FabSwingers.com forum: Couple swinging what's acceptable

By *ilky_CocoPuffs OP Couple
over a year ago

Luton

Just wondering how couples do swinging together especially when arranging for threesomes. Do they let the partner chat separately to the individual without knowing what's been said or do they prefer being involved in a groupchat so it's out in the open? Do they decide who to talk to together or do they let the partner chat and arrange it on their own? What's a no no when it comes to couple swinging? Different perspectives welcome

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By *orthern StarsCouple
over a year ago

Durham

We both fully discuss everything and all communication is read by both of us. Swinging for us is a joint adventure for us both to enjoy, and decisions are made together.

Mrs does most of the messaging as she is very chatty and has more time.

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By *ily WhiteWoman
over a year ago

There are no set ways, it's all down to what you have discussed and agreed as as a couple. I would think that there are as many different ways of doing it as there are couples on the scene.

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By *uxom redCouple
over a year ago

Shrewsbury

We work as a couple,nothing is hidden. We both have to have an attraction.

We have respect for whom ever we meet.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Because I have more free time I do a lot of the chatting, but he also chats when he can. We both discuss what’s been said and have to both agree on who we meet x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I do most of the talking (mr) and organising.

My wife is more of a do'er as she puts it.

But she can have my phone at any moment to check messages or she can check here

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

It all depends on the individual couple. We both read all communication and never take it off fab until we meet socially.

I can't see a problem with chatting separately but I do see a problem with deliberately hiding conversations.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It all depends on the individual couple. We both read all communication and never take it off fab until we meet socially.

I can't see a problem with chatting separately but I do see a problem with deliberately hiding conversations."

Hiding conversations is a bad idea. Trust is so so important. Jealousy or fear can hide and grow in any place where you allow shadow or darkness to grow.

Best to keep everything out in the open.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"It all depends on the individual couple. We both read all communication and never take it off fab until we meet socially.

I can't see a problem with chatting separately but I do see a problem with deliberately hiding conversations.

Hiding conversations is a bad idea. Trust is so so important. Jealousy or fear can hide and grow in any place where you allow shadow or darkness to grow.

Best to keep everything out in the open. "

I agree but I think there's a difference between a one to one conversation and a hidden one to one conversation. If Mr N was having a chat with a woman at a social for instance I wouldn't want to listen in or know what they were saying and vice versa. However if they exchanged numbers and started texting behind my back it wouldn't go well when I found out...and vice versa

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I agree with you totally.

I chat with former playmates all the time. My wife isn't interested in that. But if she asks who I'm texting I show her instantly.

For us there can't be gray areas where doubt can grow. I have nothing to hide, so I hide nothing. She trusts me to be appropriate so I behave appropriately.

If we are having a threesome I will usually set up a chat group so it's all out in the open

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"I agree with you totally.

I chat with former playmates all the time. My wife isn't interested in that. But if she asks who I'm texting I show her instantly.

For us there can't be gray areas where doubt can grow. I have nothing to hide, so I hide nothing. She trusts me to be appropriate so I behave appropriately.

If we are having a threesome I will usually set up a chat group so it's all out in the open"

It's not something we've ever talked about. We just trust each other. Kind you as we often say nobody else would put up with us

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I agree with you totally.

I chat with former playmates all the time. My wife isn't interested in that. But if she asks who I'm texting I show her instantly.

For us there can't be gray areas where doubt can grow. I have nothing to hide, so I hide nothing. She trusts me to be appropriate so I behave appropriately.

If we are having a threesome I will usually set up a chat group so it's all out in the open

It's not something we've ever talked about. We just trust each other. Kind you as we often say nobody else would put up with us

She does trust me. I'm just particularly interested in keeping it that way.

And I often say the same. No one else would put up with my shite. I'm blessed

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"I agree with you totally.

I chat with former playmates all the time. My wife isn't interested in that. But if she asks who I'm texting I show her instantly.

For us there can't be gray areas where doubt can grow. I have nothing to hide, so I hide nothing. She trusts me to be appropriate so I behave appropriately.

If we are having a threesome I will usually set up a chat group so it's all out in the open

It's not something we've ever talked about. We just trust each other. Kind you as we often say nobody else would put up with us

She does trust me. I'm just particularly interested in keeping it that way.

And I often say the same. No one else would put up with my shite. I'm blessed "

Good Lord I wouldn't suggest she doesn't

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I am probably too cautious but I guess I err on the side of caution because I don't want this to end.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We dont have a set way,my hubby works long hours, so I kind of run our account. Suppose I choose who we meet, but obviously we talk about it, he double checks to make sure everything is ok

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By *helroyCouple
over a year ago

Skegness

i do the chatting 1st then when we swop face photos and wife happy to chat then and then arrange a meet and all chat together if all happy will arrange a play met out that suites all

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By *pace_Cowboy_BrumMan
over a year ago

Birmingham

We struggle to meet as a couple due to work and lack of childcare.

We have 3 profiles. Our couples one brumcouple172 then one each, hers cosmic_girl and mine _pace_cowboy_brum

We occasionally pop on cam together in one of the chat rooms or, we plan which socials to attend like the brum social or cov social together. Then, we also use our own individual profiles to arrange our own meets and do our own chatting. We both have login details for each and happy for anything in any inbox to be viewed by other. Always open with each other and if we ever meet individually, we always film the meet for the (normally) horny session afterwards when we put video on and tell each other about meet.

We'd love to be able to accommodate more or, get out as a couple more but a 16yr old daughter and 7yr old son do make it difficult to keep things discreet. Still not quite their with leaving one as the babysitter yet as sometimes you could confuse their ages

We're looking forward to a fun year this year and definitely due a profile update on all. Hoping to actually get back out there and "on it" lol very soon!

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By *partharmonyCouple
over a year ago

Ruislip

We have open chats on Kik or similar. We don't want anything hidden.

As far as finding women for threesomes, we've never gone looking. We look for people we like and just see where it leads. We like things to develop organically. That approach has served us well so far.

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By *ncemoreroundthesunCouple
over a year ago

on the move

"We both fully discuss everything and all communication is read by both of us. Swinging for us is a joint adventure for us both to enjoy, and decisions are made together.

Mrs does most of the messaging as she is very chatty and has more time."

Exactly this.

although chatting can be one or both, but read by both.

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By * and R cple4Couple
over a year ago

swansea

It would depend on the dynamics of the couple ,for us everything is in the open we both chat depending whose online at the time We come as a package so we both have to feel attracted and comfortable with the other people.We don’t go looking we prefer for things to happen naturally.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’ve been talking to this great couple for a fess days now just getting to know each other and when there happy we’re hoping to meet up and have some fun

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By *rMrsBrightsideCouple
over a year ago

Newcastle

I (Mrs) do most of the messaging but I tell Mr who I am taking with and he does go on and read the messages sometimes. With the men he tends to just leave me to decide and we always have a social first anyway. With couples to try to move to Kik so we can all chat together. We have no reason to do anything behind each others back anyway.

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