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By *ornyone30 OP Man
over a year ago

ABERDEEN

I seen this term used in a story and wondered how many people are in relationships where this is a description of their sex life? It is spot on for mine, I'm absolutely sure my wife only has sex with me to "get it out of the way" for a while.

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By *atricia ParnelWoman
over a year ago

In a town full of colours

I did this the first and only time I tried Anal

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham

"I seen this term used in a story and wondered how many people are in relationships where this is a description of their sex life? It is spot on for mine, I'm absolutely sure my wife only has sex with me to "get it out of the way" for a while. "

Maybe get better at sex then lol

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By *mg 321Man
over a year ago

Blackpool

Maybe get better at sex then lol"

Ouch! This tickled me!

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By *ornyone30 OP Man
over a year ago

ABERDEEN

Maybe get better at sex then lol"

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By *ea monkeyMan
over a year ago

Manchester (he/him)

Maybe get better at sex then lol"

I do sometimes wonder about all of these ‘sexless’ marriages, that so many guys in here are trying to escape and whether it’s simply that the guys aren’t paying attention to their partners needs.

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By *ea monkeyMan
over a year ago

Manchester (he/him)

To be perfectly honest, I can’t really imagine anything in a relationship that would make me feel worse. To my mind it’s one step away from r*pe.

I’d rather no sex than someone doing that

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By *ora the explorerWoman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts

"To be perfectly honest, I can’t really imagine anything in a relationship that would make me feel worse. To my mind it’s one step away from r*pe.

I’d rather no sex than someone doing that"

Agree. I couldn’t do it. I need the “i want you as much as you want me” thing. If someone didn’t really want me I sure as hell wouldn’t want them.

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

King's Crustacean

This is not as rare as you think. It's something males do too.

Bored with each other ? Bored with routine ? Shit sex ? Not pleasing her ? Asking for porn sex that she doesn't want ? Trying when she's shattered ? Money worries ? Bad Breath ? Always coming first ? Thinking she HAS to do sex just cos she's married? Never looking sexy ? Think it's okay to have a prickly face ? Never telling her she's attractive ? Never making her feel sexual ? Telling her how much you like thin, fat, tall, short, women ? Women with fat lips ? Tit jobs ? Telling her how great your mates sex lives are ? Making her feel guilty ? Just expecting to Roll on Roll off ? Trying to have sex when you told her earlier that she never brushes her hair? SEX being the only time you ever touch her and there is no other intimacies in your life. Rowing like FUCK all day in person or by text then thinking she'll be in the mood later on ? .........

I dunno .. why she feels that way.

Lockdown mood ? Unhealthy physically? Worried about weight gain/loss ? No friends , no social life ? Lost her job ? She looks after the kids and the dog and the house and you and she is knackered? You both talk about the kids and bills all the time ( not really a turn on ) You've become siblingly/ mum and dad instead of lovers ?

I dunno ..... Her husband is on sex sites ?

I dunno .... Ask her maybe ?

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By *ookie46Woman
over a year ago

Deepest darkest Peru

The last three years of my marriage I did not sleep or have sex with my husband

I knew I needed to get out and I had to much respect for myself then to have sex because it was a duty!

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By *ornyone30 OP Man
over a year ago

ABERDEEN

"To be perfectly honest, I can’t really imagine anything in a relationship that would make me feel worse. To my mind it’s one step away from r*pe.

I’d rather no sex than someone doing that

Agree. I couldn’t do it. I need the “i want you as much as you want me” thing. If someone didn’t really want me I sure as hell wouldn’t want them. "

I agree with both the above comments, I need to know the person I'm having sex with wants to actually be doing it, which is why were not currently.

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over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"To be perfectly honest, I can’t really imagine anything in a relationship that would make me feel worse. To my mind it’s one step away from r*pe.

I’d rather no sex than someone doing that"

I agree with this.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I did this for years with my ex husband. I tried to tell him he wasn’t doing it right, but sensitively. I know it was wrong but it cut down the times when the other option was used upon me.

Sometimes it’s incompatibility, but sometimes it’s more than that x

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By *partharmonyCouple
over a year ago

Ruislip

In the last years of my marriage, I was commanded to have sex because my wife wanted a baby. That was the only time she had wanted sex for years and it was clearly utilitarian for both of us.

Then a couple of years later after having gone off sex years before, she started wanting sex again. I can't help wondering if she was just doing it to exert control over me rather than because she actually wanted it. The marriage had really broken down by then. I wasn't attracted to her and I disliked her. But I did it because it was easier than facing her wrath by daring to go against her wishes. Luke

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