FabSwingers.com forum: First message attention catcher

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

When someone sends u a dm what kinda thing would catch ur attention for u to reply even if u didn’t necessarily fancy them ?

For me it is someone who has something respectful to say. Also a compliment is a winner

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

something funny or out of the ordinary

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By *psidedown PineapplesCouple
over a year ago

Sussex

An intelligent message with some humour. And no dick pic attached!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

its when you get a guy sendng you a pic of him in a monkey suit with the text ' lets swing together'

you seriously need to re-think your life

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The art of conversation is hard to explain.

But

If you read people's profiles you can get sometimes find things they might like to talk about or if you keep an eye on status updates you might get an idea of what goes through their heads.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"something funny or out of the ordinary

Px "

That’s where I’m going wrong then lol. I try to show my respectfulness and be a gentleman. Never tried humour

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By *andsome HandMan
over a year ago

roundabout

"something funny or out of the ordinary

That’s where I’m going wrong then lol. I try to show my respectfulness and be a gentleman. Never tried humour "

Laughter can be an aphrodisiac

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Receiving first messages, what is this magic you talk of

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By *andsome HandMan
over a year ago

roundabout

"its when you get a guy sendng you a pic of him in a monkey suit with the text ' lets swing together'

you seriously need to re-think your life"

Or you need to recruit him as a tag partner, assuming he wasn't hitting on you. His sense of humor is certainly top class

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"something funny or out of the ordinary

That’s where I’m going wrong then lol. I try to show my respectfulness and be a gentleman. Never tried humour

Laughter can be an aphrodisiac "

But you need to be yourself also. Insincere people are a turn off

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Regardless how you dress the table if the menu is not her taste she won’t touch it.

You can be a brillant poet or write hilarious messages if the coating is not her taste it will only go as far as a good laugh but no thank you at the end of the night.

The right mixture of good comms and old fashioned hormone connections is the only recipe for a kiss and further intimate bonding....

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"something funny or out of the ordinary

That’s where I’m going wrong then lol. I try to show my respectfulness and be a gentleman. Never tried humour

Laughter can be an aphrodisiac

But you need to be yourself also. Insincere people are a turn off"
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I’m not insecure. I just thought that by showing respectfulness was the right way to send a first message. I never even thought of humour lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"something funny or out of the ordinary

That’s where I’m going wrong then lol. I try to show my respectfulness and be a gentleman. Never tried humour

Laughter can be an aphrodisiac

But you need to be yourself also. Insincere people are a turn off.

I’m not insecure. I just thought that by showing respectfulness was the right way to send a first message. I never even thought of humour lol"

They didn't say insecure, insincere was what they said

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"something funny or out of the ordinary

That’s where I’m going wrong then lol. I try to show my respectfulness and be a gentleman. Never tried humour

Laughter can be an aphrodisiac

But you need to be yourself also. Insincere people are a turn off.

I’m not insecure. I just thought that by showing respectfulness was the right way to send a first message. I never even thought of humour lol

They didn't say insecure, insincere was what they said "

Oh Yh lol. Miss read it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've always found getting messages read to be the problem. Messages must be lost in the crowd too easily.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I've always found getting messages read to be the problem. Messages must be lost in the crowd too easily."

Women are inundated with messages, so you'll find the majority u send will be unopened ir not answered....no expectations on fab is a good rule of thumb to work to

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I've always found getting messages read to be the problem. Messages must be lost in the crowd too easily.

Women are inundated with messages, so you'll find the majority u send will be unopened ir not answered....no expectations on fab is a good rule of thumb to work to "

Speak for yourself. I’m swapped in responses.

Ok, that might of been a lie

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I've always found getting messages read to be the problem. Messages must be lost in the crowd too easily.

Women are inundated with messages, so you'll find the majority u send will be unopened ir not answered....no expectations on fab is a good rule of thumb to work to

Speak for yourself. I’m swapped in responses.

Ok, that might of been a lie"

Mate mate mate I'm too long in the fab tooth to fall for that shit

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By *andyfloss2000Woman
over a year ago

ashford

It's when I see I saw u today at such an such lol like today! Then I'm curious and try an work out if I saw them to! Ha ha x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Haha. Totally wasn’t believable was it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"The art of conversation is hard to explain.

But

If you read people's profiles you can get sometimes find things they might like to talk about or if you keep an eye on status updates you might get an idea of what goes through their heads.

I completely agree it’s hard to explain, just be yourself... I haven’t actually spoken or messaged anyone that isn’t on the forum if I’m honest for well over a year... I’ve only really messaged forum users through getting to know them reading their posts interacting on threads and flirting.

All I can say is be yourself. I think a lot go wrong when they try to be someone they’re not. Good luck

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"The art of conversation is hard to explain.

But

If you read people's profiles you can get sometimes find things they might like to talk about or if you keep an eye on status updates you might get an idea of what goes through their heads.

All I can say is be yourself. I think a lot go wrong when they try to be someone they’re not. Good luck

A quote like that would be normally from a profile with verifications. But, you don’t?

Are you these fakes you speak of

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Haha. Totally wasn’t believable was it

I say no, shaking my head in disappointment with you LK

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"The art of conversation is hard to explain.

But

If you read people's profiles you can get sometimes find things they might like to talk about or if you keep an eye on status updates you might get an idea of what goes through their heads.

All I can say is be yourself. I think a lot go wrong when they try to be someone they’re not. Good luck

This is my first time of using the forum

Tbh I didn’t even notice it until today

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"The art of conversation is hard to explain.

But

If you read people's profiles you can get sometimes find things they might like to talk about or if you keep an eye on status updates you might get an idea of what goes through their heads.

All I can say is be yourself. I think a lot go wrong when they try to be someone they’re not. Good luck

A quote like that would be normally from a profile with verifications. But, you don’t?

Are you these fakes you speak of"

I’ve not met anyone from here yet who could verify me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Had a pic sent to me the other day, of a rubber mask with a penis for a nose, now that really caught my attention, nobody has a penis for a nose everyone nose that

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would always respond politely.. even to the messages that are as dull as dishwater! But a quick witted message will draw more interest which is nice

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"The art of conversation is hard to explain.

But

If you read people's profiles you can get sometimes find things they might like to talk about or if you keep an eye on status updates you might get an idea of what goes through their heads.

All I can say is be yourself. I think a lot go wrong when they try to be someone they’re not. Good luck

A quote like that would be normally from a profile with verifications. But, you don’t?

Are you these fakes you speak of

I’ve not met anyone from here yet who could verify me "

Use tge cam rooms can get verified through cams

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"The art of conversation is hard to explain.

But

If you read people's profiles you can get sometimes find things they might like to talk about or if you keep an eye on status updates you might get an idea of what goes through their heads.

All I can say is be yourself. I think a lot go wrong when they try to be someone they’re not. Good luck

A quote like that would be normally from a profile with verifications. But, you don’t?

Are you these fakes you speak of

I’ve not met anyone from here yet who could verify me

Use tge cam rooms can get verified through cams "

I get awkward doing selfies for Christ sake lol no way I’d cam in a room full of ppl. Maybe 121 but that’s all

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"The art of conversation is hard to explain.

But

If you read people's profiles you can get sometimes find things they might like to talk about or if you keep an eye on status updates you might get an idea of what goes through their heads.

All I can say is be yourself. I think a lot go wrong when they try to be someone they’re not. Good luck

A quote like that would be normally from a profile with verifications. But, you don’t?

Are you these fakes you speak of

I’ve not met anyone from here yet who could verify me

Use tge cam rooms can get verified through cams

I get awkward doing selfies for Christ sake lol no way I’d cam in a room full of ppl. Maybe 121 but that’s all "

Wait fir clubs n socials to open remember, ppl arnt w really chatting on fab cuz of lickdown n shit, just stick with it, I promise you it'll cum up tru.os for u at some point

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By *ovelaughliveCouple
over a year ago

Oldham

Well think most messages beat "fancy a fuck" which is the type we usually get!!

A message that shows they have taken the time to read our profile works for us x

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By *icola2202Couple
over a year ago

Chatham

Just any message would be grand

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Just any message would be grand

Do u not get many then ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Just any message would be grand

Unblock single males you'll soon get messages lol.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Have tried to message two lady’s but unfortunately out my age range and not on forums

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"The art of conversation is hard to explain.

But

If you read people's profiles you can get sometimes find things they might like to talk about or if you keep an eye on status updates you might get an idea of what goes through their heads.

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All I can say is be yourself. I think a lot go wrong when they try to be someone they’re not. Good luck

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A quote like that would be normally from a profile with verifications. But, you don’t?

Are you these fakes you speak of"

I have verifications...

I’ve been swinging for years I’ve met quite a few people, nothing fake here...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Apparently a picture of your cock and some simple text - 'fancy some of this princess' seems to work

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Apparently a picture of your cock and some simple text - 'fancy some of this princess' seems to work

Sending a dick pic in my first message isn’t my style tbh

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Apparently a picture of your cock and some simple text - 'fancy some of this princess' seems to work

Oh god

gets me every time and it wasn't even a message to me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Apparently a picture of your cock and some simple text - 'fancy some of this princess' seems to work

Oh god

gets me every time and it wasn't even a message to me

Where I've been going wrong all these years

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Apparently a picture of your cock and some simple text - 'fancy some of this princess' seems to work

Oh god

gets me every time and it wasn't even a message to me

Mrssapphire u actually like a dick pic ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As already been said. No dick pics. And something amusing

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Apparently a picture of your cock and some simple text - 'fancy some of this princess' seems to work

Oh god

gets me every time and it wasn't even a message to me

Mrssapphire u actually like a dick pic ? "

Yeh! I keep stick them all in an album under the bed

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Apparently a picture of your cock and some simple text - 'fancy some of this princess' seems to work

Oh god

gets me every time and it wasn't even a message to me

Mrssapphire u actually like a dick pic ?

Yeh! I keep stick them all in an album under the bed"

Are they laminated, so they are wipe clean?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Apparently a picture of your cock and some simple text - 'fancy some of this princess' seems to work

Oh god

gets me every time and it wasn't even a message to me

Mrssapphire u actually like a dick pic ?

Yeh! I keep stick them all in an album under the bed

Are they laminated, so they are wipe clean?

Yeh I realised after a while, printing fresh ones wasn't cost effective. Especially with the volume of penises I receive

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By *ucka39Man
over a year ago

Newcastle

Anything from a polite hello followed by something

interesting

complement

cheeky

funny

An unexpected picture if they have none publicly available

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Apparently a picture of your cock and some simple text - 'fancy some of this princess' seems to work

Oh god

gets me every time and it wasn't even a message to me

Mrssapphire u actually like a dick pic ?

Yeh! I keep stick them all in an album under the bed

Are they laminated, so they are wipe clean?

Yeh I realised after a while, printing fresh ones wasn't cost effective. Especially with the volume of penises I receive "

Lmao

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By *andsome HandMan
over a year ago

roundabout

"Apparently a picture of your cock and some simple text - 'fancy some of this princess' seems to work

Dirty Den eat your heart out

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By *icola2202Couple
over a year ago

Chatham

"Just any message would be grand

Do u not get many then ? "
maybe about 2-3 messages a week

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Just any message would be grand

Do u not get many then ? maybe about 2-3 messages a week "

I just think it’s not the right thing to do in ur first message

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By *imi_RougeWoman
over a year ago

Portsmouth

When it's clear they've actually read my profile.

Compliment about my outfits.

Generally just being normal.

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By *ncemoreroundthesunCouple
over a year ago

on the move

Shows they've really read our profile, intelligence, humour with naughtiness

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Shows they've really read our profile, intelligence, humour with naughtiness

Oncemoreroundthesun. I always read a profile no matter how long it is. It’s respectful

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I always find a nice shot anal shot, gets the ball rolling rather well

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"When it's clear they've actually read my profile.

Compliment about my outfits.

Generally just being normal."

I know what you mean -I seem to get more messages from men lol and they also dont seem to have read my profile, they dont say nice things about my outfits and they are rarely normal

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By *partharmonyCouple
over a year ago

Ruislip

If they use our names. We always look up people's names before we write and start the message saying hello to them. Why does nobody else think this is worthwhile?

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By *atnip make me purrWoman
over a year ago

Reading

"An intelligent message with some humour. And no dick pic attached!"

Exactly this

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I wouldn't even open the message if I didn't find them attractive. I've responded to a first message before that was just "baaaaa" because I liked the look of the guy.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I always find a nice shot anal shot, gets the ball rolling rather well "

Oh I bet it does

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No small talk. Straight to the point in what they're after and also a face pic

Always gets a reply from me, even if it's a 'no thanks'

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