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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I’ve had way more success on dating apps for hookups than Fab, is that strange? Is it just me? I’m so confused as to why that is...

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By *gent CoulsonMan
over a year ago

Secret hideaway in the pennines

Could be something to do with the fact that there is a pandemic going on at the moment

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By *imi_RougeWoman
over a year ago

Portsmouth

It's you.

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By *histle do nicelyMan
over a year ago

Glasgow South


"It's you."
I would také that on board and change a few things

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I appreciate that, and of course I understand its a pandemic etc.

A bit difficult to self reflect and adjust accordingly personally. However, what I meant was that there’s a big difference I find in results (even in terms of conversation) between other dating apps and to here.

Maybe i’m just blabbering on lol who knows *shrugs*

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Fab is not like a dating app. Swingers are different. It's not just attraction that's important.

If you want to be good at fab it takes time. It's about more than looks.

Go to socials. Be personable and non creepy.

Lots of guys think that just because swingers enjoy sex that they only want to talk about sex but that's not always the case.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It's you."

Ouch that's gotta hurt......

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

put some grass on the field if you want the goats to start eating

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Tell me about it hahaha

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Fab is not like a dating app. Swingers are different. It's not just attraction that's important.

If you want to be good at fab it takes time. It's about more than looks.

Go to socials. Be personable and non creepy.

Lots of guys think that just because swingers enjoy sex that they only want to talk about sex but that's not always the case."

Thanks for the insight, I think the part where you mentioned socials is where i’m going wrong, I joined not so long before COVID, so fingers crossed I can make this effort - thanks again

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Mate missing some key things from your pics, your cock next to either a sky remote or a lynx can, preferably AFRICA the more discerning female swinger just gets wet for that shit and a toilet in the background

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I literally have the worst luck on fab with the ladies.

I think it’s partly cos they know exactly what they want and as it’s a hook up site they won’t take any less than that. With dating sites they tend to use it for a more serious relationship reason until they chat to someone who they end up just wanting some no strings with.

Fab is a lot more direct to the point.

Also for me personally I feel awkward taking pics of myself which makes me look less appealing to ppl.

I’m on of them ppl that look better in person

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Mate missing some key things from your pics, your cock next to either a sky remote or a lynx can, preferably AFRICA the more discerning female swinger just gets wet for that shit and a toilet in the background "

Ahhh this is where i’ve been going wrong all along!!! I’ve been comparing it to the Lynx CHOCOLATE one instead! I’ll make sure I change it up real quick lmao

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By *roggMan
over a year ago

haverfordwest

Under normal circumstances there is a good club scene in your area which gives you an opportunity to meet a wide variety of people

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Mate missing some key things from your pics, your cock next to either a sky remote or a lynx can, preferably AFRICA the more discerning female swinger just gets wet for that shit and a toilet in the background

Ahhh this is where i’ve been going wrong all along!!! I’ve been comparing it to the Lynx CHOCOLATE one instead! I’ll make sure I change it up real quick lmao"

No its all about the smell appeal, don't forget the other tips...

On a serious note bro, look at other men's galleries who use the forums some great ones, join in on the forums,when able clubs and socials, stick with fab it can be a real fun place

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I literally have the worst luck on fab with the ladies.

I think it’s partly cos they know exactly what they want and as it’s a hook up site they won’t take any less than that. With dating sites they tend to use it for a more serious relationship reason until they chat to someone who they end up just wanting some no strings with.

Fab is a lot more direct to the point.

Also for me personally I feel awkward taking pics of myself which makes me look less appealing to ppl.

I’m on of them ppl that look better in person "

Yeh I totally get what you mean! Yeh thats how dating sites be working for me, a few jokes exchanged into what you’re looking for, meetup (outside of COVID), get to know eachother and perhaps some fun along the way. But its a different formula here thats for sure.

Hahaha yeh i’m the same too! Haven’t had a good enough reason to dress up and take some decent pics in a while, so my pics have been lacking recently

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I’ve had way more success on dating apps for hookups than Fab, is that strange? Is it just me? I’m so confused as to why that is...

"

That’s because it’s not a dating app... it’s a swinging site so the couples call the shots

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It's you."

And you are just plain boring

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just don’t give up, wait for club to open again and try your luck there. Don’t forget to be natural, pleasant, polite and respectful. Read books, cultivate yourself, have some good sense of humour and words would get around about your attitude.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I’ve had way more success on dating apps for hookups than Fab, is that strange? Is it just me? I’m so confused as to why that is...

That’s because it’s not a dating app... it’s a swinging site so the couples call the shots "

Question how do the couples call the shots, out if intrest

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I’ve had way more success on dating apps for hookups than Fab, is that strange? Is it just me? I’m so confused as to why that is...

That’s because it’s not a dating app... it’s a swinging site so the couples call the shots

Question how do the couples call the shots, out if intrest "

Good question. Love to hear the response

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By *ora the explorerWoman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts


"I’ve had way more success on dating apps for hookups than Fab, is that strange? Is it just me? I’m so confused as to why that is...

That’s because it’s not a dating app... it’s a swinging site so the couples call the shots "

Since when? I’ve got no interest in couples at all. Maybe they do call the shots where single men are involved but other than that they don’t.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I’ve had way more success on dating apps for hookups than Fab, is that strange? Is it just me? I’m so confused as to why that is...

That’s because it’s not a dating app... it’s a swinging site so the couples call the shots

Question how do the couples call the shots, out if intrest

Good question. Love to hear the response "

Cuz In my experience Lk its the single women who really have the power!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I’ve had way more success on dating apps for hookups than Fab, is that strange? Is it just me? I’m so confused as to why that is...

That’s because it’s not a dating app... it’s a swinging site so the couples call the shots

Question how do the couples call the shots, out if intrest

Good question. Love to hear the response

Cuz In my experience Lk its the single women who really have the power!! "

They have the power! Der nah, na na na nana Der nah!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nothings is wrong with your profile mate I think the whole system is wrong women get hundreds of messages so probably they can't be bothered searching for what they like they or what they are after. all the options are on the table so they choose from there and most of the time decent people will get neglected. The effort from the male side is ridiculous u need to put 10x more on the table than the women you are after

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By *ora the explorerWoman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts


"Nothings is wrong with your profile mate I think the whole system is wrong women get hundreds of messages so probably they can't be bothered searching for what they like they or what they are after. all the options are on the table so they choose from there and most of the time decent people will get neglected. The effort from the male side is ridiculous u need to put 10x more on the table than the women you are after"

How would you change the system?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Nothings is wrong with your profile mate I think the whole system is wrong women get hundreds of messages so probably they can't be bothered searching for what they like they or what they are after. all the options are on the table so they choose from there and most of the time decent people will get neglected. The effort from the male side is ridiculous u need to put 10x more on the table than the women you are after"

THATS Life, fab us that cock heavy, yeah we have to put the work in, from my fab experience it is always with it and it can be a hell if a fun place

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By *rooperRedMan
over a year ago

Littlehampton

The chances as a single male here are infinitesimal. Single men probably outnumber women by a factor of hundreds if not thousands. That's just going by looking at how many are online. A few men are successful, generally getting a few verifications help, but getting on the ladder is extremely difficult.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Found the same myself but I do think a lot are on different pages with no genuine idea what they actually want

Me included

I know my worth and I know I'm equal and that sex is by no means more important than myself

If that makes any sense at all

If not ok

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By *andyfloss2000Woman
over a year ago

ashford

50 50 with pof and here for me x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The chances as a single male here are infinitesimal. Single men probably outnumber women by a factor of hundreds if not thousands. That's just going by looking at how many are online. A few men are successful, generally getting a few verifications help, but getting on the ladder is extremely difficult. "

I dont agree, I'm a single male, with verifications and not sold my standards in the process of getting them

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Nothings is wrong with your profile mate I think the whole system is wrong women get hundreds of messages so probably they can't be bothered searching for what they like they or what they are after. all the options are on the table so they choose from there and most of the time decent people will get neglected. The effort from the male side is ridiculous u need to put 10x more on the table than the women you are after"

Yeh i feel you on this, to many men they think its a game of numbers, so they send as many messages to as many potentials as possible; thinking it’ll increase their odds of “scoring”, which doesn’t really help.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Nothings is wrong with your profile mate I think the whole system is wrong women get hundreds of messages so probably they can't be bothered searching for what they like they or what they are after. all the options are on the table so they choose from there and most of the time decent people will get neglected. The effort from the male side is ridiculous u need to put 10x more on the table than the women you are after

How would you change the system?"

I can't change it but thats where I think it all goes down from 28k members probably 20k are males,after that couples profiles and then somewhere in the end single ladies

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By *rooperRedMan
over a year ago

Littlehampton


"The chances as a single male here are infinitesimal. Single men probably outnumber women by a factor of hundreds if not thousands. That's just going by looking at how many are online. A few men are successful, generally getting a few verifications help, but getting on the ladder is extremely difficult.

I dont agree, I'm a single male, with verifications and not sold my standards in the process of getting them "

I never said you sold your standards. I said getting them is difficult, and if you have then well done. The two women I've met off here didn't do verifications so I'm not getting any.

I don't know, I guess I'm just assuming. It seems it's feast or famine

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I’ve had way more success on dating apps for hookups than Fab, is that strange? Is it just me? I’m so confused as to why that is...

That’s because it’s not a dating app... it’s a swinging site so the couples call the shots

Question how do the couples call the shots, out if intrest "

The site name said it all. Not being rude of course.

It’s been created solely for couples to interact with other couples. It’s been opened to singles for ménages à trois and in the process to expand their horizon. For money purpose the site encourage singles to subscribe.

Obviously now single women got the choices as it’s natural that there are more men seeking single women than the opposite. Also couple seek more women than men.

The ratio make that couples or single women call the shots...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Nothings is wrong with your profile mate I think the whole system is wrong women get hundreds of messages so probably they can't be bothered searching for what they like they or what they are after. all the options are on the table so they choose from there and most of the time decent people will get neglected. The effort from the male side is ridiculous u need to put 10x more on the table than the women you are after"

I agree with that 100%

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I’ve had way more success on dating apps for hookups than Fab, is that strange? Is it just me? I’m so confused as to why that is...

That’s because it’s not a dating app... it’s a swinging site so the couples call the shots

Question how do the couples call the shots, out if intrest

The site name said it all. Not being rude of course.

It’s been created solely for couples to interact with other couples. It’s been opened to singles for ménages à trois and in the process to expand their horizon. For money purpose the site encourage singles to subscribe.

Obviously now single women got the choices as it’s natural that there are more men seeking single women than the opposite. Also couple seek more women than men.

The ratio make that couples or single women call the shots... "

The site name? Fab Swing. That’s not couples related. Singles swing too.

Do you know what swinging is

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Some people I suppose fuck what they can whilst others fuck what they want

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Nothings is wrong with your profile mate I think the whole system is wrong women get hundreds of messages so probably they can't be bothered searching for what they like they or what they are after. all the options are on the table so they choose from there and most of the time decent people will get neglected. The effort from the male side is ridiculous u need to put 10x more on the table than the women you are after

Yeh i feel you on this, to many men they think its a game of numbers, so they send as many messages to as many potentials as possible; thinking it’ll increase their odds of “scoring”, which doesn’t really help.

But you have no verifications? Can’t be that successful my man

I'm still trying to figure it out I have what to bring to the table but the more I try and don't get anything in return the more I feel its pointless to try"

After 5 months?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I’ve had way more success on dating apps for hookups than Fab, is that strange? Is it just me? I’m so confused as to why that is...

That’s because it’s not a dating app... it’s a swinging site so the couples call the shots

Question how do the couples call the shots, out if intrest

The site name said it all. Not being rude of course.

It’s been created solely for couples to interact with other couples. It’s been opened to singles for ménages à trois and in the process to expand their horizon. For money purpose the site encourage singles to subscribe.

Obviously now single women got the choices as it’s natural that there are more men seeking single women than the opposite. Also couple seek more women than men.

The ratio make that couples or single women call the shots... "

That may have been the case in the early days, however things evolve, since I've used fab over a goid few years, the trend swings on the single females side, a hell of alot more than couples the only power couples have if therefore g solely for single males, or when engaging with other couples,...so not big shot callers like u seem to thing these days,

And on your premise swinging is just a couples domain, where like-minded ppl come in all shapes n sizes

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Nothings is wrong with your profile mate I think the whole system is wrong women get hundreds of messages so probably they can't be bothered searching for what they like they or what they are after. all the options are on the table so they choose from there and most of the time decent people will get neglected. The effort from the male side is ridiculous u need to put 10x more on the table than the women you are after

Yeh i feel you on this, to many men they think its a game of numbers, so they send as many messages to as many potentials as possible; thinking it’ll increase their odds of “scoring”, which doesn’t really help.

But you have no verifications? Can’t be that successful my man

I'm still trying to figure it out I have what to bring to the table but the more I try and don't get anything in return the more I feel its pointless to try"

You have you thats enough be you be genuine ppl will see that

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I’ve had way more success on dating apps for hookups than Fab, is that strange? Is it just me? I’m so confused as to why that is...

That’s because it’s not a dating app... it’s a swinging site so the couples call the shots

Question how do the couples call the shots, out if intrest

The site name said it all. Not being rude of course.

It’s been created solely for couples to interact with other couples. It’s been opened to singles for ménages à trois and in the process to expand their horizon. For money purpose the site encourage singles to subscribe.

Obviously now single women got the choices as it’s natural that there are more men seeking single women than the opposite. Also couple seek more women than men.

The ratio make that couples or single women call the shots...

The site name? Fab Swing. That’s not couples related. Singles swing too.

Do you know what swinging is "

Yes exchanging partners... do you??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I’ve had way more success on dating apps for hookups than Fab, is that strange? Is it just me? I’m so confused as to why that is...

That’s because it’s not a dating app... it’s a swinging site so the couples call the shots

Question how do the couples call the shots, out if intrest

The site name said it all. Not being rude of course.

It’s been created solely for couples to interact with other couples. It’s been opened to singles for ménages à trois and in the process to expand their horizon. For money purpose the site encourage singles to subscribe.

Obviously now single women got the choices as it’s natural that there are more men seeking single women than the opposite. Also couple seek more women than men.

The ratio make that couples or single women call the shots...

The site name? Fab Swing. That’s not couples related. Singles swing too.

Do you know what swinging is

Yes exchanging partners... do you?? "

a person who engages in group sex or the swapping of sexual partners. Draw you attention to the first part.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't know exactly where you are trying to get with me not having verification

I'm not into cam chats if we take that from you you wouldn't have aswell , and I had meeting opportunities just wasn't what I was looking for..

but anyway the point is different

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I don't know exactly where you are trying to get with me not having verification

I'm not into cam chats if we take that from you you wouldn't have aswell , and I had meeting opportunities just wasn't what I was looking for..

but anyway the point is different

"

So the expert has no success? Also, I don’t have any verifications? How do you get that? Profile states you are wrong

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Couples don't have the power but couples have an easier time finding playmates.

Having a wife on here is like having a golden ticket for wonkas factory. Its not a guarantee that you will win, but it gets you in the door.

We were not looking for single guys here but at socials we were.

I cannot stress how brilliant socials are.

That's where swinging is at its best. The craic, the laughter, the sexual tension... its brilliant.

Fab is how you find socials.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I’ve had way more success on dating apps for hookups than Fab, is that strange? Is it just me? I’m so confused as to why that is...

That’s because it’s not a dating app... it’s a swinging site so the couples call the shots

Question how do the couples call the shots, out if intrest

The site name said it all. Not being rude of course.

It’s been created solely for couples to interact with other couples. It’s been opened to singles for ménages à trois and in the process to expand their horizon. For money purpose the site encourage singles to subscribe.

Obviously now single women got the choices as it’s natural that there are more men seeking single women than the opposite. Also couple seek more women than men.

The ratio make that couples or single women call the shots...

The site name? Fab Swing. That’s not couples related. Singles swing too.

Do you know what swinging is

Yes exchanging partners... do you??

a person who engages in group sex or the swapping of sexual partners. Draw you attention to the first part.

"

I am not going to have a fish bowl argument with you!

Without couples you don’t have the swinging effect, it’s logical, this is how it started, not with single people, that’s just called shagging...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I’ve had way more success on dating apps for hookups than Fab, is that strange? Is it just me? I’m so confused as to why that is...

That’s because it’s not a dating app... it’s a swinging site so the couples call the shots

Question how do the couples call the shots, out if intrest

The site name said it all. Not being rude of course.

It’s been created solely for couples to interact with other couples. It’s been opened to singles for ménages à trois and in the process to expand their horizon. For money purpose the site encourage singles to subscribe.

Obviously now single women got the choices as it’s natural that there are more men seeking single women than the opposite. Also couple seek more women than men.

The ratio make that couples or single women call the shots...

The site name? Fab Swing. That’s not couples related. Singles swing too.

Do you know what swinging is

Yes exchanging partners... do you??

a person who engages in group sex or the swapping of sexual partners. Draw you attention to the first part.

I am not going to have a fish bowl argument with you!

Without couples you don’t have the swinging effect, it’s logical, this is how it started, not with single people, that’s just called shagging... "

Its not a fishbowl argument, its only an exchange of opinions that is OK....

It might be how it started, but it's not how it is today, that u know, being a swinger, as it would be only couples at clubs, but the money is in single men, sadly but that's the truth of it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm hair splitting but 5 singles fucking in a club is also swinging.

It started out as "wife swapping" but it's evolved

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I don't know exactly where you are trying to get with me not having verification

I'm not into cam chats if we take that from you you wouldn't have aswell , and I had meeting opportunities just wasn't what I was looking for..

but anyway the point is different

So the expert has no success? Also, I don’t have any verifications? How do you get that? Profile states you are wrong "

Whatever you say mate can't be bothered. You are drifting away from the topic.You are not being helpful in anyway and I think you are trying to start something,but its not worthy my time and energy to be bothered

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Nothings is wrong with your profile mate I think the whole system is wrong women get hundreds of messages so probably they can't be bothered searching for what they like they or what they are after. all the options are on the table so they choose from there and most of the time decent people will get neglected. The effort from the male side is ridiculous u need to put 10x more on the table than the women you are after

Yeh i feel you on this, to many men they think its a game of numbers, so they send as many messages to as many potentials as possible; thinking it’ll increase their odds of “scoring”, which doesn’t really help.

But you have no verifications? Can’t be that successful my man

I'm still trying to figure it out I have what to bring to the table but the more I try and don't get anything in return the more I feel its pointless to try

You have you thats enough be you be genuine ppl will see that "

you are right

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By *ce WingerMan
over a year ago

P.O. Box DE1 0NQ


"put some grass on the field if you want the goats to start eating"

Confusios he say ^

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"put some grass on the field if you want the goats to start eating

Confusios he say ^"

Or Borat

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

On the dating apps, what are the expectations. I’m curious. Do they expect dates to lead somewhere or is the expectation that it’s mostly about not getting into a dating relationship.

I haven’t been on any sites, apps, social media, anything apart from Fab.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I joined fab partly as i was sick of guys on dating apps just wanting a shag. At least on here i can choose to engage or not and i know its just sex.

I think many ppl joined during the pandemic and fab just isnt at its best functionality due to the afore mentioned. Getting out and going to clubs and socials again should improve things for many. Good luck OP

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By *andyfloss2000Woman
over a year ago

ashford


"On the dating apps, what are the expectations. I’m curious. Do they expect dates to lead somewhere or is the expectation that it’s mostly about not getting into a dating relationship.

I haven’t been on any sites, apps, social media, anything apart from Fab."

Been on pof and tinder tbh it's much the same as here just dressed up differently! Expectations are much the same x

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By *hat BlokeMan
over a year ago

Harrogate

I think it’s a ratios thing. Men outnumber women at an exponential rate. Also, it seems they will scatter message any and every woman with a pulse. This means dozens if not hundreds of messages for a lady to trawl through. If you are blessed with a face like a smacked as (as I am) it’s very easy for a lady to “swipe left”

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Hook ups"

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By *rHotNottsMan
over a year ago

Dubai & Nottingham


"I’ve had way more success on dating apps for hookups than Fab, is that strange? Is it just me? I’m so confused as to why that is...

"

It’s not strange. Generally people on dating apps just want to meet, date, fuck whatever, there’s no lifestyle / community.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

100 men to one wonen on here

Its a huge struggle

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I’ve had way more success on dating apps for hookups than Fab, is that strange? Is it just me? I’m so confused as to why that is...

"

I thought when I read this.

Then I read your later replies and thought

Socials might be your 'thing'.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I joined fab partly as i was sick of guys on dating apps just wanting a shag. At least on here i can choose to engage or not and i know its just sex.

I think many ppl joined during the pandemic and fab just isnt at its best functionality due to the afore mentioned. Getting out and going to clubs and socials again should improve things for many. Good luck OP "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I’ve had way more success on dating apps for hookups than Fab, is that strange? Is it just me? I’m so confused as to why that is...

"

Completely different mindset.

This site is about like minded people mixing together, sharing together what's considered 'not the norm', also the ladies in this scene tend to have a better idea what they want and have a better idea of how to get it.

Dating sites are considered the norm and so people are more open to hook ups there.

Often, the right line can sucker them in.

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By *xfordshireCoupleMFCouple
over a year ago

Nr. Oxford

Keep your head up OP. We used to be quite active but due to everything that’s happened are now mostly dormant. We aren’t talking to a lot of people because there is currently no chance of meeting. I think your luck will improve once we are allowed to meet people again without social distancing.

Lily

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By *ools and the brainCouple
over a year ago

couple, us we him her.


"I appreciate that, and of course I understand its a pandemic etc.

A bit difficult to self reflect and adjust accordingly personally. However, what I meant was that there’s a big difference I find in results (even in terms of conversation) between other dating apps and to here.

Maybe i’m just blabbering on lol who knows *shrugs*"

I think it's down to level of expectation.

So many join expecting it to be a fuckfest free for all.

Actually I have noticed that if anything the ladies and couples are getting more picky.

Maybe that's partly to do with the way the site has changed and this almost being used as a dating site by singles with many looking for a relationship rather than swinging.

And obviously the pandemic is going to change things.

But generally it's just usually about being in the right place right time.

You want casual hook ups then clubs and parties but even then you have to work at it to stand out from the rest.

On here it's just about being realistic, no point messaging people hundreds of miles away.

I would suggest messaging the guy's who get regular meets, look at their profiles and find out what their secret is.

It's not always down to a perfect bod and a big cock.

It's confidence, respect and knowing when someone isn't interested just backing off.

Good luck

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I’ve had way more success on dating apps for hookups than Fab, is that strange? Is it just me? I’m so confused as to why that is...

I thought when I read this.

Then I read your later replies and thought

Socials might be your 'thing'. "

Yeh I realised after that I may have worded my sentences incorrectly, i’m just genuinely curious on how things actually work here as I haven’t had the greatest of success on here... but yeh i’ve taken into account on what everyones been saying - thanks again everyone x

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Keep your head up OP. We used to be quite active but due to everything that’s happened are now mostly dormant. We aren’t talking to a lot of people because there is currently no chance of meeting. I think your luck will improve once we are allowed to meet people again without social distancing.

Lily "

Thanks Lily, really appreciate this! x

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I appreciate that, and of course I understand its a pandemic etc.

A bit difficult to self reflect and adjust accordingly personally. However, what I meant was that there’s a big difference I find in results (even in terms of conversation) between other dating apps and to here.

Maybe i’m just blabbering on lol who knows *shrugs*

I think it's down to level of expectation.

So many join expecting it to be a fuckfest free for all.

Actually I have noticed that if anything the ladies and couples are getting more picky.

Maybe that's partly to do with the way the site has changed and this almost being used as a dating site by singles with many looking for a relationship rather than swinging.

And obviously the pandemic is going to change things.

But generally it's just usually about being in the right place right time.

You want casual hook ups then clubs and parties but even then you have to work at it to stand out from the rest.

On here it's just about being realistic, no point messaging people hundreds of miles away.

I would suggest messaging the guy's who get regular meets, look at their profiles and find out what their secret is.

It's not always down to a perfect bod and a big cock.

It's confidence, respect and knowing when someone isn't interested just backing off.

Good luck"

Yeh my expectations have definitely been set elsewhere relatively speaking to what the site was initially designed for. I haven’t been on this app nearly as long enough to understand how it really works - thanks again! x

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By *acey_RedWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool


"I literally have the worst luck on fab with the ladies.

I think it’s partly cos they know exactly what they want and as it’s a hook up site they won’t take any less than that. With dating sites they tend to use it for a more serious relationship reason until they chat to someone who they end up just wanting some no strings with.

Fab is a lot more direct to the point.

Also for me personally I feel awkward taking pics of myself which makes me look less appealing to ppl.

I’m on of them ppl that look better in person "

While people do use this site for hook ups, it isn't a hook up site, it's a swingers site.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Mate missing some key things from your pics, your cock next to either a sky remote or a lynx can, preferably AFRICA the more discerning female swinger just gets wet for that shit and a toilet in the background "

To be fair the Sky remote at least gives some scale...if the Sky remote is completely hidden then just PM your address

The toilet pics...or even those where they are actually sat on it so we can look in the bowl

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I literally have the worst luck on fab with the ladies.

I think it’s partly cos they know exactly what they want and as it’s a hook up site they won’t take any less than that. With dating sites they tend to use it for a more serious relationship reason until they chat to someone who they end up just wanting some no strings with.

Fab is a lot more direct to the point.

Also for me personally I feel awkward taking pics of myself which makes me look less appealing to ppl.

I’m on of them ppl that look better in person

While people do use this site for hook ups, it isn't a hook up site, it's a swingers site."

It’s closer to being a hook up site than a dating site is my point

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By *DW1983Man
over a year ago

Aberdeen, Leeds, Sheffield

Its a difficult one. I think clubs and events give you a much better chance than on here. If you're there already, then you're maybe one of 20 or 30 guys at most, so the odds are much better than here where you're one of thousands.

Looking at your profile, I can't see much wrong, and in terms of looks I'd say you've probably a better chance than many on here, where looks and first impression count and where its easy to 'swipe left' because there are another 6000 profiles queuing up for every woman.

Without wanting to sound self depreciating, I stand zero chance based on looks alone. Yet have had some great fun in clubs, where I've played with some very attractive women. On one memorable occasion a very attractive couple I'd barely exchanged more than pleasantries with headed off to a playroom with a few guys, looked at me and asked as if it were the most obvious thing in the world 'are you coming with us?'

I think its very much a case that by being there, being genuine and real, you vastly improve the odds. Even for someone distinctly average and pretty picky like me, I've had many memorable and fun experiences. Yet despite trying on here (polite messages, interesting, etc) I've never managed to meet a single woman through the site alone. I tend to use it as a way of staying in toch and up to date with the scene and forums, and expect any meets to be at clubs or events rather than through here.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Embrace the confusion and bash your bishop while playing Mario kart x

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By *stbury DavenportMan
over a year ago

Nottingham


"it’s natural that there are more men seeking single women than the opposite"

Is it? Why?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Its a difficult one. I think clubs and events give you a much better chance than on here. If you're there already, then you're maybe one of 20 or 30 guys at most, so the odds are much better than here where you're one of thousands.

Looking at your profile, I can't see much wrong, and in terms of looks I'd say you've probably a better chance than many on here, where looks and first impression count and where its easy to 'swipe left' because there are another 6000 profiles queuing up for every woman.

Without wanting to sound self depreciating, I stand zero chance based on looks alone. Yet have had some great fun in clubs, where I've played with some very attractive women. On one memorable occasion a very attractive couple I'd barely exchanged more than pleasantries with headed off to a playroom with a few guys, looked at me and asked as if it were the most obvious thing in the world 'are you coming with us?'

I think its very much a case that by being there, being genuine and real, you vastly improve the odds. Even for someone distinctly average and pretty picky like me, I've had many memorable and fun experiences. Yet despite trying on here (polite messages, interesting, etc) I've never managed to meet a single woman through the site alone. I tend to use it as a way of staying in toch and up to date with the scene and forums, and expect any meets to be at clubs or events rather than through here."

Looks like i’ll be making my way up to a club once things are safe and sound! I’m a little anxious, as it’ll be my first time - but there’s a first time for everything!

Thanks, not to sound cocky, but thats what also added to my confusion.. it seems that attractiveness isn’t as heavily weighted on this site from what i’ve experienced - but thats just through my lens, can be different for others.

Love the insight, I’ve been treating this site in a totally wrong way it seems - it’s more community based rather than engaging with people on this site individually in a sort of sense. Thanks again!

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