FabSwingers.com forum: What puts you off a person

By *ea monkey OP Man
over a year ago

Manchester (he/him)

After a little chat that I had yesterday, it got me thinking as to what puts people off another person. Most of us are here to meet others and will flirt or try to put the best foot forward in terms of ourselves, so that others see us in a positive light, is that the best approach though?

I’m aware that I’m a contrary sod at times and I’m prone to speak (or write) my mind which has precluded folks meeting me, however I see that as just an indicator that we weren’t compatible and I enjoy meeting people who I can disagree with but understand there’s a respect there.

So what would put you off meeting people? Do you prefer folks to be agreeable and flirty? Would politics or religious views make you rethink?

I realise that attraction is a difficult beast to pin down but what would be a deal breaker?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Fakes, liers, prejudice.

Actually I get put off Really easily.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Very poor grammer/text talk.

I can handle the typos or some not being able to spell so well but sometimes it is just painful to read.

Crudeness too, being on a sex site doesn't mean I want to sext with you or help you wank off.

Finally, non profile readers, or worse, those who read and see they are not your type but still try it anyway.

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By *ily WhiteWoman
over a year ago

Oh, so many things...I'm a pernickety bugger

Some of the biggies are hypocrisy, lying, being false, not having the mental agility to debate and respect different opinions, being too serious.

On here, specifically with regards to meeting...if I don't fancy them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Very poor grammer/text talk.

I can handle the typos or some not being able to spell so well but sometimes it is just painful to read.

Crudeness too, being on a sex site doesn't mean I want to sext with you or help you wank off.

Finally, non profile readers, or worse, those who read and see they are not your type but still try it anyway."

Faf?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Add on, any hint of racism, homophobia or transphobia

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

"Add on, any hint of racism, homophobia or transphobia"

Bigotry. Yup.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sometimes it is just a vibe you pick up on. Or sometimes just an inabity to converse. I'm not always the most literate or engaging but meet me half way?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Very poor grammer/text talk.

I can handle the typos or some not being able to spell so well but sometimes it is just painful to read.

Crudeness too, being on a sex site doesn't mean I want to sext with you or help you wank off.

Finally, non profile readers, or worse, those who read and see they are not your type but still try it anyway.

Faf?

You see, more non profile reading right there. I am female dear!

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By *ourNextAddictionMan
over a year ago

Somerset

A lot of things - time is important. Cant be wasting it on someone.

I don’t suffer fools easily, no time for them. Come at me direct its the best way.

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By *yron69Man
over a year ago

Fareham

Arrogance

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By *ostonJoeMan
over a year ago

Boston

The glazed look in their eye as they start looking for an exit.

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By *parkle1974Woman
over a year ago

Leeds

Definitely arrogance followed closely by liars and people who are on here without their partners knowledge x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Very poor grammer/text talk.

I can handle the typos or some not being able to spell so well but sometimes it is just painful to read.

Crudeness too, being on a sex site doesn't mean I want to sext with you or help you wank off.

Finally, non profile readers, or worse, those who read and see they are not your type but still try it anyway."

This xx

And telling lies, been on a year - fill in later, not picture verified, wants to see my friends gallery but has no pictures. Is on the other side of the country x

Guess I’m also picky xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Don’t read, fakes, bad pics

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've stopped thinking I'm here to impress or show myself in the 'best' light. It's not so much put me off but if conversation in messaging feels like 'work' or I'm doing all the 'heavy lifting' then my enthusiasm and mind will drift away from it.

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By *hesblokeMan
over a year ago

Derbyshire village

Apart from the not-reading-profile stuff, which everyone find frustrating, surely?

Being overly crude, demanding, airing political views to get a reaction (if the discussion isn't about it) and just generally people not being nice.

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

I blocked my neighbour from what's app cos I got sick of getting 'red neck' videos regarding immigrants.

People who think they are superior leave me cold.

Men who think they can 'persuade' you to perform a sex act that you don't want to.

Men who think women who have intellect and opinions are feminist , lesbian , bitches ( yes it still does happen )

Men who patronise and speak to women as if they are children or lesser humans.

( it is men I promise. I 'm not a misandrist )

Lack of hygiene will put me off men or women.

Women who bitch behind others backs.

Men who do the same......

Shit stirrers, Liars, Freeloaders

People who lack the ability to reason.

People who are easily persuaded to join in unsubstantiated rants about individuals and societies.

Buying Gold Wallpaper and Fuck off expensive chairs.

Kier Starhmer

That bloke from the Asda Advert.

Bad mannered kids in adverts....

That fucking kid in the Robinsons Adverts...

Ageists, Racists, Anything ists..... Fucking apologists better be sorry!

Woke people. Non Woke people. The word woke.....

Anyone who thinks that P.C. is a police officer

Anyone who doesn't like Line of Duty ....

That'll do for now

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Arrogance, ignorance and bad spelling

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By *hrista BellendWoman
over a year ago

surrounded by twinkly lights

Anyone who courts Drama In any shape or form

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By *andyfloss2000Woman
over a year ago

ashford

A Few things really! Different opinions is a big thing if it's something I'm passionate about! For instance I had a coffee meet with bloke from pof few years back! And he was very opinionated he was loudly racist! About a man on next table! And about a baby crying! Was so embarrassing! Then he got onto transgender people! That was last straw as have a transgender daughter which I told him! Then got up and walked out! Was so arrogant! He continued to shout after me he could get any woman he wanted! Was deffo my worst experiance!

! X

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By *issChief 200Woman
over a year ago

South West

People meeting/looking to meet during Covid/lockdown. Rude, arrogant people. Poor grammar & spelling. Cheats. Blank profiles, crude messages. The list goes on!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I blocked my neighbour from what's app cos I got sick of getting 'red neck' videos regarding immigrants.

People who think they are superior leave me cold.

Men who think they can 'persuade' you to perform a sex act that you don't want to.

Men who think women who have intellect and opinions are feminist , lesbian , bitches ( yes it still does happen )

Men who patronise and speak to women as if they are children or lesser humans.

( it is men I promise. I 'm not a misandrist )

Lack of hygiene will put me off men or women.

Women who bitch behind others backs.

Men who do the same......

Shit stirrers, Liars, Freeloaders

People who lack the ability to reason.

People who are easily persuaded to join in unsubstantiated rants about individuals and societies.

Buying Gold Wallpaper and Fuck off expensive chairs.

Kier Starhmer

That bloke from the Asda Advert.

Bad mannered kids in adverts....

That fucking kid in the Robinsons Adverts...

Ageists, Racists, Anything ists..... Fucking apologists better be sorry!

Woke people. Non Woke people. The word woke.....

Anyone who thinks that P.C. is a police officer

Anyone who doesn't like Line of Duty ....

That'll do for now"

And ... breathe ...

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By *lirty-CoupleCouple
over a year ago

Bexley

Hypocrisy.

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By *yron69Man
over a year ago

Fareham

Profiles that read like War and Peace and narkiness if you haven’t read the small print.

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By *ostonJoeMan
over a year ago

Boston

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By *rincess peachWoman
over a year ago

shits creek

Holy fuck

so much.

Inconsistencies.

Are they in demand? If so, I'll pass. Too much aggy stuff goes on behind the scenes for me to get involved.

Do I need to make an effort? Yes? Urgh, can't be arsed. No? Urgh, they've got no standards the skank.

Racial stuff? Fuck off.

Cheating? Don't even start me.

Don't like dogs? Hmmm, is it because they can sniff out the evil lurking? Pass.

Dirty? Go have a wash ffs

My list goes on like Ariston

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Some people are married to their misery. They need something in their lives to make it more interesting or sad or dramatic and they complain and moan to get the correct responses. I have to avoid the emotional vampires.

Not people with real problems or real issues. They are different.

I also don't like hypocrisy.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I blocked my neighbour from what's app cos I got sick of getting 'red neck' videos regarding immigrants.

People who think they are superior leave me cold.

Men who think they can 'persuade' you to perform a sex act that you don't want to.

Men who think women who have intellect and opinions are feminist , lesbian , bitches ( yes it still does happen )

Men who patronise and speak to women as if they are children or lesser humans.

( it is men I promise. I 'm not a misandrist )

Lack of hygiene will put me off men or women.

Women who bitch behind others backs.

Men who do the same......

Shit stirrers, Liars, Freeloaders

People who lack the ability to reason.

People who are easily persuaded to join in unsubstantiated rants about individuals and societies.

Buying Gold Wallpaper and Fuck off expensive chairs.

Kier Starhmer

That bloke from the Asda Advert.

Bad mannered kids in adverts....

That fucking kid in the Robinsons Adverts...

Ageists, Racists, Anything ists..... Fucking apologists better be sorry!

Woke people. Non Woke people. The word woke.....

Anyone who thinks that P.C. is a police officer

Anyone who doesn't like Line of Duty ....

That'll do for now"

But apart from that you're easy?

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By *amie HantsWoman
over a year ago

Atlantis

If the toe next to their big toe is longer than their big toe or if they can’t lick their own elbow.

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By *luebellRacerCouple
over a year ago

Shropshire

"People meeting/looking to meet during Covid/lockdown. Rude, arrogant people. Poor grammar & spelling. Cheats. Blank profiles, crude messages. The list goes on!

Pretty much this, any hate speech on the forums and people who are too close too home.

Is there a limit to the number of people you can block?...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ppl who are just generally a shit cunt

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If the toe next to their big toe is longer than their big toe or if they can’t lick their own elbow. "

My poor toe!!

You are so toeist

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By *luebellRacerCouple
over a year ago

Shropshire

"Ppl who are just generally a shit cunt"

Fuckwits, tosspots and arsebadgers need not apply

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By *amie HantsWoman
over a year ago

Atlantis

"If the toe next to their big toe is longer than their big toe or if they can’t lick their own elbow.

My poor toe!!

You are so toeist

We could have had something beautiful but my prejudice won’t allow it.

I wish you and the toe all the best

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

"People meeting/looking to meet during Covid/lockdown. Rude, arrogant people. Poor grammar & spelling. Cheats. Blank profiles, crude messages. The list goes on!

Pretty much this, any hate speech on the forums and people who are too close too home.

Is there a limit to the number of people you can block?...

Nope

My list is probably in the tens of thousands

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By *innie The MinxWoman
over a year ago

Under the Duvet

I prefer people with empathy,open minds and curiosity about the world.

Positivity is a turn on.

Quirky is attractive.

Prejudice and negativity I avoid.

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By *andybeachWoman
over a year ago

In the middle

Drama!! I don’t want it thank you, I’ve been put off by people I’ve met many times who then ask me not to mention it if it so-and-so was around or online

seriously they are welcome to you has always been my response to that

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By *lym4realCouple
over a year ago

plymouth

Bad manners...Lack of Respect.....Lack of Social skills...Constant Beeping etc etc of Their phone...Constant looking at their phone ..Talking to us whilst looking at their phones and non matching under wear on a female (mrs4)...pushy types..Celeb/reality/talent tv show fans..ones who declare they read as they are on" Face Book" ( mr4)..people who ask mr4 why he has so many books and people who ask what we are after ???

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By *parkle1974Woman
over a year ago

Leeds

"Drama!! I don’t want it thank you, I’ve been put off by people I’ve met many times who then ask me not to mention it if it so-and-so was around or online

seriously they are welcome to you has always been my response to that

Yeah I've had this. I never will be someone's dirty little secret just so they can keep in with the crowd.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Narcs .. arrogance .. liars .. too many to mention .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ranty profiles where everything is a negative.

No sense of humour.

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By *lym4realCouple
over a year ago

plymouth

Racists...homophobic's....

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

" Bad manners...Lack of Respect.....Lack of Social skills...Constant Beeping etc etc of Their phone...Constant looking at their phone ..Talking to us whilst looking at their phones and non matching under wear on a female (mrs4)...pushy types..Celeb/reality/talent tv show fans..ones who declare they read as they are on" Face Book" ( mr4)..people who ask mr4 why he has so many books and people who ask what we are after ???

Fuck those non matching underwear types ...!! bitches.

Why do you have so many books ?

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

" Racists...homophobic's....

Weetabix , Matrix .......

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I (Mrs) do most of the talking & organising on our account, I hate when the male becomes really pushy & inpatient, wont meet demanding people.

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By *lym4realCouple
over a year ago

plymouth

I like looking "intelligent" plus when the zombies take over ?? we'll never ever run out of toilet roll???

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By *phroditeWoman
over a year ago

(She/ her) in Sensualityland

Anybody who does not genuinely respect fellow human beings - this includes not awarding others the same privileges you expect for self.

Other than that, by and large, Granny's list will do... minus a couple of points.

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By *ucka39Man
over a year ago

Newcastle

"Add on, any hint of racism, homophobia or transphobia

Bigotry. Yup."

This

as it's very annoying we are in 2021 yet still exists, plus prefer to find a connection to see if any chemistry rather than how great the sex might be. So being direct

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By *lym4realCouple
over a year ago

plymouth

Mr4 has the joy of dealing with all this and so when they get "Pushy" or imply it's him making up the "Rules" all he's doing is saving them the pain and misery of meeting mrs4 really ?? as her one big thing is "Idiots" and although seeing her "Play" with them they way a cat plays with a mouse ..he thinks life is to short ??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Liers hygiene and attitude.

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By *lym4realCouple
over a year ago

plymouth

Plus she really does want to turn up at pub etc etc ..with a picture of their "Penis" on her phone and asking them to "Prove" it's really them by ...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Political, self righteous types put me off, 'towie' types business obsessed types that cant leave work alone and enjoy life!-(ive met too many of those types)

I like someone layed back and fun. Im not fussed how intelligent someone is, but i do find the talk of travel turns my cogs so well traveled is a bonus.

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

" I like looking "intelligent" plus when the zombies take over ?? we'll never ever run out of toilet roll???

Toilet Leaf....... You'll never run out of toilet pages.

Pretty clever.... but when the computers die you'll wish you wiped your arse on facebook.

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By *asmeenTV/TS
over a year ago

STOKE ON TRENT

Bad manners

Show offs

Arrogant men

Rude and

Racists

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By *rouble Is My Middle NameWoman
over a year ago

Sutton Coldfield

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By *rouble Is My Middle NameWoman
over a year ago

Sutton Coldfield

Rude manner , pushy behaviour and poor grammar and text talk

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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago

East London

Their attitude towards other people and animals.

Physically, bad hygiene,red trainers and snap-back caps.

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By *emorefridaCouple
over a year ago

La la land

On the forum rudeness. I like a debate can totally be on a different page to each other that's brill. What I don't like is one word answers I mean what is the actual point? You wouldn't walk into a room and say No for example. And those who can't disagree without respect.

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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago

East London

"Political, self righteous types put me off, 'towie' types business obsessed types that cant leave work alone and enjoy life!-(ive met too many of those types)

I like someone layed back and fun. Im not fussed how intelligent someone is, but i do find the talk of travel turns my cogs so well traveled is a bonus.

I like hearing of others' travels too.

I can be there without having to sit on a plane for hours.

I like photos too.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If there was a reasonable attraction and connection in chat then I'd prefer to meet in person before jumping to too many conclusions. People's persona and behaviour online can be very different from the real world so outside of extremes such as racism I'd be open minded about them in person.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not reading my profile, people being crude in a first message or presuming because I'm here I'll open my legs for anyone and people lying.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"After a little chat that I had yesterday, it got me thinking as to what puts people off another person. Most of us are here to meet others and will flirt or try to put the best foot forward in terms of ourselves, so that others see us in a positive light, is that the best approach though?

So what would put you off meeting people? Do you prefer folks to be agreeable and flirty? Would politics or religious views make you rethink?

I realise that attraction is a difficult beast to pin down but what would be a deal breaker? "

Pretty much any type of discrimination or putting down previous meets, assuming I will meet now in the first sentence, asking me to wear certain things.

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By *issmorganWoman
over a year ago

Calderdale innit

I'm put off by people who can cause arguments in empty rooms, or who have totally opposing views to mine. I'm not sating they're wrong and I'm right just that we're not compatible.

Also liars, if someone lies once, I'll never believe a word they say again.

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By *issmorganWoman
over a year ago

Calderdale innit

Also anyone who sends a cock pic in a 1st message and puts want this? or similar.

Anyone asking to meet same day or without any chat before hand.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Political, self righteous types put me off, 'towie' types business obsessed types that cant leave work alone and enjoy life!-(ive met too many of those types)

I like someone layed back and fun. Im not fussed how intelligent someone is, but i do find the talk of travel turns my cogs so well traveled is a bonus.

I like hearing of others' travels too.

I can be there without having to sit on a plane for hours.

I like photos too."

Me too. I got chatting to a couple last week at my local, they spent 11 years travelling the world i could have chatted for a year

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Besides the obvious which have been listed up there ^^

Any hint of manipulation or game playing to get what they want and I end the chat. Ie "I asked X and they said they were totally cool with Y so we can do Z", when nothing of the sort happened and X has no idea that Z is happening.

This sort of bullshit happens surprisingly frequently.

My favourite was "I wanted to tell you I was in a relationship but your Asperger's means you wouldn't have been able to process it properly". Amazing.

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By *partharmonyCouple
over a year ago

Ruislip

A bad communicator would be a no for us. Not as in doesn't stay in touch enough. I mean people with nothing to say and can't hold a conversation. If somebody wants sex but no conversation then that ain't going to happen.

Also Trump supporters can jog on.

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By *tephTV67TV/TS
over a year ago

Cheshire

"I blocked my neighbour from what's app cos I got sick of getting 'red neck' videos regarding immigrants.

People who think they are superior leave me cold.

Men who think they can 'persuade' you to perform a sex act that you don't want to.

Men who think women who have intellect and opinions are feminist , lesbian , bitches ( yes it still does happen )

Men who patronise and speak to women as if they are children or lesser humans.

( it is men I promise. I 'm not a misandrist )

Lack of hygiene will put me off men or women.

Women who bitch behind others backs.

Men who do the same......

Shit stirrers, Liars, Freeloaders

People who lack the ability to reason.

People who are easily persuaded to join in unsubstantiated rants about individuals and societies.

Buying Gold Wallpaper and Fuck off expensive chairs.

Kier Starhmer

That bloke from the Asda Advert.

Bad mannered kids in adverts....

That fucking kid in the Robinsons Adverts...

Ageists, Racists, Anything ists..... Fucking apologists better be sorry!

Woke people. Non Woke people. The word woke.....

Anyone who thinks that P.C. is a police officer

Anyone who doesn't like Line of Duty ....

That'll do for now"

All of that and anyone who calls someone else a ‘snowflake’

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'd say one of the biggest things that stops me messaging with a person is when there like over the top with the being constantly complementative or constantly go back every couple of messages to your just so pretty or whatever, like I'd all we have to talk about is how 'hot' you think I am then we have nothing to talk about and I'm bored now

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hypocrites, arrogant, rude and entitled type put me off. People who are always negative and thrive on drama. There’s a lot of things to list but those I certainly avoid ...

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By *ea monkey OP Man
over a year ago

Manchester (he/him)

"Besides the obvious which have been listed up there ^^

This sort of bullshit happens surprisingly frequently.

My favourite was "I wanted to tell you I was in a relationship but your Asperger's means you wouldn't have been able to process it properly". Amazing."

That’s pretty awful!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I'd say one of the biggest things that stops me messaging with a person is when there like over the top with the being constantly complementative or constantly go back every couple of messages to your just so pretty or whatever, like I'd all we have to talk about is how 'hot' you think I am then we have nothing to talk about and I'm bored now "

This

Complements are great at the start, not every third message

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By *hloevtTV/TS
over a year ago

norwich

This

Complements are great at the start, not every third message"

I'm guilty of this as your look is amazing and you're an inspiration, sorry x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

People who are awful at making conversation. It takes 2 to have a conversation, not just me asking and you answering. It's not a damn interview! Other than that, people with loud personalities who try to make everything about themselves even when the topic has nothing to do with them. It reeks of insecurity

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’m so fussy, and I get the ‘ick’ so easily.

Rude or crude, pushy or entitled are all turnoffs,

as are negativity and moaning.

Sending dick pics is a no obv.

I also had one who had sent me a few pics, but then he sent one, and he looked so much like my brother, it was an instant turnoff too

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This

Complements are great at the start, not every third message

I'm guilty of this as your look is amazing and you're an inspiration, sorry x "

But you have literally JUST DONE what I said above.

It can get too much when you follow on the forums doing it alot also.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

People with a lot of attitude ... and bad hygiene

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yeah totally, I’m like can we just stop talking about my hotness and talk about the Renaissance arts or some shit.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The cool kids who are just too cool for school

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By *irty PrettyWoman
over a year ago

Cardiff

At initial message stage, loads of things put me off, so I’ll answer based on what puts me off people I’ve started talking to. Any hint of bigotry, however faint; talking down to me or acting superior; being pushy, pressuring me, demanding photos; calling me babe; only messaging me with their dick in their hand; only ever wanting to talk about sex; there’s probably more, but those are the main things.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Arrogance, married men and directing messages to me P,ie I'd suck your tits or wanna fuk! total disrespect for J

Instant delete

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

People

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By *ancer36Woman
over a year ago

Stirling

Pettiness, arrogance, dilutions of grandeur or people who paint one picture of themselves in a profile yet the message depicts a very different nature..I’ve no time for false people or entitlement x

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By *issmorganWoman
over a year ago

Calderdale innit

Messages asking me for a face pic, when we haven't spoken and they don't include theirs!

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By *nfin8yWoman
over a year ago

Newcastle-under-Lyme

"Very poor grammer/text talk.

I can handle the typos or some not being able to spell so well but sometimes it is just painful to read.

Crudeness too, being on a sex site doesn't mean I want to sext with you or help you wank off.

Finally, non profile readers, or worse, those who read and see they are not your type but still try it anyway."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Rudeness can’t stand it and people who eat with the mouth open omg just kill me lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Inconsistency.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Lack of magic

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By *luebell888Woman
over a year ago

Glasgowish

Vulgar updates.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Besides the obvious which have been listed up there ^^

This sort of bullshit happens surprisingly frequently.

My favourite was "I wanted to tell you I was in a relationship but your Asperger's means you wouldn't have been able to process it properly". Amazing."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Unkind, closed-minded people. Those with superior attitudes and no sense of humour.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

People who ignore me for days on end half way thru a conversation it just makes me think there a dog chasing cars if im so unimportant for 30 seconds worth of a message and people who bury there head when theres a challenge to overcome

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By *rumpyMcFuckNuggetMan
over a year ago

Den of Iniquity

"Anyone who courts Drama In any shape or form "

Yes . This. Needless

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ppls, Inability to be there trueselves, I.e, craving attention but displaying thats not the case, if it is then stand in your truth n say that, as masks always slip n true colours come out in the end

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By *parkle1974Woman
over a year ago

Leeds

People who judge others before getting to know them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"People who judge others before getting to know them."

Who is judging, if you feel judged Sparkle, why do you feel judged is what I'd be asking myself

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By *rincess peachWoman
over a year ago

shits creek

"Besides the obvious which have been listed up there ^^

This sort of bullshit happens surprisingly frequently.

My favourite was "I wanted to tell you I was in a relationship but your Asperger's means you wouldn't have been able to process it properly". Amazing."

Nell, I got twitchy fists reading that last bit. I just .... *sigh*

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By *parkle1974Woman
over a year ago

Leeds

"People who judge others before getting to know them.

Who is judging, if you feel judged Sparkle, why do you feel judged is what I'd be asking myself "

I don't feel judged. I couldn't care less what anyone thinks of me on here. If they want to play judge and jury then they can crack on.

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over a year ago

"People who judge others before getting to know them.

Who is judging, if you feel judged Sparkle, why do you feel judged is what I'd be asking myself

I don't feel judged. I couldn't care less what anyone thinks of me on here. If they want to play judge and jury then they can crack on."

Interesting retort, defensive much, the lady "doth protest to much"

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By *parkle1974Woman
over a year ago

Leeds

"People who judge others before getting to know them.

Who is judging, if you feel judged Sparkle, why do you feel judged is what I'd be asking myself

I don't feel judged. I couldn't care less what anyone thinks of me on here. If they want to play judge and jury then they can crack on.

Interesting retort, defensive much, the lady "doth protest to much" "

Not defensive at all. I care about people's opinions that know me and care about me. The rest are irrelevant. If by me saying that makes me "protest" too much, then so be it.

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over a year ago

"People who judge others before getting to know them.

Who is judging, if you feel judged Sparkle, why do you feel judged is what I'd be asking myself

I don't feel judged. I couldn't care less what anyone thinks of me on here. If they want to play judge and jury then they can crack on.

Interesting retort, defensive much, the lady "doth protest to much"

Not defensive at all. I care about people's opinions that know me and care about me. The rest are irrelevant. If by me saying that makes me "protest" too much, then so be it."

Your defending your corner, if it was true that you truly didn't care,,what those who do not know you think about you, then why are you replying all all this shit

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By *parkle1974Woman
over a year ago

Leeds

"People who judge others before getting to know them.

Who is judging, if you feel judged Sparkle, why do you feel judged is what I'd be asking myself

I don't feel judged. I couldn't care less what anyone thinks of me on here. If they want to play judge and jury then they can crack on.

Interesting retort, defensive much, the lady "doth protest to much"

Not defensive at all. I care about people's opinions that know me and care about me. The rest are irrelevant. If by me saying that makes me "protest" too much, then so be it.

Your defending your corner, if it was true that you truly didn't care,,what those who do not know you think about you, then why are you replying all all this shit "

I am being respectful by replying. You have said your piece and I've said mine. Done and dusted.

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By *ools and the brainCouple
over a year ago

couple, us we him her.

Loud aggressive people who talk over everyone else and like to belittle people.

And people who do drxgs

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By *r loveslickinMan
over a year ago

Deeside

Bad attitude ( Inc I'm better than you attitude)

Fakes

Porn star wannabees

People who jump to conclusions or assume too much - just ask

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By *a LunaWoman
over a year ago

South Wales

Quite a few things really. Some of them include:

I prefer chilled laidback types that send a message as and when. They’re not pushy, they’re happy to just go with the flow. I don’t like neediness in a man. However that has to be tempered with showing an actual interest.

I don’t like long emails, I lose interest and I start to think of replying as a chore and I feel guilty for not being enthused and heck Fab is supposed to be fun.

I don’t get on with men who take themselves too seriously or who take me and my forum humour too seriously, I’m aware I can be smutty and vulgar in some posts, but I’m not like that in person and don’t need a lecture on how a woman should behave.

Any form of abuse. If they name and shame folk or cause drama. If they declare undying love to another forumite publicly whilst trying to woo me privately.

I go with my gut instinct a lot and sometimes you just get a bad feeling about someone.

And sometimes you just don’t have chemistry, and there is no point in trying to flog a dead horse, even for a top notch shag.

I’m also incredibly moody so I need someone upbeat. Two moody folk together is just a disaster waiting to happen.

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over a year ago

"People who judge others before getting to know them.

Who is judging, if you feel judged Sparkle, why do you feel judged is what I'd be asking myself

I don't feel judged. I couldn't care less what anyone thinks of me on here. If they want to play judge and jury then they can crack on.

Interesting retort, defensive much, the lady "doth protest to much"

Not defensive at all. I care about people's opinions that know me and care about me. The rest are irrelevant. If by me saying that makes me "protest" too much, then so be it.

Your defending your corner, if it was true that you truly didn't care,,what those who do not know you think about you, then why are you replying all all this shit

I am being respectful by replying. You have said your piece and I've said mine. Done and dusted."

Cool you can have the last word lol.

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over a year ago

"Quite a few things really. Some of them include:

I don’t like long emails, I lose interest and I start to think of replying as a chore and I feel guilty for not being enthused and heck Fab is supposed to be fun.

Any form of abuse. If they name and shame folk or cause drama. If they declare undying love to another forumite publicly whilst trying to woo me privately.

I go with my gut instinct a lot and sometimes you just get a bad feeling about someone.

And sometimes you just don’t have chemistry, and there is no point in trying to flog a dead horse, even for a top notch shag.

I’m also incredibly moody so I need someone upbeat. Two moody folk together is just a disaster waiting to happen. "

I started reading your post and then lost interest

But seriously though I can be guilty of typing out long replies, I find it so much easier to carry out a conversation that way other than back and forth sentences.

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By * and R cple4Couple
over a year ago

swansea

Discrimination of any kind and people that only talk to me and totally ignore my husband we are a couple it’s rude and disrespectful..

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By *a LunaWoman
over a year ago

South Wales

"Quite a few things really. Some of them include:

I don’t like long emails, I lose interest and I start to think of replying as a chore and I feel guilty for not being enthused and heck Fab is supposed to be fun.

Any form of abuse. If they name and shame folk or cause drama. If they declare undying love to another forumite publicly whilst trying to woo me privately.

I go with my gut instinct a lot and sometimes you just get a bad feeling about someone.

And sometimes you just don’t have chemistry, and there is no point in trying to flog a dead horse, even for a top notch shag.

I’m also incredibly moody so I need someone upbeat. Two moody folk together is just a disaster waiting to happen.

I started reading your post and then lost interest

But seriously though I can be guilty of typing out long replies, I find it so much easier to carry out a conversation that way other than back and forth sentences."

I do waffle

. But I hear you. Probably easier to just pick up the phone and have a chat, but I’m a bit too shy for all that until I’ve actually met someone.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

People who behave like nasty playground bullies to gain themselves attention especially on a forum thread and its usually always against someone they don't even know!!

No time for those people

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

To go off someone, implies that you already liked them.

That's not my default position

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By *ea monkey OP Man
over a year ago

Manchester (he/him)

"To go off someone, implies that you already liked them.

That's not my default position "

That’s a fair assessment.

Perhaps the correct phrasing should be what would prevent your interest in a person.

Although I find that most people are like Schrödinger’s cat and exist in a position of being both yes and no until something happens to change it

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By *asilyled1Man
over a year ago

ogmore valley

Arrogance 100%.

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By *asilyled1Man
over a year ago

ogmore valley

"People who behave like nasty playground bullies to gain themselves attention especially on a forum thread and its usually always against someone they don't even know!!

No time for those people

Agree

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I've stopped thinking I'm here to impress or show myself in the 'best' light. It's not so much put me off but if conversation in messaging feels like 'work' or I'm doing all the 'heavy lifting' then my enthusiasm and mind will drift away from it."

But then I have a mood disorder so I can easily put other people off if they catch me on the 'swing' (so to speak).

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Quite a few things really. Some of them include:

I don’t like long emails, I lose interest and I start to think of replying as a chore and I feel guilty for not being enthused and heck Fab is supposed to be fun.

Any form of abuse. If they name and shame folk or cause drama. If they declare undying love to another forumite publicly whilst trying to woo me privately.

I go with my gut instinct a lot and sometimes you just get a bad feeling about someone.

And sometimes you just don’t have chemistry, and there is no point in trying to flog a dead horse, even for a top notch shag.

I’m also incredibly moody so I need someone upbeat. Two moody folk together is just a disaster waiting to happen.

I started reading your post and then lost interest

But seriously though I can be guilty of typing out long replies, I find it so much easier to carry out a conversation that way other than back and forth sentences.

I do waffle

. But I hear you. Probably easier to just pick up the phone and have a chat, but I’m a bit too shy for all that until I’ve actually met someone. "

That's understandable, with longer messages, I can actually put thought into my replies too whereas on the phone, I may become a bit of a stuttering mess

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Oh and getting blocked for no reason

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

People who lecture you on your health and body when their over weight and couldn't run 50metres without collapsing in to a air gasping heap.

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By *orraine999Woman
over a year ago

Somewhere

Liars, arrogance, condescending people.

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By *ablo minibar123Woman
over a year ago

Pushiness and entitlement

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By *nfin8yWoman
over a year ago

Newcastle-under-Lyme

"People meeting/looking to meet during Covid/lockdown. Rude, arrogant people. Poor grammar & spelling. Cheats. Blank profiles, crude messages. The list goes on!

Ditto all the above plus any reference to something illegal

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By *erDirtyRockstarMan
over a year ago

buckinghamshire

People who are glued to their phones.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"People who are glued to their phones."

My husband always has a go at our daughters for this...he told them if your brain was an APP you might start using it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"People who are glued to their phones.

Sent from iPhone "

Totally agree

Sent from ZX Spectrum

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

How they treat others is so important. If you put others down, I'm not interested.

Also, if you smell.

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By *uy4swingingMan
over a year ago

Gloucestershire

Not being who they really are.

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By *ensuallover1000Man
over a year ago

Somewhere In The Ether…

"People who are glued to their phones.

Sent from iPhone

Totally agree

Sent from ZX Spectrum "

Aye

Failed to send. Windows not responding

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By *ancelot1633Man
over a year ago

weybridge

Mean spirits and rudeness (of the non naked fun kind)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't think messaging is a good form of communication full stop! Wouldn't be comfortable judging anyone via a message

If we can talk normally, about interesting things and laugh on here then I'll quick go to a phone call ... from there it's much easier!

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By *rispyDuckMan
over a year ago

Chinese Takeaway near you

I'm put off by someone clingy & who needs constant admiration

learnt that from past relationships

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By *eyond PurityCouple
over a year ago

Lincolnshire

People who can’t make conversation. We get so many people who message us first and we reply with a question that they just answer and not ask us anything

...we’ll then go back with another question and the same happens...we give up after that

Makes you wonder how some people meet

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By *erDirtyRockstarMan
over a year ago

buckinghamshire

"People who are glued to their phones.

Sent from iPhone

Totally agree

Sent from ZX Spectrum

Aye

Failed to send. Windows not responding

A spectrum man. Keeping it real...old skool. Is that a 48k

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Rudeness is defo up there, not being able to converse. Arrogance and anyone that is judgemental or puts others down

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By *ancelot1633Man
over a year ago

weybridge

"People who can’t make conversation. We get so many people who message us first and we reply with a question that they just answer and not ask us anything

...we’ll then go back with another question and the same happens...we give up after that

Makes you wonder how some people meet

The wolf of Wall Street

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Unable to excite unable to create a spark not being the exact perfect package of a woman

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Indecisiveness - when people say things like “I don’t mind” or “up to you”.

Get a fucking backbone, Jesus Christ.

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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago

East London

"Political, self righteous types put me off, 'towie' types business obsessed types that cant leave work alone and enjoy life!-(ive met too many of those types)

I like someone layed back and fun. Im not fussed how intelligent someone is, but i do find the talk of travel turns my cogs so well traveled is a bonus.

I like hearing of others' travels too.

I can be there without having to sit on a plane for hours.

I like photos too.

Me too. I got chatting to a couple last week at my local, they spent 11 years travelling the world i could have chatted for a year

I like people like that. I'm a very good listener

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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago

East London

"Indecisiveness - when people say things like “I don’t mind” or “up to you”.

Get a fucking backbone, Jesus Christ. "

But I really don't mind, and if you choose something that turns out to be shit, then I still won't mind.

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By *asilyled1Man
over a year ago

ogmore valley

"How they treat others is so important. If you put others down, I'm not interested.

Also, if you smell.

First bit I agree. Second sentence made me giggle like a child!!

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By *attb179Man
over a year ago

London

Arrogance. Someone who's up themselves, lose all interest

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By *eyond PurityCouple
over a year ago

Lincolnshire

"People who can’t make conversation. We get so many people who message us first and we reply with a question that they just answer and not ask us anything

...we’ll then go back with another question and the same happens...we give up after that

Makes you wonder how some people meet

The wolf of Wall Street

That annoys you?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

People who wake up in bed, then return some hours later. Experiencing nothing during that time.

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By *rivateparts!Man
over a year ago

Walking down the only road I've ever known!

Lots are put off when they see my face

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"People who wake up in bed, then return some hours later. Experiencing nothing during that time."

That's me out then.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ones that want to meet but have jobs so important they arent allowed to show their face?! Are they turning up in a balaclava?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Indecisiveness - when people say things like “I don’t mind” or “up to you”.

Get a fucking backbone, Jesus Christ.

But I really don't mind, and if you choose something that turns out to be shit, then I still won't mind."

I think you just triggered some type of PTSD for me with that one hahaha

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By *ensuallover1000Man
over a year ago

Somewhere In The Ether…

People

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By *andybeachWoman
over a year ago

In the middle

"Lots are put off when they see my face

Nooo, you’re a handsome fella

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Ones that want to meet but have jobs so important they arent allowed to show their face?! Are they turning up in a balaclava?

Nope we wear the masque de fer ??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Rudeness is defo up there, not being able to converse. Arrogance and anyone that is judgemental or puts others down "

Well that’s all fabs people then

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By *he Regina PhalangeWoman
over a year ago

Lanarkshire

On profile -

No info no pics

Genital piercings

Smokers

1 face pic and 69 cock shots

Entitlement

In messages -

Wuu2

Entitlement

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Women profile with boobs and pussy but won’t reply or delete messages if the man profile is a cock pic or no face pics

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By *ancelot1633Man
over a year ago

weybridge

"People who can’t make conversation. We get so many people who message us first and we reply with a question that they just answer and not ask us anything

...we’ll then go back with another question and the same happens...we give up after that

Makes you wonder how some people meet

The wolf of Wall Street

That annoys you?

Not in the slightest, I just particularly enjoyed your photo that reminded me of the film.

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