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By *rincess peach OP   Woman
over a year ago

shits creek

As some of you may remember I lost my shit a bit the last few months, took a major slump due to the death of friends and the world being a cunt of a place.

It's the funeral tomorrow of my mate that was killed by the hit n run driver (who's still unidentified at the moment) whilst he was out walking his dog.

The floral tribute from a group of us who used to play xbox together is being dropped off at mine in the next hour and I'm nervous about it. I've organised the flowers and although I wanna see them, I don't at the same time. I wanna "do him proud" with the flowers, but that's impossible, how can you do a life proud like that? I don't doubt for a sec he'd not be chuffed with them, I dunno it's weird. Although I want the funeral to come n go so this bit of the ordeal is over (he was killed at the end of Feb) I don't, who does?

I know I'm waffling, I'm a little here n there ya know?

So yeah, that's me processing by the written word I suppose.

Gonna be a bastard of a day, but hopefully one that's full of love and peace.

Sending you all good vibes and do me a favour, drop a mate a message.... just let em know you love em.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It will be a rough day and I'm glad you can write all about it here. Or elsewhere. Sending hugs, no advice.. xx

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By *ools and the brainCouple
over a year ago

couple, us we him her.

Can't offer much advice.

The fact your talking about it has got to help ?

Just hugs and love X

Be strong

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Love you Peach

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By *uke olovingmanMan
over a year ago

Gravesend

Hugs princess ...you can do this ... remember your mate

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By *isAdventure69Woman
over a year ago

Hampshire

Big hugs gorgeous

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By *rumpyMcFuckNuggetMan
over a year ago

Den of Iniquity

Much love Peach . You can get through this

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By * Sophie xTV/TS
over a year ago

Derby

My thoughts will be with you Peach and you know where to find me if you need to vent or just tell someone stuff.

Take care of you and I know your mate will always have thought you were awesome and did him proud in all you do xx

I'll message a mate later I've not spoken to for a while just to check in with him and make sure he is OK

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Waffle all you want Peach

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By *umalotagainMan
over a year ago

a town called malice

Sending thoughts abs massive tight hugs, remember the good times and you will get through this horrid time

Your fab friends are here for you ??

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By *ady LickWoman
over a year ago

Northampton Somewhere

I've never had a funeral of a friend so I'm not sure what to say. It'll be a hard day, remember the good bits of the times you shared together is all I have.

I'm popping to see my mate tonight because of you and I will give her a hug.

Look after yourself x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's never easy things like this.

You feel cheated because you never got to say goodbye.

Thing is we all end up with regrets. No one lives life without them.

So today celebrate the life that was and everything about your friend, all they did and how you enjoyed them being around.

And if you remember that they will always be there in spirit

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Losing your best friends or mates is always a big shit life pinch in the face. Even now I think about my friends I lost and get rough inside.

But life goes on, I think about all the good time and silly stupid things we done together. Some reckless shit that could have killed all of us. The it makes me smile or laugh.

So think about that silly things you done with him, what make him laugh about you.

Embrasse that day like a wrestler, don’t let it take you down....

I don’t know you but hug from a stranger is always a good take

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I wish I could offer advice on how to cope in the lead up and aftermath, but I hope writing it out here helped you process what's about to come up.

I'm sorry to hear about your friend, especially as it must have been so sudden and the funeral is your chance at closure. These next few days will be tough but from what I've seen of you here, I have no doubt you have the character to come out the other side

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By *elethWoman
over a year ago

Gloucestershire

I can totally understand your dichotomy lovely. I'm glad you feel able to let it out here. Process away!

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By *ora the explorerWoman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts

xxxxx

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By *nliveneTV/TS
over a year ago

Selby

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By *emorefridaCouple
over a year ago

La la land

I lost my best mate in accident in my 20's. There is no words I can speak that will make it better. I still think of him when certain songs come up on the radio or I pass the pub we used to drink in. He'll always with me, as your friend will be with you. Big hugs you'll get through it x

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By *ensuallover1000Man
over a year ago

Somewhere In The Ether…

Sincere hugs to you m’lady xxx

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By *om and JennieCouple
over a year ago

Chams or Socials

Huge hugs lovely xxx Nothing ever prepares you for things like this.

J x

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By *iscean_dreamMan
over a year ago

Llanelli


"As some of you may remember I lost my shit a bit the last few months, took a major slump due to the death of friends and the world being a cunt of a place.

It's the funeral tomorrow of my mate that was killed by the hit n run driver (who's still unidentified at the moment) whilst he was out walking his dog.

The floral tribute from a group of us who used to play xbox together is being dropped off at mine in the next hour and I'm nervous about it. I've organised the flowers and although I wanna see them, I don't at the same time. I wanna "do him proud" with the flowers, but that's impossible, how can you do a life proud like that? I don't doubt for a sec he'd not be chuffed with them, I dunno it's weird. Although I want the funeral to come n go so this bit of the ordeal is over (he was killed at the end of Feb) I don't, who does?

I know I'm waffling, I'm a little here n there ya know?

So yeah, that's me processing by the written word I suppose.

Gonna be a bastard of a day, but hopefully one that's full of love and peace.

Sending you all good vibes and do me a favour, drop a mate a message.... just let em know you love em.

"

Really hard times you're going through and I hope they find the coward responsible.

Send you lots of hugs and I'm here for venting if you need.

I'm sure you've done him proud for sure x

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

Much love.

Be how you want to be.

You've done him proud. You know that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The only advice I can offer having lost 3 family members in 2013

is to laugh with the memories

when you can

cry when you want too and scream if you want too.

I often look up to the sky and speak to my brother because although we were not close I still miss him.

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By *a LunaWoman
over a year ago

South Wales

Sending love to you x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don't know you and couldn't message you but could relate so much.. My thoughts and big hugs to you Peach x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I can't say I know you PP so I have nothing to offer except positive thoughts.

You seem really nice and sincere and your emotional vulnerability is really intense recently and for obvious reasons.

The next few days will be rough but hopefully you can process and find some comfort

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don't know you PP, but thoughts n prayers with you in this time xx

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By *ykmwyldTV/TS
over a year ago

Belpre

Sincerely sorry to here about your friend. It's going to be tough for awhile, no way of getting around it, but always remember the good times you shared, and also remember, your friend wouldn't want you to be sad for a long time, your friend would want you to go on with your life and be happy, and to think about them from time to time with good thoughts.

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By * Lexi xWoman
over a year ago

stockport

Massive hugs

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By *ea monkeyMan
over a year ago

Manchester (he/him)

Hey Peach.

I absolutely understand why you feel like this and it’s all part of this whole situation.

Breathe.

Try not to put pressure on yourself.

Breathe.

You’ve got this.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Wow Peach that is a lot to deal with, sending hugs and virtual strength to get through the day

Roll with the emotion when it takes you x

You know you are doing him proud by remembering and honouring his memory. It is so hard saying goodbye and the circumstances make it particularly difficult

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Good luck luv

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If you are stood there tomorrow feeling shit, just think hard of all the times you laughed together, and did crazy shit. It's okay to cry and smile at funerals, you are there to celebrate a life. People are only ever really gone if you forget them. Even if the remembering brings a tear, let it flow and think of a time that was fun and be grateful you had that..x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The love that you have for your friend is what you're taking to the funeral, the flowers aren't important.

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By *heRazorsEdgeMan
over a year ago

Wales/ All over UK

I went through a similar wave of conflicting feelings and emotions a couple of years ago when my parents died close together.

As the eldest and only local one of their children I was the one left organising everything and while I also wanted to “do them proud” I also could barely cope with the pressure and even just thinking about it was incredibly painful and stressful.

There is no magic wand that makes everything better, but hopefully you and your friends can find solace in each other.

I’m sure you’ll do them proud x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm sorry for your loss.

Well thoughts and hugs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The flowers don't really matter. Going to the funeral is your tribute to your friend. The love and respect you have for your friend. It will hurt but you will not be alone in that, the others will be hurting too. Take plenty of tissues, make sure you have someones hand to hold, it will keep you both steady. It is a chance to say goodbye, one that sadly many of his friends and loved ones were denied to do in person. Other than that try to put the negatives of the day to one side. Remember the good and positive things your friend brought into his family, friends and your lifes.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I lost a dear friend at the end of January. Watched her funeral on a TV screen. I couldn't do anything for her apart from cry my eyes out. Do whatever you are allowed to. Keep him in your heart and cry your eyes out. My heart and thoughts are with you plus a few tears (heart)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

So sorry. Wish I had the right words

V x

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By *imon_hydeMan
over a year ago

Stockport

Stay strong and much love x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My personal experience is that the truth is there is so little you can do and that's part of the pain along with the despair, emptyness and sense of unfair loss.

It sounds like youre doing as much as you can Peach - as much as any of us could. Be kind to yourself as well as the others today xx.

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By *ockosaurusMan
over a year ago

Warwick

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hugs and best of luck for the days ahead.

Always at the end of the phone for you

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By *rincess peach OP   Woman
over a year ago

shits creek

The flowers have arrived, and honestly couldn't be more perfect. It's such a relief

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By *uxom redCouple
over a year ago

Shrewsbury

Big hugs sweetie, you are amazing x

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By *imi_RougeWoman
over a year ago

Portsmouth

Hugs xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The flowers have arrived, and honestly couldn't be more perfect. It's such a relief "

That’s excellent that you’re pleased with then Princess.

I really hope you’re feeling a little better about the day now.

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By *rincess peach OP   Woman
over a year ago

shits creek


"The flowers have arrived, and honestly couldn't be more perfect. It's such a relief

That’s excellent that you’re pleased with then Princess.

I really hope you’re feeling a little better about the day now.

"

Yeah, now they're here I've settled. I know they're just flowers but I was "representing" by sorting them kinda thing, they're not just from me but from a group of us. I wanted everyone to be happy and they are

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By *issmorganWoman
over a year ago

Calderdale innit

Sending much love peach,

Life's a bitch, hope you get through this x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Big hugs

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By *inky_couple2020Couple
over a year ago

North West


"The flowers have arrived, and honestly couldn't be more perfect. It's such a relief

That’s excellent that you’re pleased with then Princess.

I really hope you’re feeling a little better about the day now.

Yeah, now they're here I've settled. I know they're just flowers but I was "representing" by sorting them kinda thing, they're not just from me but from a group of us. I wanted everyone to be happy and they are"

Just seen this thread, Peachy. Glad you've settled a bit, hugs from us

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My thoughts are with you x

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By *urls and DressesWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere near here

Sending a huge virtual hug

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By *iamondCougarWoman
over a year ago

Norfuck! / Lincolnshire

I’m sure you did your mate proud today Peach

Sending you hugs

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