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By *adrq OP   Man
over a year ago

monaghan

i am so empty inside, i feel i will nerver be happy , i dont believe in my self ,i am not optimistic about my future ,i find it hard 2 engage with people ,i am allways afraid of taking risks ,nobody would find me interesting ,I feel like i am retreating in 2 my shell ,i feel unnatractive ,i cant remember what its like 2 have fun ,i cant remember when i laughed ,i am not happy with my job , i am no good in my job ,i feel like i have screwed up my chances 2 find happiness ,i cant remember the last time i was content in my self ,i know i will be on my own for the rest of my life an it scares me , i miss company ,i hate pretending everything is ok with people when its not , i feel like a failour ,what good am i to anyone , i feel i dont fit in 2 the world anymore ,what good am i 2 anyone , i hate feeling this way

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I am sorry to hear that dude. Feel free to message me anytime you would like to talk. I am sure you are interesting

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"i am so empty inside, i feel i will nerver be happy , i dont believe in my self ,i am not optimistic about my future ,i find it hard 2 engage with people ,i am allways afraid of taking risks ,nobody would find me interesting ,I feel like i am retreating in 2 my shell ,i feel unnatractive ,i cant remember what its like 2 have fun ,i cant remember when i laughed ,i am not happy with my job , i am no good in my job ,i feel like i have screwed up my chances 2 find happiness ,i cant remember the last time i was content in my self ,i know i will be on my own for the rest of my life an it scares me , i miss company ,i hate pretending everything is ok with people when its not , i feel like a failour ,what good am i to anyone , i feel i dont fit in 2 the world anymore ,what good am i 2 anyone , i hate feeling this way "

If it's of any help... I feel like this too

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By *ob Carpe DiemMan
over a year ago

Torquay

I'm glass half full, sorry for you that you are not.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Your feelings are valid, and there is nothing wrong with the way you feel.

Do you have any support, family or friends who can you turn to?

If not, have you thought about some online support, there aren’t resources available.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm glass half full, sorry for you that you are not."

That’s not helpful

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By *arlomaleMan
over a year ago

darlington


"i am so empty inside, i feel i will nerver be happy , i dont believe in my self ,i am not optimistic about my future ,i find it hard 2 engage with people ,i am allways afraid of taking risks ,nobody would find me interesting ,I feel like i am retreating in 2 my shell ,i feel unnatractive ,i cant remember what its like 2 have fun ,i cant remember when i laughed ,i am not happy with my job , i am no good in my job ,i feel like i have screwed up my chances 2 find happiness ,i cant remember the last time i was content in my self ,i know i will be on my own for the rest of my life an it scares me , i miss company ,i hate pretending everything is ok with people when its not , i feel like a failour ,what good am i to anyone , i feel i dont fit in 2 the world anymore ,what good am i 2 anyone , i hate feeling this way "
please remember that you are someone’s son you’re also someone’s friend you’re part of peoples life’s weather you think you’re not and you are loved by people who know you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Perhaps Fab is not the best place to be, feeling that way ? It sounds like you need constructive real life advice and support. Take care of yourself and don't ever think you're the only one who has such thoughts.

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By *.R.MMan
over a year ago

Norfolk


"i am so empty inside, i feel i will nerver be happy , i dont believe in my self ,i am not optimistic about my future ,i find it hard 2 engage with people ,i am allways afraid of taking risks ,nobody would find me interesting ,I feel like i am retreating in 2 my shell ,i feel unnatractive ,i cant remember what its like 2 have fun ,i cant remember when i laughed ,i am not happy with my job , i am no good in my job ,i feel like i have screwed up my chances 2 find happiness ,i cant remember the last time i was content in my self ,i know i will be on my own for the rest of my life an it scares me , i miss company ,i hate pretending everything is ok with people when its not , i feel like a failour ,what good am i to anyone , i feel i dont fit in 2 the world anymore ,what good am i 2 anyone , i hate feeling this way

If it's of any help... I feel like this too"

Guys, sorry to hear that you’re both feeling like this. These unusual times are really hard, if you need to chat message me do not sit in silence bottling things up. If not Are there any friends or family that you can turn to?

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By *nnocentimesMan
over a year ago

over there by that tree

It’s good you’ve spoken up, it’s the first step to start feeling better.

There are plenty of organisations out there to help but if you need it call the Samaritans on 116 123

They are fantastic!

Good luck fella

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By *imi_RougeWoman
over a year ago

Portsmouth

Please be brave and ring your GP or seek other professional help, or if you have any private insurance/through your work, see a counsellor.

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

I'm sorry, that's a difficult place to be. It is possible to get through.

Please talk to someone close to you, and ideally your GP.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

try the samaritans, they are really good, i had a friend who felt the same way, and with their help he turned himself around, now hes happy and outgoing, we all have bad times, what matters is how you deal with it, there is a good life out there for everyone, mental health issues should not be ignored, life can get better but you have to be proactive, best of luck, hope things work out for you, and as for finding someone, some of my friends are longtime single, and are very happy with it, i have had 3 long term partners, and for various reasons they didnt work out, now i have a lovely woman, but we dont live together, so we both have our own space, it works for us.

i got down a couple of years ago, my partner of 10 years left me , while i was away working for someone else, i came home to an empty house, a week later i was diagnosed with serious cancer, it almost got too much at times, now im cancer free, have a great flat and a lovely girlfriend, so change can happen, it was a fucking hard time, sometimes i thought about giving up, but im so pleased i didnt. hope this helps

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By *ersey GirlCouple
over a year ago

Glasgow

I've been to Monaghan. It's beautiful

R

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

oh and to add to that i had to give up the job i loved and had worked so hard all my life for, im just not able to do it anymore, that was the hardest pill to swallow, i will pm you so you can reply if you want to, best of luck

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By *nabelle21Woman
over a year ago

B38

I am sorry that you're feeling this way.

You sound so overwhelmed and when things build up and yiu feel this way it can be really difficult to see anything positive.

It's good that you've opened up here. You don't or shouldn't have to pretend everything is OK. And if you talk about it you may be pleasantly surprised with the reactions that you get back.

You are not alone in feeling this way..I know that's probably much help but it's true.

Reach out to people who will listen to you.

Please don't lose the faith! Things can only get better...give yourself some time xx

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By *asmeenTV/TS
over a year ago

STOKE ON TRENT


"i am so empty inside, i feel i will nerver be happy , i dont believe in my self ,i am not optimistic about my future ,i find it hard 2 engage with people ,i am allways afraid of taking risks ,nobody would find me interesting ,I feel like i am retreating in 2 my shell ,i feel unnatractive ,i cant remember what its like 2 have fun ,i cant remember when i laughed ,i am not happy with my job , i am no good in my job ,i feel like i have screwed up my chances 2 find happiness ,i cant remember the last time i was content in my self ,i know i will be on my own for the rest of my life an it scares me , i miss company ,i hate pretending everything is ok with people when its not , i feel like a failour ,what good am i to anyone , i feel i dont fit in 2 the world anymore ,what good am i 2 anyone , i hate feeling this way "

Hugs xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I am sorry that you're feeling this way.

You sound so overwhelmed and when things build up and yiu feel this way it can be really difficult to see anything positive.

It's good that you've opened up here. You don't or shouldn't have to pretend everything is OK. And if you talk about it you may be pleasantly surprised with the reactions that you get back.

You are not alone in feeling this way..I know that's probably much help but it's true.

Reach out to people who will listen to you.

Please don't lose the faith! Things can only get better...give yourself some time xx"

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By *adrq OP   Man
over a year ago

monaghan

the only thing that saving me i am a good talker

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By *nabelle21Woman
over a year ago

B38


"the only thing that saving me i am a good talker "

Well that's a good thing and can only be helpful.

Good luck with everything x

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By *adrq OP   Man
over a year ago

monaghan


"i am so empty inside, i feel i will nerver be happy , i dont believe in my self ,i am not optimistic about my future ,i find it hard 2 engage with people ,i am allways afraid of taking risks ,nobody would find me interesting ,I feel like i am retreating in 2 my shell ,i feel unnatractive ,i cant remember what its like 2 have fun ,i cant remember when i laughed ,i am not happy with my job , i am no good in my job ,i feel like i have screwed up my chances 2 find happiness ,i cant remember the last time i was content in my self ,i know i will be on my own for the rest of my life an it scares me , i miss company ,i hate pretending everything is ok with people when its not , i feel like a failour ,what good am i to anyone , i feel i dont fit in 2 the world anymore ,what good am i 2 anyone , i hate feeling this way

If it's of any help... I feel like this too"
people says there lots of people feeling the same , i dont want anybody else feeling the same pain i am feeling , i would not wish it on my worst enemy

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By *gent CoulsonMan
over a year ago

Secret hideaway in the pennines

My life got totally screwed up early this year. Try to remember you are not the only one who feels like that.

I have ended up on medication for the depression and anxiety, contact your gp.

Register with healy minds on the NHS

It has taken me a while, but I am now starting to feel more positive about myself. I still don't know what the future holds, it times I still feel I have failed, but I am still here, facing each day as it comes.

There is help out there, all you have to do is reach out for it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"i am so empty inside, i feel i will nerver be happy , i dont believe in my self ,i am not optimistic about my future ,i find it hard 2 engage with people ,i am allways afraid of taking risks ,nobody would find me interesting ,I feel like i am retreating in 2 my shell ,i feel unnatractive ,i cant remember what its like 2 have fun ,i cant remember when i laughed ,i am not happy with my job , i am no good in my job ,i feel like i have screwed up my chances 2 find happiness ,i cant remember the last time i was content in my self ,i know i will be on my own for the rest of my life an it scares me , i miss company ,i hate pretending everything is ok with people when its not , i feel like a failour ,what good am i to anyone , i feel i dont fit in 2 the world anymore ,what good am i 2 anyone , i hate feeling this way "

Try to have positive thoughts in your days OP. Mix up your environments and get outdoors, exercise, try to connect with people, however that works best for you, be honest with those you are close to, and utilise support available, I’d recommend GP and ensure you really help them understand how you feel on your worst days and best days. Plenty of online support too through charities mentioned. Perhaps try a new hobby to occupy your mind and distract your thought process too. Nothing is ever as bad as it can feel at times.

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By *rooperRedMan
over a year ago

Littlehampton

Rather than saying do this or do that, try talking to a coach. There are plenty out there and coaching can really work wonders. Coaching is not about giving advice, or "pep talk", it's a guided conversation which lets you build solutions based around your own circumstances.

It's not expensive, and you can find free ones as well. Look at coachmefree.com or www.thecoaching.directory.

There's also the Men Walk And Talk groups on Facebook.

Find a solution that works for you, based around you.

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By *rooperRedMan
over a year ago

Littlehampton

Should say I have my own coaching business but not pushing that. Not affiliated with the above mentioned other than I trained with Animas.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A few years back I felt just the same even to the point of trying to take my own life on more then one occasion. But I was put in contact with a mental health team and spoke to a specialist nurse in mental health team who helped me find the positives in my life and focus on them I not saying this help was a miracle cure but it helps you find hope yes I do still get days when I feel very low but I think positive thoughts that helps and that’s how I get though life twist and turns please mate seek help and don’t bottle it up like I did I was lucky enough to get help but that only came after trying to take my life please get help now talk to people friends family doctor or someone that will listen and not judge you for what are

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"the only thing that saving me i am a good talker "

That helps. To talk it all through and rationalise these beliefs. Think how you could put it to a good use.

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over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"i am so empty inside, i feel i will nerver be happy , i dont believe in my self ..."

I know you feel like you are alone in this but these are very common feelings for people who've had some time on their own. You definitely need to talk to somebody, a counsellor or psychological therapist of some sort, but I would suggest you go to your GP first to rule out any physical problem. By the way, if you're taking drugs or alcohol regularly, that can affect your mood - try to get off them.

It seems clear that your problem is that for some reason your self-esteem is low and that's affecting everything else. Your mind is working in bleak circles. But remember your life can change in a moment. Don't give into despair. There's always hope. Circles can be broken.

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