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Do men get many messages (part 2)

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By *ornyJ3000 OP   Man
over a year ago

Near you

Men - how empty is your inbox?

Ladies - Why don’t many ladies send the first message to men? What can men do better to tempt you?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I often messaged first. I cannot speak for other women in this instance;-)

What men need to do? I have no clue. Sometimes you are just drawn to someone's words or energy they emanate. There is no one size suits all here.

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

When my filters aren't set to "no" (and have restrictions, just not "no one can pass"), I just get too many messages. I do actually look at all of them.

If I choose to keep my filters up when I meet again - engagement in statuses and the forum. I've contacted many men first via profile interaction, and met some of them. Good profile and text.

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By *heMightySpud69Man
over a year ago

Milton keynes

I get a very slow trickle of messages, usually after many unsuccessful attempts. I don't think I've ever had a woman message me first though

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By *heRazorsEdgeMan
over a year ago

Wales/ All over UK

Men outnumber women massively on here, so any woman with her inbox open to single guys is probably inundated.

Some women and couples do message guys first as well, but as they have far more to choose from it’s unlikely that any particular guy will get the hundreds of messages that women and couples get

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By *orraine999Woman
over a year ago

Somewhere

I’ve sent first messages quite often.

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By *heMightySpud69Man
over a year ago

Milton keynes


"I’ve sent first messages quite often. "

Spread the good word

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I’ve sent first messages quite often.

Spread the good word "

Hallelujah

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By *igerstyle2k2Man
over a year ago

Oxfordshire

I've had a few random/obscure messages from people asking to meet right now this minute. I also received a message from a couple asking to use my place to have sex in but apparently I was only allowed to watch

I declined.

As for being messaged first by a women, just the once and that was because I'd chatted to her on her old profile.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Zero

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’m mainly getting guys messaging, I’ve got no judgement but it’s clearly not what I’m here for

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By *orraine999Woman
over a year ago

Somewhere


"I’ve sent first messages quite often.

Spread the good word

Hallelujah "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I’ve sent first messages quite often.

Spread the good word

Hallelujah

"

At least you know what you want

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By *sianmale89Man
over a year ago

Stockport

To be hones my inboxt remains more or less empty..

For me personally all my years being on here I'd say at best maybe every few months I get a message off single women or couples...

It's okay though as I never really have bothered going around cold messaging random people on here as I see no point to it..

I more stuck to interaction at swingers clubs/socials or on fab I'd just occasionally interact on chat rooms or forums..

On average I'd probably get messaged by men or sometimes T-Girls a few times a month but I just politely decline and talk/level with them that I appreciate the interest but I'm not what they seek as much as I value the interest it's not reciprocated..

For the most part their greatful that I was polite enough to reply and not be a total prick towards them as others have been in the past with them. I even throw in a joke or two or some words off encouragement then go our separate ways and I wish them luck in their search..

When it comes to women or couples...

Hmmm maybe once every few months at best I'd receive a message from them but normally its some one who I crossed paths with on chat/forums/swing clubs or some one who likes what they see..

I prefer it this way tbh as I lurk/wonder around more it keeps interactions limited and less say for e.g. Drama or hassle so it works out in the long run...

are there quite a lot off women/couples on here who catch my attention in more ways then one who I'd happily meet?

Absolutely there are many but I dare not go messaging them as sometimes it's best just leave it be, what is meant to be will be one way or another and if not that's just life...

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By *olly_chromaticTV/TS
over a year ago

Stockport

Ladies, I have a solution! Take your unwanted messages from men, forward them to different men It's genius, you clear your inbox, and all the men are happy because they get messages

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By *newinkMan
over a year ago

Durham

Mine has tumble s in there

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Squat didly. My best ever was 2 .

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By *ick1962Man
over a year ago

Gloucestershire

I am inundated with messages, I only usually read the first couple of dozen.

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By *isces WomanWoman
over a year ago

West London

I've messaged 1st if find them hot or to my liking.

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By *oddess NailaWoman
over a year ago

London & Edinburgh

I’ve messaged a few times but most of the time you didn’t really get an opportunity. I’ve sometimes had 800 in one day, even on a quiet day is still 20+ so there’s not really much need for females to message first.

I’m not really into messages as prefer face to face (which obviously isn’t an option just now) so that doesn’t help either

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Thanks to the last thread. I’ve now had a few.

But really, women do sometimes message first.

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