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By *heSilentmk19 OP   Man
over a year ago

Milton Keynes

So when I chat to people it starts off well but sometimes I end up sending multiple messages then obviously i get blocked for it, any advice on how to stop it?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Strong willpower.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So when I chat to people it starts off well but sometimes I end up sending multiple messages then obviously i get blocked for it, any advice on how to stop it?"

Before logging into Fab you should fuck a watermelon.

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By *heSilentmk19 OP   Man
over a year ago

Milton Keynes


"Strong willpower. "

Sound and simple advice thanks

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By *ecadent_DevonMan
over a year ago

Okehampton


"Strong willpower.

Sound and simple advice thanks"

Life is fab. Fab is not life. When you send a message do not concern yourself with whether you get a response, overthinking this will lead to you sending multiple messages. To learn patience, you must learn to forget

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Expect that they’ll be taking to lots of people. Imagine being at a party where there are 10 men to every lovely lady. Wait your turn, so to speak.

She may hear your call amongst all the din around her or she may not. Luck may happen and she catches a glimpse of you amongst all the shuffling and will come towards you for a chat. Everyone else is also chatting to her. It would be rude if she were to ignore everyone else.

Give her a chance to chat to them and she may eventually turn back to you or she may become distracted and inadvertently forget that she had been talking to you.

It would be rude and annoying if you kept shouting to her whilst she was trying to enjoy the party.

That’s how I picture it in my head. I hope it helps.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If they don't reply then move on. Usually if people don't message back they aren't interested. Granted their might be other factors. Don't take it personally that is the way of fab sometimes x

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By *heSilentmk19 OP   Man
over a year ago

Milton Keynes


"Expect that they’ll be taking to lots of people. Imagine being at a party where there are 10 men to every lovely lady. Wait your turn, so to speak.

She may hear your call amongst all the din around her or she may not. Luck may happen and she catches a glimpse of you amongst all the shuffling and will come towards you for a chat. Everyone else is also chatting to her. It would be rude if she were to ignore everyone else.

Give her a chance to chat to them and she may eventually turn back to you or she may become distracted and inadvertently forget that she had been talking to you.

It would be rude and annoying if you kept shouting to her whilst she was trying to enjoy the party.

That’s how I picture it in my head. I hope it helps."

That’s really good advice, thank w

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By *heSilentmk19 OP   Man
over a year ago

Milton Keynes


"Strong willpower.

Sound and simple advice thanks

Life is fab. Fab is not life. When you send a message do not concern yourself with whether you get a response, overthinking this will lead to you sending multiple messages. To learn patience, you must learn to forget "

Thanks really good advice

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By *heSilentmk19 OP   Man
over a year ago

Milton Keynes


"If they don't reply then move on. Usually if people don't message back they aren't interested. Granted their might be other factors. Don't take it personally that is the way of fab sometimes x"

Yh I guess you are right, thank you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Good luck young man. Have patience and perseverance. It can pay dividends.

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By *imbobaMan
over a year ago

Glasgow

Just stop sending multiple messages. Common sense prevails. Either it’s not going to be a thing or you’ll pick it up against a later date. Later date being maybe a date you can actually realistically meet. Needy and desperate is a turn off. For me and most others.

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By *heSilentmk19 OP   Man
over a year ago

Milton Keynes


"Just stop sending multiple messages. Common sense prevails. Either it’s not going to be a thing or you’ll pick it up against a later date. Later date being maybe a date you can actually realistically meet. Needy and desperate is a turn off. For me and most others. "

Yh normally it’s just habit because I forget this is a website not an app (should be made into a app as well) so normally I’m used to sending a message then notification back and fourth

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Anytime the urge to send multiple messages kicks in, watch some gay porn and bash your bishop.

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By *heSilentmk19 OP   Man
over a year ago

Milton Keynes

Thank you all for your advice on the following subject

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By *wingsnroundabouts82Couple
over a year ago

Fucksville


"Expect that they’ll be taking to lots of people. Imagine being at a party where there are 10 men to every lovely lady. Wait your turn, so to speak.

She may hear your call amongst all the din around her or she may not. Luck may happen and she catches a glimpse of you amongst all the shuffling and will come towards you for a chat. Everyone else is also chatting to her. It would be rude if she were to ignore everyone else.

Give her a chance to chat to them and she may eventually turn back to you or she may become distracted and inadvertently forget that she had been talking to you.

It would be rude and annoying if you kept shouting to her whilst she was trying to enjoy the party.

That’s how I picture it in my head. I hope it helps."

This is a perfect analogy x repeat bombarding of messages would get a block from us too x it's needy and an immediate red flag x

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By *heSilentmk19 OP   Man
over a year ago

Milton Keynes


" This is a perfect analogy x repeat bombarding of messages would get a block from us too x it's needy and an immediate red flag x "

What would y’all class as bombardment of messages?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This can be off putting with guys when they sent multiple messages. It's hard to keep up with your inbox sometimes, so just give them a little time to reply. Remember no one owes anyone anything on here, if they are interested they will let you know. Good luck

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By *heSilentmk19 OP   Man
over a year ago

Milton Keynes


"This can be off putting with guys when they sent multiple messages. It's hard to keep up with your inbox sometimes, so just give them a little time to reply. Remember no one owes anyone anything on here, if they are interested they will let you know. Good luck "

Thanks for the advice

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If I’m interested I’ll reply, if I’m not I won’t, so maybe just have patience and see?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Strong willpower.

Sound and simple advice thanks

Life is fab. Fab is not life. When you send a message do not concern yourself with whether you get a response, overthinking this will lead to you sending multiple messages. To learn patience, you must learn to forget "

I appreciate reigning over that urge to send something again must be hard for some.. especially especially your inbox isn't very busy. But it's not going to work. 9 times out 10 it won't.

So yes. Send and forget. I recall someone saying they delete sent messages so they are not bothered by them unless someone replies! Not sure if it's a solution for you?

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

One in one out is how ive done things. They send a message i send a message. Ive never sent multiple messages in between them replying. If i dont here back then thats the end of the conversation

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By *andsome HandMan
over a year ago

roundabout


"So when I chat to people it starts off well but sometimes I end up sending multiple messages then obviously i get blocked for it, any advice on how to stop it?

Before logging into Fab you should fuck a watermelon."

Sage advice right here

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By *wingsnroundabouts82Couple
over a year ago

Fucksville


" This is a perfect analogy x repeat bombarding of messages would get a block from us too x it's needy and an immediate red flag x

What would y’all class as bombardment of messages?"

More than 1 a day tbf we have so. Many to get through, give us chance, some I won't get chance reply to for days but the guys are always so polite and understanding when I do x we all have lives outside fab and it's easy for single, bored guys to Remember that x a lot of us have kids, work long or daft hours and have other friends we chat to etc x

Just relax dude, it's meant to be fun not a stress x

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