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"I have a female friend who occasionally uses Fab. She's an attractive girl who is around a size 18 & feels very unattractive. She's very into being submissive & looks for men who will physically dominate her. In her words, she "likes being roughed up, because she's too unattractive to be worth treating well, so she gets what she deserves". This worries me immensely & I wish I could help her to feel better about herself. Is that attitude a common thing with submissive women?? " Is it common? Not in my experience. The submissive people we have encountered are not doing it because of a lack of self worth, it is merely who they are. With not knowing her it is hadd to say if this is healthy, but if it isn’t it could lead to exploitation and/or abuse. Rough play can be fun for its own reasons, as can objectification, CNC, humiliation, degradation etc. It may be that she feels that is the easier (more acceptable?) way to explain her interests?!? | |||
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" Rough play can be fun for its own reasons, as can objectification, CNC, humiliation, degradation etc. It may be that she feels that is the easier (more acceptable?) way to explain her interests?!?" This is what I wondered. It could be, she may not be able to explain it in another way?. | |||
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"I have a female friend who occasionally uses Fab. She's an attractive girl who is around a size 18 & feels very unattractive. She's very into being submissive & looks for men who will physically dominate her. In her words, she "likes being roughed up, because she's too unattractive to be worth treating well, so she gets what she deserves". This worries me immensely & I wish I could help her to feel better about herself. Is that attitude a common thing with submissive women?? " As many have already said. There are underlying self esteem and perhaps mental health issues at play here. A submissive has all the control in a session or scene. Her idea of submission is skewed in a dangerous and negative way. She will get hurt or has already been hurt and thinks this is what bdsm and sexual encounters are. She is susceptible manipulation in all the wrong ways. The problem is there is very little you can do about it apart from be there and perhaps educate and guide her. | |||
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