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By *gent Coulson OP   Man
over a year ago

Secret hideaway in the pennines

On the back of another thread. And this is for the singles specifically.

Is or can a first social meet classed as a date, be it meeting for coffee or a drink in the pub or whatever social/public location.

It kind of follows the dating guidelines, to a degree, you see someone you fancy, you start chatting on here via pm, it then turns into that first social meet, which leads to whatever

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It is what you want it to be.

The key is being open about your expectations x

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By *atnip make me purrWoman
over a year ago

Reading

I have been savaged from fabsters for referring to a meet as a date.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I have been savaged from fabsters for referring to a meet as a date. "

They have no right.

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By *heMightySpud69Man
over a year ago

Milton keynes

It basically is a date, to be fair

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By *irty desireWoman
over a year ago

newcatle

Honestly a think a social can turn into a date ..

I treat them as dates as am not into one offs so I am not going just to see if he or she is too mine and there liking.

Even men a chat with in a club don’t get to fuck me straight away .. but then that’s probably why a don’t get that much interest

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By *ancer36Woman
over a year ago

Stirling

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By *ancer36Woman
over a year ago

Stirling

I don’t see the difference it’s just terminology

Perhaps ‘social’ or ‘meet’ sounds less formal than ‘date’ x

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By *attooed peachWoman
over a year ago

cheltenham

For me personally it’s a social - but like someone else said that can easily turn into a date but I guess it depends what both parties are looking for

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By *ora the explorerWoman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts

Hate the word meet

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hate the word meet "

As Outsider woukd say 'meat'

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hate the word meet "

It doesn't quite trip off my tongue either

Or social

I find it a curious way to talk about meeting someone

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By *viatrixWoman
over a year ago

Redhill


"Hate the word meet "

Me too... they don’t have to say “date” but “Do you want to arrange a meet” is a very big turnoff for me... and so many men say this.

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By *ora the explorerWoman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts


"Hate the word meet

Me too... they don’t have to say “date” but “Do you want to arrange a meet” is a very big turnoff for me... and so many men say this. "

Even meeting up is fine. It just “meet” ugh

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By *isAdventure69Woman
over a year ago

Hampshire

Personally I refer to it as a social always even if there's a "datish" feel about it , like drinks and dinner, holding hands walking back to our cars .

We're not dating , he's not considering introducing me to his mum , and I don't expect him to bring me flowers

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By *viatrixWoman
over a year ago

Redhill


"Personally I refer to it as a social always even if there's a "datish" feel about it , like drinks and dinner, holding hands walking back to our cars .

We're not dating , he's not considering introducing me to his mum , and I don't expect him to bring me flowers "

Yes, that is how I see it too...

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By *etcplCouple
over a year ago

Gapping Fanny

I personally view it as a date, but that doesn't mean it is automatically romantically inclined. It could be a social date leads to a play date.

The issue you may find is some people only use the terminology around dating when referring to romantic liaisons and so when you call it a date they get the wrong impression.

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By *ea monkeyMan
over a year ago

Manchester (he/him)


"I don’t see the difference it’s just terminology

Perhaps ‘social’ or ‘meet’ sounds less formal than ‘date’ x"

This

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By *imi_RougeWoman
over a year ago

Portsmouth

Date/social. Some guys are scared of the word date, one kept telling me "it's not a date" so I just kept saying it

Don't really see what difference it makes. You know what it's leading to either way.

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By *isAdventure69Woman
over a year ago

Hampshire


"Personally I refer to it as a social always even if there's a "datish" feel about it , like drinks and dinner, holding hands walking back to our cars .

We're not dating , he's not considering introducing me to his mum , and I don't expect him to bring me flowers

Yes, that is how I see it too... "

And let's face it , if I was to say something like " let's meet at such and such pub for OUR FIRST DATE " the guy would freak out and run a mile

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Depending on a person's interpretation of the word Date, I have loads of dates set in my diary but not one of them is with a human

Im happy to refer to things as a date ie social, hate the term 'hook up'

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By *rHotNottsMan
over a year ago

Dubai & Nottingham

Probably, but if you don’t want fingering under the table probably best to call it a social

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By *ily WhiteWoman
over a year ago

?

I think for some the difference could lie in the intention, or perceived intention...I would be inclined to think that a date would be with someone looking for a relationship, but a social or meet is a clear NSA.

At the end of the day they're all just interviews to see if you think that person is the right fit for whatever you're looking for...but interview sounds even more clinical and detached than meet

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By *pursChick aka ShortieWoman
over a year ago

On a mooch

For me it’s a social or going out. Just simply spending time with good company whether that be friends or more.

The word ‘date’ just seems an old fashioned term, taking that step on a set relationship route.

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham


"On the back of another thread. And this is for the singles specifically.

Is or can a first social meet classed as a date, be it meeting for coffee or a drink in the pub or whatever social/public location.

It kind of follows the dating guidelines, to a degree, you see someone you fancy, you start chatting on here via pm, it then turns into that first social meet, which leads to whatever "

Off here? Not unless both have stated an interest in a relationship.

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham


"Probably, but if you don’t want fingering under the table probably best to call it a social "

So dating means fingerings?!

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By *indergirlWoman
over a year ago

somewhere, someplace

For me it's basically a date, but doesn't have to be in the romantic sense, I have dates with my friend's lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It is what you want it to be.

The key is being open about your expectations x"

i agree with this - as long as both parties know what the other is expecting from it, call it whatever you want

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hate the word meet "

Me too.

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