FabSwingers.com forum: Vanilla world and swinging

By *heNYCSausage OP Man
over a year ago

Everton

So last night I was in work, and one of the older lads made a joke about swinging. One of the younger lads didn’t understand what a swinger was. I mentioned “keys in a bowl” and he had kinda heard of that before.

So the discussion went on and someone asked me was I a swinger, I have no shame so said yes. They thought I was joking. Then the older guy and a woman about my age both agreed that I can’t be a swinger cause I’m single

I asked him what he meant. She jumped in and replied “only couples can be swingers cause otherwise it’s just sex”

Has anyone else have any interesting vanilla world ideas about swinging?

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

I don't know about people outside the swinging world but there are certainly loads of different ideas within it, some very strange

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By *imi_RougeWoman
over a year ago

Portsmouth

I think most people assume it's just a couples thing.

I would have said that until recently, I've learnt a lot being on here!

It's like an the different MFM, MMF, FFM... still not sure what they all are

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Couples swing because one of them is really crap at sex.

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By *o_eye_deerMan
over a year ago

The South Near That London

"Couples swing because one of them is really crap at sex. "

Which one of you was it?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I guess it’s different for single men but in the swinging world I am a unicorn which is a single bi fem and apparently we are rare??

Who cares what people think you enjoy yourself that’s what matters right?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

To be honest you only have to mention as a single that you would be open to a relationship on here and the whole 'this isn't a dating site' gives the impression the singles are also not seen as swingers by many on here. X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Couples swing because one of them is really crap at sex.

Which one of you was it?"

Me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"To be honest you only have to mention as a single that you would be open to a relationship on here and the whole 'this isn't a dating site' gives the impression the singles are also not seen as swingers by many on here. X

It's funny though because if someone is looking for a swinging relationship they should look where swingers hang out.....

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By *o_eye_deerMan
over a year ago

The South Near That London

"Couples swing because one of them is really crap at sex.

Which one of you was it?

Me.

Practice makes perfect

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I can't understand what does cockhold mean

Is it simple as a man sharing his wife

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Couples swing because one of them is really crap at sex.

Which one of you was it?

Me.

Practice makes perfect

It really doesn't.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think most people assume it's just a couples thing.

I would have said that until recently, I've learnt a lot being on here!

It's like an the different MFM, MMF, FFM... still not sure what they all are

Mfm mean 2 man and a women

Ffm mean 2 women and a men

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I see my self as a kinky naturist

I love my sex

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By *exyMPCouple
over a year ago

SOUTHEND-ON-SEA

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By *exyMPCouple
over a year ago

SOUTHEND-ON-SEA

"Couples swing because one of them is really crap at sex.

Which one of you was it?

Me.

Practice makes perfect

It really doesn't.

You need a better teacher (s)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I ask the same question in my profile. How do I qualify as a swinger when I’m a single man? I may help a couple swing but I can’t be a swinger, surely, unless I bring a partner into the dynamic.

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By *o_eye_deerMan
over a year ago

The South Near That London

"Couples swing because one of them is really crap at sex.

Which one of you was it?

Me.

Practice makes perfect

It really doesn't.

Did you change the batteries and read the manual?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I suppose swinging is an outlook on sex and relationships. The idea of sharing one's partner or being shared yourself is obviously part of it, but as a single I think you can still have a swinging mentality.

I don't personally think of myself as a swinger however, I just enjoy chatting with other sexually open people as I don't see sex as something to hide away. Maybe that makes me a swinger, but I doubt it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I suppose swinging is an outlook on sex and relationships. The idea of sharing one's partner or being shared yourself is obviously part of it, but as a single I think you can still have a swinging mentality.

That is almost exactly the reason why I’m on here. It is simply to speak openly about sex and sexuality without feeling awkward about it.

As for being a swinger, I can only answer that honestly when I am in a committed relationship.

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By *heNYCSausage OP Man
over a year ago

Everton

Im a swinger. And I’m single.

It’s not just about the sex, it’s about the connection too.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Im a swinger. And I’m single.

It’s not just about the sex, it’s about the connection too. "

That’s what I can’t comprehend yet. I’m too new to it to know or understand much of it yet.

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By *nvisible_manMan
over a year ago

TWICKENHAM

"I see my self as a kinky naturist

I love my sex "

So you mean you love men?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Im a swinger. And I’m single.

It’s not just about the sex, it’s about the connection too. "

This, to me , implies that people who aren't swingers don't require any connection with the people they have sex with

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

"Im a swinger. And I’m single.

It’s not just about the sex, it’s about the connection too.

That’s what I can’t comprehend yet. I’m too new to it to know or understand much of it yet."

What don't you understand yet? Can you articulate it, can we help explain?

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By * Lexi xWoman
over a year ago

stockport

I am not a swinger.

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By *ooo wet tight hornyWoman
over a year ago

lancashire

"So last night I was in work, and one of the older lads made a joke about swinging. One of the younger lads didn’t understand what a swinger was. I mentioned “keys in a bowl” and he had kinda heard of that before.

I asked him what he meant. She jumped in and replied “only couples can be swingers cause otherwise it’s just sex”

Has anyone else have any interesting vanilla world ideas about swinging?"

How does she know any way what's swinging and what's not??...hmmmm....closet swingers maybe?

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By *acey_RedWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool

You even get people on here who think only couples can be swingers so I'm not all that surprised.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Im a swinger. And I’m single.

It’s not just about the sex, it’s about the connection too. "

What makes you a swinger?

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By *agicfingerslovelyMan
over a year ago

Rugby

The term I see ofter watching USA swingers speak is 'Sex Positive'.

I think thats a really interesting empowerment term rather then just swinging.

Very bad and awful things are done that have aspects of sex within them but control and power the overiding motive.

Sex is natural and should be fun for all.

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By *stbury DavenportMan
over a year ago

Nottingham

"“only couples can be swingers cause otherwise it’s just sex”"

This point of view isn't uncommon on here either. There have been plenty of "Single people aren't real swingers" threads.

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

Look at the brexit debate that went on for weeks. Still now, after some years, there's no agreement on what was to be voted for. Vanilla life gets hardly any exposure to swinging, so it's not going to get much of a detailed understanding, except based on embarrassed innuendo.

We're a fairly inhibited country, so it will probably take some time to chip away at that, including the perception of a man being in charge in a relationship.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Funny because my husband's work mates think we are cool swingers, soon as the wives found out I stopped been a swinger and was suddenly a slapper. Nobody let's their husbands have a drink with me a the works Christmas party anymore because apparently I fuck anything with a pulse

who knew

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Funny because my husband's work mates think we are cool swingers, soon as the wives found out I stopped been a swinger and was suddenly a slapper. Nobody let's their husbands have a drink with me a the works Christmas party anymore because apparently I fuck anything with a pulse

who knew

Wayhayyyy!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think most people assume it's just a couples thing.

I would have said that until recently, I've learnt a lot being on here!

It's like an the different MFM, MMF, FFM... still not sure what they all are

I just know that I want them...

although ....whats the significance of where you put the second 'M'?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

for us, we have never met a single guy who understands what swincing is about, im sure they must be out there, but weve never met one, swinging is very different to normal sex, most dont get that, alot just think its an easy way to get a shag, shame

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By *imbobaMan
over a year ago

Glasgow

"I think most people assume it's just a couples thing.

I would have said that until recently, I've learnt a lot being on here!

It's like an the different MFM, MMF, FFM... still not sure what they all are

I just know that I want them...

although ....whats the significance of where you put the second 'M'?

MMF and FFM means the males or females in the mix are bi and will play together also.

MFM or FMF would mean they are straight and share the middle partner but not each other.

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By *rincess peachWoman
over a year ago

shits creek

"I think most people assume it's just a couples thing.

I would have said that until recently, I've learnt a lot being on here!

It's like an the different MFM, MMF, FFM... still not sure what they all are

Mfm mean 2 man and a women

Ffm mean 2 women and a men "

There's more to it than that. What order the letters are in will let you know whether there is any bisexual play.

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By *olgateMan
over a year ago

on the road to nowhere in particular

"Couples swing because one of them is really crap at sex. "
is that you?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"for us, we have never met a single guy who understands what swincing is about, im sure they must be out there, but weve never met one, swinging is very different to normal sex, most dont get that, alot just think its an easy way to get a shag, shame"

How is it different to normal sex?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Couples swing because one of them is really crap at sex.

is that you?"

Yes.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Couples swing because one of them is really crap at sex.

is that you?

Yes.

The hats won’t help either

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Couples swing because one of them is really crap at sex.

is that you?

Yes.

The hats won’t help either "

What hats?

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By *arol321Woman
over a year ago

Poole

"I think most people assume it's just a couples thing.

I would have said that until recently, I've learnt a lot being on here!

It's like an the different MFM, MMF, FFM... still not sure what they all are

I just know that I want them...

although ....whats the significance of where you put the second 'M'?

It was explained to me that in MFM the guys only play with the lady but in MMF the guys can play together too. But I’m not sure if that’s accurate.

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By *arol321Woman
over a year ago

Poole

I have no clue how you’re to meant to depict a scenario where there are three guys and one girl but all the play is straight.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I have no clue how you’re to meant to depict a scenario where there are three guys and one girl but all the play is straight. "

M........M.......M

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By *heNYCSausage OP Man
over a year ago

Everton

"I have no clue how you’re to meant to depict a scenario where there are three guys and one girl but all the play is straight. "

I once had what I called a MFM+M. Two straight guys, a wife, and the husband watching. Every now and then she’d suck her husband.

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By *arol321Woman
over a year ago

Poole

My understanding of a swinger is someone who doesn’t conform to the outdated stereotype that a man who has multiple partners is a stud but a woman who does the same is a slag.

Swingers are liberated enough to understand, accept and embrace that all genders and all sexualities can have as much fun as they like with whoever they like whenever they like as long as it’s consensual.

I am currently single and I class myself as a swinger when I was part of a couple I also classed myself as a swinger.

To me my personal relationship status has no bearing on this.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I find it to be an attitude. That sex can be as much about shared experiences as it is about an intimate expression of 2 people.

I'm single, and, it turns out, need this full range of my sexuality to be expressed in a safe environment. If I ever end up in a relationship again, it will be with someone who completely supports this, enthusiatically joins in, and who will help create a safe space for both of us to unwind and explore.

But, as things stand, I'm happy to meet some fab people and have a very sexy, sensual time!

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