FabSwingers.com forum: How would you feel

By *parkle1974 OP Woman
over a year ago

Leeds

If on a meet, the person went on Fab and started messaging others?

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By *ex HolesMan
over a year ago

Up North

If they started looking at their phone full stop I’d find it very disrespectful

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If they started looking at their phone full stop I’d find it very disrespectful "

Agree. Put the phone away.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Meet over !

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Meet over !"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'd feel the door handle as I'm walking out of it

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By *rder66Man
over a year ago

Tatooine

used.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well... this happened, on a overnight stay. I never met her again.

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By *gent CoulsonMan
over a year ago

Secret hideaway in the pennines

Definitely meet over, all attention should be on the person you are with

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Messaging others is just plain rude

Checking phone, and I mean just checking I'm cool with as you don't know what commitments they have etc etc so they might need to check in

Also, nothing wrong with someone arranging safe calls etc

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

I've had this before. I think my face did this.

And they messaged a good friend of mine.

It's only happened once before but it did make me think fuck I must be boring and view the person in a slightly different light. Before that I'd been caught in their dicksand.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Happened! Just once but that was it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If they started looking at their phone full stop I’d find it very disrespectful "

agree with this - if you're not enjoying the company of the person / people you're with enough to keep off your phone, then there probably isn't any point going any further!

even the lads I'm mates with rip into someone if they're on their phone on a night out!

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By *ark ph0enixWoman
over a year ago

Teesside

Phones on a meet are for emergency only.

Would be walking away with a sway in my hips so he can see what hes lost out on

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If on a meet, the person went on Fab and started messaging others?"

Feel a bit wtf but hey ho life goes on once you loved lost forever then life seems to lose it’s sparkle

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By *parkle1974 OP Woman
over a year ago

Leeds

I would find it very disrespectful and like I wasn't good enough.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Phone out of a meet - regardless of doing what - is a big no from me

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By *affron40Woman
over a year ago

manchester

It’s happened both ways... I actually was more offended by the one who messaged me from someone else’s house.. he got an earful. Rude!!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Depends if you both have chatted about finding some extra to invite

If not it’s purely disrespectful

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Id say make sure shes game

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's a bit of an unexpected slap isn't it. Where the heck is your focus? And tact.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It's a bit of an unexpected slap isn't it. Where the heck is your focus? And tact. "

Completely agree with this.

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By *ea monkeyMan
over a year ago

Manchester (he/him)

That’s a huge no.

I understand needing to check phones for kids, safety contacts, etc but beyond that, no. Especially not fab!

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By *etcplCouple
over a year ago

Gapping Fanny

There are only a few acceptable reasons in my opinion for getting your phone out while meeting, including

Safety calls/checks

Responding to children/family

Wanting to show me something

Using it to message others on fab in front of me would not be something I would find acceptable.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would politely thank that person and leave.

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

"It's a bit of an unexpected slap isn't it. Where the heck is your focus? And tact. "

I agree. It's thoughtless really, even if you're particularly feeling it, going on Fab is crap.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Definitely meet over.

I have checked my phone during meets because I was expecting a text/had family issues, but I apologised and did it as quickly as possible.

Actually browsing online and especially messaging others is just rude though.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Very disrespectful and rude

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If there were reasons behind it, then I’d be okay with it as long as they were made known.

Letting a fab friend know where you are, if your safe etc.

But for no reason? Nah, toodles to you!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Would definitely be making my excuses.

Especially if it was obvious

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By *acey_RedWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool

"If they started looking at their phone full stop I’d find it very disrespectful "

Same unless it was an emergency or they had a very good reason.

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By *a LunaWoman
over a year ago

South

It’s rude. It’s happened to me with a Fab meet at a restaurant and whilst waiting for our food he got his phone and had a WhatsApp group chat with work colleagues.

I should have left there and then but we’d ordered and I was hungry

but I did tell him I thought it rude and he said I was over reacting

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By *acey_RedWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool

"It’s rude. It’s happened to me with a Fab meet at a restaurant and whilst waiting for our food he got his phone and had a WhatsApp group chat with work colleagues.

I should have left there and then but we’d ordered and I was hungry

but I did tell him I thought it rude and he said I was over reacting

I was once on an actual date and the guy leaned back from the table and looked down at his phone while messaging and saying "yeah" every few seconds to pretend he was listening even though I'd stopped talking

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If on a meet, the person went on Fab and started messaging others?"

Are you with him now?

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

Depends on the circumstances.

Mostly not ok.

On a longer meet, with close friends... Not bothered.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I guess on the plus side this scenario, or any unnecessary phone use on a meet, is about as big a red flag that you need to know the person has little real interest in you. See ya, wouldn't want to be ya !

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By *oxyvixen99Woman
over a year ago

Newtownabbey

Whilst on the meet I'd think it was very rude to be on their phone

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If on a meet, the person went on Fab and started messaging others?"
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I would say something, its happened and have said something...it comes down to respect, I would think there with me n setting up the next thing....f%%King cheek

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We had the same guy started responding to messages he received. Obviouslynothing said from him to us...so meet over .

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By *isAdventure69Woman
over a year ago

Hampshire

"It’s happened both ways... I actually was more offended by the one who messaged me from someone else’s house.. he got an earful. Rude!!! "

Oh yeah I had this recently , staying at his FB for the night and did I fancy meeting the following day whilst he was in the area

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By *parkle1974 OP Woman
over a year ago

Leeds

"If on a meet, the person went on Fab and started messaging others?

Are you with him now?

No, hypothetical question...just incase it ever happens for future reference. I wouldn't be happy and would feel like I wasn't good enough....didn't know if that would be an overreaction x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would laugh....after I'd cum...then leave

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By *a LunaWoman
over a year ago

South

"It’s rude. It’s happened to me with a Fab meet at a restaurant and whilst waiting for our food he got his phone and had a WhatsApp group chat with work colleagues.

I should have left there and then but we’d ordered and I was hungry

but I did tell him I thought it rude and he said I was over reacting

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Bloody cheek! I hope he looked suitably embarrassed once he realised.

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By *affron40Woman
over a year ago

manchester

"It’s happened both ways... I actually was more offended by the one who messaged me from someone else’s house.. he got an earful. Rude!!!

Oh yeah I had this recently , staying at his FB for the night and did I fancy meeting the following day whilst he was in the area

Charmer

some people really don’t think do they?!?!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If on a meet, the person went on Fab and started messaging others?

Are you with him now?

No, hypothetical question...just incase it ever happens for future reference. I wouldn't be happy and would feel like I wasn't good enough....didn't know if that would be an overreaction x"

Shouldn't ever let anybody else's actions, leave you feeling or questioning if your good enough, your enough plain and simple, thats what I believe about myself

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

They'd be swiftly ejected

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By *acey_RedWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool

"It’s rude. It’s happened to me with a Fab meet at a restaurant and whilst waiting for our food he got his phone and had a WhatsApp group chat with work colleagues.

I should have left there and then but we’d ordered and I was hungry

but I did tell him I thought it rude and he said I was over reacting

Bloody cheek! I hope he looked suitably embarrassed once he realised."

Nope, he paid little attention to whatever I said for the whole date to be honest

. Also was really sleazy and overly touchy feely but then kicked off when I politely turned down a second date. Oblivious!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If they started looking at their phone full stop I’d find it very disrespectful "

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By *mmmMaybeCouple
over a year ago

West Wales

Just plain rude & it’d be “See Ya” but I can see it happening more & more with the younger generation being glued to theirs phones a lot of the time even on a night out.

Is it going to be the new normal?

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By *o new WinksMan
over a year ago

BSE

I have often sat on a social and chatted about Fab. I ask about their experience and what type of messages they get etc.

I have done the same after sex on a meet. In these contexts I think its fine to break out your phone and talk about it. If they answer a message then that is fine too.

Would I want them to wait till I go to the loo or home to do it ?

Of course not.

We are adults. We are not here to be exclusive and as a guy, I have to accept that whoever I am talking to is a lady and therefore popular.

If she did it without this, then I hope I would be able to take the hint and leave.

I obviously wasn't what she was looking for. Bit of a kick in the ego, but nothing that kills you.

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By *JohnMan
over a year ago

Newcastle upon Tyne

If it's a weekend with someone I've seen many times before, it's fine. We can't be glued together the whole time, and everyday life can intrude.

If it's someone new and we're not even spending the night together, it'd be a good sign that there won't be another meet. I've been lucky enough not to have experienced that yet.

If it's "I know the kids are fine with the babysitter but I want to check in on them anyway", go right ahead. Get that worry off your mind.

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By *uke olovingmanMan
over a year ago

Gravesend

Yuk

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think checking phone is ok or answering a txt we all have personal lives .... but scrolling and messaging on fab would be quite disrespectful..... It would be meet over for me x

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By *a LunaWoman
over a year ago

South

"It’s rude. It’s happened to me with a Fab meet at a restaurant and whilst waiting for our food he got his phone and had a WhatsApp group chat with work colleagues.

I should have left there and then but we’d ordered and I was hungry

but I did tell him I thought it rude and he said I was over reacting

Bloody cheek! I hope he looked suitably embarrassed once he realised.

Nope, he paid little attention to whatever I said for the whole date to be honest

. Also was really sleazy and overly touchy feely but then kicked off when I politely turned down a second date. Oblivious! "

the cheek of him!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It seems fab really is (laugh) a place of people full of

imperfections.

How did any of you notice they were on fab?

Are you really that nosy?

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By *all me FlikWoman
over a year ago

Galaxy Far Far Away

I find phones intrusive and wouldn't expect them to be out in an social situation let alone a swinging meet.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I was sat chatting with a meet before the sex and he was texting his ex girlfriend.

Apparently NSA means no respect.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If on a meet, the person went on Fab and started messaging others?"

Maybe up your game....put abit more effort into the meet...must have been your fault.....im 100% joking x

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By *partharmonyCouple
over a year ago

Ruislip

"If on a meet, the person went on Fab and started messaging others?"

That would be pretty bad. Has this happened to you, Sparkle?

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By *parkle1974 OP Woman
over a year ago

Leeds

"If on a meet, the person went on Fab and started messaging others?

That would be pretty bad. Has this happened to you, Sparkle? "

Not yet....

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By *nliveneTV/TS
over a year ago

Selby

It is very disrespectful if is without permission

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If on a meet, the person went on Fab and started messaging others?

That would be pretty bad. Has this happened to you, Sparkle?

Not yet...."

I thought this had happened.....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If on a meet, the person went on Fab and started messaging others?"

Go home

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By *ustBoWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in Co. Down

If someone I met went on fab to chat to others durning a meet with me then the meet would end there and then. The only reason someone would do that is if they had decided they weren't that into you.

If it's just checking a text or something I don't mind as long as it didn't keep happening.

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By *eparrain1Man
over a year ago

Stone

I will find it disrespectful, insensitive, dismissive and callous.

Hit the road Jane I would sing!!

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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago

East London

I would think I was boring them and ask if I should leave.

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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago

East London

"It seems fab really is (laugh) a place of people full of

imperfections.

How did any of you notice they were on fab?

Are you really that nosy?"

Maybe they are laying next to them in bed and using their phone.

If someone kept looking at their phone while I was with them I'd ask why. I'm not nosy, but I'd like to know if I was boring them.

If they insisted on laying next to me with their phone in their hand I'd snuggle up and stare at the screen (laughs loudly).

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If on a meet, the person went on Fab and started messaging others?

Are you with him now?

No, hypothetical question...just incase it ever happens for future reference. I wouldn't be happy and would feel like I wasn't good enough....didn't know if that would be an overreaction x"

I was just giggling how everyone assumed it was someone you’d met....

I wondered if you’d been on fab and he’d called you out for it and looked to us to justify your actions

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By *oiluvfunMan
over a year ago

Penrith

"There are only a few acceptable reasons in my opinion for getting your phone out while meeting, including

Safety calls/checks

Responding to children/family

Wanting to show me something

Using it to message others on fab in front of me would not be something I would find acceptable.

I agree with all of this

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By *parkle1974 OP Woman
over a year ago

Leeds

"If on a meet, the person went on Fab and started messaging others?

Are you with him now?

No, hypothetical question...just incase it ever happens for future reference. I wouldn't be happy and would feel like I wasn't good enough....didn't know if that would be an overreaction x

I was just giggling how everyone assumed it was someone you’d met....

I wondered if you’d been on fab and he’d called you out for it and looked to us to justify your actions

My focus is always on whoever I'm with x

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By * Lexi xWoman
over a year ago

stockport

It would be so rude and I would leave.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If on a meet, the person went on Fab and started messaging others?

Are you with him now?

No, hypothetical question...just incase it ever happens for future reference. I wouldn't be happy and would feel like I wasn't good enough....didn't know if that would be an overreaction x

I was just giggling how everyone assumed it was someone you’d met....

I wondered if you’d been on fab and he’d called you out for it and looked to us to justify your actions

My focus is always on whoever I'm with x"

I like to play devils advocate

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By *rder66Man
over a year ago

Tatooine

"If on a meet, the person went on Fab and started messaging others?

Are you with him now?

No, hypothetical question...just incase it ever happens for future reference. I wouldn't be happy and would feel like I wasn't good enough....didn't know if that would be an overreaction x

I was just giggling how everyone assumed it was someone you’d met....

I wondered if you’d been on fab and he’d called you out for it and looked to us to justify your actions

My focus is always on whoever I'm with x"
If someone did that, then they are not good enough for you, never doubt your worth Sparkle, I know that you know.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not great would have to end the meet

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Not great would have to end the meet"
I've had something even worse than that happen ....wasnt nice

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It seems fab really is (laugh) a place of people full of

imperfections.

How did any of you notice they were on fab?

Are you really that nosy?

Maybe they are laying next to them in bed and using their phone.

If someone kept looking at their phone while I was with them I'd ask why. I'm not nosy, but I'd like to know if I was boring them.

If they insisted on laying next to me with their phone in their hand I'd snuggle up and stare at the screen (laughs loudly)."
Watch out for those screen snugglers guys (laugh)

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By *rHotNottsMan
over a year ago

Dubai & Nottingham

"If they started looking at their phone full stop I’d find it very disrespectful

Agree. Put the phone away.

I think I’d just get up and leave without even saying anything, they’re obviously bored!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Not great would have to end the meetI've had something even worse than that happen ....wasnt nice "

Im a nosey bugger so I need to know what was worse?

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By *ear in the chairMan
over a year ago

Godstone

Depends if we were having a breather and decided to have fun causing havoc together

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would feel like the meet wasn’t going brilliantly.

Then again, my wife has been known to reply to fab messages whilst I gently caress her vagina with my tongue and that was quite a turn on so I think it all depends on the circumstances.

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By *abs..Woman
over a year ago

I really hope this doesn’t happen

I suppose it lets you know where you stand.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It’s rude. It’s happened to me with a Fab meet at a restaurant and whilst waiting for our food he got his phone and had a WhatsApp group chat with work colleagues.

I should have left there and then but we’d ordered and I was hungry

but I did tell him I thought it rude and he said I was over reacting

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did you see the episode of first dates like ths a few years back , imagine being so self unaware that you would act like that on a date to start, but one being filmed for tv

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i think browsing for new meets and chatting your way through your inbox would be rude

but when i used to meet i have often lay in bed between rounds while we both looked at local updates, the forums, hot pics - pointed out profiles we liked to each other with the intention of maybe messaging for a group meet , i used to go on chat with meets while having a few drinks during the warm up too

i think it very much depends on the dynamic of the meet and the intention of the scrolling / inclusion of the other person

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I won’t even allow phones in a formal work meeting. It’s impolite even in that setting and beyond discourteous at a first meeting. It’s disrespectful. Only exception would be if they were checking on their children or such like, then that’s sweet.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I really hope this doesn’t happen

I suppose it lets you know where you stand. "

Unfortunately it definitely does happen.

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By *rispyDuckMan
over a year ago

Chinese Takeaway near you

"If on a meet, the person went on Fab and started messaging others?"

If it's at the beginning & it's just a quick reply to messages then cool

but if it's more than 5mins, then goodbye 'ain't nobody got time 4 that' lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If on a meet, the person went on Fab and started messaging others?"
.. Haha... I would say one word... Taxi?

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By *orraine999Woman
over a year ago

Somewhere

I would find it Rude and disrespectful

Exceptions would be a safety check, sitter or other family emergency.

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By *atricia ParnelWoman
over a year ago

In a town full of colours

I would be smiling as I got up and walked out the door, whilst thinking I'd had a lucky escape

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If on a meet, the person went on Fab and started messaging others?"

That would be the end of that and all communication would cease thereafter

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

During the meet itself? I'd probably be offended. It's just basic manners really to give the person you're with your attention.

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By *ady LickWoman
over a year ago

Northampton Somewhere

It's pretty rude but some men I guess are always looking for their next meet. Doesn't make you feel great!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just rude and disrespectful, he'd be out the door quick enough to chase his phone that I'd have thrown from the window

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By *aggy dollsCouple
over a year ago

Bradford

As previously said it would be the end of the meet.

Mr H.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Walk out throw drink over ignorant ass hole forget

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This happened once.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i have to be honest and say im guilty of this.

i was even in bed with a women and texting another one planning the next meet.

thankfully im a lot older and mature than i was then.

and she is still a friend of mine so i guess i was forgiven.

ok sharpen them knives.

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