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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Lots of double standards on here. Men are told to fill out a nice profile stateing what we are looking for etc, myself and many others have done this yet theres still many women who write fill in later or leave it blank. How are we supposed to know if we are a match with nothing to go on? I pointed this out to a woman earlier when i said i cant really get chatting if i have nothing to go on. So come on ladies who this applies too sort out your profile and sell yourself just like we do

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Lots of double standards on here. Men are told to fill out a nice profile stateing what we are looking for etc, myself and many others have done this yet theres still many women who write fill in later or leave it blank. How are we supposed to know if we are a match with nothing to go on? I pointed this out to a woman earlier when i said i cant really get chatting if i have nothing to go on. So come on ladies who this applies too sort out your profile and sell yourself just like we do "

Because men will still message them regardless. When there's like 20 men per woman on the site they can be picky.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Lots of double standards on here. Men are told to fill out a nice profile stateing what we are looking for etc, myself and many others have done this yet theres still many women who write fill in later or leave it blank. How are we supposed to know if we are a match with nothing to go on? I pointed this out to a woman earlier when i said i cant really get chatting if i have nothing to go on. So come on ladies who this applies too sort out your profile and sell yourself just like we do

Because men will still message them regardless. When there's like 20 men per woman on the site they can be picky."

Or they are hoping it'll put people off?

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By *imi_RougeWoman
over a year ago

Portsmouth

Majority of men don't bother to read them when when we do make an effort.

They just look at the pics.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Lots of double standards on here. Men are told to fill out a nice profile stateing what we are looking for etc, myself and many others have done this yet theres still many women who write fill in later or leave it blank. How are we supposed to know if we are a match with nothing to go on? I pointed this out to a woman earlier when i said i cant really get chatting if i have nothing to go on. So come on ladies who this applies too sort out your profile and sell yourself just like we do

Because men will still message them regardless. When there's like 20 men per woman on the site they can be picky.

Or they are hoping it'll put people off? "

Now why on earth would someone not want 1000 messages a day from horny men?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Lots of double standards on here. Men are told to fill out a nice profile stateing what we are looking for etc, myself and many others have done this yet theres still many women who write fill in later or leave it blank. How are we supposed to know if we are a match with nothing to go on? I pointed this out to a woman earlier when i said i cant really get chatting if i have nothing to go on. So come on ladies who this applies too sort out your profile and sell yourself just like we do

Because men will still message them regardless. When there's like 20 men per woman on the site they can be picky.

Or they are hoping it'll put people off?

Now why on earth would someone not want 1000 messages a day from horny men?"

Oh gosh I have no idea! Especially with all the unsolicited dick pics!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have 3 paragraphs on my profile and one of them says ‘I don’t reply to winks!’ and I still get women winking at me, so from this massive sample size, I think we can stop pretending this is a man thing, clearly people can’t be arsed to read.

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By *innie The MinxWoman
over a year ago

Under the Duvet


"I have 3 paragraphs on my profile and one of them says ‘I don’t reply to winks!’ and I still get women winking at me, so from this massive sample size, I think we can stop pretending this is a man thing, clearly people can’t be arsed to read. "

Sorry Mr Jeans, it's not a wink it's a nervous twitch

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I have 3 paragraphs on my profile and one of them says ‘I don’t reply to winks!’ and I still get women winking at me, so from this massive sample size, I think we can stop pretending this is a man thing, clearly people can’t be arsed to read.

Sorry Mr Jeans, it's not a wink it's a nervous twitch "

I just presumed some dust blew off the back of a lorry and got in your eye!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

even with a write up on a profile (short and sweet, or biblical) née one reads them anyway

you've done your bit.. you find a profile that hasn't.. just move on until you find one you feel you can gel with?

Px

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By *irty PrettyWoman
over a year ago

Cardiff

The day I joined, I had 200 messages before I’d added a single photo or more than a couple of lines of text. Women don’t need to “sell ourselves”, for most of us Fab life is about trying to keep the volume of messages down, not increasing it.

Oh, and I bet she liked your comment about her profile as much as I like all the “I’m not reading all that” type messages I get.

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By *inamicMan
over a year ago

Blackpool


"I have 3 paragraphs on my profile and one of them says ‘I don’t reply to winks!’ and I still get women winking at me, so from this massive sample size, I think we can stop pretending this is a man thing, clearly people can’t be arsed to read. "

What's the secret? Lol I've never had a single wink or message off a woman first and very rarely a reply. Give up this wise wisdom

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I find it doesn't particularly matter what we put on our profiles, most DM's show very little sign they've read it.

Not saying all, just a vast majority. Makes it quite frustrating when you put in an effort, it never changes what shows in the DM's. So I for one don't really bother now. And mostly look at the forum's rather than the DM'S.

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By *inamicMan
over a year ago

Blackpool


"I find it doesn't particularly matter what we put on our profiles, most DM's show very little sign they've read it.

Not saying all, just a vast majority. Makes it quite frustrating when you put in an effort, it never changes what shows in the DM's. So I for one don't really bother now. And mostly look at the forum's rather than the DM'S. "

From a guy's perspective, it's also annoying when you read it all, find things from it to chat about when messaging, including the code word that some set at the bottom. Then you're just deleted straight away into obscurity.

Sometimes it's just bad timing, however it does slowly get to you when you don't even get a courtesy no thank you email. Although the i do realise the ammount of messages women do get in their inbox aswell. That's just the fabswingers way lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


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From a guy's perspective, it's also annoying when you read it all, find things from it to chat about when messaging, including the code word that some set at the bottom. Then you're just deleted straight away into obscurity.

Sometimes it's just bad timing, however it does slowly get to you when you don't even get a courtesy no thank you email. Although the i do realise the ammount of messages women do get in their inbox aswell. That's just the fabswingers way lol "

I complete get that. Which I why I think its just better to see peoples interactions in the forums now. Im no longer site support so only see a fraction of my DMs, and mostly one liners of "wanna fuck" if we got fewer of them, we could see more of the decent and more relevant DMs.

It's one of the most frustrating part of fab for both sides I think.

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By *inamicMan
over a year ago

Blackpool


"

From a guy's perspective, it's also annoying when you read it all, find things from it to chat about when messaging, including the code word that some set at the bottom. Then you're just deleted straight away into obscurity.

Sometimes it's just bad timing, however it does slowly get to you when you don't even get a courtesy no thank you email. Although the i do realise the ammount of messages women do get in their inbox aswell. That's just the fabswingers way lol

I complete get that. Which I why I think its just better to see peoples interactions in the forums now. Im no longer site support so only see a fraction of my DMs, and mostly one liners of "wanna fuck" if we got fewer of them, we could see more of the decent and more relevant DMs.

It's one of the most frustrating part of fab for both sides I think. "

Probably similar with myself now, main reason i come on fab is for the forum. Get into some interesting topics lol. Also good for checking out club events when they are open again, great places to socialise with like minded people.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As a couple after about 3 days of numerous messages from guys asking if they could join (despite saying im looking for girl-girl) i had to turn off messages from guys

So can't imagine how many single girls get, end of the day pretty obvious on here if there interested they'll come to you

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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago

East London

Men look at the pretty pictures

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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago

East London


"Men look at the pretty pictures "

Not properly though, as some like to let me know, on a closer look, I'm too big anyway

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By *inamicMan
over a year ago

Blackpool


"As a couple after about 3 days of numerous messages from guys asking if they could join (despite saying im looking for girl-girl) i had to turn off messages from guys

So can't imagine how many single girls get, end of the day pretty obvious on here if there interested they'll come to you

"

Don't say that, means i've got no chance aha. Not had a girl ever message me. Oooh some very harsh probable truths in that post.

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

Ive had my profile completly hidden for over 3 years and i still get the odd message, wink and friends request

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By *icassolifelikeMan
over a year ago

Luton


"Ive had my profile completly hidden for over 3 years and i still get the odd message, wink and friends request"

That’s because you’re special

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I definitely have a mix of people who clearly read, and understand the whole lifestyle and then peeps who just got mesmerised by my ass

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire


"Ive had my profile completly hidden for over 3 years and i still get the odd message, wink and friends request

That’s because you’re special "
Thanks. I know

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By *oastal1968Man
over a year ago

London


"I definitely have a mix of people who clearly read, and understand the whole lifestyle and then peeps who just got mesmerised by my ass "

Ass! Arse! Butt! Bottom!

What was the question again?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By *inamicMan
over a year ago

Blackpool


"I definitely have a mix of people who clearly read, and understand the whole lifestyle and then peeps who just got mesmerised by my ass "

In fairness, i can see why

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"As a couple after about 3 days of numerous messages from guys asking if they could join (despite saying im looking for girl-girl) i had to turn off messages from guys

So can't imagine how many single girls get, end of the day pretty obvious on here if there interested they'll come to you

Don't say that, means i've got no chance aha. Not had a girl ever message me. Oooh some very harsh probable truths in that post. "

Sorry/ not sorry

Youve also got too factor in the girl _girl girl-couples

Dont worry someone will send you a message one day

M

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By *inamicMan
over a year ago

Blackpool


"As a couple after about 3 days of numerous messages from guys asking if they could join (despite saying im looking for girl-girl) i had to turn off messages from guys

So can't imagine how many single girls get, end of the day pretty obvious on here if there interested they'll come to you

Don't say that, means i've got no chance aha. Not had a girl ever message me. Oooh some very harsh probable truths in that post.

Sorry/ not sorry

Youve also got too factor in the girl _girl girl-couples

Dont worry someone will send you a message one day

M"

Haha thank you and i'm always very respectful of what people are after and only message if i believe i match that.

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By *rincess peachWoman
over a year ago

shits creek


"Lots of double standards on here. Men are told to fill out a nice profile stateing what we are looking for etc, myself and many others have done this yet theres still many women who write fill in later or leave it blank. How are we supposed to know if we are a match with nothing to go on? I pointed this out to a woman earlier when i said i cant really get chatting if i have nothing to go on. So come on ladies who this applies too sort out your profile and sell yourself just like we do "

Maybe the whole point of giving nothing away to chat about was because she wasn't looking to chat?

Or maybe an experiment.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Facts are women don't need to sell themselves on fab, statistics are on the females side, which says that its the men who have to stand out from the rest to be noticed...

Always amazes me when this isint remembered, its fab people, get a grip n enjoy the journey, n remember to keep your hands in at all times it will get bumpy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I definitely have a mix of people who clearly read, and understand the whole lifestyle and then peeps who just got mesmerised by my ass "

It’s very easily done if I do say so myself

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hard to get laid on here

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hard to get laid on here"

You joined during a national lockdown give it time n keep the faith

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By *ntrepid ExplorersCouple
over a year ago

Birmingham

I think I agree actually.

Women don't need to write a good profile to get loads of messages, but sure;y a good profile is the absolute best way to help yourself easily filter out the good messages from the shit ones?

We get some occasional good messages that don't take anything in our profile particularly into account, however most good ones absolutely do. None of the shit ones do.

Does a bare profile from a woman after meets often just imply she has no real standards and doesn't care who messages them?

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By *ntrepid ExplorersCouple
over a year ago

Birmingham


"Hard to get laid on here

You joined during a national lockdown give it time n keep the faith "

Yeah, but he also posted a message that ignored the entire context of the thread, with zero punctuation. 100% CLASSIC single guy message. which deserves no success.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Majority of men don't bother to read them when when we do make an effort.

They just look at the pics."

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By *ntrepid ExplorersCouple
over a year ago

Birmingham


"Majority of men don't bother to read them when when we do make an effort.

They just look at the pics.

"

All clearly true... but you don't WANT the majority do you? You want the select good ones... right?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think I agree actually.

Women don't need to write a good profile to get loads of messages, but sure;y a good profile is the absolute best way to help yourself easily filter out the good messages from the shit ones?

We get some occasional good messages that don't take anything in our profile particularly into account, however most good ones absolutely do. None of the shit ones do.

Does a bare profile from a woman after meets often just imply she has no real standards and doesn't care who messages them?"

Its kinda curious isn't it... If you know what you want, you can certainly tailor your audience.. But I think some just like the 'adulation' and attention... Which none if us get irl let's be honest

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I definitely have a mix of people who clearly read, and understand the whole lifestyle and then peeps who just got mesmerised by my ass

Ass! Arse! Butt! Bottom!

What was the question again? "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I definitely have a mix of people who clearly read, and understand the whole lifestyle and then peeps who just got mesmerised by my ass

In fairness, i can see why "

Lol thanks

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By *acey_RedWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool

I created a blank profile with no pictures or text so I could just have a look around before I set it up properly. I ended up deleting tgat whole profile and starting again with this one as I got so many messages. To a completely blank profile .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I definitely have a mix of people who clearly read, and understand the whole lifestyle and then peeps who just got mesmerised by my ass

It’s very easily done if I do say so myself "

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By *ecadent_DevonMan
over a year ago

Okehampton

If somebody has “will fill in later”, then I will wait.

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By *ntrepid ExplorersCouple
over a year ago

Birmingham


"I think I agree actually.

Women don't need to write a good profile to get loads of messages, but sure;y a good profile is the absolute best way to help yourself easily filter out the good messages from the shit ones?

We get some occasional good messages that don't take anything in our profile particularly into account, however most good ones absolutely do. None of the shit ones do.

Does a bare profile from a woman after meets often just imply she has no real standards and doesn't care who messages them?

Its kinda curious isn't it... If you know what you want, you can certainly tailor your audience.. But I think some just like the 'adulation' and attention... Which none if us get irl let's be honest "

There really could be (probably are..?) books written on the astonishing difference in dynamics in these situations compared to general society.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Mine as wonderful so much effort bring the readers

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I created a blank profile with no pictures or text so I could just have a look around before I set it up properly. I ended up deleting tgat whole profile and starting again with this one as I got so many messages. To a completely blank profile . "

What was the demographic? Let me take a wild guess; single men?

We don’t do ourselves any favours at times... I just don’t see what the attraction or interest in a blank profile could be

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By *acey_RedWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool


"I created a blank profile with no pictures or text so I could just have a look around before I set it up properly. I ended up deleting tgat whole profile and starting again with this one as I got so many messages. To a completely blank profile .

What was the demographic? Let me take a wild guess; single men?

We don’t do ourselves any favours at times... I just don’t see what the attraction or interest in a blank profile could be "

It seems for some simply being female is enough.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I mean how do you know someone is actually a female if the profile is blank... I’ve definitely been catfished one too many times

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By *inamicMan
over a year ago

Blackpool


"I created a blank profile with no pictures or text so I could just have a look around before I set it up properly. I ended up deleting tgat whole profile and starting again with this one as I got so many messages. To a completely blank profile .

What was the demographic? Let me take a wild guess; single men?

We don’t do ourselves any favours at times... I just don’t see what the attraction or interest in a blank profile could be

It seems for some simply being female is enough. "

Ayee theres alot of men on here that give real men a bad name lol

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By *ecadent_DevonMan
over a year ago

Okehampton


"I created a blank profile with no pictures or text so I could just have a look around before I set it up properly. I ended up deleting tgat whole profile and starting again with this one as I got so many messages. To a completely blank profile .

What was the demographic? Let me take a wild guess; single men?

We don’t do ourselves any favours at times... I just don’t see what the attraction or interest in a blank profile could be

It seems for some simply being female is enough.

Ayee theres alot of men on here that give real men a bad name lol"

Pinocchio for a start....

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By *acey_RedWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool


"I created a blank profile with no pictures or text so I could just have a look around before I set it up properly. I ended up deleting tgat whole profile and starting again with this one as I got so many messages. To a completely blank profile .

What was the demographic? Let me take a wild guess; single men?

We don’t do ourselves any favours at times... I just don’t see what the attraction or interest in a blank profile could be

It seems for some simply being female is enough.

Ayee theres alot of men on here that give real men a bad name lol

Pinocchio for a start...."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I created a blank profile with no pictures or text so I could just have a look around before I set it up properly. I ended up deleting tgat whole profile and starting again with this one as I got so many messages. To a completely blank profile . "

Hahahaha xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think I agree actually.

Women don't need to write a good profile to get loads of messages, but sure;y a good profile is the absolute best way to help yourself easily filter out the good messages from the shit ones?

We get some occasional good messages that don't take anything in our profile particularly into account, however most good ones absolutely do. None of the shit ones do.

*** Does a bare profile from a woman after meets often just imply she has no real standards and doesn't care who messages them? ***"

***

I think it's definitely a bit of this. I've had 1 pic and "fill in later' as text and got nearly 200 messages in under 12 hours.

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By *ablo minibar123Woman
over a year ago

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"Lots of double standards on here. Men are told to fill out a nice profile stateing what we are looking for etc, myself and many others have done this yet theres still many women who write fill in later or leave it blank. How are we supposed to know if we are a match with nothing to go on? I pointed this out to a woman earlier when i said i cant really get chatting if i have nothing to go on. So come on ladies who this applies too sort out your profile and sell yourself just like we do "

To be honest if someone has a vagina that seems to qualify them as a match for a large percentage of men on here so the will fill in later profiles work ok for them.

Is it fair no, is it true though, yes.

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By *wingsnroundabouts82Couple
over a year ago

Fucksville


"Hard to get laid on here

You joined during a national lockdown give it time n keep the faith

Yeah, but he also posted a message that ignored the entire context of the thread, with zero punctuation. 100% CLASSIC single guy message. which deserves no success."

Completely agree, that was my first thought too...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The "fill in later" I kind of get. That bit ain't necessarily easy especially if you're new to the site. Some may browse for a while, view other profiles to get a better feel for what they should put in their own.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The "fill in later" I kind of get. That bit ain't necessarily easy especially if you're new to the site. Some may browse for a while, view other profiles to get a better feel for what they should put in their own."

Fair point. Possibly the men mailing those profiles appreciate that.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

From my experience, men rarely read profiles. Whereas women do read them, and use them to decide whether to engage with someone. So for a man, it's time well spent to write a good bio. Maybe some women decide it's not worth the effort as it'll never get read?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Said the undertaker

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By *lirty-CoupleCouple
over a year ago

Bexley

If someone can't be bothered to fill in their profile properly (or write a decent message) we can't be bothered to respond. Seriously, how long does it take to write a couple of paragraphs?...

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