FabSwingers.com forum: What do you look for in a fwb?

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

I know this seems like a stupid question, but I ask because everyone is different and has their own criteria on here. I see people after connection and others after friendship that leads onto more etc. So what is it that you are looking for?

Looks?

Stamina?

Personality?

This is just a general question btw so you can say what ever it is you like. With a bit of luck you may find someone in the thread.

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By *ily WhiteWoman
over a year ago

I need to fancy them for starters. But personality wise, exactly what I look for in a friend without benefits...sense of humour, intelligence, positive attitude, similar interests, agreeable outlook and beliefs, doesn't take life too seriously etc etc

I'm not looking btw...but that's what I would look for were I looking

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Someone who will take me for tea before banging my brains out. Or they can take me for tea after. Whichever I'm not fussy.

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By *ear in the chairMan
over a year ago

yeah there

"Someone who will take me for tea before banging my brains out. Or they can take me for tea after. Whichever I'm not fussy."

Someone who likes a tea break halfway

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By *luebell888Woman
over a year ago

Glasgowish

Kind heart and confidence.x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Someone who will take me for tea before banging my brains out. Or they can take me for tea after. Whichever I'm not fussy.

Someone who likes a tea break halfway

Cake break yup. Or if he did me doggy I can carry on munching

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I need to fancy them for starters. But personality wise, exactly what I look for in a friend without benefits...sense of humour, intelligence, positive attitude, similar interests, agreeable outlook and beliefs, doesn't take life too seriously etc etc

I'm not looking btw...but that's what I would look for were I looking

This sounds about right for me. Definitely need to fancy the arse of them, someone I can be me around,

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Bread. I like bread. Breadless is a non runner

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'll present my list of demands shortly.

Sometimes it's easier to anwer these kind of questions thinking of the type of person I'm NOT looking for. Strange.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm more looking for a meaningful, weekend long, relationship.

A fwb who has a bath at their place would be an advantage as my place only has a shower.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Someone who would actually want the friendship side too.

Many seem to confuse a fuck buddy for fwb.

Sex should be the additional bonus, not the main focus point

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A sense of humour, someone who doesn't take themselves too seriously, limitless patience for when I'm working away and our meets are occasional.

Someone who knows I'm leasehold and not a long term investment emotionally.

Someone who accepts me for who I am, not for what I do in my real life away from fab.

Everything else is negotiable.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Looking for someone I can have a good time with...lunch, dinner, drinks, walk, bedroom...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Someone who is not pretentious or is a cunt

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By *acDreamyMan
over a year ago

Wirral

Someone who I want to talk to as well as sleep with!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Low standards

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By *ememberTheNameMan
over a year ago

barnsley

"Someone who will take me for tea before banging my brains out. Or they can take me for tea after. Whichever I'm not fussy."

What sort of cuisine do you like

I don’t imagine a bag of chips a a kebab will do it

Let’s go for a sexy Italian with candles and all that ambiance

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By *ora the explorerWoman
over a year ago

Paradise, Herts

My list would be too long lol. But in a nutshell a good friend to have fun and amazing sex with.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Looking for someone I can have a good time with...lunch, dinner, drinks, walk, bedroom...

This

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By *iscreet-is-paramountMan
over a year ago

somewhere only we know.

Enjoy the same filth.

Doesn't tell lies.

Enjoys anal as much as I do.

Has decent biscuits in the cupboard,

Non of that plane shit your nan has.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Like previous posters have said got to be a click or some attraction I’m not in to cake I’m afraid if I can tempt a lady with a Wigan pastie all the better more savoury man myself

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Someone who will take me for tea before banging my brains out. Or they can take me for tea after. Whichever I'm not fussy.

What sort of cuisine do you like

I don’t imagine a bag of chips a a kebab will do it

Let’s go for a sexy Italian with candles and all that ambiance

Chips and kebabs are the midnight snack

If I can have focaccia bread and Ice cream I'm sold

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By *hrista BellendWoman
over a year ago

surrounded by twinkly lights

I want fwb relationships

Men who I can chat shit with whenever, we like to treat each other, we can read each other very closely, we want to spend quality time together and are both not afraid to feel something more for each other without jealousy of each others other partners

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By *imi_RougeWoman
over a year ago

Portsmouth

Someone who I can chat to about anything and everything!

Mutual attraction, similar interests, taste in music etc.

Who I would actually be friends with regardless of if there was sex involved.

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By *iamondCougarWoman
over a year ago

Norfuck! / Lincolnshire

I'm not looking btw...but that's what I would look for were I looking

My list would be similar to Lily’s but I also make it clear it’s FWB only I’m not looking to become attached at the hip to any one. Prevents any future misunderstanding

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By *andsome HandMan
over a year ago

roundabout

"Someone who would actually want the friendship side too.

Many seem to confuse a fuck buddy for fwb.

Sex should be the additional bonus, not the main focus point"

Somebody who can quote 80's hair metal lyrics at me would be fab

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Someone whos company I enjoy.....someone I look forward to having a coffee with.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Someone who would actually want the friendship side too.

Many seem to confuse a fuck buddy for fwb.

Sex should be the additional bonus, not the main focus point

Somebody who can quote 80's hair metal lyrics at me would be fab

Dude looks like a lady

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By *ourNextAddictionMan
over a year ago

Somerset

Time is so valuable - so I need good company! Someone I can relax around whilst also having that crazy lust.

There’s no point just having sex for the sake of it - I’d rather just wank it out!

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By *ecadent_DevonMan
over a year ago

Okehampton

A lazy eye and a tripped hip.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"A lazy eye and a tripped hip. "

This can be "fixed"

Or rather broken?

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By *ecadent_DevonMan
over a year ago

Okehampton

Also anyone that has performed in the circus. Preference goes to sword swallowers and contortionists but will take a lady clown smothered in custard ooh Oooh or a woman in a top hat and tails with jodhpurs with a whip.

Holy shit. I’ve just discovered I have a circus “thing”

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By *andybeachWoman
over a year ago

In the middle

Top of my list is for someone I just enjoy spending time with, have great sex together but can also chat between sessions, throw in a few snacks and just a general fun easy time

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Looks including sex appeal, personality, commonality.

By which I mean I need to fancy them, but also have a laugh, be challenged- differing perspectives are good on things like culture, worldliness. I like to learn from people I meet.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A good conversationalist to start with. Nothing worse than when there are awkward silences and you're trying to come up with something.

Someone I could have a laugh with as well and someone who can get used to hearing "sorry" when an awkward moment happens during sex

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By *andsome HandMan
over a year ago

roundabout

"Someone who would actually want the friendship side too.

Many seem to confuse a fuck buddy for fwb.

Sex should be the additional bonus, not the main focus point

Somebody who can quote 80's hair metal lyrics at me would be fab

Dude looks like a lady"

I believe I said hair metal

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By *ackformore100Man
over a year ago

Tin town

Connection

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Someone who would actually want the friendship side too.

Many seem to confuse a fuck buddy for fwb.

Sex should be the additional bonus, not the main focus point

Somebody who can quote 80's hair metal lyrics at me would be fab

Dude looks like a lady

I believe I said hair metal

Define hair metal. Stop watching spinal tap

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By *ustBoWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in Co. Down

Someone who I get on with and actually be friends with as well as having the benefits side.It has to be someone I can have a laugh with as well as actually find attractive.

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By *rHotNottsMan
over a year ago

Dubai & Nottingham

For a FWB? Someone I can trust and like being with first, maybe some common interests and build each other up , and then who enjoys the same kind of sex and has similar sex drive. Do you mean a FB ?

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By *hilloutMan
over a year ago

All over the place! Northwesr, , Southwest

Not looking but if I were;

Looks, sex appeal, outgoing and fun personality. Would have to be as insatiable as I. Someone I can lose track of time chatting with and have a good time socially as well.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

That elusive, effortless flow - in conversation, in silence, in sex.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i wouldnt know. never looked for one

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Someone I can have a conversation with, that isn't always sex based. No awkward silences. Able to hang out and do normal everyday stuff like ordering pizza and curling up in front of a film or getting lost in the woods together.

Someone that's interested in me as a person rather than just the fact I have a pussy.

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By *hunderstruckMan
over a year ago

Northampton

Personality and someone who likes similar things

You need a common interest so it doesn’t get boring but not too clingy either

Non judgemental or too demanding

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Someone I can have a conversation with, that isn't always sex based. No awkward silences. Able to hang out and do normal everyday stuff like ordering pizza and curling up in front of a film or getting lost in the woods together.

Someone that's interested in me as a person rather than just the fact I have a pussy. "

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By *andsome HandMan
over a year ago

roundabout

"Someone who would actually want the friendship side too.

Many seem to confuse a fuck buddy for fwb.

Sex should be the additional bonus, not the main focus point

Somebody who can quote 80's hair metal lyrics at me would be fab

Dude looks like a lady

I believe I said hair metal

Define hair metal. Stop watching spinal tap"

Bands from the 80's hair metal scene would be my definition. Spinal tap doesn't influence my definition.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Someone who would actually want the friendship side too.

Many seem to confuse a fuck buddy for fwb.

Sex should be the additional bonus, not the main focus point

Somebody who can quote 80's hair metal lyrics at me would be fab

Dude looks like a lady

I believe I said hair metal

Define hair metal. Stop watching spinal tap

Bands from the 80's hair metal scene would be my definition. Spinal tap doesn't influence my definition. "

And Aerosmith you deny I. This category? For your sake, I’m humouring you. Aerosmith are hair metal. So learn something

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By *andsome HandMan
over a year ago

roundabout

"Someone who would actually want the friendship side too.

Many seem to confuse a fuck buddy for fwb.

Sex should be the additional bonus, not the main focus point

Somebody who can quote 80's hair metal lyrics at me would be fab

Dude looks like a lady

I believe I said hair metal

Define hair metal. Stop watching spinal tap

Bands from the 80's hair metal scene would be my definition. Spinal tap doesn't influence my definition.

And Aerosmith you deny I. This category? For your sake, I’m humouring you. Aerosmith are hair metal. So learn something "

You can define them as hair metal, that's your opinion. I don't see them as such, they've been around since the 70's so they definitely influenced hair metal but I wouldn't say they are hair metal, they lack the spandex, hairspray and makeup.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Someone who would actually want the friendship side too.

Many seem to confuse a fuck buddy for fwb.

Sex should be the additional bonus, not the main focus point

Somebody who can quote 80's hair metal lyrics at me would be fab

Dude looks like a lady

I believe I said hair metal

Define hair metal. Stop watching spinal tap

Bands from the 80's hair metal scene would be my definition. Spinal tap doesn't influence my definition.

And Aerosmith you deny I. This category? For your sake, I’m humouring you. Aerosmith are hair metal. So learn something

They are very much hair metal finger boy.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Someone who would actually want the friendship side too.

Many seem to confuse a fuck buddy for fwb.

Sex should be the additional bonus, not the main focus point

Somebody who can quote 80's hair metal lyrics at me would be fab

Dude looks like a lady

I believe I said hair metal

Define hair metal. Stop watching spinal tap

Bands from the 80's hair metal scene would be my definition. Spinal tap doesn't influence my definition.

And Aerosmith you deny I. This category? For your sake, I’m humouring you. Aerosmith are hair metal. So learn something

They are very much hair metal finger boy. "

Chill guys..... I was referencing the ska cover anyway by Reel Big Fish

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By *andsome HandMan
over a year ago

roundabout

"Someone who would actually want the friendship side too.

Many seem to confuse a fuck buddy for fwb.

Sex should be the additional bonus, not the main focus point

Somebody who can quote 80's hair metal lyrics at me would be fab

Dude looks like a lady

I believe I said hair metal

Define hair metal. Stop watching spinal tap

Bands from the 80's hair metal scene would be my definition. Spinal tap doesn't influence my definition.

And Aerosmith you deny I. This category? For your sake, I’m humouring you. Aerosmith are hair metal. So learn something

They are very much hair metal finger boy.

Chill guys..... I was referencing the ska cover anyway by Reel Big Fish

see what you started. I'm going to pretend you were referring to Poison

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By *andsome HandMan
over a year ago

roundabout

"Someone who would actually want the friendship side too.

Many seem to confuse a fuck buddy for fwb.

Sex should be the additional bonus, not the main focus point

Somebody who can quote 80's hair metal lyrics at me would be fab

Dude looks like a lady

I believe I said hair metal

Define hair metal. Stop watching spinal tap

Bands from the 80's hair metal scene would be my definition. Spinal tap doesn't influence my definition.

And Aerosmith you deny I. This category? For your sake, I’m humouring you. Aerosmith are hair metal. So learn something

They are very much hair metal finger boy. "

That's your opinion. I believe they predate hair metal. That's Mr Finger to you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Someone who would actually want the friendship side too.

Many seem to confuse a fuck buddy for fwb.

Sex should be the additional bonus, not the main focus point

Somebody who can quote 80's hair metal lyrics at me would be fab

Dude looks like a lady

I believe I said hair metal

Define hair metal. Stop watching spinal tap

Bands from the 80's hair metal scene would be my definition. Spinal tap doesn't influence my definition.

And Aerosmith you deny I. This category? For your sake, I’m humouring you. Aerosmith are hair metal. So learn something

They are very much hair metal finger boy.

Chill guys..... I was referencing the ska cover anyway by Reel Big Fish

Which cover song were you referring too

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By *exfunmaleMan
over a year ago

cardiff

"Enjoy the same filth.

Doesn't tell lies.

Enjoys anal as much as I do.

Has decent biscuits in the cupboard,

Non of that plane shit your nan has."

You sound like the perfect date ..plenty of bum fun and Bespoke biscuits .. marry me!! X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Someone who would actually want the friendship side too.

Many seem to confuse a fuck buddy for fwb.

Sex should be the additional bonus, not the main focus point

Somebody who can quote 80's hair metal lyrics at me would be fab

Dude looks like a lady

I believe I said hair metal

Define hair metal. Stop watching spinal tap

Bands from the 80's hair metal scene would be my definition. Spinal tap doesn't influence my definition.

And Aerosmith you deny I. This category? For your sake, I’m humouring you. Aerosmith are hair metal. So learn something

They are very much hair metal finger boy.

Chill guys..... I was referencing the ska cover anyway by Reel Big Fish

Which cover song were you referring too"

The lyrics are my status lol.

"Talk dirty to me"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Someone who would actually want the friendship side too.

Many seem to confuse a fuck buddy for fwb.

Sex should be the additional bonus, not the main focus point

Somebody who can quote 80's hair metal lyrics at me would be fab

Dude looks like a lady

I believe I said hair metal

Define hair metal. Stop watching spinal tap

Bands from the 80's hair metal scene would be my definition. Spinal tap doesn't influence my definition.

And Aerosmith you deny I. This category? For your sake, I’m humouring you. Aerosmith are hair metal. So learn something

They are very much hair metal finger boy.

Chill guys..... I was referencing the ska cover anyway by Reel Big Fish

Which cover song were you referring too

The lyrics are my status lol.

"Talk dirty to me""

Oh hell yeah. Fair play. Forgot about that one. Not their best cover

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By *arker secrets 321Man
over a year ago

West Bromwich

She as 2 b fun .friendly .fiesty. someone who lights my fire . Wants it all and more in the bedroom .but can sit and cuddle on sofa eating biscuits talking rubbish x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Personality, looks, i like someone on the same wavelength as me

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By *isAdventure69Woman
over a year ago

Hampshire

The same as in a friend with lots of lust thrown in

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By *a LunaWoman
over a year ago

South Wales

Funny (that is, my kind of funny - not stand up comedy levels of funny).

Filthy minded

Sexually adventurous

Tactile

Love blowjobs

Love kissing and cuddles

Just a generally good guy who isn’t complicated and is just easy to be with and who thinks I’m the bees knees.

Local (ish).

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just be yourself

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

That v1.0 or v2.0?

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By *atnip make me purrWoman
over a year ago

Reading

As above - someone i would want as a friend and also someone who wants to put the work in to build that friendship so regular contact is a must. It's not for everybody so I'm never offended if it becomes not what someone wants but I'm lucky enough to have found some lovely guys who enjoy all parts of being my fwb!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"As above - someone i would want as a friend and also someone who wants to put the work in to build that friendship so regular contact is a must. It's not for everybody so I'm never offended if it becomes not what someone wants but I'm lucky enough to have found some lovely guys who enjoy all parts of being my fwb!"

Ivy is right above

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