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"Why do you think people may be "picky"? Genuine question. Let's have an open, honest and frank discussion about it." Because they have preferences on profiles... or maybe don’t answer every single message xx | |||
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"I'm just curious to know what a women's type is, I can understand that everyone will message a woman and fill there inbox, but as I have stated this is not to spite anyone it is purely a question " Which woman? | |||
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"I'm just curious to know what a women's type is, I can understand that everyone will message a woman and fill there inbox, but as I have stated this is not to spite anyone it is purely a question " It's a question you can direct at individual woman. Not one party trick which works for all? | |||
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"I'm just curious to know what a women's type is, I can understand that everyone will message a woman and fill there inbox, but as I have stated this is not to spite anyone it is purely a question " Personally we only tend to play with couples but a big no for me (Mrs) is anyway who is pushy, no manners and is ott | |||
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"I'm very picky. I can't decide if it's good or bad. But I do think sometimes going by a photo isn't ideal, as I'm sure there are some guys who just take bad photos and if I'd met them in person and seen more of their personality I'd probably be attracted to them! " Do you think that maybe a badly taken photo gives the impression of laziness perhaps? Or maybe lacks imagination? I feel that I may not take a good picture, but I can make effort with the photo, or incorporate personality into it to make it more representative of me or at least representative of thought and effort. | |||
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"I meant to put all women I know that alot of men haggle you on you're inbox and that everyone does generally get fed up with it, all I'm trying to do is find out what a woman will look for, in a man or woman preferences, even if it is purely a general chat does it always have to be about sex? Or am I taking this too far" We're not the Borg. Different women like different things | |||
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"Does anyone feel that some people may be a bit too picky and judge a book by its cover " On here we would have to disagree, allowing someone into your sex life isn’t a light decision so being picky isn’t a problem for us and we have no expectations that anyone else would want to play with us x | |||
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"I meant to put all women I know that alot of men haggle you on you're inbox and that everyone does generally get fed up with it, all I'm trying to do is find out what a woman will look for, in a man or woman preferences, even if it is purely a general chat does it always have to be about sex? Or am I taking this too far" You know we're individuals right? And, to really confuse you, the same woman may look for one thing one day and something different the next. | |||
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"I'm very picky. I can't decide if it's good or bad. But I do think sometimes going by a photo isn't ideal, as I'm sure there are some guys who just take bad photos and if I'd met them in person and seen more of their personality I'd probably be attracted to them! Do you think that maybe a badly taken photo gives the impression of laziness perhaps? Or maybe lacks imagination? I feel that I may not take a good picture, but I can make effort with the photo, or incorporate personality into it to make it more representative of me or at least representative of thought and effort." Yeah that's a good point. I do appreciate someone who puts a bit of effort in. I'm sure I've turned down guys on here that I'd probably chat to in 'real life' in a pub though. | |||
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"I'm very picky. I can't decide if it's good or bad. But I do think sometimes going by a photo isn't ideal, as I'm sure there are some guys who just take bad photos and if I'd met them in person and seen more of their personality I'd probably be attracted to them! Do you think that maybe a badly taken photo gives the impression of laziness perhaps? Or maybe lacks imagination? I feel that I may not take a good picture, but I can make effort with the photo, or incorporate personality into it to make it more representative of me or at least representative of thought and effort. Yeah that's a good point. I do appreciate someone who puts a bit of effort in. I'm sure I've turned down guys on here that I'd probably chat to in 'real life' in a pub though. " I'm the same. In person there's nuance, eye twinkle, but most of all vibe. | |||
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"I'm very picky. I can't decide if it's good or bad. But I do think sometimes going by a photo isn't ideal, as I'm sure there are some guys who just take bad photos and if I'd met them in person and seen more of their personality I'd probably be attracted to them! Do you think that maybe a badly taken photo gives the impression of laziness perhaps? Or maybe lacks imagination? I feel that I may not take a good picture, but I can make effort with the photo, or incorporate personality into it to make it more representative of me or at least representative of thought and effort. Yeah that's a good point. I do appreciate someone who puts a bit of effort in. I'm sure I've turned down guys on here that I'd probably chat to in 'real life' in a pub though. I'm the same. In person there's nuance, eye twinkle, but most of all vibe." So true. A cheeky grin goes such a long way with me, and hard to capture in a photo! | |||
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"Yes I know that you are all individuals, I'm not saying that every woman is the same, I'm just saying that women are strong know what they want, and they work hard women are at the top in my opinion (sorry gentlemen) and I respect women, I'm not trying to pick anyone out or anything like that I don't mean any offence and if anyone had been offended I would like to apologise " If you press reply + quote just under the comment you're replying to it'll make the thread easier to flow and follow 
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"Yes I know that you are all individuals, I'm not saying that every woman is the same, I'm just saying that women are strong know what they want, and they work hard women are at the top in my opinion (sorry gentlemen) and I respect women, I'm not trying to pick anyone out or anything like that I don't mean any offence and if anyone had been offended I would like to apologise If you press reply + quote just under the comment you're replying to it'll make the thread easier to flow and follow
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"Sadly that is called preference, everyone has them" | |||
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"Why do you think people may be "picky"? Genuine question. Let's have an open, honest and frank discussion about it." I am picky , I’ll admit that and make no apologies for it . Not because “I’m worth it , deserve it” and such like but because I know what I like , what ticks my boxes and anything less would be a disappointment. And I own a couple of vibrators for in the meantime  | |||
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"What do you constitute as picky OP? " I'm not sure it's just I've messaged a few people and have been turned down, I think I just want to have a conversation with someone, it doesn't have to lead to sex just a general conversation, to see what the person is like | |||
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"I'm very picky. I can't decide if it's good or bad. But I do think sometimes going by a photo isn't ideal, as I'm sure there are some guys who just take bad photos and if I'd met them in person and seen more of their personality I'd probably be attracted to them! Do you think that maybe a badly taken photo gives the impression of laziness perhaps? Or maybe lacks imagination? I feel that I may not take a good picture, but I can make effort with the photo, or incorporate personality into it to make it more representative of me or at least representative of thought and effort. Yeah that's a good point. I do appreciate someone who puts a bit of effort in. I'm sure I've turned down guys on here that I'd probably chat to in 'real life' in a pub though. I'm the same. In person there's nuance, eye twinkle, but most of all vibe. So true. A cheeky grin goes such a long way with me, and hard to capture in a photo!" And is one of the reasons it gives me itchy tits when people moan they get no interest or meets etc when all they have to do is get off their arses and head to an organised social or club. Granted they may not get sex out of it, but they may make connections, or ..... friends! | |||
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"Yes, people are picky on here and there's nothing wrong with that. We like who we like, it's a thing that's really hard to put your finger on. We know what works and we know it when we see it. Hope that helps. " I can understand that there is nothing wrong with it and thank you | |||
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"What do you constitute as picky OP? I'm not sure it's just I've messaged a few people and have been turned down, I think I just want to have a conversation with someone, it doesn't have to lead to sex just a general conversation, to see what the person is like " Why does that need to be done in private? We're having a group conversation here now. I barely talk to people via my inbox. | |||
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"What do you constitute as picky OP? I'm not sure it's just I've messaged a few people and have been turned down, I think I just want to have a conversation with someone, it doesn't have to lead to sex just a general conversation, to see what the person is like Because I always thought that it would have to be inbox only I know it sounds silly and I feel like an idiot to be honest, but seeing it now having a group discussion has made me realise that it's not all bad, thank you Why does that need to be done in private? We're having a group conversation here now. I barely talk to people via my inbox." | |||
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"Whilst I dont have a problem with pickiness, I do have a problem with the idea that if you dont have any set type or you will sleep with someone not perceived by them as 'conventionally' attractive, then you have no standards and will sleep with anyone. It speaks to their shallow nature and vanity really and I just wish people were a bit better. The irony is I wouldnt sleep with anyone who thinks like that, regardless of physical beauty, so they dont even hit my 'low standards' lol. There are a huge amount of ladies like that here and its a bit grim." It's not necessarily about looks or perceived beauty. For me I won't go near anyone who will put their dick in someone who is a nasty person with bad energy. That's low standard to me. | |||
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"What do you constitute as picky OP? I'm not sure it's just I've messaged a few people and have been turned down, I think I just want to have a conversation with someone, it doesn't have to lead to sex just a general conversation, to see what the person is like " op the majority of people on fab are here to meet so to them a endless convo means nothing .. 95% of people on fab dont venture into the forums ie the forums are a very small part of fab ...the forums will only give you a very small glimpse into what people think | |||
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"What do you constitute as picky OP? I'm not sure it's just I've messaged a few people and have been turned down, I think I just want to have a conversation with someone, it doesn't have to lead to sex just a general conversation, to see what the person is like Because I always thought that it would have to be inbox only I know it sounds silly and I feel like an idiot to be honest, but seeing it now having a group discussion has made me realise that it's not all bad, thank you Why does that need to be done in private? We're having a group conversation here now. I barely talk to people via my inbox." No need to feel like an idiot at all. I can come across as sharp or a bit mean, most of the time I'm trying to lead people to their own answers. It's all good. | |||
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"What do you constitute as picky OP? I'm not sure it's just I've messaged a few people and have been turned down, I think I just want to have a conversation with someone, it doesn't have to lead to sex just a general conversation, to see what the person is like Very true but what if people didn't want to hop straight into bed with someone, but rather have that conversation and to see whether or not a connection could form and then maybe with that connection it could turn into something great op the majority of people on fab are here to meet so to them a endless convo means nothing .. 95% of people on fab dont venture into the forums ie the forums are a very small part of fab ...the forums will only give you a very small glimpse into what people think " | |||
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"What do you constitute as picky OP? I'm not sure it's just I've messaged a few people and have been turned down, I think I just want to have a conversation with someone, it doesn't have to lead to sex just a general conversation, to see what the person is like Because I always thought that it would have to be inbox only I know it sounds silly and I feel like an idiot to be honest, but seeing it now having a group discussion has made me realise that it's not all bad, thank you Why does that need to be done in private? We're having a group conversation here now. I barely talk to people via my inbox. No need to feel like an idiot at all. I can come across as sharp or a bit mean, most of the time I'm trying to lead people to their own answers. It's all good." But you don't seem like that kind of person, you seem more calm and relaxed in which is better there are a few negative people in the world | |||
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"What do you constitute as picky OP? I'm not sure it's just I've messaged a few people and have been turned down, I think I just want to have a conversation with someone, it doesn't have to lead to sex just a general conversation, to see what the person is like Because I always thought that it would have to be inbox only I know it sounds silly and I feel like an idiot to be honest, but seeing it now having a group discussion has made me realise that it's not all bad, thank you Why does that need to be done in private? We're having a group conversation here now. I barely talk to people via my inbox. No need to feel like an idiot at all. I can come across as sharp or a bit mean, most of the time I'm trying to lead people to their own answers. It's all good. But you don't seem like that kind of person, you seem more calm and relaxed in which is better there are a few negative people in the world " Oh I really am a cunt when I feel it's justified. | |||
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"Yes. Those hot, sexy, muscular young men really should fuck me. I hate it when men won't fuck a middle-aged, fat woman "A woman with curves is enough to drive a man crazy I should know I'm one of them, all women have inner beauty, doesn't matter what shape or size, its the person that they want to be and to me that is 100% respectfull xx | |||
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"What do you constitute as picky OP? I'm not sure it's just I've messaged a few people and have been turned down, I think I just want to have a conversation with someone, it doesn't have to lead to sex just a general conversation, to see what the person is like Because I always thought that it would have to be inbox only I know it sounds silly and I feel like an idiot to be honest, but seeing it now having a group discussion has made me realise that it's not all bad, thank you Why does that need to be done in private? We're having a group conversation here now. I barely talk to people via my inbox. No need to feel like an idiot at all. I can come across as sharp or a bit mean, most of the time I'm trying to lead people to their own answers. It's all good. But you don't seem like that kind of person, you seem more calm and relaxed in which is better there are a few negative people in the world Oh I really am a cunt when I feel it's justified." OK but you dont seem like it | |||
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"What do you constitute as picky OP? I'm not sure it's just I've messaged a few people and have been turned down, I think I just want to have a conversation with someone, it doesn't have to lead to sex just a general conversation, to see what the person is like " Lots of people aren’t in the right headspace for chatting at the moment, and also, people don’t always want to chat if you aren’t their type. Things will hopefully look up soon  | |||
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"What do you constitute as picky OP? I'm not sure it's just I've messaged a few people and have been turned down, I think I just want to have a conversation with someone, it doesn't have to lead to sex just a general conversation, to see what the person is like " You can always try messaging people with who you seem to share some views or humour via forum threads. Better than cold messages . | |||
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"Does anyone feel that some people may be a bit too picky and judge a book by its cover " Frankly, I don’t care what others do, they’re entitled to make their own choices. Picky is better than desperate, there are a plethora of reasons why people seem picky or the opposite though. If people are judging books by their covers, then it’s their loss of enjoying life’s many intricacies. | |||
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"Too picky? Here’s the thing - and bear with me, I know it sounds crazy - but people are allowed to only have sex with people they fancy. Such a radical thought!" I mean, that is genuinely radical for some people  | |||
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"I'm just curious to know what a women's type is, I can understand that everyone will message a woman and fill there inbox, but as I have stated this is not to spite anyone it is purely a question " “A” woman? Which woman? We don’t have some kind of hive mind, we all (shock horror) have our own preferences. Except Jason Momoa, he seems to be almost every (straight or bi) woman’s type, based on my very scientific survey of my family and friends. | |||
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"I meant to put all women I know that alot of men haggle you on you're inbox and that everyone does generally get fed up with it, all I'm trying to do is find out what a woman will look for, in a man or woman preferences, even if it is purely a general chat does it always have to be about sex? Or am I taking this too far" Quite often their profiles will give you an idea of what they’re looking for. | |||
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"I'm just curious to know what a women's type is, I can understand that everyone will message a woman and fill there inbox, but as I have stated this is not to spite anyone it is purely a question “A” woman? Which woman? We don’t have some kind of hive mind, we all (shock horror) have our own preferences. Except Jason Momoa, he seems to be almost every (straight or bi) woman’s type, based on my very scientific survey of my family and friends." Nah; tall, tattooed, muscular etc are words that will come up in at least 50% of women's profiles here. Lets not pretend there aren't societal standards of beauty we are conditioned to liking. | |||
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"I'm just curious to know what a women's type is, I can understand that everyone will message a woman and fill there inbox, but as I have stated this is not to spite anyone it is purely a question “A” woman? Which woman? We don’t have some kind of hive mind, we all (shock horror) have our own preferences. Except Jason Momoa, he seems to be almost every (straight or bi) woman’s type, based on my very scientific survey of my family and friends. Nah; tall, tattooed, muscular etc are words that will come up in at least 50% of women's profiles here. Lets not pretend there aren't societal standards of beauty we are conditioned to liking." Well you obviously know my mind better than I do so whevs. | |||
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"Does anyone feel that some people may be a bit too picky and judge a book by its cover " To be fair we are quite picky, we turn down quite a few people wanting to meet us because we know that they haven't read our profile and a meet would likely be no fun for anyone. | |||
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"I'm just curious to know what a women's type is, I can understand that everyone will message a woman and fill there inbox, but as I have stated this is not to spite anyone it is purely a question “A” woman? Which woman? We don’t have some kind of hive mind, we all (shock horror) have our own preferences. Except Jason Momoa, he seems to be almost every (straight or bi) woman’s type, based on my very scientific survey of my family and friends. Nah; tall, tattooed, muscular etc are words that will come up in at least 50% of women's profiles here. Lets not pretend there aren't societal standards of beauty we are conditioned to liking." There's far more to attraction than societal standards. You cannot force attraction so it doesn't matter how many people tell ya you should fancy someone or a certain type of someone, if you don't, you don't. Some people are attracted to those who subliminally remind them of parents, teachers etc etc. People don't choose that, it just happens. | |||
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"I'm just curious to know what a women's type is, I can understand that everyone will message a woman and fill there inbox, but as I have stated this is not to spite anyone it is purely a question “A” woman? Which woman? We don’t have some kind of hive mind, we all (shock horror) have our own preferences. Except Jason Momoa, he seems to be almost every (straight or bi) woman’s type, based on my very scientific survey of my family and friends. Nah; tall, tattooed, muscular etc are words that will come up in at least 50% of women's profiles here. Lets not pretend there aren't societal standards of beauty we are conditioned to liking. Well you obviously know my mind better than I do so whevs." Oh c'mon surely you're better than that deflection. | |||
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"I'm just curious to know what a women's type is, I can understand that everyone will message a woman and fill there inbox, but as I have stated this is not to spite anyone it is purely a question “A” woman? Which woman? We don’t have some kind of hive mind, we all (shock horror) have our own preferences. Except Jason Momoa, he seems to be almost every (straight or bi) woman’s type, based on my very scientific survey of my family and friends. Nah; tall, tattooed, muscular etc are words that will come up in at least 50% of women's profiles here. Lets not pretend there aren't societal standards of beauty we are conditioned to liking. There's far more to attraction than societal standards. You cannot force attraction so it doesn't matter how many people tell ya you should fancy someone or a certain type of someone, if you don't, you don't. Some people are attracted to those who subliminally remind them of parents, teachers etc etc. People don't choose that, it just happens." Of course not, its not a choice for the most part. And it only really harms those who dont conform to those standards really. I'm not saying its a good or a bad thing necessarily. | |||
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"I'm just curious to know what a women's type is, I can understand that everyone will message a woman and fill there inbox, but as I have stated this is not to spite anyone it is purely a question “A” woman? Which woman? We don’t have some kind of hive mind, we all (shock horror) have our own preferences. Except Jason Momoa, he seems to be almost every (straight or bi) woman’s type, based on my very scientific survey of my family and friends. Nah; tall, tattooed, muscular etc are words that will come up in at least 50% of women's profiles here. Lets not pretend there aren't societal standards of beauty we are conditioned to liking. There's far more to attraction than societal standards. You cannot force attraction so it doesn't matter how many people tell ya you should fancy someone or a certain type of someone, if you don't, you don't. Some people are attracted to those who subliminally remind them of parents, teachers etc etc. People don't choose that, it just happens. Of course not, its not a choice for the most part. And it only really harms those who dont conform to those standards really. I'm not saying its a good or a bad thing necessarily." And don't forget the plethora of types of attraction. Some are attracted to the mind. Some are attracted to the emotion, so really, the societal malarkey is donkey dung. | |||
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"Does anyone feel that some people may be a bit too picky and judge a book by its cover " Too 'picky'? We're all entitled to be as 'picky'(or not) as we choose. The choices people make here are entirely personal. Presumably you've made a few in your life. | |||
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"People are allowed to judge however they want, just accept it" Exactly this. Isn't it all down to personal choice? | |||
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"Does anyone feel that some people may be a bit too picky and judge a book by its cover " Pickiness happens easily with online sites, because it's simply not a natural way to meet people. A few photos and potted history isn't enough. True interaction happens face to face. | |||
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"I'm just curious to know what a women's type is, I can understand that everyone will message a woman and fill there inbox, but as I have stated this is not to spite anyone it is purely a question “A” woman? Which woman? We don’t have some kind of hive mind, we all (shock horror) have our own preferences. Except Jason Momoa, he seems to be almost every (straight or bi) woman’s type, based on my very scientific survey of my family and friends. Nah; tall, tattooed, muscular etc are words that will come up in at least 50% of women's profiles here. Lets not pretend there aren't societal standards of beauty we are conditioned to liking. There's far more to attraction than societal standards. You cannot force attraction so it doesn't matter how many people tell ya you should fancy someone or a certain type of someone, if you don't, you don't. Some people are attracted to those who subliminally remind them of parents, teachers etc etc. People don't choose that, it just happens. Of course not, its not a choice for the most part. And it only really harms those who dont conform to those standards really. I'm not saying its a good or a bad thing necessarily. And don't forget the plethora of types of attraction. Some are attracted to the mind. Some are attracted to the emotion, so really, the societal malarkey is donkey dung." Some people are murderers, some people being something doesnt mean anything. I've just stated the majority of women here have similar likes on the surface. Why is that so hard to accept? Men probably do too. | |||
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"Think of it this way. If I want mint chocolate chip ice cream, I ain't gonna eat treacle sponge just coz treacle sponge is readily available and the shop has no mint choc chip. I'll wait til some mint choc chip comes into stock. How about you? " I mean I wasn't saying you can't or that liking choc chip is wrong lol | |||
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"Does anyone feel that some people may be a bit too picky and judge a book by its cover Too 'picky'? We're all entitled to be as 'picky'(or not) as we choose. The choices people make here are entirely personal. Presumably you've made a few in your life." I agree, just because your on here doesn’t mean your guaranteed a fuck and everyone’s gagging for it. Everyone has their own preferences of what type of guy or gal they want or not want to interact with. | |||
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"I'm very picky. I can't decide if it's good or bad. But I do think sometimes going by a photo isn't ideal, as I'm sure there are some guys who just take bad photos and if I'd met them in person and seen more of their personality I'd probably be attracted to them! Do you think that maybe a badly taken photo gives the impression of laziness perhaps? Or maybe lacks imagination? I feel that I may not take a good picture, but I can make effort with the photo, or incorporate personality into it to make it more representative of me or at least representative of thought and effort." Whether another person likes the end result is subjective (as with all creative content) but it’s always obvious when someone has actually made an effort, and put some thought into the end result; women are more likely to do so, the real shame is the more artist photos never seem to get the appreciation they deserve. | |||
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" I've just stated the majority of women here have similar likes on the surface. Why is that so hard to accept? Men probably do too." utter rubbish no 2 women want the same otherwise we would have all married your idea of the diet man wow just wow we are all different and all have different desires | |||
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"I'm just curious to know what a women's type is, I can understand that everyone will message a woman and fill there inbox, but as I have stated this is not to spite anyone it is purely a question “A” woman? Which woman? We don’t have some kind of hive mind, we all (shock horror) have our own preferences. Except Jason Momoa, he seems to be almost every (straight or bi) woman’s type, based on my very scientific survey of my family and friends. Nah; tall, tattooed, muscular etc are words that will come up in at least 50% of women's profiles here. Lets not pretend there aren't societal standards of beauty we are conditioned to liking. Well you obviously know my mind better than I do so whevs. Oh c'mon surely you're better than that deflection. " I know there’s no point arguing with men like you. | |||
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"I'm just curious to know what a women's type is, I can understand that everyone will message a woman and fill there inbox, but as I have stated this is not to spite anyone it is purely a question “A” woman? Which woman? We don’t have some kind of hive mind, we all (shock horror) have our own preferences. Except Jason Momoa, he seems to be almost every (straight or bi) woman’s type, based on my very scientific survey of my family and friends. Nah; tall, tattooed, muscular etc are words that will come up in at least 50% of women's profiles here. Lets not pretend there aren't societal standards of beauty we are conditioned to liking. There's far more to attraction than societal standards. You cannot force attraction so it doesn't matter how many people tell ya you should fancy someone or a certain type of someone, if you don't, you don't. Some people are attracted to those who subliminally remind them of parents, teachers etc etc. People don't choose that, it just happens. Of course not, its not a choice for the most part. And it only really harms those who dont conform to those standards really. I'm not saying its a good or a bad thing necessarily. And don't forget the plethora of types of attraction. Some are attracted to the mind. Some are attracted to the emotion, so really, the societal malarkey is donkey dung. Some people are murderers, some people being something doesnt mean anything. I've just stated the majority of women here have similar likes on the surface. Why is that so hard to accept? Men probably do too." Because we have our own minds, and we know them, and we might think differently? I think the question is, why do you find that so hard to accept? | |||
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"What do you constitute as picky OP? I'm not sure it's just I've messaged a few people and have been turned down, I think I just want to have a conversation with someone, it doesn't have to lead to sex just a general conversation, to see what the person is like " Your profile is more like something you'd find on a regular dating site. Maybe that's why no one replies. Take some decent pics, semi naked, torso, in undies. Make an effort with your bio. I would have no idea about any of your preferences from it at the moment | |||
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"Spot the incels. " Yup | |||
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"Find myself being really picky, especially when I've got a scab on my knee "It will leave a scar. | |||
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"Find myself being really picky, especially when I've got a scab on my knee
It will leave a scar. "Then I can say I got it rescuing kittens, in a flash flood | |||
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"Spot the incels. " That's not really what an incel believes. I promote the idea that women should have agency and be allowed to like whatever they want. Just like people being honest and upfront about things and actually address the points i've made. | |||
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"I feel old now with all this talk of books and covers! When I were lad, teachers sent us home with work books and asked us to cover them, it was a craze to cover them in old bits of wallpaper (but all done neat and tidy) was mad going into school and seeing what others had done! Same books but all different covers and people were judged back then on how good your cover looked "I used wallpaper | |||
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"I feel old now with all this talk of books and covers! When I were lad, teachers sent us home with work books and asked us to cover them, it was a craze to cover them in old bits of wallpaper (but all done neat and tidy) was mad going into school and seeing what others had done! Same books but all different covers and people were judged back then on how good your cover looked
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"I'm just curious to know what a women's type is, I can understand that everyone will message a woman and fill there inbox, but as I have stated this is not to spite anyone it is purely a question “A” woman? Which woman? We don’t have some kind of hive mind, we all (shock horror) have our own preferences. Except Jason Momoa, he seems to be almost every (straight or bi) woman’s type, based on my very scientific survey of my family and friends. Nah; tall, tattooed, muscular etc are words that will come up in at least 50% of women's profiles here. Lets not pretend there aren't societal standards of beauty we are conditioned to liking." Well, that leaves 50% who like average, non tattooed and dad bods then doesn't it? So there's someone for everyone... If you make the effort. | |||
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"I feel old now with all this talk of books and covers! When I were lad, teachers sent us home with work books and asked us to cover them, it was a craze to cover them in old bits of wallpaper (but all done neat and tidy) was mad going into school and seeing what others had done! Same books but all different covers and people were judged back then on how good your cover looked
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I was lucky to get left over Xmas wrapping paper "Wallpaper was good as was thick and lasted. Xmas wrapping paper would have ripped to easy! | |||
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"the majority of women here have similar likes on the surface " so you stand by this ?? saying all us women want the same basically ? | |||
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"the majority of women here have similar likes on the surface so you stand by this ?? saying all us women want the same basically ? " No because that's not what I said. | |||
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"the majority of women here have similar likes on the surface so you stand by this ?? saying all us women want the same basically ? No because that's not what I said." are you sure ?? | |||
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"I feel old now with all this talk of books and covers! When I were lad, teachers sent us home with work books and asked us to cover them, it was a craze to cover them in old bits of wallpaper (but all done neat and tidy) was mad going into school and seeing what others had done! Same books but all different covers and people were judged back then on how good your cover looked
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I was lucky to get left over Xmas wrapping paper "Will get you a free wallpaper sample next time I'm in BnQ you want anaglipta or wood chip? | |||
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"the majority of women here have similar likes on the surface so you stand by this ?? saying all us women want the same basically ? No because that's not what I said. are you sure ?? " I'll make it more clear: From my experience on this site, it became apparent to me that a majority of women here list the same things that they are looking for in their profile. This shouldnt really be a controversial thing its just an observation and the conclusion made by this evidence should be pretty fair. Why that makes me a misogynstic incel, fuck knows, as I am a staunch feminist. But ho hum. | |||
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