FabSwingers.com forum: Why are women so demanding on here

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Demanding women like they own the site

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Welcome to The Lounge forum, Sexyb7. Good luck.

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By *heLaserGuyMan
over a year ago

Coventry

I wouldn't necessarily say demanding, just the overwhelming ratio means ladies can be more choosy who they meet - thats not to say men can't be choosy either.

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By *luebell888Woman
over a year ago

Glasgowish

"Demanding women like they own the site"

Demand what?

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By *luebell888Woman
over a year ago

Glasgowish

"Demanding women like they own the site"

Demand what?

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By *luebell888Woman
over a year ago

Glasgowish

"Demanding women like they own the site

Demand what?"

I demand an answer

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

She's so demanding. ^

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Are you getting mixed up with the word demand and preferences. Two different things.

Sometimes Females have to state exactly what they are looking for as a filter. Men with a little cop on will know not to msg if they don't match the criteria. We all have our types etc...that we are attracted to. I've stated my type in my bio. No harm in that whatsoever

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By *adame BWoman
over a year ago

C'est moi Boudoir

I think this was a drive through forum post

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ahhh thank goodness I’m gay

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By *educedWoman
over a year ago

Birmingham

Fab my bloody pics! Now!

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By *rumpyMcFuckNuggetMan
over a year ago

Den of Iniquity

"Fab my bloody pics! Now!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Because they can and they fucking should

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Demanding women like they own the site"

I mean, don’t we?!

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By *ce WingerMan
over a year ago

P.O. Box DE1 0NQ

"Fab my bloody pics! Now!

Crikey, where the Hell have you been Woman ???

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Because they can and they fucking should "

As this mighty fine specimen said!!

I personally can’t see me being totally honest and upfront with why I’m here and what I want as being demanding... I call it being selective... and I think that’s a good thing to be blatantly honest!

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By *annaBeStrongMan
over a year ago

wokingham

"Demanding women like they own the site"

Supply vs demand. There’s like 50 guys to even women on here

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By *hrista BellendWoman
over a year ago

surrounded by twinkly lights

Yep I'm not going to settle for second best on what I'm looking for, I demand a sexual match

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By *annaBeStrongMan
over a year ago

wokingham

"Demanding women like they own the site"

Don’t take it to heart either, there’s plenty of women on here that would say yes to you in a heart beat in real life.

But on here? No chance. About 10% of the guys on here get 90% of the girls.

It’s strictly a numbers game and sadly if your in that bottom 90% of guys the site is hardly worth it.

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By *urls and DressesWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere near here

My apologies, I forgot us women were the little people and just had to go with what the big man said. Silly me thinking we’re allowed preferences and control over what we do with our time and body

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm still waiting for one to demand something from me....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Fab my bloody pics! Now!

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yes miss...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Demanding women like they own the site

Demand what?

I demand an answer"

I see what you are doing

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By *rder66Man
over a year ago

Tatooine

Example...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Demanding women like they own the site"

I wouldn’t call people with preferences demanding...... Women get a lot of messages and do not have the time to answer all of them.... this is fact .... so if a profile is accurate on what someone is looking for and your not ticking the boxes, move on, it saves you time also with an unanswered message... maybes have this thought when your looking.... I’m sure there’s someone for everyone here xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Demanding women like they own the site"

Someone's not getting any, me thinks

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Because they have a vagina, the sites most sought after commodity. People in possession of things other people desire invariably have a position of power.

So the answer, like to many questions in life, is “Foof”

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

OP you are supposed to reply to people? You don't cite examples of your thread either

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

DSG

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's being selective not demanding op. I'm sure you would too if the ratio was in your favour and negatively charged posts like this aren't going to help you.

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By *ermite12ukMan
over a year ago

Solihull and Brentwood

"Fab my bloody pics! Now!

Done, even though, I'm way outside your age range.

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By *educedWoman
over a year ago

Birmingham

"Fab my bloody pics! Now!

Crikey, where the Hell have you been Woman ???

I've been hiding.

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By *educedWoman
over a year ago

Birmingham

"Fab my bloody pics! Now!

Done, even though, I'm way outside your age range.

Thank you. You're a superstar!

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By *educedWoman
over a year ago

Birmingham

"Fab my bloody pics! Now!

yes miss..."

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The ratios are stacked in the ladies favour on this site!!! They can demand the best of us!!!

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By *innocentMan
over a year ago

Littlehampton

Men are so insecure and needy.

It's amazing many are even able to dress themselves!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When you say demand’s what you actually mean is preferences, but to answer your question, I think it’s because the patriarchy have been telling women what to do for hundreds of years, cue the advent of modern technology and sex sites, then all of a sudden women are in the box seats while men are in the cheap and some men’s egos can’t take this and some men cry about it, boo hoo. But if you realise that your ego isn’t you and you put in an effort, then this levels things some what.

I think it can only be a good thing that women have the upper hand, look at the mess man has made of things over the years when he’s been in charge.

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By *amie HantsWoman
over a year ago

Atlantis

I demand someone bring me coffee and fresh croissants

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I demand someone bring me coffee and fresh croissants "

I’m on my way Bridget, cappachoochoo coming up.

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By *abs..Woman
over a year ago

"I demand someone bring me coffee and fresh croissants "

And me

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By *eyond PurityCouple
over a year ago

Lincolnshire

I’d say if people aren’t getting out of the site what you expected to then maybe look within first to see if anything can be changed.

Every profile needs to have decent bio, as to what you want and can offer. You also need good pics...something that will make you stand out from the 1,000’s of other people and also your messages have got to be good and respectful.

If you’ve got all the above and you still aren’t getting anywhere then you can maybe look at blaming other factors. But without them I don’t think anyone can start pointing the finger elsewhere.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I demand someone bring me coffee and fresh croissants

And me

I’ll drop yours off when I’ve done Bridget’s, Babs!

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By *ools and the brainCouple
over a year ago

couple, us we him her.

"Demanding women like they own the site"

I totally disagree, it's not just on this site it's everywhere

(Quietly shuts bunker door and hide's under the bed)

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By *abs..Woman
over a year ago

"Demanding women like they own the site

I totally disagree, it's not just on this site it's everywhere

(Quietly shuts bunker door and hide's under the bed)"

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By *abs..Woman
over a year ago

"I demand someone bring me coffee and fresh croissants

And me

I’ll drop yours off when I’ve done Bridget’s, Babs! "

You’re a wonderful man

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By *inkylipsWoman
over a year ago

Debauchery

Demanding like how? I state my preferences that’s hardly demanding

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Everyone has standards. You do. I do. They do.

If you had your pick of 100 or 150 women would you not pick the best as you see it?

And I will answer for you. Yes you would. Its human nature.

You are 1 of 1000s of single men looking for attention from a much smaller group of women

If you go to a social event and watch couples interact its usually the woman who holds the power. The men might do all the talking but it's the women who do the choosing usually.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Demanding like how? I state my preferences that’s hardly demanding"

If a man doesn’t meet those preferences, then some view them as demands, that’s my theory anyway!

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By *a LunaWoman
over a year ago

South Wales

I’m sexually demanding

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Fab my bloody pics! Now!

Okey dokey

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I’m sexually demanding

Dicking not licking!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I am demanding, and why not

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By *inkylipsWoman
over a year ago

Debauchery

"Demanding like how? I state my preferences that’s hardly demanding

If a man doesn’t meet those preferences, then some view them as demands, that’s my theory anyway!

I think that’s a good theory

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I’m sexually demanding

Of course. Who wants shit sex?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Is it demanding to ask someone to read the prifile before messaging us? Lots of guys dont seem to bother..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Demanding like how? I state my preferences that’s hardly demanding

If a man doesn’t meet those preferences, then some view them as demands, that’s my theory anyway!

I think that’s a good theory

Thank you

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By *ea monkeyMan
over a year ago

Manchester (he/him)

"Demanding like how? I state my preferences that’s hardly demanding

If a man doesn’t meet those preferences, then some view them as demands, that’s my theory anyway!

Yup!

It’s only unacceptable if they’re ruled out, otherwise it’s discerning

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think a lot of men arrive on fab and find it strange that they are not as desirable as they are "in real life"

Maybe they are above average in the local pubs. Or they can do well at the local gym. Big fish in the pond. Maybe even big fish in a lake. But here they are just another fish in an ocean of big fish.

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By *eparrain1Man
over a year ago

Stone

"I think a lot of men arrive on fab and find it strange that they are not as desirable as they are "in real life"

Maybe they are above average in the local pubs. Or they can do well at the local gym. Big fish in the pond. Maybe even big fish in a lake. But here they are just another fish in an ocean of big fish."

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By *ea monkeyMan
over a year ago

Manchester (he/him)

"I am demanding, and why not

It depends what you’re demanding.

If it’s £5,000,000 in unmarked £20 notes, a fuelled plane at Luton airport and a dozen pepperoni pizzas, that might be problematic

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By *aseMan
over a year ago

Gourock

Don't mess with Glasgow birds,lol

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By *ea monkeyMan
over a year ago

Manchester (he/him)

"I think a lot of men arrive on fab and find it strange that they are not as desirable as they are "in real life"

I think that the words you’re looking for are; entitled and inflated expectations

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think a lot of men arrive on fab and find it strange that they are not as desirable as they are "in real life"

Maybe they are above average in the local pubs. Or they can do well at the local gym. Big fish in the pond. Maybe even big fish in a lake. But here they are just another fish in an ocean of big fish.

I think that the words you’re looking for are; entitled and inflated expectations

I try not to judge. It doesnt help me or others.

I had a golden ticket when we arrived on fab. Having a wife opened doors and legs that would have been inaccessible for me on my own.

My previous website was a bdsm community and there I was a big fish comparatively speaking. I could pick and choose. And at times I was probably a wanker to people. But I learned and I got perspective

So I dont judge

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Im demanding too nothing wrong with being selective

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By *a LunaWoman
over a year ago

South Wales

"I’m sexually demanding

Of course. Who wants shit sex?

Exactly! Life is too bloody short

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Demands coffee

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By *ea monkeyMan
over a year ago

Manchester (he/him)

"I think a lot of men arrive on fab and find it strange that they are not as desirable as they are "in real life"

Maybe they are above average in the local pubs. Or they can do well at the local gym. Big fish in the pond. Maybe even big fish in a lake. But here they are just another fish in an ocean of big fish.

I think that the words you’re looking for are; entitled and inflated expectations

I try not to judge. It doesnt help me or others.

I had a golden ticket when we arrived on fab. Having a wife opened doors and legs that would have been inaccessible for me on my own.

So I dont judge "

That’s fair enough. I started out as a lowly single male and have spent long enough to know that when people use terms like ‘demands’ or ‘hoops’, it’s usually coming from a place of entitlement and resentment at not being as wanted as they thought. I stand by the words that I use as they’ve invariably been right in the past

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I’m sexually demanding

Of course. Who wants shit sex?

Oh..., the double meaning in that one

Hilarious

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think a lot of men arrive on fab and find it strange that they are not as desirable as they are "in real life"

Maybe they are above average in the local pubs. Or they can do well at the local gym. Big fish in the pond. Maybe even big fish in a lake. But here they are just another fish in an ocean of big fish.

I think that the words you’re looking for are; entitled and inflated expectations

I try not to judge. It doesnt help me or others.

I had a golden ticket when we arrived on fab. Having a wife opened doors and legs that would have been inaccessible for me on my own.

So I dont judge

I dont disagree with you. I guess I'm also not capable of getting into forum fights from a mental health perspective anymore. It's too draining and never really solves anything.

So I try to be diplomatic and non confrontational and hopefully wont be dismissed as just another internet asshole

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I’m sexually demanding

Of course. Who wants shit sex?

Oh..., the double meaning in that one

Hilarious

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By *ea monkeyMan
over a year ago

Manchester (he/him)

"I think a lot of men arrive on fab and find it strange that they are not as desirable as they are "in real life"

Maybe they are above average in the local pubs. Or they can do well at the local gym. Big fish in the pond. Maybe even big fish in a lake. But here they are just another fish in an ocean of big fish.

I think that the words you’re looking for are; entitled and inflated expectations

I try not to judge. It doesnt help me or others.

I had a golden ticket when we arrived on fab. Having a wife opened doors and legs that would have been inaccessible for me on my own.

So I dont judge

I dont disagree with you. I guess I'm also not capable of getting into forum fights from a mental health perspective anymore. It's too draining and never really solves anything.

So I try to be diplomatic and non confrontational and hopefully wont be dismissed as just another internet asshole"

That’s fair.

I don’t have any qualms about being seen as an asshole, if that’s what you’re implying?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Flip side of that coin ......Why are the vast majority of single guys on this site desperate , needy , liars , fakes and abusive ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I feel a little sorry for OP. I'm sure all guys who join the site have this moment of realisation that they aren't going to get laid immediately and that women in here have a choice and won't meet outside their preferences. I'm sure it stings a little if he's used to getting a lot of female attention!

Hopefully he takes the path that other men have taken... To put some effort in, make a few friends and settle in for the long haul. If not, he'll quickly get bored and leave.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I feel a little sorry for OP. I'm sure all guys who join the site have this moment of realisation that they aren't going to get laid immediately and that women in here have a choice and won't meet outside their preferences. I'm sure it stings a little if he's used to getting a lot of female attention!

Hopefully he takes the path that other men have taken... To put some effort in, make a few friends and settle in for the long haul. If not, he'll quickly get bored and leave. "

Lol spot on

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By *rder66Man
over a year ago

Tatooine

"Men are so insecure and needy.

It's amazing many are even able to dress themselves! "
Speak for yourself.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Flip side of that coin ......Why are the vast majority of single guys on this site desperate , needy , liars , fakes and abusive ? "

I don’t think this is true.

I’ve not had any single guys be abusive towards me in nine years.

Twice I’ve had a random nasty message. One from a woman. One from a couple.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm just here for the free cake.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Men are so insecure and needy.

It's amazing many are even able to dress themselves! Speak for yourself."

Please don’t start dressing yourself. You look fine as you are

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Flip side of that coin ......Why are the vast majority of single guys on this site desperate , needy , liars , fakes and abusive ?

I don’t think this is true.

I’ve not had any single guys be abusive towards me in nine years.

Twice I’ve had a random nasty message. One from a woman. One from a couple. "

I've had a few abusive messages from single guys, usually after rejection. But they're not common, most men in here are lovely, just like in real life.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

And so they should be

It’s they body they can do what they like with it

Sounds to me like someone got the hump they been turned down and can’t take it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think a lot of men arrive on fab and find it strange that they are not as desirable as they are "in real life"

Maybe they are above average in the local pubs. Or they can do well at the local gym. Big fish in the pond. Maybe even big fish in a lake. But here they are just another fish in an ocean of big fish.

I think that the words you’re looking for are; entitled and inflated expectations

I try not to judge. It doesnt help me or others.

I had a golden ticket when we arrived on fab. Having a wife opened doors and legs that would have been inaccessible for me on my own.

So I dont judge

I dont disagree with you. I guess I'm also not capable of getting into forum fights from a mental health perspective anymore. It's too draining and never really solves anything.

So I try to be diplomatic and non confrontational and hopefully wont be dismissed as just another internet asshole

That’s fair.

I don’t have any qualms about being seen as an asshole, if that’s what you’re implying? "
lol not at all.

I was an internet asshole. Always fighting my corner, never willing to back down when I knew I was right at times I even lost sleep from getting all frustrated that some other internet asshole couldn't see the point I was making

Now I'm more chill. If someone thinks I'm patronising, fair enough.

If someone doesnt understand my point thats on me to be a better communicator.

And if they still dint understand then that's their problem and there is nothing I can do about that.

If the OP thinks women here are demanding who am I to disagree. But I can see why they are and hopefully he will adapt and be happy. If not, there is nothing I can do about it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I am demanding, and why not

It depends what you’re demanding.

If it’s £5,000,000 in unmarked £20 notes, a fuelled plane at Luton airport and a dozen pepperoni pizzas, that might be problematic"

. I’ll go back to simply expecting my preferences to be fulfilled then *sigh

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I am demanding, and why not

It depends what you’re demanding.

If it’s £5,000,000 in unmarked £20 notes, a fuelled plane at Luton airport and a dozen pepperoni pizzas, that might be problematic

. I’ll go back to simply expecting my preferences to be fulfilled then *sigh"
maybe lower your demands to 6 pizzas. That's probably the deal breaker

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By *ea monkeyMan
over a year ago

Manchester (he/him)

"I am demanding, and why not

It depends what you’re demanding.

If it’s £5,000,000 in unmarked £20 notes, a fuelled plane at Luton airport and a dozen pepperoni pizzas, that might be problematic

. I’ll go back to simply expecting my preferences to be fulfilled then *sigh"

*quietly puts down bundle of notes and turns of the fuel hose*

Oh...ok

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Aren’t we all demanding? I demand a sexually compatible match. Granted, that limits my audience, but it’s a price I’m willing to pay to feel satisfied.

Surely the OP is also being demanding when he demands that just because he has a dick, every single woman on the site should be queuing up to get at it.

Something tells me there are deeper issues going on with the OP. Egotism, misogyny, entitlement... to name but a few.

Anyway, I demand that someone come round to my house and make me some damn breakfast!

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By *annaBeStrongMan
over a year ago

wokingham

It’s easy to forget that this is a swinging site. If your a single male that doesn’t meet certain criteria (tall, big cock, good looking, good body etc) your just not gonna have much success.

If your looking for fwb tinder is a better Avenue. Fabs is for swingers

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By *ce WingerMan
over a year ago

P.O. Box DE1 0NQ

"Fab my bloody pics! Now!

Crikey, where the Hell have you been Woman ???

I've been hiding.

If you leave it so long again, I'll lend Jim ma binoculars, and he can send out a search party for you!

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By *lirty-CoupleCouple
over a year ago

Bexley

"Demanding women like they own the site"

Or is it that they just 'demand' a bit more than a one line profile and one line message?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Are you getting mixed up with the word demand and preferences. Two different things.

As a man i have stated what im looking for but it still doesnt stop the timewasters even those who claim to match.

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By *arker secrets 321Man
over a year ago

West Bromwich

Women demanding...nothing wrong with a women wanting .respect .politeness.understanding .patience. and some 1 2 av a laugh with x

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By *eavenscentitCouple
over a year ago

barnstaple

The power balance changes when women don't particularly want a relationship. That's when they look at what they really want and need without the usual compromise they would make.

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By *EAT..85Woman
over a year ago

Nottingham

So yes, women can be more demanding because of the skewed m:f ratio.

But the op has a valid point in that some women also take the piss and will make men jump through (unnecessary) hoops, just because they can. And they can, because enough lonely desperate men will jump...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Demanding women like they own the site

Supply vs demand. There’s like 50 guys to even women on here "

The numbers need to be more even but what can be done to attract women to sign up as something must be missing for the numbers to be so unmatched? Genuine question

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By *lym4realCouple
over a year ago

plymouth

Demanding ?? just on here ?? deeply shocked !! and seeing posts ( hope it's joke ..we really really do ) like this ?? we do have to remind ourselves it's the 21st century and we can tell our granddaughters about the bad old days when women were treated as mere objects and had nor right to have opinions etc etc ...

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By *partharmonyCouple
over a year ago

Ruislip

I think it's great that women have a place where they can say what they are looking for and are free to turn down anything they are not. It's one of the few places where women hold the cards and men have to step up if they are going to get anywhere. I think that's a good thing.

That's not to say that women can't be arrogant. Anybody can be. But on the whole I don't see arrogance. I just see women not feeling obliged to do something they don't want to do. How that could be seen as a problem, I don't know. Luke

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"So yes, women can be more demanding because of the skewed m:f ratio.

I gotta say, as an outsider looking in on the power dynamics of some male/female relations, many men do act like desperate puppies. And some women definitely intentionally manipulate that dynamic.

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By *lym4realCouple
over a year ago

plymouth

And as for "Females" making men jump through hoops ..ever hard of freedom of choice ?? up to everyone if they want to play along and way to many on here try the mind games or over promise ?? and it's the desperation of some men on here that encourages behaviour ?? but perhaps it's the "Females" having so much power that upsets the few ??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think it's great that women have a place where they can say what they are looking for and are free to turn down anything they are not. It's one of the few places where women hold the cards and men have to step up if they are going to get anywhere. I think that's a good thing.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Demanding women like they own the site

Supply vs demand. There’s like 50 guys to even women on here

The numbers need to be more even but what can be done to attract women to sign up as something must be missing for the numbers to be so unmatched? Genuine question"

Most single women I know in "the real world" dont want to swing. They want relationships.

A lot also would feel stigma and judgement.

Another reason for the high male ratio here is married men just looking for easy sex. I'm not saying every single guy is married but there is a portion

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By *2000ManMan
over a year ago

Worthing

Welcome to the real world o/p. Good luck!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Demanding women like they own the site

Supply vs demand. There’s like 50 guys to even women on here

The numbers need to be more even but what can be done to attract women to sign up as something must be missing for the numbers to be so unmatched? Genuine question"

Nothing missing it’s just stereotypical bs of that keeps most woman from here

Ie if a woman says they on a date site like T and such then that’s all fine with people and men

Even though they used sed dateing site for nsa and dateing and such

Now if same sed woman is on a swingers site that’s talerd to words sex

Now she’s this that and the other thing

Even though most woman are useing this site the exact same as they would a vinlla date site

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By *imi_RougeWoman
over a year ago

Portsmouth

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over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Fab my bloody pics! Now!

Done sorry it took so long

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By *imi_RougeWoman
over a year ago

Portsmouth

Not demanding... We're just not desperate and we have standards.

I ask very nicely that you send a photo and read my profile, yet that's still too much for some!

It's like me saying all the men in here are entitled.

Put a bit more effort in, be better.

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By *ablo minibar123Woman
over a year ago

"It’s easy to forget that this is a swinging site. If your a single male that doesn’t meet certain criteria (tall, big cock, good looking, good body etc) your just not gonna have much success.

If your looking for fwb tinder is a better Avenue. Fabs is for swingers "

Oh I know a fair few people on here who aren't anything on your list and shock horror they are over 50, and they do very well on here. All because they understand the site and swinging better than others, that often gets people much further than a 6 pack will.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Demanding women like they own the site

Demand what?

I demand an answer"

Ooohhh Ive gone weak at the knees....look at them

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By *imi_RougeWoman
over a year ago

Portsmouth

"It’s easy to forget that this is a swinging site. If your a single male that doesn’t meet certain criteria (tall, big cock, good looking, good body etc) your just not gonna have much success.

If your looking for fwb tinder is a better Avenue. Fabs is for swingers "

Not true, I'm quite happy with average in all of those areas.

It's more about a connection with what I'm looking for.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

For the same reason men are.

Theres a cross section of the population on here, some nice, some not so.

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By *ablo minibar123Woman
over a year ago

" And as for "Females" making men jump through hoops ..ever hard of freedom of choice ?? up to everyone if they want to play along and way to many on here try the mind games or over promise ?? and it's the desperation of some men on here that encourages behaviour ?? but perhaps it's the "Females" having so much power that upsets the few ??

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By *wingsnroundabouts82Couple
over a year ago

Fucksville

"Not demanding... We're just not desperate and we have standards.

I ask very nicely that you send a photo and read my profile, yet that's still too much for some!

It's like me saying all the men in here are entitled.

Put a bit more effort in, be better. "

Exactly this... And a big turn off is a moany ass status update

you are not "entitled" to us women, some are demanding I guess but not all. Maybe your approach needs a rethink....

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By *annaBeStrongMan
over a year ago

wokingham

"It’s easy to forget that this is a swinging site. If your a single male that doesn’t meet certain criteria (tall, big cock, good looking, good body etc) your just not gonna have much success.

If your looking for fwb tinder is a better Avenue. Fabs is for swingers

Not true, I'm quite happy with average in all of those areas.

It's more about a connection with what I'm looking for. "

Well people like you are few and far between on here.

It’s just the way it is

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It’s easy to forget that this is a swinging site. If your a single male that doesn’t meet certain criteria (tall, big cock, good looking, good body etc) your just not gonna have much success.

If your looking for fwb tinder is a better Avenue. Fabs is for swingers

Not true, I'm quite happy with average in all of those areas.

It's more about a connection with what I'm looking for. "

I think fab caters for a range of people who want different experiences. Personally, I want the connection with someone rather a long list of fucks with people I dont know.

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By *elle xWoman
over a year ago

Doire Theas

I’m not demanding at all

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The right women will find you

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By *rincess peachWoman
over a year ago

shits creek

What you call demands, others may call boundaries.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Demanding women like they own the site

Demand what?

I demand an answer"

Brilliant!!

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

At least the op has had lots of comments from women

that’s the idea, isn’t it?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Demanding women like they own the site"

Did someone not get a message back?

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By *rincess peachWoman
over a year ago

shits creek

Men can be demanding too ya know.

People I've never communicated with sending things like:

You WILL answer your front door dressed in nothing but a slut collar. I walk in and you drop to your knees, take my cock out and suck it. I will face fuck you and then flip you over, ram my cock up your arse and spunk me seed inside you leaving you dripping. You will not speak, just do as I say.

I leave.

That's not in my inbox right now but I've had plenty along those lines.

I personally think that's way more demanding than saying something like "you must be single, not fab single, I'm talking properly fucking single" don't ya think?

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By *tephTV67TV/TS
over a year ago

Cheshire

Why do Men complain about the site and stay ?

Go if it’s such a hassle for you and the Women on here are too demanding, just go you won’t be missed .

Every time these types of threads appear, only gym fit guys with big cocks do well, no they don’t !

It’s the guys who put in the effort that do well. I’ve seen ordinary looking Men with plenty of verifications from Women, but funnily enough they’ve got great profiles and have attended socials and clubs. Maybe that effort is the reason Women on here like them, also maybe they’re able to read a profile or two as well, so tailor their messages to the person they’re contacting.

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By *sm265Woman
over a year ago

Shangri-la

If by 'demanding' you mean they have standards & preferences & are not willing to have sex with every man who asks, then yes, I'm definitely demanding.

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By *urls and DressesWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere near here

"Men can be demanding too ya know.

People I've never communicated with sending things like:

I leave.

That's not in my inbox right now but I've had plenty along those lines.

I personally think that's way more demanding than saying something like "you must be single, not fab single, I'm talking properly fucking single" don't ya think?

Preach Peach!

Perfectly said

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Fab my bloody pics! Now!

Don’t have to ask me twice sexy one

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By *parkle1974Woman
over a year ago

Leeds

Demanding??? Excuse me for having PREFERENCES and knowing what I want and what I definitely don't

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If by 'demanding' you mean they have standards & preferences & are not willing to have sex with every man who asks, then yes, I'm definitely demanding. "

bloody hell

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Demanding women like they own the site"

It’s their prerogative as it is a mans, each and every one of us has likes and dislikes and if you fall into a woman’s dislike/not interested pile then why does this make Her/she/other become demanding?

Each to their own I say

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By *arker secrets 321Man
over a year ago

West Bromwich

"Demanding??? Excuse me for having PREFERENCES and knowing what I want and what I definitely don't

Am I wot u want lol x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

People have their preferences it’s not demanding at all.

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By *ucka39Man
over a year ago

Newcastle

Aren't we all or suppose to be you might be missing out

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By *lym4realCouple
over a year ago

plymouth

Well mrs4 is very very very demanding she likes at least 2 brain cells and freshly scrapped knuckles and some dribble plus the odd grunt and pointing gestures and of course the one arm that's over developed due to the amount of pumping the rod ?? but pretty hard to find on here ?? ..also younger and slim and not a panda and anyone who isn't in to ferry sex and anyone who can use a knife and fork and a spoon without causing damage to their facial areas ? Christ knows how we've survived 26 years together ? nearly forgot she quite likes the odd "Orgasm" and would like to derive some sort of "Pleasure" and be treated as a fellow human being and not just like....

these modern women ...never like it my dads day you know !!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

" Well mrs4 is very very very demanding she likes at least 2 brain cells and freshly scrapped knuckles and some dribble plus the odd grunt and pointing gestures and of course the one arm that's over developed due to the amount of pumping the rod ?? but pretty hard to find on here ?? ..also younger and slim and not a panda and anyone who isn't in to ferry sex and anyone who can use a knife and fork and a spoon without causing damage to their facial areas ? Christ knows how we've survived 26 years together ? nearly forgot she quite likes the odd "Orgasm" and would like to derive some sort of "Pleasure" and be treated as a fellow human being and not just like....

these modern women ...never like it my dads day you know !!

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By *parkle1974Woman
over a year ago

Leeds

"Demanding??? Excuse me for having PREFERENCES and knowing what I want and what I definitely don't

Am I wot u want lol x "

What...again! And they say woman are demanding

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

"Demanding women like they own the site"

The O.P. comes in - shoots his load - fucks off......... Pretty typical

136 Fabbers piss in the wind about his release.

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

Tune in for part 2 ....... He emptied his balls

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By *rder66Man
over a year ago

Tatooine

Are you demanding to know why you think women are demanding or do you want to know why women are demanding not to fuck you.

I've had little sleep and feeling like I need a hug, sorry.

Not sorry, stop blaming women because they asked for a dick pic over the toilet bowl to check if you flush.

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By *uietlykinkymeWoman
over a year ago

kinky land

"I am demanding, and why not

It depends what you’re demanding.

If it’s £5,000,000 in unmarked £20 notes, a fuelled plane at Luton airport and a dozen pepperoni pizzas, that might be problematic"

Okay okay, you keep the pizzas and Liverpool airport?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I like demanding

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By *oelDorianMan
over a year ago

vanaheim

It sounds like the OP isn’t having a great time and OP they have the right to want what they want. As the number of men dwarfs the number of women on here so they have the right to know what they want and to have standards. Maybe op reflect on what you are doing and how your approach is.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Cause matriarchy, and shit!

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By *uietlykinkymeWoman
over a year ago

kinky land

Please only offer profile advice when someone asks for it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I cant tell whether the OP is serious or having a tongue in cheek bit of fun

Which one is it OP......I demand an answer!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

What are their demands?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Bloody women,coming on here with their own agenda,wants and needs.

Who do they think they are?

Don't they know there are desperate men on here?

Desperate for any sign of recognition?

Bloody women?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Bloody women,coming on here with their own agenda,wants and needs.

Who do they think they are?

Don't they know there are desperate men on here?

Desperate for any sign of recognition?

Bloody women?

You tell ‘me!! We should kick the women and their demands OFF and keep this only for...oh wait, there’s a flaw in this rebellion, isn’t there?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"What are their demands?"

We dont negotiate with terrorists. If they release the hostages then we can talk .... wait ... wrong movie

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By *ools and the brainCouple
over a year ago

couple, us we him her.

"What are their demands?"

£50,000 in cash,

A helicopter,and 4 large margarita pizzas.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Fab my bloody pics! Now!

I felt compelled to comply

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A better question would be why are there so many fragile and entitled men? Not just on fab, just full stop.

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By *hunky GentMan
over a year ago

Maldon and Peterborough

"What are their demands?

£50,000 in cash,

A helicopter,and 4 large margarita pizzas."

I need to order more pizzas.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I am demanding, and why not

It depends what you’re demanding.

If it’s £5,000,000 in unmarked £20 notes, a fuelled plane at Luton airport and a dozen pepperoni pizzas, that might be problematic

. I’ll go back to simply expecting my preferences to be fulfilled then *sigh

*quietly puts down bundle of notes and turns of the fuel hose*

Oh...ok

Dammit

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Flip side of that coin ......Why are the vast majority of single guys on this site desperate , needy , liars , fakes and abusive ?

I don’t think this is true.

I’ve not had any single guys be abusive towards me in nine years.

Twice I’ve had a random nasty message. One from a woman. One from a couple.

I've had a few abusive messages from single guys, usually after rejection. But they're not common, most men in here are lovely, just like in real life. "

I'll join you both as well, never really had rude messages the very occasional one after a rejection message but no more than one, possibly two, a year!

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By *imbobaMan
over a year ago

Glasgow

"Demanding women like they own the site

The O.P. comes in - shoots his load - fucks off......... Pretty typical

136 Fabbers piss in the wind about his release. "

Exactly what I was thinking. Up to mischief. Or a drive-by forum post.

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By *iamondCougarWoman
over a year ago

Norfuck! / Lincolnshire

It’s not a case of women being demanding, it’s more a case of we know what we are looking for to meet our requirements, and most won’t settle for anything less

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By *irebird567Woman
over a year ago

near by

"It’s not a case of women being demanding, it’s more a case of we know what we are looking for to meet our requirements, and most won’t settle for anything less "

Amen to this

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By *rincess peachWoman
over a year ago

shits creek

"It’s not a case of women being demanding, it’s more a case of we know what we are looking for to meet our requirements, and most won’t settle for anything less "

But ... but .... but ....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It’s not a case of women being demanding, it’s more a case of we know what we are looking for to meet our requirements, and most won’t settle for anything less

Amen to this

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By * F 2018Couple
over a year ago

shropshire

"Demanding women like they own the site"

Demanding ??

Sounds like you've had some. what did they demand ??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think the correct terminology might be entitled. A female fabber recently commented on this. I have seen profiles with such a strict criteria of who they want to meet that I just can’t take them seriously and just ignore.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The ratio is in women's favour....it's a buyers market so to speak. As a guy we normally would fuck anything, given the green light. But it's all good fun

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By *rincess peachWoman
over a year ago

shits creek

"I think the correct terminology might be entitled. A female fabber recently commented on this. I have seen profiles with such a strict criteria of who they want to meet that I just can’t take them seriously and just ignore."

I disagree. Entitled is thinking you deserve something just for breathing.

Having preferences or boundaries (or demanding as some see it) is being clear on things you will or won't accept, but understanding you may not find what you're after.... and being fine with it.

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By *parkle1974Woman
over a year ago

Leeds

I think entitled is worse than demanding!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I disagree. Entitled is thinking you deserve something just for breathing.

Having preferences or boundaries (or demanding as some see it) is being clear on things you will or won't accept, but understanding you may not find what you're after.... and being fine with it."

This

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By *lym4realCouple
over a year ago

plymouth

Well we are all "Entitled" to have preferences or even certain criteria or as some would class it as standards as this a site for adults although the way some act it doesn't seem so ?? and we only demand ..Manners..Respect...Social skills and most of all some kind of sense of humour and appreciation of either irony or sarcasm or being greedy tarts both ?? and just because some regard it as a "Sex Site" some do not ?? and lots of other sites to try to get laid on but as we do find more & more & more people tend to think that just because it is a "Swingers Site" everyone is basically gagging for it and desperate ? so when you come across people who aren't it can be quite a shock to the system it seems ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Whys that entitled, entitled means believing that you are inherently deserving of privileges or special treatment, that’s not what that is, that’s just a preference, They obviously have a reason for the criteria, otherwise they’re making unnecessary hard for themselves, why would they just settle on someone who doesn’t meet what when they want.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Fab my bloody pics! Now!

yes miss..."

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By *phroditeWoman
over a year ago

(She/ her) in Sensualityland

I always thought that we can look at a profile and

1. Like it and make contact

2. Dislike it and be offended/ disgruntled

3. Dislike it and move on without being offended....

Cannot see the big deal really - what am I missing? xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Then obviously you are not what that person was looking for.

How clever of you to ignore. I applaud you

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By *rincess peachWoman
over a year ago

shits creek

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By *heonixRaven 777Woman
over a year ago

Guildford

I am sorry you feel that way, but that’s not being entitled, I feel it’s simply self respect of ones own body.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I want cake now, come on chop chop

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Demanding women like they own the site"

I've got a coffee now so let the fun commence

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By *rincess peachWoman
over a year ago

shits creek

"I always thought that we can look at a profile and

1. Like it and make contact

2. Dislike it and be offended/ disgruntled

3. Dislike it and move on without being offended....

Cannot see the big deal really - what am I missing? xx

I think there's been some confusion between women having preferences/boundaries being deemed demanding. With an air of expectation that women are obliged to say yes, because man has penis instead of accepting they're entitled to say no.

Same as fellas really but apparently it's gender specific.

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By *inkyInkedBiWoman
over a year ago

"I always thought that we can look at a profile and

1. Like it and make contact

2. Dislike it and be offended/ disgruntled

3. Dislike it and move on without being offended....

Cannot see the big deal really - what am I missing? xx

Same as fellas really but apparently it's gender specific."

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By *inkyInkedBiWoman
over a year ago

"It’s easy to forget that this is a swinging site. If your a single male that doesn’t meet certain criteria (tall, big cock, good looking, good body etc) your just not gonna have much success.

If your looking for fwb tinder is a better Avenue. Fabs is for swingers

Not true, I'm quite happy with average in all of those areas.

It's more about a connection with what I'm looking for.

Well people like you are few and far between on here.

It’s just the way it is "

It’s not the way it is. Yes I want to be attracted to a person, but attraction is more than a six pack or big dick.

Don’t speak for all women on here

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It’s easy to forget that this is a swinging site. If your a single male that doesn’t meet certain criteria (tall, big cock, good looking, good body etc) your just not gonna have much success.

If your looking for fwb tinder is a better Avenue. Fabs is for swingers

Not true, I'm quite happy with average in all of those areas.

It's more about a connection with what I'm looking for.

Well people like you are few and far between on here.

It’s just the way it is

It’s not the way it is. Yes I want to be attracted to a person, but attraction is more than a six pack or big dick.

Don’t speak for all women on here "

Agree. That isn’t the way it is at all. It’s about connection and chemistry.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"It’s easy to forget that this is a swinging site. If your a single male that doesn’t meet certain criteria (tall, big cock, good looking, good body etc) your just not gonna have much success.

If your looking for fwb tinder is a better Avenue. Fabs is for swingers

Not true, I'm quite happy with average in all of those areas.

It's more about a connection with what I'm looking for.

Well people like you are few and far between on here.

It’s just the way it is

It’s not the way it is. Yes I want to be attracted to a person, but attraction is more than a six pack or big dick.

Don’t speak for all women on here "

That is very true attraction comes in many forms more often people do go on personality and building a connection, it’s if you click really...

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