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By *ornyJ3000 OP   Man
over a year ago

Near you

Is it just me or do women not send many first messages on here?

I see a lot of ladies saying they have hundreds of messages.

Should men stop sending as many messages, or should ladies send out more, or both?

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By *asmeenTV/TS
over a year ago

STOKE ON TRENT

I get lots

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

Most men report similarly.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I send out hundreds each day.

He’s never replied to one of them though

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By *asmeenTV/TS
over a year ago

STOKE ON TRENT

Lots of friends x

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By *asmeenTV/TS
over a year ago

STOKE ON TRENT


"I send out hundreds each day.

He’s never replied to one of them though "

Hes busy x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I do when I talk to myself

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By *inell1Man
over a year ago

Ipswich

Not this guy

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By *offiaCoolWoman
over a year ago

Kidsgrove


"I do when I talk to myself "

Not many 64 year olds available to message you

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By *oxy lady40Woman
over a year ago

bridgwater

I copy and paste hundreds a day and get no response

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You beat me to it.

Can't even wink the guy!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I do when I talk to myself

Not many 64 year olds available to message you "

It seems they all are at Mecca bingo !

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By *r TriomanMan
over a year ago

Chippenham Malmesbury area

I do sometimes but they're just FAF messages from women so I ignore them

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By *partharmonyCouple
over a year ago

Ruislip

The number of men on here outweighs the number of women, so the messages men get tend to be few and far between.

It's up to women how many messages they send. As for men, in my opinion they should send out as many as they want to as long as they are relevant and respectful. When you hear women saying they get a vast number of messages, most of the ones they receive are just not worth reading.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I just send FAF? And strangely get blocked.

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By *asmeenTV/TS
over a year ago

STOKE ON TRENT


"I do when I talk to myself

Not many 64 year olds available to message you

It seems they all are at Mecca bingo ! "

Its lockdown

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By *sm265Woman
over a year ago

Shangri-la

I will send a message if I see a profile which interests me enough, it doesn't happen very often though.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Dont get that many

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I do when I talk to myself

Not many 64 year olds available to message you

It seems they all are at Mecca bingo !

Its lockdown "

Inspector Clouseau got me

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By *asmeenTV/TS
over a year ago

STOKE ON TRENT


"I do when I talk to myself

Not many 64 year olds available to message you

It seems they all are at Mecca bingo !

Its lockdown

Inspector Clouseau got me "

Miss marple

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By *stbury DavenportMan
over a year ago

Nottingham

I haven't had a message in three months.

I hardly ever send them at all either, though. Given how much thought I put into every single one, it doesn't seem worth the effort given the likelihood of them getting lost in the deluge of hundreds of "FAF" messages.

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By *offiaCoolWoman
over a year ago

Kidsgrove


"I do when I talk to myself

Not many 64 year olds available to message you

It seems they all are at Mecca bingo ! "

You need to move to the Mecca bingo capital

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

personally i just 'send all' to every male on fab. i find copying and pasting really works well for me Px

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not from anyone local, but usually when I make a good point in the forums.

So no, I don't...

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By *offiaCoolWoman
over a year ago

Kidsgrove

I occasionally send a message if someone's profile is good and they appear to be seeking the same.

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By *ornyJ3000 OP   Man
over a year ago

Near you

I’m not that active on here, and not meeting at the moment so it doesn’t bother me too much. But spending time reading through profiles and then writing individual messages, knowing it’s going to be sat in a pile of 500 other messages doesn’t give you much hope.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I haven't had a message in three months.

I hardly ever send them at all either, though. Given how much thought I put into every single one, it doesn't seem worth the effort given the likelihood of them getting lost in the deluge of hundreds of "FAF" messages. "

This

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By *rivateparts!Man
over a year ago

Walking down the only road I've ever known!

I've gone days without getting one and it's very rare a lady makes first contact.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not as many as the women I must be doing it all wrong

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By *uyforfun88869Man
over a year ago

Leigh

Wish I got more messages it's good to chat

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By *ornyJ3000 OP   Man
over a year ago

Near you


"I haven't had a message in three months.

I hardly ever send them at all either, though. Given how much thought I put into every single one, it doesn't seem worth the effort given the likelihood of them getting lost in the deluge of hundreds of "FAF" messages. "

Absolutely!

I went 3 months without one too. I could have written this!

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By *uke olovingmanMan
over a year ago

Gravesend

Nope... once in a blue moon

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

men who are they?

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By *BootyfulDayWoman
over a year ago

…

I like to write first messages to guys that catch my eye, either on the forums or in local searches

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By *ornyJ3000 OP   Man
over a year ago

Near you


"personally i just 'send all' to every male on fab. i find copying and pasting really works well for me Px "

I must have missed my message from you! lol

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By *assConductorMan
over a year ago

the wild

Occasionally I do; but most of my messages are from couples, transwomen and cd/tvs.

I assume men are the majority demographic here so that'll skew things.

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By *hilloutMan
over a year ago

All over the place! Northwesr, , Southwest

My inbox is a tumblewe*d magnet

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Think the most I've had in a day is about 6. Was amazed and shocked at the same time

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I copy and paste hundreds a day and get no response "

We may be messaging the same guy.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Some do some don't its just the way of the world

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By *eyond PurityCouple
over a year ago

Lincolnshire

Does it matter how many messages you receive? You only need one from the right person

Single girls probably have hundreds but 99% of them they probably delete anyway...so it’s not that you’d probably have a greater choice the more messages you get, you’d just spend more time having to do FAB admin...

K

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By *oxy lady40Woman
over a year ago

bridgwater


"I copy and paste hundreds a day and get no response

We may be messaging the same guy. "
it so annoying we doing all that paste and copy and nothing

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By *ornyJ3000 OP   Man
over a year ago

Near you

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By *otsossieMan
over a year ago

Chesterfield

I get some. They make me happy.

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By *ornyJ3000 OP   Man
over a year ago

Near you


"Does it matter how many messages you receive? You only need one from the right person

Single girls probably have hundreds but 99% of them they probably delete anyway...so it’s not that you’d probably have a greater choice the more messages you get, you’d just spend more time having to do FAB admin...

K"

If I didn’t have any it would make a difference. I wouldn’t have any choice!

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By *ligible GentMan
over a year ago

Wilmslow

Could probably count on one hand. Good day when you do get them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Could you imagine single guys could only send 5 messages a day... would it be quiet on fab?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Very rarely

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By *ornyJ3000 OP   Man
over a year ago

Near you


"I get some. They make me happy. "

I think when us men get messages it makes us happier.

I think some ladies see it as a chore to go through them all.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

we message men when we want to meet one and like the sound of that guy, but not that often, we find it easyer that way, rather than having to sift thro a hundred fancy a fuck messages from guys that we would never meet anyway

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've had 3 ladies so far enter my box since I've been back

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By *rooperRedMan
over a year ago

Littlehampton

Like, zero. If you do get a reply then invariably you get ghosted. Just the way it is. Imagine if it was the opposite and you got two hundred mails from women every day, would you shag every single one let alone even reply to them?

I dont get offended if I don't get a reply, but equally it's why I mostly send winks. It's just a waste of time otherwise.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes my mate gets hundreds per day the sporney git

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By *ornyJ3000 OP   Man
over a year ago

Near you


"Like, zero. If you do get a reply then invariably you get ghosted. Just the way it is. Imagine if it was the opposite and you got two hundred mails from women every day, would you shag every single one let alone even reply to them?

I dont get offended if I don't get a reply, but equally it's why I mostly send winks. It's just a waste of time otherwise. "

What’s the etiquette on winks though?

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By *stbury DavenportMan
over a year ago

Nottingham


"Imagine if it was the opposite and you got two hundred mails from women every day, would you shag every single one"

I suspect I'd have a damn good go at it.

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By *ily WhiteWoman
over a year ago

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On the rare occasions that I see someone that I like the look of and think is compatible, I'll definitely send a message.

I rarely even look at my inbox unless I'm playing a forum game, let alone read or answer any messages.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I get a few through the forum games and sometimes 1-3 ish a day about wanting to play or get to know me etc x

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By *um2me123Man
over a year ago

burin

I always am the giver of messages....lol...seldom am i first to get em....??

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I rarely get first message from a woman, occasionally the wife in a couple does

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’ve never got any messages in my life on here.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As with everything in life, you get out of Fab what you put into it.

Want to receive some interesting, exciting messages from attractive people? Write some interesting & exciting messages to people you find attractive.

Yes - it takes effort, but anything worth doing in life does too. Speaking from experience, it's really not so difficult & the rewards are more than worth it!

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By *stbury DavenportMan
over a year ago

Nottingham


"I think when us men get messages it makes us happier.

I think some ladies see it as a chore to go through them all. "

It's a question of two things: Volume, and empathy.

Drowning at sea doesn't seem like much of a problem when you're busy dying of thirst in a desert, and vice versa.

Men generally don't understand the pressure that comes with hundreds of messages a day, and women generally don't understand the feeling of utter worthlessness that comes from not getting any.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I copy and paste hundreds a day and get no response

We may be messaging the same guy. it so annoying we doing all that paste and copy and nothing "

I know. Just because he’s gay and only looking for black guys doesn’t mean we’re incompatible.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have received maybe 5 unsolicited first approach messages in 7 years..

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

Not many - some. They tend to stop after a while. I can only imagine it’s cos I’m a boring bastard and don’t do sexting or whatever it’s called and don’t give out mealy mouthed compliments.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I’ve never got any messages in my life on here. "

not being funny but the first line of your profile would put us off, sounds like you are cheating

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By *oxy lady40Woman
over a year ago

bridgwater


"I copy and paste hundreds a day and get no response

We may be messaging the same guy. it so annoying we doing all that paste and copy and nothing

I know. Just because he’s gay and only looking for black guys doesn’t mean we’re incompatible. "
if only we read his profile we would have known that

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By *otsossieMan
over a year ago

Chesterfield

Pfffft, nobody reads men’s profiles

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By *ememberTheNameMan
over a year ago

barnsley


"Is it just me or do women not send many first messages on here?

I see a lot of ladies saying they have hundreds of messages.

Should men stop sending as many messages, or should ladies send out more, or both? "

I get tonnes I have to empty my inbox ever 2 weeks it’s hard to keep up

I suppose it’s tough being this hunky (if you don’t know me , you won’t get my sense of humour )

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not nearly enough sadly!!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"As with everything in life, you get out of Fab what you put into it.

Want to receive some interesting, exciting messages from attractive people? Write some interesting & exciting messages to people you find attractive.

Yes - it takes effort, but anything worth doing in life does too. Speaking from experience, it's really not so difficult & the rewards are more than worth it!"

Easier said than done. I could write the solution to world hunger in my first message but if they don't find that interesting or they don't find me attractive, I'm not going to get a reply. That's even if they see my message among the hundreds of "Faf" messages they receive.

You could read their profile to see what they like but if you say "Oh you like that thing do you? I like that thing too, let's talk" then you could argue that's not very interesting either. I rather just work on my own profile and if women like it, they're free to send a message

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I did... until I blocked messages from other men that is hahahaha

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By *hunky GentMan
over a year ago

Maldon and Peterborough

I didn't realise we was allowed to.

I have some catching up to do.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I copy and paste hundreds a day and get no response

We may be messaging the same guy. it so annoying we doing all that paste and copy and nothing

I know. Just because he’s gay and only looking for black guys doesn’t mean we’re incompatible. if only we read his profile we would have known that "

I guess so but we probably know what he wants better than he does, surely.

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By *BC AndyMan
over a year ago

Richmond Upon Thames

I've had quite a few in the last couple of weeks, a couple yesterday. So cannot complain

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By *ornyJ3000 OP   Man
over a year ago

Near you


"I did... until I blocked messages from other men that is hahahaha"

Haha, funnily enough I did the same!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I do.

Until they block me!

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By *arlot_CharlotteWoman
over a year ago

Manchester


"Is it just me or do women not send many first messages on here?

I see a lot of ladies saying they have hundreds of messages.

Should men stop sending as many messages, or should ladies send out more, or both? "

I've taken a different tack - I've blocked my inbox from being messaged by single guys as I tend to get messages lacking any thought or consideration.

I look at profiles and if the guy may

meet what I'm looking for, with well-written text and no cock pics, I'll fab a pic. If I receive a fab back, I'll wink, thereby "breaking the seal".

Unfortunately this is a rare occurrence due to the amount of guys on here who, in my humble opinion, take no pride in how they present themselves and just expect that they will get some form of action with very little effort

I'm sorry to hear that you don't get any response when you've taken the time to read and respond individually to a lady's profile, you are a rarity on here. Good luck!

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!


"I do.

Until they block me! "
I emailed you 3 years ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nope didly squat x no messages at all x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I did... until I blocked messages from other men that is hahahaha

Haha, funnily enough I did the same! "

Inbox dryer than a nuns hoo-har now

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By *istyblue1967Man
over a year ago

manchester

i always fab pics but never get a thank you

rude ladies lol

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By *ruebameMan
over a year ago

from the womb and tryout to get back

HornyJ3000 you need to put plenty dick pics up that attracts the ladys of fab they will be flocking to message you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Not this guy"

I messaged you first

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By *ornyJ3000 OP   Man
over a year ago

Near you


"HornyJ3000 you need to put plenty dick pics up that attracts the ladys of fab they will be flocking to message you "

This is what I was thinking. Maybe I’m doing it all wrong.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"i always fab pics but never get a thank you

rude ladies lol"

we never look at who has fabbed our pics, life is to short for going through all that

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By *dventurous fellaMan
over a year ago

where


"I do when I talk to myself

Not many 64 year olds available to message you

It seems they all are at Mecca bingo ! "

Where is this bingo place ? Tell the secret location and there’s a pint in it for you ?

That’s how much I’m missing having a social drink amongst adults ! I’m excited about Mecca bingo underground drinking club

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By *annaBeStrongMan
over a year ago

wokingham

Lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Could probably count on one hand. Good day when you do get them. "

That's good as it leaves the other hand free for wanking

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By *omerset tvTV/TS
over a year ago

Weston-super-Mare

I used to get loads of messages so i blocked single guys to keep it down to a reasonable level lol

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By *an hjCouple
over a year ago

Stowmarket

Most messages I send, are replies.

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By *hirefunguyMan
over a year ago

Moray/ Inverness

What's a message? I think my inbox may be broken, and stopping them coming in!

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By *acey_RedWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool

I message men first but I think I'm in the minority.

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By *rder66Man
over a year ago

Tatooine

I'll tell you when I get a message.

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By *ecadent_DevonMan
over a year ago

Okehampton

I get the occasional one or two, normally full of fanny pictures and text speak, or a resounding telling off for something I couldn’t possible confess to having done. Being single and being on fab is like being married, I get lots of unwanted “advice” on how I should live my life and if I get too big for my boots there’s always someone willing to put me in my place.

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By *oonsterblue74Man
over a year ago

south Kensington

I've never had a first message from a lady. Plenty off guys wanting to blow me.. my profile may need a review lol

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By *airyfatmanMan
over a year ago

by 'ere

If I get a message I'm instantly suspicious that the sender isn't genuine.....

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By *jonesMan
over a year ago

Plymouth

I get excited when I see a message

And then see it's renew membership message from fab

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I copy and paste hundreds a day and get no response "
are they mad or blind

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By *orbidden eastMan
over a year ago

london dodging electric scooters

Zero but the universities don’t know about it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have a message from myself that I can’t delete.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I've never had a first message from a lady. Plenty off guys wanting to blow me.. my profile may need a review lol"

Just change your orientation to bisexual. Problem solved

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Men get more messages than they say they do....

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By *ecadent_DevonMan
over a year ago

Okehampton


"I have a message from myself that I can’t delete."

At some point you are just gonna have to let go dude......it’s embarrassing and not healthy.

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By *hunky GentMan
over a year ago

Maldon and Peterborough


"Men get more messages than they say they do.... "

Shhhhh.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Men get more messages than they say they do.... "

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By *undayTarkaMan
over a year ago

South West

Mainly men sometimes woman if lucky. Loads of TV's

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I have a message from myself that I can’t delete.

At some point you are just gonna have to let go dude......it’s embarrassing and not healthy. "

Never, I will not rest to my arse has vanished from my inbox.

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By *asual_WandererWoman
over a year ago

A spot you want me

I've sent a few messages to profiles who've caught my eye... and those I've messaged have generally ended up being better connections for me than messages I've responded to.

So ladies, I recommend a prowl

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Men get more messages than they say they do....

Shhhhh. "

OK oops

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Men get more messages than they say they do....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Average 3-5 a day off women,10-20 men 'fancy a discreet bj' types.

never really message others unless its a forum game or a general catchup with forumites

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By *rincess peachWoman
over a year ago

shits creek


"I think when us men get messages it makes us happier.

I think some ladies see it as a chore to go through them all.

It's a question of two things: Volume, and empathy.

Drowning at sea doesn't seem like much of a problem when you're busy dying of thirst in a desert, and vice versa.

Men generally don't understand the pressure that comes with hundreds of messages a day, and women generally don't understand the feeling of utter worthlessness that comes from not getting any. "

Ah, but I do fully understand the feeling of utter worthlessness from receiving a fuckton of messages from people who look upon me as no more as a vagina and haven't bothered taking anything I've said on my profile into consideration.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I do.

Until they block me! I emailed you 3 years ago "

Spam!

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By *abs..Woman
over a year ago

..

I don’t generally send first messages. Must try harder Babs

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By *tella HeelsTV/TS
over a year ago

west here ford shire

I do

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By *orbidden eastMan
over a year ago

london dodging electric scooters

No and I try to fab my own pictures

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By *oonsterblue74Man
over a year ago

south Kensington

Who doesn't reply. I'll have a word

I would reply

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Actually, it's probably a good thing I don't get lots of messages. I'm awful at responding to the ones I do get

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I’ve never got any messages in my life on here.

not being funny but the first line of your profile would put us off, sounds like you are cheating"

Thanks for your opinion.

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By *lipy123TV/TS
over a year ago

Birmingham

I get a fair few but not from women

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I expect some do but this one no

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By *stbury DavenportMan
over a year ago

Nottingham


"I think when us men get messages it makes us happier.

I think some ladies see it as a chore to go through them all.

It's a question of two things: Volume, and empathy.

Drowning at sea doesn't seem like much of a problem when you're busy dying of thirst in a desert, and vice versa.

Men generally don't understand the pressure that comes with hundreds of messages a day, and women generally don't understand the feeling of utter worthlessness that comes from not getting any.

Ah, but I do fully understand the feeling of utter worthlessness from receiving a fuckton of messages from people who look upon me as no more as a vagina and haven't bothered taking anything I've said on my profile into consideration.

"

Whereas if I received a fuckton of messages from women who look upon me as no more as a penis and haven't bothered taking anything I've said on my profile into consideration, I'd be thrilled.

Which rather illustrates the point I was originally making.

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By *aver999Couple
over a year ago

East Mids

Mrs get lots

Mr get lots asking to shag the Mrs

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By *ocksareoffMan
over a year ago

Out n About

I get the odd one from women when Im talking pish on the forum probably 3-5 a week is my usual

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Plenty of messages from other blokes

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

And folk wanting to view a girth built like an arm

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By *bo7118Man
over a year ago

Birmingham

Only messages I get is to renew my membership (which I haven't got round to yet!!)

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By *jonesMan
over a year ago

Plymouth


"Mrs get lots

Mr get lots asking to shag the Mrs "

Lol lol ..brilliant

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!


"And folk wanting to view a girth built like an arm "
that made me look

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"And folk wanting to view a girth built like an arm that made me look "

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By *moothdickMan
over a year ago

stoke

No

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Iv got my own ideas around why 99.9% of blokes on here don't get messages or are never really anyone's type

I'd say why on here but I'd either get banned or abused

Probably both

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not had one message since I joined the site

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Nope

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Anyone any ideas why this is the case ?

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By *eorge JetsonMan
over a year ago

Middlesbrough


"I copy and paste hundreds a day and get no response "

Copy and paste them all to me.

I'll reply to all of them

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By *armupartistMan
over a year ago

York

I think I have had 2 in 5 years and both those were responses to contributions I've made in the forums.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

In my case, I don't send messages as my insecurities get the better of me. So I hope that if someone is interested in me they'll message me and I can reply. Probably not the best way to be on a site like this, but I'm fairly new to this.

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By *wiftieeMan
over a year ago

near Glasgow

In a word, no.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"In my case, I don't send messages as my insecurities get the better of me. So I hope that if someone is interested in me they'll message me and I can reply. Probably not the best way to be on a site like this, but I'm fairly new to this. "

Your a pretty girl

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By *heMightySpud69Man
over a year ago

Milton keynes


"In my case, I don't send messages as my insecurities get the better of me. So I hope that if someone is interested in me they'll message me and I can reply. Probably not the best way to be on a site like this, but I'm fairly new to this.

Your a pretty girl "

A very pretty girl!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ah I wasn't fishing.. but thankyou

I'll message someone one day

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By *oreno0969Man
over a year ago

Rugby

I don't ever send the first message unless its a forum game or i have been winked at

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By *otSoPoshWoman
over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon


"In my case, I don't send messages as my insecurities get the better of me. So I hope that if someone is interested in me they'll message me and I can reply. Probably not the best way to be on a site like this, but I'm fairly new to this. "

I tend to do that, unless it is part of a forum game.

It is tough having these feelings, but you'll be fine soon enough xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I get loads and I answered both of them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

So after reading all that thread, question for the women folk, what are the top three reasons why you don’t send first messages to men? Hundreds of men are keen to understand your thinking.

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By *olex99Man
over a year ago

Hull

Fighting them off with a shitty stick...he lied

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By *otSoPoshWoman
over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon


"So after reading all that thread, question for the women folk, what are the top three reasons why you don’t send first messages to men? Hundreds of men are keen to understand your thinking."

Massive fear of rejection.

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By *heMightySpud69Man
over a year ago

Milton keynes


"So after reading all that thread, question for the women folk, what are the top three reasons why you don’t send first messages to men? Hundreds of men are keen to understand your thinking.

Massive fear of rejection."

Nah, just do it!! Better to regret something you have done, than something you havn't

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By *aucy sausageMan
over a year ago

Gentleshaw

I get two every time I renew my membership

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By *nergeticlemurMan
over a year ago

wiltshire

I get a few but not many which is a shame! I always reply to people even if they're not what I'm looking for I just think it's nice to have a chat every now and then

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"In my case, I don't send messages as my insecurities get the better of me. So I hope that if someone is interested in me they'll message me and I can reply. Probably not the best way to be on a site like this, but I'm fairly new to this.

I tend to do that, unless it is part of a forum game.

It is tough having these feelings, but you'll be fine soon enough xx"

Yep I'm exactly the same, anonymous messages I'm more than happy to do

Thankyou xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So after reading all that thread, question for the women folk, what are the top three reasons why you don’t send first messages to men? Hundreds of men are keen to understand your thinking.

Massive fear of rejection."

I wrestled with that conundrum for seconds and came to the realisation that there are only 2 reasons, not 3.

They like you or they don't....

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By *hubaysiWoman
over a year ago

Leeds

I send lots of first messages.

Usually because of these reasons:-

A forum comment or post

A pic I like

A status

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I get one...every two weeks...maybe three....

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By *izzy.miss.lizzyCouple
over a year ago

Pembrokeshire


"Is it just me or do women not send many first messages on here?

I see a lot of ladies saying they have hundreds of messages.

Should men stop sending as many messages, or should ladies send out more, or both? "

difficult to generalize I guess

I always answer the messages I get, rude not to... always say thank you for compliments and so on.

I tend to only "cold call" messages to the ladies coz it feels... wrong... to strike up uninvited conversations with guys due to the way I was raised.

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By *ynamites wowsMan
over a year ago

Plymouth and South west

I get some now and again all from men.

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By *otSoPoshWoman
over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon


"So after reading all that thread, question for the women folk, what are the top three reasons why you don’t send first messages to men? Hundreds of men are keen to understand your thinking.

Massive fear of rejection.

I wrestled with that conundrum for seconds and came to the realisation that there are only 2 reasons, not 3.

They like you or they don't.... "

Smooth talker

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By *rincess peachWoman
over a year ago

shits creek


"So after reading all that thread, question for the women folk, what are the top three reasons why you don’t send first messages to men? Hundreds of men are keen to understand your thinking."

*I don't want to speak to them with the intention of meeting, coz I'm not looking for that at the mo.

*I don't want 1-1 convos. Too much pressure to respond in a timely fashion. I'll talk to a few I know won't take it personally if I don't reply for days.

*If they seem to be having a big ole flirt with others I don't see the point, let em crack on. I'm not at the stage where I'm enthusiastic about anything so feel like I'd be taking up attention that would be more fruitful spending on someone else.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So after reading all that thread, question for the women folk, what are the top three reasons why you don’t send first messages to men? Hundreds of men are keen to understand your thinking.

Massive fear of rejection.

I wrestled with that conundrum for seconds and came to the realisation that there are only 2 reasons, not 3.

They like you or they don't....

Smooth talker "

I have a ghost writer lol

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By *ily WhiteWoman
over a year ago

?


"So after reading all that thread, question for the women folk, what are the top three reasons why you don’t send first messages to men? Hundreds of men are keen to understand your thinking."

I don't fancy them

Something in their profile puts me off

I'm not looking to meet anyone new

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So after reading all that thread, question for the women folk, what are the top three reasons why you don’t send first messages to men? Hundreds of men are keen to understand your thinking."

I can imagine from comments I've seen that a lot of women get quite a few messages a day, maybe after reading/replying, hitting the search box doesn't come to mind? Or that they just don't need to?

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over a year ago

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By *nked_kittenWoman
over a year ago

Ankh Morpork

I message and wink quite a bit. I also delete my sent box.

Maybe I should just send loads of pussy pics and just offer cash. I might get more replies

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I send out hundreds each day.

He’s never replied to one of them though "

Haha,very funny.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Is it just me or do women not send many first messages on here?

I see a lot of ladies saying they have hundreds of messages.

Should men stop sending as many messages, or should ladies send out more, or both? "

Cant remember the last time I seen my inbox light up

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I get a trickle of messages in comparison to what women get! I haven't sent an icebreaker message in a long while but women do send them and better at it than I am !!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I get at least a couple of messages a day from people I don't know. I can get a few more when chatting with friends that I already know on here.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I get so many I had to employ a Personal Assistant....

Must go and clear the cobwebs off her keyboard

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By *r loveslickinMan
over a year ago

Deeside

Not really get more from admim telling me about membership status

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hubby gets my messages sometimes it is funny. Does that classify as men getting messages dick pics and all

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I did when my bio was open to men, only a few a day now

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By *rder66Man
over a year ago

Tatooine


"Hubby gets my messages sometimes it is funny. Does that classify as men getting messages dick pics and all "
Well I'm counting the ones that tell me to go away but not so polite.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Hubby gets my messages sometimes it is funny. Does that classify as men getting messages dick pics and all Well I'm counting the ones that tell me to go away but not so polite."

Well then they are assholes

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