FabSwingers.com forum: Why is it so annoying...

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

When someone tells you to do something you already planned on doing?

It's such a small, trivial thing, and yet as soon someone does it, my motivation to do that thing goes through the floor

Does it bother you when it happens and if so, how do you react?

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By *allySlinkyWoman
over a year ago

Leeds

Who tells you to do it ?

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By *atnip make me purrWoman
over a year ago

Reading

Yes agree.

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By *etcplCouple
over a year ago

Gapping Fanny

"When someone tells you to do something you already planned on doing?

It's such a small, trivial thing, and yet as soon someone does it, my motivation to do that thing goes through the floor

Does it bother you when it happens and if so, how do you react?"

Things like this?

Clean your room

Brush your teeth

Make your bed

Or more work related?

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By *wist my nipplesCouple
over a year ago

North East Scotland, mostly

"When someone tells you to do something you already planned on doing?

It's such a small, trivial thing, and yet as soon someone does it, my motivation to do that thing goes through the floor

Does it bother you when it happens and if so, how do you react?"

If it's your mum telling you to get dressed, fair dos

Mrs kf x

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By *ntrepid ExplorersCouple
over a year ago

Birmingham

It doesn't matter. Move on.

(That's the intelligent way to reply to questions around here apparently!)

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By *innie The MinxWoman
over a year ago

Under the Duvet

"When someone tells you to do something you already planned on doing?

It's such a small, trivial thing, and yet as soon someone does it, my motivation to do that thing goes through the floor

Does it bother you when it happens and if so, how do you react?"

I hear you OP. Does it make you feel like a kid again being told what to do, or is there another trigger?

I just say "yes it's already on my list"...

And then flock the Vs when they aren't looking

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It doesn't matter. Move on.

(That's the intelligent way to reply to questions around here apparently!)"

Apparently so eh. God forbid anyone might fancy a chat.

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By *ulfilthmentMan
over a year ago

Just around the corner

"When someone tells you to do something you already planned on doing?

It's such a small, trivial thing, and yet as soon someone does it, my motivation to do that thing goes through the floor

Does it bother you when it happens and if so, how do you react?

Things like this?

Clean your room

Brush your teeth

Make your bed

Or more work related?"

Usually work related for me. Being told asked when I’m going to do thing 2 when I’m just finishing thing 1 can run me up the wrong way.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Oh i get this at work all the time!

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By *riar BelisseWoman
over a year ago

Bliss

Oh this is guaranteed to get my hackles up and the words "I Know" need to be in room 101 forever

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Oh damn that’s really annoying!

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By *an4funMan
over a year ago

london

I think it's because it will look like you are only doing it because you were asked to and not because you had the idea to do so

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham

"It doesn't matter. Move on.

(That's the intelligent way to reply to questions around here apparently!)"

You really need to let it go

move on

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham

"When someone tells you to do something you already planned on doing?

It's such a small, trivial thing, and yet as soon someone does it, my motivation to do that thing goes through the floor

Does it bother you when it happens and if so, how do you react?"

Yep. More so when its my mum for some reason. I turn into a petulant child when I visit her

I think it's because its the insinuation that as an adult I can't choose when I want to do things. Stupid things like making a cup of tea. If she wants one so bad why doesn't she make it herself!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes, in fact last night, we were getting it on together, I was just about to slip my head between her legs when she suggested I do exactly that.

Pffft, I refused and was so looking forward to it

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By *rincess peachWoman
over a year ago

shits creek

Ooooo it gets me all hissy.

If someone asks nicely I'll reply with my itinerary so they know it's already on my list, but also where it stands priority wise.

If they tell me.. eeek. That's a whole different ball game and usually met with death stare and silence.

I had a chat with my boss about it once coz he's an arse for it. I've been there 12 years and know the job inside out, often doing things he himself wouldn't even have thought of. I explained it makes me feel like he doesn't trust me or respect me actually, and I'm not the kind who will thumb twiddle. I'm more than capable of prioritising. He did apologise and explained if he didn't tell me and assumed I was gonna do it anyway and I didn't, then the blame would land at his feet and not mine.

I respected that but still no excuse for telling instead of asking.

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