's reasons are and what would make them leave and come back.

Out of interest did you always have the same username or was it a "fresh start" each time?"

Always the same username, never deleted my account or anything just wouldn’t come on here for a while

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have been on and off over 10 years

For various reasons

Sometimes due to my self and negative thoughts that all tv/ts go though

Sometimes leave because I been stood up 3-4 times in a row on planned meets and unplanned meets would say I am done with this place only to return 6 months later

Also left because I meet someone vinlla and took my profile down as I don’t cheat

But ultimately I always know I be back

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"So since I joined fab I have never left or there were few times I have hidden my account and I was just thinking some people come and go all the time.

Just out of curiosity I was just wondering why those of you that have left and come back did you always intend to come back?

Couldn't stay away?

So just wondering on what people's reasons are and what would make them leave and come back. "

A lot of drama !!!! But then you miss the cool people you met on here I’ve left but didn’t last long ! It’s addictive especially over the last year

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've left and come back a few times over the past few years. I guess the coming back bit is that I miss a whole heap of people I've met on here over the st few years and wanted to re-connect with the ones I'd lost the contact numbers for.

I've mainly left due to the (and no doubt this will make me unpopular, but sometimes you need to just say it!!) attitudes and bullying that happens on the forum and the disappointment in the human race sometimes. During the first lockdown, the forum became a bit of a main source of light entertainment and a connection with "reality" but I walked away from it and the site as I saw another side to human nature that wasn't pretty and I didn't want to be a part of.

It's slightly better, but there's still some elements that are a bit 'chewy' at times.

Not the same name, anyone wants to know who this is, you can always mail and ask!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Life happens, too many distractions so you leave the site, when things in life become more bearable again, one rejoins, since 2008 Ive left the site 3 times.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Last time I was on here, just chat, never got verified. Didn’t feel I achieved what I set out to do. Hopefully this time I’ll get verified and possibly have meets. Will do the social stuff this time though.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I had no intention of coming back but my friends talked me in to it

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By *he Mac LassWoman
over a year ago

Hefty Hideaway

I’ve had a 3 or 4 profiles since 2014. When I leave, I leave because I’m tired of the way I’ve been using the site but not of the site itself. Often the leaving is done quickly without much thought to it.

I come back because some of my friends are gathered in the one place here. I feel somewhat part of the furniture.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm a bugger for this

Sometimes my head needs a clear out / re-focus and when I get in that state, Fab is usually one of the first things to go

I never leave thinking 'that's it', but I never leave thinking 'give it a few weeks' either

Lickety says I have 'recidivistic tendencies'

I have no idea what that means, but it sounds better than 'a crank that loses his shit once in a while'

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This is my third account. I think I got generally fed up and left on the first one.

The second one, I got some awful abuse in dms, and I flounced.

I didn’t intend to come back either time, but I enjoy it here. I came back with a different mindset, and this time it’s working.

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By *ea monkeyMan
over a year ago

Manchester (he/him)

I’ve left a few times.

The first time was because I got ‘outed’ so deleted and walked away.

The second time my partner at the time had a guy walk up to her in public, when she was with her kids and very loudly started talking to her about fab and her tits, so we deleted and walked away.

The next time I was in a bad headspace so deleted all SM for a while. I rejoined when a couple of friends talked me into it.

After that I’ve hidden and taken breathers each time. Usually when the negative aspects become too much or get on top of me.

The last time was a years break when myself and my partner became the target of lies intended to split us up.

The forums can be an awesome place and are full of great people, that’s what draws me back. The forums are also full of lies, jealousy, gossip and nasty vindictive people, which is what makes me leave

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'm a bugger for this

Sometimes my head needs a clear out / re-focus and when I get in that state, Fab is usually one of the first things to go

I never leave thinking 'that's it', but I never leave thinking 'give it a few weeks' either

Lickety says I have 'recidivistic tendencies'

I have no idea what that means, but it sounds better than 'a crank that loses his shit once in a while'

I looked it up - "The tendency to reoffend."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’ve left a good handful of times in the past....

I work away and I used to delete it every now and again, and I never really gave the forums a chance in the past. It’s been nice this time round so I’ll be hanging around if that’s ok

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By *viatrixWoman
over a year ago

Redhill

Only once I felt I wanted to leave...A couple of years ago I was catching feelings for a FWB I was seeing and it hurt me seeing him online and not inreracting with me, etc.

But it’s taken me a long time to build my profile, especially with photos/videos... I tend to delete the videos from my phone once they’re uploaded here so if I delete, I lose all that. So that time I just hid my profile for... 2 days? lol

Older and hopefully wiser now, and I stay low on the radar so no real need for me to leave, apart from Fab being too distracting at times!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think some guys probably get a bit bored or distracted on here...so after a while lose interest of checking and finding no messages, no responses from people or they have attempted to make contact with people they are interested in their local area... once the handful of hotties in your area are out of the question... kind of kills it, so leave for a few months and then come back to see if anything has changed...? Just a single guys thought...

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By *VineMan
over a year ago

The right place

I left once years ago and deleted my account. It took ages to get back into fab as a new profile second time. So now, if I take a break, I just hide my profile or just don’t bother logging on.

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By *inky Biscuit DunkerMan
over a year ago

Gloucestershire

I come & go a lot from this place. It's easy to get bored & find it goes a bit stale. Things in 'real' life crop up that take more of your time up etc.

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By *parkle1974Woman
over a year ago

Leeds

I take breaks often, last one was for nearly 2 years. Fab is like the tide, it ebbs and flows, sometimes good, sometimes bad x

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By *gent CoulsonMan
over a year ago

Secret hideaway in the pennines

I've left and come back a few times, normally as a result of relationship breakups. It's like a comfortable blanket you can wrap yourself in and get lost

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By *atnip make me purrWoman
over a year ago

Reading

When I first joined I had to take a step back at it is overwhelming for women and too easy to believe the hype. Came back not long after with a more realistic attitude.

Now I'm here just for the forums.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've left about 3 times since I joined in 2017.

Differing reasons, a new relationship (both of us met on here and wanted to focus on us) and just needing to get on with life without the distraction of fab for a while.

I've really enjoyed reconnecting with old friends since coming back. I hope I've not disgruntled anyone by disappearing for a year or two, but if I have, it was for the best reasons.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We first joined in 2015. We have left 3 times.

And it was mostly mental health decisions.

After 20 years of monogamy, dealing with rejection and all the other goodies that fab throws at you was a bit of a shock on me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We first joined in 2015. We have left 3 times.

And it was mostly mental health decisions.

After 20 years of monogamy, dealing with rejection and all the other goodies that fab throws at you was a bit of a shock on me.

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actually thats not fair on fab.

Swinging is what took a toll on me not fab.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think its worse when people make a big deal out of leaving only to return a few weeks later under a different username...

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By *ealitybitesMan
over a year ago

Belfast

I first joined in 2017 and left after a couple of months following a disastrous and dangerous first meet. Came back 6 months later with a better mindset but only stayed 4 months and left after a frustrating time.

Rejoined in early 2018 and had a much better experience and was well verified but left 18 months later due to real life commitments. I hid my profile for the best part of a year at that time before deleting.

Been back almost 2 years now and this is the first profile that I've used the forums so different reasons for leaving and returning each time but I've no plans to leave again.

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By *viatrixWoman
over a year ago

Redhill

"I think its worse when people make a big deal out of leaving only to return a few weeks later under a different username..."

Sometimes a few days or hours later...

Still, their prerogative I suppose!

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By *uliaChrisCouple
over a year ago

westerham

"I think its worse when people make a big deal out of leaving only to return a few weeks later under a different username...

Sometimes a few days or hours later...

Still, their prerogative I suppose! "

It's a create drama type thing

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I left once years ago and deleted my account. It took ages to get back into fab as a new profile second time. So now, if I take a break, I just hide my profile or just don’t bother logging on. "

This is what I do.

Iv flounced a few times and nearly gone but always stay.

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By *ewrocksWoman
over a year ago

button moon

I left because I started a real world relationship, didn't last long though do came back, since then I've just hidden profile a few times.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have been here for many years, probably from near the begining. I have never felt the need to leave despite the bullying and abuse. I'm a well balanced person so anything bad on Fab doesn't affect me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think its worse when people make a big deal out of leaving only to return a few weeks later under a different username...

Sometimes a few days or hours later...

Still, their prerogative I suppose!

It's a create drama type thing "

I agree that some people leave and it's drama and attention seeking.

But remember these people are often processing things and the only way they know how to deal with it is to make a scene and leave. Yes. It's attention seeking. And yes it's unhealthy.

But

Most people on fab are here to get attention. The only exception are the tourists who just want to look at the free amateur porn

We have all seen threads about big dicks by guys with big dicks, or women who enjoy showing off their bodies, or rope freaks advertising their talents, the dudes who want someone to sit on their faces while they're tied to a bed.

Everyone here looks for attention and the leaving people are just doing it in probably the only way they can

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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago

East London

When I leave I don't think about returning.

When I return it's because I want a new sex partner, or I got inebriated and did it in an alcoholic fugue.

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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago

East London

I don't know why people get so het up about how others' use the site.

I don't give a second thought to someone leaving and coming back.

It doesn't affect me and it's none of my business.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"I don't know why people get so het up about how others' use the site.

I don't give a second thought to someone leaving and coming back.

It doesn't affect me and it's none of my business."

Agreed.

I was thinking last night why people leave and come back but in a curious way rather than a judgement.

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By *rivateparts!Man
over a year ago

Walking down the only road I've ever known!

Still here

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Still here

Thank goodness for that!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I left 18 months for personal reasons which some people know about and I have alluded to in other posts.

After rebuilding myself to close to the person I used to be, I felt it right for me to come back. It is mainly to catch up with friends from the past.

As an escape from reality, fab works for me. It is a safe place for me to be myself without expectations being put on me. I wasn't prolific last time round, so meets were never the objective.

This time round I'm hoping I get a feeling that I am valued as a person, not a job title, and that anyone who shows an interest in me isn't interested in my baggage but the person I am in the moment.

Oh and some sex along the way would be spiffing, thank you

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By *tephTV67TV/TS
over a year ago

Cheshire

I am currently chatting to a lady and if that should then go further and a relationship is on the cards, I’ll probably hide my profile for a bit. If it gets really serious so we move in together I’ll then delete it.

I’m always open about my crossdressing but I don’t cheat in a relationship, so it’ll be goodbye from me.

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