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"I never pick people that like me or agree with me. Because people that do both those things a) are a poor judge of character and b) are as silly as me. I always fall for my opposite in every way. It’s why I like an angry wank " better than "hate fuck", no? | |||
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"Both, the physical things draw you, finding somone attractive or funny or intellectually compatable but that would soon ware thin of you both wanted different things and held different fantasies" I don't know if I explained my thoughts well.. It's not about having different fantasies. It's about seeking out people to tick off fantasies. | |||
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"I dont know i think its purely if theres magic in the air" What if it goes POOF | |||
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"I never pick people that like me or agree with me. Because people that do both those things a) are a poor judge of character and b) are as silly as me. I always fall for my opposite in every way. It’s why I like an angry wank better than "hate fuck", no? " I only have an angry wank if I can’t have a hatefuck. In my partners I like combative, conflicting opinions, I like to see that I am wrong in their eyes and that they flame to put me right. The sound of exasperation is a melody to me | |||
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"I dont know i think its purely if theres magic in the air What if it goes POOF " then its rabbit for tea | |||
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"I think I'm probably at the point of knowing I'm looking for too much, however not wanting to compromise. I've overlooked things in the past. I've gone for agreeable. I've gone for attractive. Now I want the whole lot. I know though that I'm in no position to judge people as quickly as I do. I'm no super model for sure. However I'm unable to get past my wish list, so I'll keep looking! " I wish I could be demanding.. x | |||
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"I think I'm probably at the point of knowing I'm looking for too much, however not wanting to compromise. I've overlooked things in the past. I've gone for agreeable. I've gone for attractive. Now I want the whole lot. I know though that I'm in no position to judge people as quickly as I do. I'm no super model for sure. However I'm unable to get past my wish list, so I'll keep looking! I wish I could be demanding.. x" The thing is I know I can't... I'm getting no where. | |||
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"I think I'm probably at the point of knowing I'm looking for too much, however not wanting to compromise. I've overlooked things in the past. I've gone for agreeable. I've gone for attractive. Now I want the whole lot. I know though that I'm in no position to judge people as quickly as I do. I'm no super model for sure. However I'm unable to get past my wish list, so I'll keep looking! I wish I could be demanding.. x The thing is I know I can't... I'm getting no where. " I'm laughing at myself. Not you x | |||
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"I never pick people that like me or agree with me. Because people that do both those things a) are a poor judge of character and b) are as silly as me. I always fall for my opposite in every way. It’s why I like an angry wank better than "hate fuck", no? I only have an angry wank if I can’t have a hatefuck. In my partners I like combative, conflicting opinions, I like to see that I am wrong in their eyes and that they flame to put me right. The sound of exasperation is a melody to me " Oh you need a Pygmalion! | |||
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"Both, the physical things draw you, finding somone attractive or funny or intellectually compatable but that would soon ware thin of you both wanted different things and held different fantasies I don't know if I explained my thoughts well.. It's not about having different fantasies. It's about seeking out people to tick off fantasies. " It's more about the attractiveness for me than ticking off a fantasy. At this moment in time I have done at least once just about everything I know I want to try. Even if someone came along and said they would do x,y,z with me if there was no 'spark' then it wouldn't happen. | |||
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"I dont know i think its purely if theres magic in the air What if it goes POOF then its rabbit for tea " Better than cat. | |||
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"All depends really...a physical attraction like a guy with the perfect body but no personality doesn't work for me, but then a physical attraction doesn't always mean a guy with that perfect toned body...personality and chemistry always shine through and matter the most to me!! " It's good you are clear with your priorities. | |||
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"I dont know i think its purely if theres magic in the air What if it goes POOF then its rabbit for tea Better than cat. " i have no comeback to that | |||
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"“Run from what’s comfortable Forget safety. Live where you fear to live Destroy your reputation Be notorious” Rumi " I'm full of Rupi Kaur today. This is bit too much. I want to barricade the door. | |||
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"I dont know i think its purely if theres magic in the air What if it goes POOF then its rabbit for tea Better than cat. i have no comeback to that " | |||
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"I dont know i think its purely if theres magic in the air What if it goes POOF then its rabbit for tea Better than cat. i have no comeback to that " | |||
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"I'd find it hard to separate the two. An attraction based on their qualities is definitely the starting point but I think we can then project our fantasies onto the object of attraction which can distort our judgement. A little enchantment is natural in the early days of a attraction but in the long term its the disenchanted who see things most clearly. " You will need to break it down for me a little tonight! Lost you a little. X | |||
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"Both, the physical things draw you, finding somone attractive or funny or intellectually compatable but that would soon ware thin of you both wanted different things and held different fantasies I don't know if I explained my thoughts well.. It's not about having different fantasies. It's about seeking out people to tick off fantasies. It's more about the attractiveness for me than ticking off a fantasy. At this moment in time I have done at least once just about everything I know I want to try. Even if someone came along and said they would do x,y,z with me if there was no 'spark' then it wouldn't happen." I think that's honest. | |||
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"Any fool can fuck themselves. Fucking someone else is an art...." Treasure hunt. | |||
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"I'd find it hard to separate the two. An attraction based on their qualities is definitely the starting point but I think we can then project our fantasies onto the object of attraction which can distort our judgement. A little enchantment is natural in the early days of a attraction but in the long term its the disenchanted who see things most clearly. You will need to break it down for me a little tonight! Lost you a little. X" No, I lost myself OP and misunderstood your question ! To answer what you were actually asking, for myself I've never had a shopping list of fantasies. They only follow from an attraction to an individual. Even if someone was agreeable to an abstract fantasy I wouldn't have much interest in pursuing that without an attraction to their qualities. | |||
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"Do we pick object of interest based on their attractiveness mainly (physical, emotional, intellectual) or perhaps being agreeable to what our fantasies are might make us overlook someone's flaws? I’m drawn to her by the former, which becomes the latter as our intimacy grows. It’s adapting to her and not expecting an impossible perfection." It's nice to wake up reading something like this! | |||
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"don’t think I’ve ever gone for somebody because they’ve ticked off a fantasy. I don't think it’s even crossed my mind to, too busy just trying to find those compatible everyday qualities rather than dwell on if they’d enjoy covering me in marmite and licking it off. " Right I'm off. | |||
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"I'd find it hard to separate the two. An attraction based on their qualities is definitely the starting point but I think we can then project our fantasies onto the object of attraction which can distort our judgement. A little enchantment is natural in the early days of a attraction but in the long term its the disenchanted who see things most clearly. You will need to break it down for me a little tonight! Lost you a little. X No, I lost myself OP and misunderstood your question ! To answer what you were actually asking, for myself I've never had a shopping list of fantasies. They only follow from an attraction to an individual. Even if someone was agreeable to an abstract fantasy I wouldn't have much interest in pursuing that without an attraction to their qualities." There is a glimmer of hope eh I guess they might not agree to any fantasies if they don't feel attractive in your eyes either. | |||
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"We have some fantasies that involve a certain type of person so will be specifically looking for that type. But generally we are looking for people we connect with, we find attractive and we know will be the right fit for us. K" When you say certain type of person? Is it what they look like or what they are able to give? | |||
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"We have some fantasies that involve a certain type of person so will be specifically looking for that type. But generally we are looking for people we connect with, we find attractive and we know will be the right fit for us. K" This Seeing them for the first time and they just fit right into your fantasy Imaginings is a special moment | |||
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"We have some fantasies that involve a certain type of person so will be specifically looking for that type. But generally we are looking for people we connect with, we find attractive and we know will be the right fit for us. K When you say certain type of person? Is it what they look like or what they are able to give? " Not what they look like as such or what they are able to give...cant really say as we’ll get the fantasists sending us messages then... Message sent K | |||
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