FabSwingers.com forum: What women want

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I’ve not been here long, but in my time here

I understand that most of the women that have attractive looking photos get peppered with messages like a sirloin steak

So ladies what is it you want from a guy, in his first message.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"hi, I see you organise the local social, could you tell me more about it, please?" I like this one, or similar, quite alot

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By *heNYCSausageMan
over a year ago

Everton

Great film

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By *phrodite_AdonisCouple
over a year ago

A well written, short and snappy message that shows you’ve read the profile, face pic included

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Great film

Damn! You beat me to it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Women love genetic copy and paste messages with the title ‘Good morning/ evening non specific woman/ couple’

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By *heNYCSausageMan
over a year ago

Everton

"Great film

Damn! You beat me to it

I’m used to coming first

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Great film

Damn! You beat me to it

I’m used to coming first

That certainly isn’t what women want

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By *heNYCSausageMan
over a year ago

Everton

"Great film

Damn! You beat me to it

I’m used to coming first

That certainly isn’t what women want

For fucks sake!!! Spat out my drink then!!! Haha

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I’ve not been here long, but in my time here

I understand that most of the women that have attractive looking photos get peppered with messages like a sirloin steak

So ladies what is it you want from a guy, in his first message.

Promise of kebab and cake never fails

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By *heNYCSausageMan
over a year ago

Everton

"I’ve not been here long, but in my time here

I understand that most of the women that have attractive looking photos get peppered with messages like a sirloin steak

So ladies what is it you want from a guy, in his first message.

Promise of kebab and cake never fails"

How about pizza and coffee?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I’ve not been here long, but in my time here

I understand that most of the women that have attractive looking photos get peppered with messages like a sirloin steak

So ladies what is it you want from a guy, in his first message.

Promise of kebab and cake never fails

How about pizza and coffee?"

Kebab and a coffee???

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By *heNYCSausageMan
over a year ago

Everton

"I’ve not been here long, but in my time here

I understand that most of the women that have attractive looking photos get peppered with messages like a sirloin steak

So ladies what is it you want from a guy, in his first message.

Promise of kebab and cake never fails

How about pizza and coffee?

Kebab and a coffee???"

A woman of my heart

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By *a LunaWoman
over a year ago

South Wales

“Hi, my name’s Dave and tonight Luna, I’m going to be your fantasy”

This is what I want. When do I want it? Now!

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By *heNYCSausageMan
over a year ago

Everton

"“Hi, my name’s Dave and tonight Luna, I’m going to be your fantasy”

This is what I want. When do I want it? Now!

Hi, my name’s Anthony and tonight Luna, I’m going to be your fantasy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Great film

Damn! You beat me to it

I’m used to coming first

That certainly isn’t what women want

Thank god you know that fact. 1 down 40k to go.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I’ve not been here long, but in my time here

I understand that most of the women that have attractive looking photos get peppered with messages like a sirloin steak

So ladies what is it you want from a guy, in his first message.

Promise of kebab and cake never fails

How about pizza and coffee?

Kebab and a coffee???

A woman of my heart

Great! I'll munch mine then start on yours

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By *hunky GentMan
over a year ago

Maldon and Peterborough

"“Hi, my name’s Dave and tonight Luna, I’m going to be your fantasy”

This is what I want. When do I want it? Now!

You do know his real name is Rodney?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"A well written, short and snappy message that shows you’ve read the profile, face pic included

In some cases there is very little or nothing on a woman’s profile, apart from pictures of boobies

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By *heNYCSausageMan
over a year ago

Everton

"I’ve not been here long, but in my time here

I understand that most of the women that have attractive looking photos get peppered with messages like a sirloin steak

So ladies what is it you want from a guy, in his first message.

Promise of kebab and cake never fails

How about pizza and coffee?

Kebab and a coffee???

A woman of my heart

Great! I'll munch mine then start on yours

On my what?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Pics of my thighs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I’ve not been here long, but in my time here

I understand that most of the women that have attractive looking photos get peppered with messages like a sirloin steak

So ladies what is it you want from a guy, in his first message.

Promise of kebab and cake never fails

How about pizza and coffee?

Kebab and a coffee???

A woman of my heart

Great! I'll munch mine then start on yours

On my what?

Kebab boss, KEBAB...Why what on earth did you think I meant???unless you got doughnuts

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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago

East London

"A well written, short and snappy message that shows you’ve read the profile, face pic included

In some cases there is very little or nothing on a woman’s profile, apart from pictures of boobies "

Are they nice boobies though?

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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago

East London

"Pics of my thighs

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By *heNYCSausageMan
over a year ago

Everton

"I’ve not been here long, but in my time here

I understand that most of the women that have attractive looking photos get peppered with messages like a sirloin steak

So ladies what is it you want from a guy, in his first message.

Promise of kebab and cake never fails

How about pizza and coffee?

Kebab and a coffee???

A woman of my heart

Great! I'll munch mine then start on yours

On my what?

Kebab boss, KEBAB...Why what on earth did you think I meant???unless you got doughnuts

For you? You can have whatever you want!!!

Krispy Kreme donuts

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Do some of you ladies employ PA’s to filter through your hundreds and in some cases thousands of messages

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By *AABMan
over a year ago

Not far

"“Hi, my name’s Dave and tonight Luna, I’m going to be your fantasy”

This is what I want. When do I want it? Now!

Hi, my name’s Anthony and tonight Luna, I’m going to be your fantasy

I’m just thinking of ‘Stars in Their Minds’; tonight Matthew I’m going to be Chris de Burgh

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By *a LunaWoman
over a year ago

South Wales

I forgot I posted on here and it’s only been 36 minutes since. I’m off to bed. I’ll think of you chaps fulfilling my fantasy

night all

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

So ladies what is it you want from a guy, in his first message.

Just say hello and I'll drop dead

....hot!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It is hard on here. Can't always tell who is real and who isn't, but I always go with what they put in their profile bio and how you relate. Better to only connect with girls that you know you can offer and get along with. Like things that you like and want

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The amount of messages i don’t get a reply to us silly im never rude and I’m respectful but still no reply

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I’ve not been here long, but in my time here

I understand that most of the women that have attractive looking photos get peppered with messages like a sirloin steak

So ladies what is it you want from a guy, in his first message.

I don't think the wording matters... few words like "hi you free? " better if you can shorten it to tx so they can get straight to admiring the cock pics... best to send a couple from each angle and one over the toilet.

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By *hunky GentMan
over a year ago

Maldon and Peterborough

So ladies what is it you want from a guy, in his first message.

Just say hello and I'll drop dead

....hot!"

What about "hey up". Surely such sexy words would make you blush.

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By *andsome HandMan
over a year ago

roundabout

"“Hi, my name’s Dave and tonight Luna, I’m going to be your fantasy”

This is what I want. When do I want it? Now!

You do know his real name is Rodney? "

Aye but Dave is a nickname

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By *hunky GentMan
over a year ago

Maldon and Peterborough

"“Hi, my name’s Dave and tonight Luna, I’m going to be your fantasy”

This is what I want. When do I want it? Now!

You do know his real name is Rodney?

Aye but Dave is a nickname "

OK trigger.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

So ladies what is it you want from a guy, in his first message.

Just say hello and I'll drop dead

....hot!"

Lol but what if the person in question isn’t in your age requirements

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"The amount of messages i don’t get a reply to us silly im never rude and I’m respectful but still no reply "

I feel your pain bro, single men are the prawns of the Fab world it would seem

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Diamonds ....

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By *RONMAN16Man
over a year ago

Coventry

How can you forget the classic

'Hi, how are you?' Never fails

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By *imbobaMan
over a year ago

Glasgow

"The amount of messages i don’t get a reply to us silly im never rude and I’m respectful but still no reply

I feel your pain bro, single men are the prawns of the Fab world it would seem

I’m going for langoustines in that case.

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By *imbobaMan
over a year ago

Glasgow

"I’ve not been here long, but in my time here

I understand that most of the women that have attractive looking photos get peppered with messages like a sirloin steak

So ladies what is it you want from a guy, in his first message.

Promise of kebab and cake never fails

How about pizza and coffee?

Kebab and a coffee???

A woman of my heart

Great! I'll munch mine then start on yours

On my what?

Kebab boss, KEBAB...Why what on earth did you think I meant???unless you got doughnuts

For you? You can have whatever you want!!!

Krispy Kreme donuts "

Tip. You missed a trick. Go for the ringed donuts and insist that you get to choose where it’s plated.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think the first line has to be catching to spark interest.... and include face pics .... also a decent title.... I think nice pics are most important though xxx

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By *heNYCSausageMan
over a year ago

Everton

"I’ve not been here long, but in my time here

I understand that most of the women that have attractive looking photos get peppered with messages like a sirloin steak

So ladies what is it you want from a guy, in his first message.

Promise of kebab and cake never fails

How about pizza and coffee?

Kebab and a coffee???

A woman of my heart

Great! I'll munch mine then start on yours

On my what?

Kebab boss, KEBAB...Why what on earth did you think I meant???unless you got doughnuts

For you? You can have whatever you want!!!

Krispy Kreme donuts

Tip. You missed a trick. Go for the ringed donuts and insist that you get to choose where it’s plated.

Haha thought I had more class than that!!!

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By *imbobaMan
over a year ago

Glasgow

"I’ve not been here long, but in my time here

I understand that most of the women that have attractive looking photos get peppered with messages like a sirloin steak

So ladies what is it you want from a guy, in his first message.

Promise of kebab and cake never fails

How about pizza and coffee?

Kebab and a coffee???

A woman of my heart

Great! I'll munch mine then start on yours

On my what?

Kebab boss, KEBAB...Why what on earth did you think I meant???unless you got doughnuts

For you? You can have whatever you want!!!

Krispy Kreme donuts

Tip. You missed a trick. Go for the ringed donuts and insist that you get to choose where it’s plated.

Haha thought I had more class than that!!!"

Ouch.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'll take the peppered steak please with a side of triple cooked chips

That's what I want.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A man who has enough fragility in his voice to be able to properly sing Celine Dion

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It'll vary as much as ladies vary on here! I prefer winks and it says this on my profile ... I've met people from them and also have from a simple "Hi" message! The type of message lots like in the forums I don't overly find attractive as think they're way too contrived ... so can't offer advice as to what works because I truly believe we're all different! (Also the forums are a teenie tiny part of fab!)

The things that do seem to work generically though are have a decent profile that shows yourself, ALWAYS read their profile first and never message unless you fit their criteria plus always be happy and polite!

A photo with first message is a good thing but not a necessity (unless asked for) and good humour always works well with ladies!

Happy fabbing OP and enjoy!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"“Hi, my name’s Dave and tonight Luna, I’m going to be your fantasy”

This is what I want. When do I want it? Now!

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how many Dave’s did u get

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Welcome to the forum op

Women on here generally say that if you write a well thought out message, and are respectful etc.

it helps, and certainly, if you send a three word message I likely won’t even open it, but generally I’ll look at the profile first. If the pics are good, and the bio is good, I’ll open the message.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Humour and personality! Not copied and pasted, showing some small sign that you've read my profile and actually want to talk to me, rather than just any odd female within 100 miles.

Also, I'll check your profile before opening your message, so if that's crap and doesn't show personality, I'm afraid I may never open the message.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Depends - I hate a hey how are you message especially if there isn’t a lot to the profile / or no pics.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When have you known a woman to make up her mind bout anything.

Come on man, what's wrong With you

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By *a LunaWoman
over a year ago

South Wales

"“Hi, my name’s Dave and tonight Luna, I’m going to be your fantasy”

This is what I want. When do I want it? Now!

how many Dave’s did u get "

None in my box. Story of my life

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Do they even know

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By *ora the explorerWoman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts

We want it all

. And a little bit more.

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By *B69Woman
over a year ago

Wiltshire

"Humour and personality! Not copied and pasted, showing some small sign that you've read my profile and actually want to talk to me, rather than just any odd female within 100 miles.

Also, I'll check your profile before opening your message, so if that's crap and doesn't show personality, I'm afraid I may never open the message. "

I do exactly the same

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We want it all

. And a little bit more. "

....and you want it now

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We want it all

. And a little bit more. "

What Nora said

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By *otSoPoshWoman
over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon

Honest to goodness, I have no clue.

It can vary depending on far too many things, from my mood to whether or not there is coffee in my hand or the song stuck in my head.

Women are flighty fuckers OP, and whatever they (we) want can change from one moment to the next.

It's about the whole package of a fella and whether that appeals unfortunately, there is no formula that fits all.

One thing though..... if you've got pics of you in a cowboy hat or boots, or both, that's guaranteed to catch my eye, and a "howdy ma'am" is just sexy.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Let them come to you

If every single man on fab stopped sending a first message, we would become the hunted, not the hunter.

Once women stopped getting amy messages, firstly they'd question if fab was broken, then were their filters on, then they'd have to start browsing proiles and picking out who they like, rather than spend time trawling through the inbox for half decent messages.

Chances of that are zero though.

Fab would have to do a ban on men sending first messages for a day or two, because you can guarantee that even if every bloke agreed to abstain for a day, some snake would send a message knowing that everyone else wasn't sending any.

Male half of couples would be invited to show solidarity.

Anyway, back in the real world...

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By *ora the explorerWoman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts

"We want it all

. And a little bit more.

....and you want it now

That too! And tomorrow and the next day but probably not the next day as we may have changed our minds but then we may change it back again. And twice on Sunday’s. With bacon.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Humour and personality! Not copied and pasted, showing some small sign that you've read my profile and actually want to talk to me, rather than just any odd female within 100 miles.

Also, I'll check your profile before opening your message, so if that's crap and doesn't show personality, I'm afraid I may never open the message.

I do exactly the same

Mines pretty sparse to be fair... but prefer chatting on here

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By * Sophie xTV/TS
over a year ago

Derby

Dead simple......they want you to not be a nobhead and anything after that is a bonus.

Its hard enough just not being a nobhead so you're already in a minority to start off with

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By *akjourneyMan
over a year ago

Weston

"Let them come to you

If every single man on fab stopped sending a first message, we would become the hunted, not the hunter.

Chances of that are zero though.

Male half of couples would be invited to show solidarity.

Anyway, back in the real world...

I really like this idea. It would give the ladies a break from the dross and never know it may elevate the site for all.

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By *otSoPoshWoman
over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon

"Dead simple......they want you to not be a nobhead and anything after that is a bonus.

Its hard enough just not being a nobhead so you're already in a minority to start off with

You're generalizing again Sophie....

Some of us like a nobhead now and again

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By * Sophie xTV/TS
over a year ago

Derby

"Dead simple......they want you to not be a nobhead and anything after that is a bonus.

Its hard enough just not being a nobhead so you're already in a minority to start off with

You're generalizing again Sophie....

Some of us like a nobhead now and again

Bite me for generalising, I dare you !

You know I didn't mean the actual head of a nob Posh

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By *rispyDuckMan
over a year ago

Chinese Takeaway near you

Think the want a guy who will 'feed them chicken wings & spank their arse'

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Say why you liked my profile, what you're looking for, what you can offer. I'm always partial to a cheesy dad joke, and I used to request these in my profile when I was looking for meets. I wouldn't expect face pics in the first message.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Let them come to you

If every single man on fab stopped sending a first message, we would become the hunted, not the hunter.

Chances of that are zero though.

Male half of couples would be invited to show solidarity.

Anyway, back in the real world...

Would love to see this happen.

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By *otSoPoshWoman
over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon

"Dead simple......they want you to not be a nobhead and anything after that is a bonus.

Its hard enough just not being a nobhead so you're already in a minority to start off with

You're generalizing again Sophie....

Some of us like a nobhead now and again

Bite me for generalising, I dare you !

You know I didn't mean the actual head of a nob Posh

Happily dear....

Where do you require the bite?

And oh. In that case my bad. As y'all were

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Mrs N says worst messages are ones that say "do you want to fuck now"?

Suppose I need to stop sending those sort of messages then! M

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Honest to goodness, I have no clue.

It can vary depending on far too many things, from my mood to whether or not there is coffee in my hand or the song stuck in my head.

Women are flighty fuckers OP, and whatever they (we) want can change from one moment to the next.

It's about the whole package of a fella and whether that appeals unfortunately, there is no formula that fits all.

One thing though..... if you've got pics of you in a cowboy hat or boots, or both, that's guaranteed to catch my eye, and a "howdy ma'am" is just sexy."

Flighty fuckers! So true, but made me laugh

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By *heNYCSausageMan
over a year ago

Everton

"“Hi, my name’s Dave and tonight Luna, I’m going to be your fantasy”

This is what I want. When do I want it? Now!

how many Dave’s did u get

None in my box. Story of my life

I tried but filters wouldn’t allow me lol

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By *lbinoGorillaMan
over a year ago

Redditch

"“Hi, my name’s Dave and tonight Luna, I’m going to be your fantasy”

This is what I want. When do I want it? Now!

how many Dave’s did u get

None in my box. Story of my life

I'm playing it cool and making you wait

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"We want it all

. And a little bit more.

....and you want it now

That too! And tomorrow and the next day but probably not the next day as we may have changed our minds but then we may change it back again. And twice on Sunday’s. With bacon. "

Did some one say bacon?

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Welcome to the forum op

Women on here generally say that if you write a well thought out message, and are respectful etc.

Hey, thank you for the kind welcome, I appreciate that

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Humour and personality! Not copied and pasted, showing some small sign that you've read my profile and actually want to talk to me, rather than just any odd female within 100 miles.

Also, I'll check your profile before opening your message, so if that's crap and doesn't show personality, I'm afraid I may never open the message. "

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Humour and personality! Not copied and pasted, showing some small sign that you've read my profile and actually want to talk to me, rather than just any odd female within 100 miles.

Also, I'll check your profile before opening your message, so if that's crap and doesn't show personality, I'm afraid I may never open the message. "

I do the opposite I read the message/wink first and then check out the profile x

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"When have you known a woman to make up her mind bout anything.

Come on man, what's wrong With you

Maybe I suffer from dreamers disease

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

"Let them come to you

If every single man on fab stopped sending a first message, we would become the hunted, not the hunter.

Chances of that are zero though.

Male half of couples would be invited to show solidarity.

Anyway, back in the real world...

You should apply to be Major of London

You are a visionary lol

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By *eyond PurityCouple
over a year ago

Lincolnshire

No cock pics at all! No one sentence wonders!

Someone who makes an effort, who’s different, looking for different and has sex appeal throughout their profile, pics and messages.

We’ve made an effort with our profile and pics so we expect/want similar from someone messaging us...

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By *heNYCSausageMan
over a year ago

Everton

"Let them come to you

If every single man on fab stopped sending a first message, we would become the hunted, not the hunter.

Chances of that are zero though.

Male half of couples would be invited to show solidarity.

Anyway, back in the real world...

You should apply to be Major of London

You are a visionary lol "

I disagree!!! Think about us ugly blokes. We still wouldn’t get a message lol

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By *lirty-CoupleCouple
over a year ago

Bexley

"I’ve not been here long, but in my time here

I understand that most of the women that have attractive looking photos get peppered with messages like a sirloin steak

So ladies what is it you want from a guy, in his first message.

That he's read our profile, understood it, accepts our boundaries/limitations and is interested in the same things broadly. We also like to read a little about the person - not what they think 'all women want to hear' but about them, what they're looking for and why. We'll also read their profile to see what impression that gives of the person before deciding how to respond.

Our best advice to guys here is to be themselves not some stereotype they think they have to live up to in order to get noticed. Ask yourself how you would approach a woman in a bar. Would you start by telling them how big your cock is and asking if they're wearing any knickers?...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Very individual really.... at the end of the day you can write the best message ever but if I don’t fancy your face it will still be a no.

But a few general tips: read the profile, include a face pic and just be yourself. If you have an unusual interest or kink, don’t put that in your first message, chat first before you ask me if I want to eat cum on toast haha.

The most annoying sentence ever: can I ask you something?

And don’t send a message demanding to see my face in your introductory message. I hate those too.

Genuine interest and someone that has a sense of humour will always be appreciated...

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By *phroditeWoman
over a year ago

(She/ her) in Sensualityland

Personally?

I hate being greeted with cock shot especially when accompanied by a carefully crafted message such as "How's u"

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By *phroditeWoman
over a year ago

(She/ her) in Sensualityland

Sorry, I answered the wrong question... I said what I hated... doh!

I like an individually crafted friendly introduction that tells me a little bit about the sender. No War & Peace, just a friendly opening message. Politeness, sense of humour and generally respect are great ingredients in such a message.

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By *ocksareoffMan
over a year ago

Out n About

"Personally?

I hate being greeted with cock shot especially when accompanied by a carefully crafted message such as "How's u"

Haha Terribly sorry about that.

Let me step it up a notch...

"How are you?"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Personally?

I hate being greeted with cock shot especially when accompanied by a carefully crafted message such as "How's u"

FFS do you know how long it took me to think of that?

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By *phroditeWoman
over a year ago

(She/ her) in Sensualityland

"Personally?

I hate being greeted with cock shot especially when accompanied by a carefully crafted message such as "How's u"

Haha Terribly sorry about that.

Let me step it up a notch...

"How are you?"

So much better

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By *phroditeWoman
over a year ago

(She/ her) in Sensualityland

"Personally?

I hate being greeted with cock shot especially when accompanied by a carefully crafted message such as "How's u"

FFS do you know how long it took me to think of that?

Terribly sorry - how could I be so cold-hearted ...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Personally?

I hate being greeted with cock shot especially when accompanied by a carefully crafted message such as "How's u"

FFS do you know how long it took me to think of that?

Terribly sorry - how could I be so cold-hearted ...

As long as your hands are warm

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I’ve not been here long, but in my time here

I understand that most of the women that have attractive looking photos get peppered with messages like a sirloin steak

So ladies what is it you want from a guy, in his first message.

Promise of kebab and cake never fails

How about pizza and coffee?

Kebab and a coffee???

A woman of my heart

Great! I'll munch mine then start on yours

On my what?

Kebab boss, KEBAB...Why what on earth did you think I meant???unless you got doughnuts

For you? You can have whatever you want!!!

Krispy Kreme donuts "

I'll make a list

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By *ndecidedMan
over a year ago

London

"Pics of my thighs

When life gives you thighs, you have to improvise!!

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