FabSwingers.com forum: Good looking or not

By *gent Coulson OP Man
over a year ago

Secret hideaway in the pennines

In a contemplative mood this afternoon.

How many guys look in the mirror and see themselves as handsome, or good looking or whatever ever term you want to use.

i found a photo from the 80s of me when I had a full head of hair and a cracking porn trash and I wonder where that handsome person went

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By *annaBeStrongMan
over a year ago

wokingham

I avoid mirrors

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Depends. I try not to look in the mirror first thing in the morning, I frighten myself

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By *emorefridaCouple
over a year ago

La la land

No never when I look in the mirror. Looking back at photos totally different scenario.

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By *etcplCouple
over a year ago

Gapping Fanny

I know I am not the best looking, but I also know I am not fugly.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'd say I'm dashing.

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By *innie The MinxWoman
over a year ago

Under the Duvet

"In a contemplative mood this afternoon.

How many guys look in the mirror and see themselves as handsome, or good looking or whatever ever term you want to use.

i found a photo from the 80s of me when I had a full head of hair and a cracking porn trash and I wonder where that handsome person went"

Depends on the mirror , and depends on my mood.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have moments where i say to myself im having a good day, but I cant say ive ever been too confident looks wise. But that just means I always try to look my best before I scare the postman

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No, never. I try to avoid mirrors x

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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago

East London

I look in the mirror and think what a hard life I must have had

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

née chance.. i avoid them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think a lot of men aren't as critical of themselves as some women.

I went shopping today so saw myself full length in a lot of mirrors - I'm not happy

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By *innie The MinxWoman
over a year ago

Under the Duvet

"I think a lot of men aren't as critical of themselves as some women.

I went shopping today so saw myself full length in a lot of mirrors - I'm not happy

When you see yourself accidently in a shop mirror....ouch!

The shit lighting is very unkind

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I was a lot happier looking in the mirror before lockdowns

I'm still handsome in the dark

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I look in the mirror, and what do I see.

An old bitch looking back at me.

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By *innie The MinxWoman
over a year ago

Under the Duvet

"I look in the mirror, and what do I see.

An old bitch looking back at me. "

Stop looking in my mirror

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By *ancer36Woman
over a year ago

Stirling

Happy in my own skin, radiate the energy I carry within me to some that’s an attractive glow to others it’s off putting..I’m not here to please everyone if you like what you see and there’s that mutual attraction then I guess that’s perceived as good looking.

I don’t stand in front of the mirror thinking I’m gods gift but equally I’m not unhappy with the person staring back at me x

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By *ecadent_DevonMan
over a year ago

Okehampton

"I think a lot of men aren't as critical of themselves as some women.

I went shopping today so saw myself full length in a lot of mirrors - I'm not happy

Hmm I wouldn’t necessarily agree with that. What I would say is we have very choice.

Make-up and the vast majority of the clothing, beauty etc industries are aimed at women. We have very little (outside of exercising) choice to change our appearance. Also I think people are more judgemental of what men wear (see that guy, he had green trousers on! A woman in a green skirt wouldn’t raise an eyebrow).

So most men don’t focus on these things because essentially, in our case, you can’t polish a turd

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think a lot of men aren't as critical of themselves as some women.

I went shopping today so saw myself full length in a lot of mirrors - I'm not happy

When you see yourself accidently in a shop mirror....ouch!

The shit lighting is very unkind "

I would love to blame the lighting instead of all the trips to the fridge I've made during lockdown!

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By *arker secrets 321Man
over a year ago

West Bromwich

I do look at myself a lot and think I'm ok 4 old man ..my body could b bigger .as in looks I'm no Brad Pitt more like his bro sess x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Never felt I was ever gods gift to lady’s think I’m just plain looking low self esteem at moment so feeling pretty crappy

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By *trkenitMan
over a year ago

Clovis

Lol...funny thread! I feel fairly confident in my looks, so I don't have a problem looking at the mirror.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Half of me thinks I look OK half of the time, the other half is more realistic though and goes off to buy a more blurry mirror and some commiserational ice cream

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By *iddlesticksMan
over a year ago

My nan’s spare room.

As a teenager I was described as ugly and plug but I remember a very attractive girl at sixth form telling me that she thought I would get better looking as I aged. I’ve hung on to that even 35 years later, I hope she was right.

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By *ocksareoffMan
over a year ago

Out n About

I look in the mirror and curse my hairy ears.

Or if I'm feeling comical I act like Cat in Red Dwarf

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I tend to think I look quite handsome (if you don’t like yourself, how can you expect anyone else to like you?) but at the moment I look dog rough

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By *layfullsamMan
over a year ago

Solihull

I've invested in fairground crazy mirrors, never fail to make me smile each time I take a peek

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’m not putting myself down but I don’t tend to see myself as good looking or handsome. I prefer rugged,

My smile that people like is because of an accident we’re I broke my jaw. And the muscles on one side don’t work the same as the other. So I only really smile from one side of my face.

I’m not comfortable in a suit or dressed up. I like my jeans, t shirt and flip flops if I can’t wear flip flops they’re mountain boots. I go for the jack reacher approach of a drifter. I have a house but mostly spend my life living out of a large grip.

People can take me as they find me, I’m happy with my face.

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By *assConductorMan
over a year ago

the wild

I think I'm alright.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think a lot of men aren't as critical of themselves as some women.

I went shopping today so saw myself full length in a lot of mirrors - I'm not happy

When you see yourself accidently in a shop mirror....ouch!

The shit lighting is very unkind

I would love to blame the lighting instead of all the trips to the fridge I've made during lockdown!

Well that mirror needs removing... it’s obvs defective x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't see myself as good looking in slightest, although am comfortable in my own skin, confident although mostly false confidence if that makes sense.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I only own 1 mirror and it's in my bad book since April 2020. So when I look at it it's always laughing at me.

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By *ottoncandy42Woman
over a year ago

Northampton

I’m happy with the way I look but hate looking in the mirror

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I need reinforced mirrors as normal ones break when I look in them

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By *parkle1974Woman
over a year ago

Leeds

I hate looking at myself in mirrors, don't like what I see in front of me x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

not a fan of mirrors sadly.... never have been!

but there is an italian restaurant near me that has these weird brown / rose tinted mirrors in the entrance and for some reason they always make me feel great

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By *affron40Woman
over a year ago

manchester

Of course I prefer the younger, thinner version of me. But I’m happy I’m my own skin and know that the things I’m not confident about I can change in time.

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By *andyfloss2000Woman
over a year ago

ashford

I dont mind what I see! But my bags under eyes I could carry the shopping home in them! I got some hemorrhoid cream for them yesterday am giving that a go lol x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I am pretty average looking I'll be real

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Happy with what I see. Sometimes it's 'yeeeesssss' othertimes its 's'alright'. Very mood dependent.

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By *heVonMatterhornsCouple
over a year ago

Lincoln

I bounce between a four and an eight

LvM

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By *hrista BellendWoman
over a year ago

surrounded by twinkly lights

I look at myself in the mirror and I am happy with what I see

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think a lot of men aren't as critical of themselves as some women.

I went shopping today so saw myself full length in a lot of mirrors - I'm not happy

When you see yourself accidently in a shop mirror....ouch!

The shit lighting is very unkind

I would love to blame the lighting instead of all the trips to the fridge I've made during lockdown!

Well that mirror needs removing... it’s obvs defective x "

Charmer

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

Work with what you have . I will be happy to get my roots done but I'm happy with what I see. I think I'm good looking, thousands no millions of people don't but it's what I and the people who love me think that's important.

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By * Lexi xWoman
over a year ago

stockport

I look back at me 18 months ago and think I don’t look too bad..... that’s where I want to be again.

These days I’ll avoid a mirror.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I am a realist.

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By *pursChick aka ShortieWoman
over a year ago

On a mooch

The mirror is there to make sure my hair is brushed, clothes on right and alike.

The body carrying it is what it is, it’s not going to change much except more wrinkles and a little shrinkage over time, all part of growing old embrace it, smile and walk

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When I squint, I'm passable

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I look in the mirror and love what I see facially, the body has some work.

When I was 20/21 I was insecure about my face, nothing major, I just picked at little things and wish for surgery to make my nose smaller for example. Now at 27 I like how I look facially and don’t wish for any surgery!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I’m not putting myself down but I don’t tend to see myself as good looking or handsome. I prefer rugged,

My smile that people like is because of an accident we’re I broke my jaw. And the muscles on one side don’t work the same as the other. So I only really smile from one side of my face.

People can take me as they find me, I’m happy with my face.

Looking at your photos... I’d say you’re very handsome!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Also I find some of the most beautiful people don’t even see it themselves!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I’m not putting myself down but I don’t tend to see myself as good looking or handsome. I prefer rugged,

My smile that people like is because of an accident we’re I broke my jaw. And the muscles on one side don’t work the same as the other. So I only really smile from one side of my face.

People can take me as they find me, I’m happy with my face.

Looking at your photos... I’d say you’re very handsome!

I’ll settle for handsome drifter

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not happy at all(mrs)..face and body need a warning lànd slide ahead.

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By *r TriomanMan
over a year ago

Chippenham Malmesbury area

I love mirrors and they love me!

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By *parkle1974Woman
over a year ago

Leeds

"Not happy at all(mrs)..face and body need a warning lànd slide ahead.

You are kidding right, you are stunning x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I’m not putting myself down but I don’t tend to see myself as good looking or handsome. I prefer rugged,

My smile that people like is because of an accident we’re I broke my jaw. And the muscles on one side don’t work the same as the other. So I only really smile from one side of my face.

People can take me as they find me, I’m happy with my face.

Looking at your photos... I’d say you’re very handsome!

Thanks x x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not particularly, i have days and think oh yeh your looking on point today gats, but the rest of the time i dont really think about it.

We can all pick fault with ourselves even the prettiest of people.

At the end of the day beauty is in the eye of the beholder. So whilst some will think i have the face of a stomped on lasagne others will think ive the face of a well presented fruity marshmallow pebble cookie.

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By *parkle1974Woman
over a year ago

Leeds

"I’m not putting myself down but I don’t tend to see myself as good looking or handsome. I prefer rugged,

My smile that people like is because of an accident we’re I broke my jaw. And the muscles on one side don’t work the same as the other. So I only really smile from one side of my face.

People can take me as they find me, I’m happy with my face.

Looking at your photos... I’d say you’re very handsome!

Agreed x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I’m not putting myself down but I don’t tend to see myself as good looking or handsome. I prefer rugged,

My smile that people like is because of an accident we’re I broke my jaw. And the muscles on one side don’t work the same as the other. So I only really smile from one side of my face.

People can take me as they find me, I’m happy with my face.

Looking at your photos... I’d say you’re very handsome!

Thanks x x "

You’re welcome!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not really.

Im not bad looking but certainly not a jaw dropper, a strong 6 in all areas

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Looks have always been subjective... What you may not think is attractive could be amazing to someone else....and vice versa

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By *innie The MinxWoman
over a year ago

Under the Duvet

"Not really.

Im not bad looking but certainly not a jaw dropper, a strong 6 in all areas

And a 9.5 in the thigh area

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Beauty is in the eye of the beholder.

I would say I'm average looking with an average figure.

Do look in the mirror and see an OK reflection.

Due to my past I sometimes do think that I'm not nice at all in every way, my true friends say different.

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By *superfuse663Man
over a year ago

manchester

No because I don't like looking at myself in the mirror or on photos. But if I wear something and get compliments I feel more confident/attractive next time I'm dressed the same, if that makes sense

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By *quaman87Man
over a year ago

Colchester

I used to have 0 confidence and low self esteem, I think now I'm not gonna be everyone's cuppa tea and I think I'm attractive but not to everyone. I was always made to feel shit about myself. Now days I'm not over confident but I now have the mind set nobody is to good for me or I'm to good for anyone else.

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By *-man24Man
over a year ago

northwest

Not: hate mirrors hate pictures most of all can’t stand my own voice absolutely goes thou me like a vindaloo

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Not happy at all(mrs)..face and body need a warning lànd slide ahead.

You are kidding right, you are stunning x"

Thankyou but i certainly don't feel that way at the moment.

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By *lipy123TV/TS
over a year ago

Birmingham

I think i have got better looking as i get older

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By *erry bull1Man
over a year ago

doncaster

I only use mirrors for overtaking

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By *ostonJoeMan
over a year ago

Boston

I have no reflection.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I only use mirrors for overtaking "

Probably the only person on the motorway who does

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By *o new WinksMan
over a year ago

BSE

I avoid mirrors. Even when I shave, I only look at the area I am shaving...not the whole ghastly visage.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I used to have 0 confidence and low self esteem, I think now I'm not gonna be everyone's cuppa tea and I think I'm attractive but not to everyone. I was always made to feel shit about myself. Now days I'm not over confident but I now have the mind set nobody is to good for me or I'm to good for anyone else."
.. Fab is a disaster when you feel like that because we always compare ourselves to others. But what are we comparing to? A photo that took 100 shots to get right, good lighting, filters, suck in the belly? And then you have some young lad half your age who is in the gym every day. I love people that are good looking and work to be that way. Huge respect for them. but none of us should let it get us down...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’ve had fairly long periods with no mirrors before in the house, and it’s quite easy to not even think about appearance in the same way, though I don’t overly use them often to be fair. I’ve always been quite content with how I look, not negative or arrogant, I just let others think what they wish really, makes no particular difference to me. I’ve found some of the most vain or self obsessed as the most troubled in regards to perceptions of their looks, or more attention seeking, which makes me sad, and I’ve seen people who mask their confidence as they feel the need to, it’s an interesting topic and thread. Good question OP.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’ll be honest sometimes I actually get jealous of myself

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I look in the mirror and think fuck me that paper round took its toll fella

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

So you should he's abit jumped up

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By *-man24Man
over a year ago

northwest

"I have no reflection.

Vampire alert lol

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By *adMerWoman
over a year ago

Sandwich

Wow. I am very surprised by how under confident a lot of the males are on this forum. I thought the male brain’s default setting was to look in a mirror and see the positive first.

So actually we’re all insecure in some way?!

Honestly embrace and love the imperfect you.... you’re all damn fucking hot!

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By *isAdventure69Woman
over a year ago

Hampshire

I was never a stunner to begin with , kinda middle of the road , not offensive to look at .

Bar the extra lbs , I think I've held up to the above statement quite well .

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By *2000ManMan
over a year ago

Worthing

I am more confident in my looks than I ever was as a younger man.

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By *-man24Man
over a year ago

northwest

"Wow. I am very surprised by how under confident a lot of the males are on this forum. I thought the male brain’s default setting was to look in a mirror and see the positive first.

So actually we’re all insecure in some way?!

Honestly embrace and love the imperfect you.... you’re all damn fucking hot!

Thanks your so kind kill them with kindness always works I think

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I hate my face....I sent a picture to a friend because I thought I was looking good....she replied with....you look tired! Lol

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By *quaman87Man
over a year ago

Colchester

"I used to have 0 confidence and low self esteem, I think now I'm not gonna be everyone's cuppa tea and I think I'm attractive but not to everyone. I was always made to feel shit about myself. Now days I'm not over confident but I now have the mind set nobody is to good for me or I'm to good for anyone else... Fab is a disaster when you feel like that because we always compare ourselves to others. But what are we comparing to? A photo that took 100 shots to get right, good lighting, filters, suck in the belly? And then you have some young lad half your age who is in the gym every day. I love people that are good looking and work to be that way. Huge respect for them. but none of us should let it get us down...

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this was many years before I joined fab, back in my teens early 20s. I'll always compliment a good looking guy but I dont compare myself or feel ugly in front of anyone now. I am what I am I'm happy and confident in myself. Took a long time to get there though. Wont every be made to feel different

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By *uriousscouserWoman
over a year ago

Wirral

My looks haven't really changed, but I've grown into them. I was extremely gauche in my 20s, just awkward with bad hair and no sense of myself. Old photos have a tendency to make me grimace more than pine over lost looks!

My face will never be my fortune and it isn't improving any with age but I am less awkward and more comfortable taking my place in the world, more accepting of my looks.

My weight fluctuates wildly, but very fat or marginally less fat, I never really felt differently about my body.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Each time I feel insecure about how I look I remember that actually I'm ok for a 46 year old fossil

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By *-man24Man
over a year ago

northwest

"Each time I feel insecure about how I look I remember that actually I'm ok for a 46 year old fossil"

Your not a fossil and you look sexy as !!!!!

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By *o new WinksMan
over a year ago

BSE

I am more secure in myself, but have never felt handsome.

Looks are subjective but I do t fancy me.

Fortunately, others have so I get by.

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By *unny ValentineCouple
over a year ago

Crewe

Oh god no. I feel I've grown into my looks. Thanks to good genes I look good for my age, but I'll never be a model. - Brenden

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Depends what side of the bed I've woken up on. If I'm feeling like shit, i tend to think I'm looking like shit. It's all mind set and we're all sexy in our own ways x

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By *asilyled1Man
over a year ago

ogmore valley

I hate looking in the mirror,so try not to

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I do

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