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Covert narcissism

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Recently, I have had experience of this in my life and have looked into what the characteristics are and how you can spot/avoid anyone who displays these traits.

Have you had any relationships in the past and experienced covert narcissism? Could you recognise the traits of a covert narcissist?

I was very surprised today to find this out, I didn't even recognise these traits as they aren't as obvious as an overt narcissist.

It would be interesting to hear others opinions and experiences.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Worked with them.

Only speak to you when they want something then blank you completely.

Jealous of you being happy and you'll find relationship's they have always end badly.

Best thing is to play them at their own game. Or avoid

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I suspect many of us have experienced aspects of narcissistic behaviour within a relationship on occasion.

I also suspect way fewer of us have actually been in a relationship with someone who has been diagnosed as having narcissistic personality disorder.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Worked with them.

Only speak to you when they want something then blank you completely.

Jealous of you being happy and you'll find relationship's they have always end badly.

Best thing is to play them at their own game. Or avoid"

I think my tactic would be avoid as well. I recognised the shy but needing approval signs but the other ones came as a shock to me.

I just didn't see it coming.

The lack of empathy was another glaring sign but I didn't put the two together

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A covert narcissist.... I need to Google

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I suspect many of us have experienced aspects of narcissistic behaviour within a relationship on occasion.

I also suspect way fewer of us have actually been in a relationship with someone who has been diagnosed as having narcissistic personality disorder. "

I guess being diagnosed with that could be a challenge to someone with narcissistic personality disorder as one of the traits is not accepting of criticism and a high view of self importance!

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By *ntrepid ExplorersCouple
over a year ago

Birmingham

I hadn't heard of the covert side of it all. But now I give you... my ex wife.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"A covert narcissist.... I need to Google "

So did I today! I wouldn't have had a clue before today xx

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"I hadn't heard of the covert side of it all. But now I give you... my ex wife."

Oh heck... hope you manage to keep distance! Boundaries are essential apparently with these people x

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By *ntrepid ExplorersCouple
over a year ago

Birmingham


"I hadn't heard of the covert side of it all. But now I give you... my ex wife.

Oh heck... hope you manage to keep distance! Boundaries are essential apparently with these people x "

Well it sure clashes with nervous autism. A terrible combination esp when kids are involved

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By *hunky GentMan
over a year ago

Maldon and Peterborough


"A covert narcissist.... I need to Google

So did I today! I wouldn't have had a clue before today xx "

Is it like a normal narcissist, but wears a balaclava?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"A covert narcissist.... I need to Google

So did I today! I wouldn't have had a clue before today xx

Is it like a normal narcissist, but wears a balaclava? "

Pretty much!

No, they just don't outwardly display their self importance. They self depreciate to obtain compliments and lack empathy and run others down to make themselves feel better.

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By *arker secrets 321Man
over a year ago

West Bromwich

Bin there don that got the t shirt and scars 2 mental not fisical x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"A covert narcissist.... I need to Google "

I had to do that too. Was an interesting read.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Bin there don that got the t shirt and scars 2 mental not fisical x

"

Ditto, apparently

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"A covert narcissist.... I need to Google

So did I today! I wouldn't have had a clue before today xx

Is it like a normal narcissist, but wears a balaclava?

Pretty much!

No, they just don't outwardly display their self importance. They self depreciate to obtain compliments and lack empathy and run others down to make themselves feel better.

"

Blimey! That describes a good percentage of my former colleagues

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By *hunky GentMan
over a year ago

Maldon and Peterborough


"A covert narcissist.... I need to Google

So did I today! I wouldn't have had a clue before today xx

Is it like a normal narcissist, but wears a balaclava?

Pretty much!

No, they just don't outwardly display their self importance. They self depreciate to obtain compliments and lack empathy and run others down to make themselves feel better.

"

Oh Crikey - I've seen loads of them on here.

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By *ntrepid ExplorersCouple
over a year ago

Birmingham


"A covert narcissist.... I need to Google

So did I today! I wouldn't have had a clue before today xx

Is it like a normal narcissist, but wears a balaclava?

Pretty much!

No, they just don't outwardly display their self importance. They self depreciate to obtain compliments and lack empathy and run others down to make themselves feel better.

Blimey! That describes a good percentage of my former colleagues"

Yes although so many labels like this feel like they fit anyone you don't like. It can be as easy as reading star signs to make these simplified summaries fit anyone when in reality they just specifically think you're a prick or something.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"A covert narcissist.... I need to Google

So did I today! I wouldn't have had a clue before today xx

Is it like a normal narcissist, but wears a balaclava?

Pretty much!

No, they just don't outwardly display their self importance. They self depreciate to obtain compliments and lack empathy and run others down to make themselves feel better.

Blimey! That describes a good percentage of my former colleagues

Yes although so many labels like this feel like they fit anyone you don't like. It can be as easy as reading star signs to make these simplified summaries fit anyone when in reality they just specifically think you're a prick or something. "

Personally I think we're getting to the stage where everything has to be labelled when people are just different to each other and some learn ways to manipulate or are just not very nice.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Worked with them.

Only speak to you when they want something then blank you completely.

Jealous of you being happy and you'll find relationship's they have always end badly.

Best thing is to play them at their own game. Or avoid

I think my tactic would be avoid as well. I recognised the shy but needing approval signs but the other ones came as a shock to me.

I just didn't see it coming.

The lack of empathy was another glaring sign but I didn't put the two together "

they always right never to anything wrong and thats why relationships dont work for them.

its pointless calling them out because the level of damage they try to do to your character goes up.

best avoid , stand back and snigger when the latest episode involving them ends badly.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"A covert narcissist.... I need to Google

So did I today! I wouldn't have had a clue before today xx

Is it like a normal narcissist, but wears a balaclava? "

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