FabSwingers.com forum: A question for the single guys

By *gent Coulson OP Man
over a year ago

Secret hideaway in the pennines

If you met "the one", would you go exclusive or continue to play

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By *aughty_tonyMan
over a year ago

King's Lynn

If I met the one, I'd be faithful and only continue to play with other, either with her or her consent.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If she is really The One...exclusive. I am dedicated to one person.

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By *ea monkeyMan
over a year ago

Manchester (he/him)

I have and I’m still here.

We both see swinging the same way and have the same beliefs about sex and intimacy. It helps that we met on here.

We love each other, we also enjoy sex with other people

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Play what?

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By *rFeelsGoodMan
over a year ago

Swansea

You've ignored what 'The One' might think. Or does your obectified perfection not have their own thoughts?

I could never settle for someone with an empty head.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If it was consensual then carry on playing, but on the grounds she fully understood what was involved and the things such as feelings and insecurities that can arise from this lifestyle....onlyvafter an open and honest conversation....if she wasent cool with it after id give it up in a heartbeat for the one

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By *heonixRaven 777Woman
over a year ago

Guildford

"If you met "the one", would you go exclusive or continue to play"

I would still play, if they are asking me to become exclusive then they are probably not the one. Really depends what I am being ask to give up

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By *ensualbicockMan
over a year ago

liverpool wavertree picton clock

Exclusive if thats what they wanted

After all you would be in love

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham

"Play what?"

The fiddle in an Irish band

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm not sure she even exists

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've meet the one and we both continue to play

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nobody is gonna say publically that they’d play away ... the virtue signalling in the replies to this type of thread is always high.

The reality would probably (after the Honeymoon period is over) be different in most cases (not all, admittedly).

I’ll get scorn for saying this, but hey, the truth hurts

Oh by the way the same is true of many women too, trust me, I’ve met enough of them over the years ...

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By *gent Coulson OP Man
over a year ago

Secret hideaway in the pennines

"Nobody is gonna say publically that they’d play away ... the virtue signalling in the replies to this type of thread is always high.

The reality would probably (after the Honeymoon period is over) be different in most cases (not all, admittedly).

I’ll get scorn for saying this, but hey, the truth hurts

Oh by the way the same is true of many women too, trust me, I’ve met enough of them over the years ...

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A bit of a cynical way of looking at it. I actually met my ex on here, 3 great exclusive years then lockdown happened, and it all went tits up

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By *lirt and funCouple
over a year ago

ilford

"I have and I’m still here.

We both see swinging the same way and have the same beliefs about sex and intimacy. It helps that we met on here.

We love each other, we also enjoy sex with other people"

My partner and I met on here. We love swinging together but equally, he loves watching me flirt and meet others on here.it's all about trusting each other xx

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By *ea monkeyMan
over a year ago

Manchester (he/him)

"You've ignored what 'The One' might think. Or does your obectified perfection not have their own thoughts?

I could never settle for someone with an empty head."

For me, ‘the one’ meant matching mentally and physically, otherwise they wouldn’t be the one.

If you have to compromise a core principle of your relationship dynamic in order to be with someone, then they’re not the person for you.

Although that leads me to think that these people who respond that they would be monogamous, aren’t necessarily swingers

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'd be straight up about the lifestyle I'm in. If compromises had to be made then so be it if I truly thought they was the one.

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By *erces LetiferMan
over a year ago

Somewhere off the edge of the map... 'ere there be monsters

I don't believe in 'The One'. So no.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Before the one I'm in now, I have had 4 longish term relationships (2 women, 2 blokes)

Both the women cheated, the guys didn't, but by that point, I had become the cheat

I wasn't faithful to either of the blokes

The one I'm in now is open (with boundaries) but I have actually played elsewhere very, very rarely

It is more of a benefit to my OH who is a good deal younger and, as a result, has a greater sex drive

I wanted it straight from the outset because of the age gap - at some point, I will stop wanting sex or be unable to have sex, whereas he will still be sexually active

You have to be pragmatic & practical about things faced with that reality

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By *otSoPoshWoman
over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon

"Play what?

The fiddle in an Irish band

Thabks for the earworm gorgeous.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’ve just started to date, she is curious about the lifestyle, as many are, and we have spoken about some of the things that intrigue her. I’ve said we can try but she needs to ask me to do it rather than me ‘pushing’ her into anything. If she doesn’t then I won’t be active.

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By *wiftieeMan
over a year ago

near Glasgow

I've been exclusive twice, and we didn't play with others while together.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I don't believe in 'The One'. So no."

There can be only one.

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By *rispyDuckMan
over a year ago

Chinese Takeaway near you

Get their opinion on swinging

, if they cool with it maybe continue as couple. If not go exclusive leave fab

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By *ero666Man
over a year ago

fife

"I've been exclusive twice, and we didn't play with others while together."

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By *acavityMan
over a year ago

Redditch

If I met "the one", and she wanted a monogamous relationship, that's what I do. I did it for my last serious relationship.

But if she wanted to swing, even better.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The one

How many of us have thought that she was the one and we was actually blinded by bullshit ?

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By *irty PrettyWoman
over a year ago

Cardiff

For me, “the one” would be someone I could do this with. Anyone who’d expect me to give it up and be monogamous wouldn’t be a good fit for me, and I’m too old to want to compromise on something so important anymore.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Only if she drives a fiat

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By *erces LetiferMan
over a year ago

Somewhere off the edge of the map... 'ere there be monsters

"I don't believe in 'The One'. So no.

There can be only one."

Indeed. Until the sequel. And then another sequel, and an animated TV series, and a live action TV series, and then yet another sequel...

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By *irty PrettyWoman
over a year ago

Cardiff

"If she is really The One...exclusive. I am dedicated to one person.

I find it interesting that you’re here looking for sex with other men’s partners, but you wouldn’t allow your own partner to have sex with other people.

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By *ily WhiteWoman
over a year ago

The answer to that is individual to each couple, and needs to be a mutual decision after a lot of open and honest conversations...for some that will mean a monogamous relationship, others only swinging together, and others swinging separately. It may also not be a permanent choice, people and relationships evolve over time, and what's right now is not necessarily what will be right a few years down the line. For me, the key is keeping that communication going throughout and adjusting things as you go along.

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By *iscean_dreamMan
over a year ago

Llanelli

Based on past experience of being exclusive with someone I met here, I'm going to say would continue to play as I don't believe the one exists anymore

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

im pretending im a single guy for this one

while it's individual to each and every couple.. personally if they're your one, you go exclusive.

then if you decide to broach the subject and it's what you both want, you enter into the swinging lifestyle separately.. or in cases if S&V/Hotwife then meets will be separate.. But you get my drift etc etc.

but there's no hard or fast rule is there.. Each to their own.

personally, i don't share my partner.. ever. he's mineeee

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If she is really The One...exclusive. I am dedicated to one person.

I find it interesting that you’re here looking for sex with other men’s partners, but you wouldn’t allow your own partner to have sex with other people."

That's because she'll be The One.

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By *stbury DavenportMan
over a year ago

Nottingham

Can't meet something that doesn't exist.

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By *uy4swingingMan
over a year ago

Gloucestershire

"I have and I’m still here.

We both see swinging the same way and have the same beliefs about sex and intimacy. It helps that we met on here.

We love each other, we also enjoy sex with other people

My partner and I met on here. We love swinging together but equally, he loves watching me flirt and meet others on here.it's all about trusting each other xx "

That is the answer. In the end it’s about how you both feel and respect that.

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By *apiomanMan
over a year ago

Shipley

I would be on here but open about it but these days I am not into exclusivity (or I’ll be on Tinder!)

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By *wiftieeMan
over a year ago

near Glasgow

"I've been exclusive twice, and we didn't play with others while together.

Has someone been talking? One rule for me, and another for her???? Oh dear!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

All depends on what she wanted, I’d love to keep up playing , the two of us of course not just me.

But if I met “the one” and she wasn’t interested in playing, well then I’d just have to bite the bullet And go exclusive... see how it works out

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By *ty31Man
over a year ago

NW London

I'd be happy to go monogamous

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