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The side effects of not having sex.

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By *hagTonight OP   Man
over a year ago

From the land of haribos.

I was interested to know if there was any, so I looked it up, apparently there are side effects. I was looking at the list which was interesting and one said touch starvation, have anyone experienced it? I havent yet

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By *atricia ParnelWoman
over a year ago

In a town full of colours

Do you mean sex or physical touch shag?

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By *hagTonight OP   Man
over a year ago

From the land of haribos.


"Do you mean sex or physical touch shag?"
I am not sure what they meant, but yes I think it might be physical touch, do you?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Good morning Shag. I think I can understand what that means. I feel certainly feel it. I haven’t touched a woman in over three years and I’ve forgotten what it feels like.

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By *hagTonight OP   Man
over a year ago

From the land of haribos.


"Good morning Shag. I think I can understand what that means. I feel certainly feel it. I haven’t touched a woman in over three years and I’ve forgotten what it feels like."
Morning and yes I think it means that too, for me it was 5 years ago. I also think everyone will experience it, but at different stages too.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

‘Touch starvation’, jeez a bit dramatic to say the least.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Positive physical contact is a large part of how we show concern and establish camaraderie with friends and loved ones.

Without it I believe anxiety is increased which in turn can lead to psychological issues, supposedly on the increase, due to the restrictions down to isolating cuz of covid

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's only a state of Mind.

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By *atricia ParnelWoman
over a year ago

In a town full of colours


"Do you mean sex or physical touch shag?I am not sure what they meant, but yes I think it might be physical touch, do you?"

I think so and in answer to your question, I am extremely tactile and so are my close friends and family so cuddles are never far away

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By *tephTV67TV/TS
over a year ago

Cheshire

Plenty of people go years without any sex or physical connection. They may be divorced, widowed or choose to be celibate or alone. I’m guessing at some point they’ll desire or need human contact but the majority like myself just get on with living the best life they can.

I don’t feel any ‘sex starvation’ in some ways it’s nice not to have the pressure of a relationship or having sex when I don’t want to or feel the desire.

I just think there’s a few desperate or needy people, who will find new conditions to blame for their feelings of abandonment or loneliness.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Currently been starved for about 15 months and its a killer for my mind.

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By *unkym34Man
over a year ago

London

Repetitive strain injury

Put on a stone and a half

And I’m sure my Willy has got smaller

These are just a few of the things I’ve experienced

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By *r TriomanMan
over a year ago

Chippenham Malmesbury area

I think stimulation starvation is a side effect of going with sex for a long period OP; very little turns me on these days - also known as a loss of mojo (I think - Austin Powers might know).

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By *ea monkeyMan
over a year ago

Manchester (he/him)


"It's only a state of Mind."

So is psychosis

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You can have touch without sex though?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’ve not had it for over a year and it’s definitely an emotional strain, who doesn’t want to feel desired and enjoy the physical contact with somebody when both your minds and bodies are caught up in that very moment, even with my current situation I won’t just meet to have sex though as that again would leave me feeling empty I need friendship and a connection

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"‘Touch starvation’, jeez a bit dramatic to say the least. "

Why would you deem it to be dramatic? It’s a term that seems to refer to a sensation that has been lacking. Nothing more than that. You are placing your interpretation of the word ‘starving’ on it, which seems to lean towards the dramatic.

Just as someone lacking food and nutrition would deem to be starving for it, surely.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

And I agree it’s sexually physical contact that I miss not just the actual sex !!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"‘Touch starvation’, jeez a bit dramatic to say the least. "

Touch lowers levels of the stress hormone cortisol and stimulates oxytocin, the bonding hormone. It's not a dramatic term really.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"‘Touch starvation’, jeez a bit dramatic to say the least.

Why would you deem it to be dramatic? It’s a term that seems to refer to a sensation that has been lacking. Nothing more than that. You are placing your interpretation of the word ‘starving’ on it, which seems to lean towards the dramatic.

Just as someone lacking food and nutrition would deem to be starving for it, surely."

Google what the word ‘starvation’ means then come back to me, I’m using the literal term of the word.

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By *pursChick aka ShortieWoman
over a year ago

On a mooch

That’s why massagers are handy tools to have around, keeps the body aroused and not starved from touch

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By *egasus NobMan
over a year ago

Merton

There is side effect your attitude lean more towards the cruel and pessimistic. Sex is huge for a “normal” functioning adult. Same thing goes for lack of money, food and relationship.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It's only a state of Mind."

If only that were true, as state if mind affects and can influence our behavioral patterns

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I miss physical intimacy but can live without sex.

I'd rather not though

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

I reckon being starved of touch can feel pretty lonely. The actual sex bit can be dealt with by masturbation but that must be a lonely experience eventually, most people want to share an embrace, hold someone's hand, lay in someone's arms.

You might not die physically from a lack of touch but maybe a part of you withers emotionally. I sometimes wonder if that's why so many people in sexless relationships are on fab, seeking the sensation of another person's touch

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By *a LunaWoman
over a year ago

South

I’ve never missed the touch. But I get hugs elsewhere so that may be why.

I miss the overall intimacy. The kissing, the laughter, the fun, the weight of a man on top of me, the scent of a man, his taste. That knackered but happy feeling you get after a good sex session.

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By *ecadent_DevonMan
over a year ago

Okehampton

I don’t miss sex or touch per se. I do miss drinking wine in good company. Is there a site called FabWiners? If so I should probably join that

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I reckon being starved of touch can feel pretty lonely. The actual sex bit can be dealt with by masturbation but that must be a lonely experience eventually, most people want to share an embrace, hold someone's hand, lay in someone's arms.

You might not die physically from a lack of touch but maybe a part of you withers emotionally. I sometimes wonder if that's why so many people in sexless relationships are on fab, seeking the sensation of another person's touch"

This is pretty much what I was about to type.

Touch and intimacy are so important for many people and without that, it's a lonely place to be.

I need intimacy to feel loved by a partner, I need to be held and kissed. Without this, it's a friendship and I'll always need more.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"I reckon being starved of touch can feel pretty lonely. The actual sex bit can be dealt with by masturbation but that must be a lonely experience eventually, most people want to share an embrace, hold someone's hand, lay in someone's arms.

You might not die physically from a lack of touch but maybe a part of you withers emotionally. I sometimes wonder if that's why so many people in sexless relationships are on fab, seeking the sensation of another person's touch

This is pretty much what I was about to type.

Touch and intimacy are so important for many people and without that, it's a lonely place to be.

I need intimacy to feel loved by a partner, I need to be held and kissed. Without this, it's a friendship and I'll always need more.

"

Agreed. I sometimes think of a woman we know whose husband was ill for a very long time and the for last years of his life was completely reliant on her and carers. She must have been very lonely.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Some people are quite content not having sex for x length of time, myself included, it’s not the be all and end all of life for me.

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By *hagTonight OP   Man
over a year ago

From the land of haribos.


"Do you mean sex or physical touch shag?I am not sure what they meant, but yes I think it might be physical touch, do you?

I think so and in answer to your question, I am extremely tactile and so are my close friends and family so cuddles are never far away "
Yes and that is good that the cuddles are not to far away for you

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By *aitonelMan
over a year ago

Liverpool

Touch starvation...

Reminds me of the bit George Carlin did of the way they changed from Shell Shock to Post traumatic Stress Disorder. A sterilisation and soft word usage.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Good side effect everyone

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By *gent CoulsonMan
over a year ago

Secret hideaway in the pennines

I must admit, I do find myself craving the sensation of another touch

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I found RSI to be a side efffect of lack of sex

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By *hagTonight OP   Man
over a year ago

From the land of haribos.


"Positive physical contact is a large part of how we show concern and establish camaraderie with friends and loved ones.

Without it I believe anxiety is increased which in turn can lead to psychological issues, supposedly on the increase, due to the restrictions down to isolating cuz of covid"
Yes and with the restrictions of covid, it doesnt help either.

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By *AABMan
over a year ago

Not far

“You might not die physically from a lack of touch but maybe a part of you withers emotionally. I sometimes wonder if that's why so many people in sexless relationships are on fab, seeking the sensation of another person's touch"

This is so true for me

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By *htcMan
over a year ago

MK

i find when it happens when the misses goes away, i get addicted to escorts to fill the gap, find my self out late at night driving all over the place, spending hours browsing thousands of them picking which one to meet.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"‘Touch starvation’, jeez a bit dramatic to say the least.

Why would you deem it to be dramatic? It’s a term that seems to refer to a sensation that has been lacking. Nothing more than that. You are placing your interpretation of the word ‘starving’ on it, which seems to lean towards the dramatic.

Just as someone lacking food and nutrition would deem to be starving for it, surely.

Google what the word ‘starvation’ means then come back to me, I’m using the literal term of the word. "

My apologies, I’d quite forgotten about this.

I don’t rely on Google for every facet of knowledge I hope to glean. I know what the word starvation is as do most people.

However, language is not a static medium. By your reasoning, perhaps every poet and writer was wrong in their interpreting of words to fit an expression, such as ‘starved of oxygen’, ‘starved of emotions’, ‘starved of touch’, hence touch starvation.

Perhaps I ought to write to Google to expand their literal use of words to allow for some expressive freedom in order that people needn’t be overly pedantic in their use of it. However, I’m sure they must have already allowed for this with some effort in searching for interpretive expression.

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By *assionate explorer 1Man
over a year ago

Folkestone

Lack of confidence, loneliness, less self respect

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By *acey_RedWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool

I think for some people, particularly men, sex is where they get the most physical contact with another person. Lack of physical contact with other people can definitely have a negative effect on people. During the first lockdown, I had a friend tell me he hadn't touched another human being in 6 months. It broke my heart.

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By *inister_SpinsterWoman
over a year ago

North West


"I was interested to know if there was any, so I looked it up, apparently there are side effects. I was looking at the list which was interesting and one said touch starvation, have anyone experienced it? I havent yet "

Touch starvation is horrid. Its sensory deprivation. Not really linked to sex imho. Last year, locked down, alone, no-one to interact with physically. It was tough.

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By *hagTonight OP   Man
over a year ago

From the land of haribos.


"I reckon being starved of touch can feel pretty lonely. The actual sex bit can be dealt with by masturbation but that must be a lonely experience eventually, most people want to share an embrace, hold someone's hand, lay in someone's arms.

You might not die physically from a lack of touch but maybe a part of you withers emotionally. I sometimes wonder if that's why so many people in sexless relationships are on fab, seeking the sensation of another person's touch

This is pretty much what I was about to type.

Touch and intimacy are so important for many people and without that, it's a lonely place to be.

I need intimacy to feel loved by a partner, I need to be held and kissed. Without this, it's a friendship and I'll always need more.

"
Yes, same here. I was also about to write what you both said there. I also think that intimacy is more important than sex as masterbation takes cares of the that. I also wonder if a normal greeting hug could act like a substitute whilst it is not intimate in that way, we do have that second or 2 close contact with another person?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I reckon being starved of touch can feel pretty lonely. The actual sex bit can be dealt with by masturbation but that must be a lonely experience eventually, most people want to share an embrace, hold someone's hand, lay in someone's arms.

You might not die physically from a lack of touch but maybe a part of you withers emotionally. I sometimes wonder if that's why so many people in sexless relationships are on fab, seeking the sensation of another person's touch

This is pretty much what I was about to type.

Touch and intimacy are so important for many people and without that, it's a lonely place to be.

I need intimacy to feel loved by a partner, I need to be held and kissed. Without this, it's a friendship and I'll always need more.

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