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"I send out hundreds each day. He’s never replied to one of them though ![]() Hes busy x | |||
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"I do when I talk to myself Not many 64 year olds available to message you ![]() It seems they all are at Mecca bingo ! | |||
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"I do when I talk to myself Not many 64 year olds available to message you ![]() Its lockdown | |||
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"I do when I talk to myself Not many 64 year olds available to message you ![]() Miss marple | |||
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"I do when I talk to myself Not many 64 year olds available to message you ![]() You need to move to the Mecca bingo capital ![]() | |||
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"I haven't had a message in three months. I hardly ever send them at all either, though. Given how much thought I put into every single one, it doesn't seem worth the effort given the likelihood of them getting lost in the deluge of hundreds of "FAF" messages. " This ![]() | |||
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"I haven't had a message in three months. I hardly ever send them at all either, though. Given how much thought I put into every single one, it doesn't seem worth the effort given the likelihood of them getting lost in the deluge of hundreds of "FAF" messages. " Absolutely! I went 3 months without one too. I could have written this! | |||
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"personally i just 'send all' to every male on fab. i find copying and pasting really works well for me ![]() I must have missed my message from you! lol | |||
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"I copy and paste hundreds a day and get no response " We may be messaging the same guy. ![]() | |||
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"I copy and paste hundreds a day and get no response We may be messaging the same guy. ![]() it so annoying we doing all that paste and copy and nothing | |||
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"Does it matter how many messages you receive? You only need one from the right person ![]() ![]() If I didn’t have any it would make a difference. I wouldn’t have any choice! | |||
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"Like, zero. If you do get a reply then invariably you get ghosted. Just the way it is. Imagine if it was the opposite and you got two hundred mails from women every day, would you shag every single one let alone even reply to them? I dont get offended if I don't get a reply, but equally it's why I mostly send winks. It's just a waste of time otherwise. " What’s the etiquette on winks though? ![]() | |||
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"Imagine if it was the opposite and you got two hundred mails from women every day, would you shag every single one" I suspect I'd have a damn good go at it. | |||
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"I think when us men get messages it makes us happier. I think some ladies see it as a chore to go through them all. " It's a question of two things: Volume, and empathy. Drowning at sea doesn't seem like much of a problem when you're busy dying of thirst in a desert, and vice versa. Men generally don't understand the pressure that comes with hundreds of messages a day, and women generally don't understand the feeling of utter worthlessness that comes from not getting any. | |||
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"I copy and paste hundreds a day and get no response We may be messaging the same guy. ![]() I know. Just because he’s gay and only looking for black guys doesn’t mean we’re incompatible. ![]() | |||
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"I’ve never got any messages in my life on here. " not being funny but the first line of your profile would put us off, sounds like you are cheating | |||
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"I copy and paste hundreds a day and get no response We may be messaging the same guy. ![]() ![]() if only we read his profile we would have known that | |||
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"Is it just me or do women not send many first messages on here? I see a lot of ladies saying they have hundreds of messages. Should men stop sending as many messages, or should ladies send out more, or both? " I get tonnes I have to empty my inbox ever 2 weeks it’s hard to keep up ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() | |||
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"As with everything in life, you get out of Fab what you put into it. Want to receive some interesting, exciting messages from attractive people? Write some interesting & exciting messages to people you find attractive. Yes - it takes effort, but anything worth doing in life does too. Speaking from experience, it's really not so difficult & the rewards are more than worth it!" Easier said than done. I could write the solution to world hunger in my first message but if they don't find that interesting or they don't find me attractive, I'm not going to get a reply. That's even if they see my message among the hundreds of "Faf" messages they receive. You could read their profile to see what they like but if you say "Oh you like that thing do you? I like that thing too, let's talk" then you could argue that's not very interesting either. I rather just work on my own profile and if women like it, they're free to send a message ![]() | |||
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"I copy and paste hundreds a day and get no response We may be messaging the same guy. ![]() ![]() I guess so but we probably know what he wants better than he does, surely. ![]() | |||
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"I did... until I blocked messages from other men that is hahahaha" Haha, funnily enough I did the same! ![]() | |||
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"Is it just me or do women not send many first messages on here? I see a lot of ladies saying they have hundreds of messages. Should men stop sending as many messages, or should ladies send out more, or both? " I've taken a different tack - I've blocked my inbox from being messaged by single guys as I tend to get messages lacking any thought or consideration. I look at profiles and if the guy may meet what I'm looking for, with well-written text and no cock pics, I'll fab a pic. If I receive a fab back, I'll wink, thereby "breaking the seal". Unfortunately this is a rare occurrence due to the amount of guys on here who, in my humble opinion, take no pride in how they present themselves and just expect that they will get some form of action with very little effort ![]() | |||
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"I do. Until they block me! ![]() I emailed you 3 years ago ![]() | |||
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"I did... until I blocked messages from other men that is hahahaha Haha, funnily enough I did the same! ![]() Inbox dryer than a nuns hoo-har now | |||
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"HornyJ3000 you need to put plenty dick pics up that attracts the ladys of fab they will be flocking to message you ![]() ![]() This is what I was thinking. Maybe I’m doing it all wrong. ![]() | |||
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"i always fab pics but never get a thank you rude ladies lol" we never look at who has fabbed our pics, life is to short for going through all that | |||
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"I do when I talk to myself Not many 64 year olds available to message you ![]() Where is this bingo place ? Tell the secret location and there’s a pint in it for you ? That’s how much I’m missing having a social drink amongst adults ! I’m excited about Mecca bingo underground drinking club | |||
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"Could probably count on one hand. Good day when you do get them. " That's good as it leaves the other hand free for wanking | |||
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"I copy and paste hundreds a day and get no response " are they mad or blind ![]() | |||
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"I've never had a first message from a lady. Plenty off guys wanting to blow me.. my profile may need a review lol" Just change your orientation to bisexual. Problem solved ![]() ![]() | |||
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"I have a message from myself that I can’t delete." At some point you are just gonna have to let go dude......it’s embarrassing and not healthy. | |||
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"Men get more messages than they say they do.... " Shhhhh. ![]() | |||
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"I have a message from myself that I can’t delete. At some point you are just gonna have to let go dude......it’s embarrassing and not healthy. " Never, I will not rest to my arse has vanished from my inbox. | |||
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"I think when us men get messages it makes us happier. I think some ladies see it as a chore to go through them all. It's a question of two things: Volume, and empathy. Drowning at sea doesn't seem like much of a problem when you're busy dying of thirst in a desert, and vice versa. Men generally don't understand the pressure that comes with hundreds of messages a day, and women generally don't understand the feeling of utter worthlessness that comes from not getting any. " Ah, but I do fully understand the feeling of utter worthlessness from receiving a fuckton of messages from people who look upon me as no more as a vagina and haven't bothered taking anything I've said on my profile into consideration. | |||
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"I do. Until they block me! ![]() ![]() Spam! ![]() | |||
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"I’ve never got any messages in my life on here. not being funny but the first line of your profile would put us off, sounds like you are cheating" Thanks for your opinion. | |||
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"I think when us men get messages it makes us happier. I think some ladies see it as a chore to go through them all. It's a question of two things: Volume, and empathy. Drowning at sea doesn't seem like much of a problem when you're busy dying of thirst in a desert, and vice versa. Men generally don't understand the pressure that comes with hundreds of messages a day, and women generally don't understand the feeling of utter worthlessness that comes from not getting any. Ah, but I do fully understand the feeling of utter worthlessness from receiving a fuckton of messages from people who look upon me as no more as a vagina and haven't bothered taking anything I've said on my profile into consideration. " Whereas if I received a fuckton of messages from women who look upon me as no more as a penis and haven't bothered taking anything I've said on my profile into consideration, I'd be thrilled. Which rather illustrates the point I was originally making. | |||
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"And folk wanting to view a girth built like an arm ![]() that made me look | |||
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"I copy and paste hundreds a day and get no response " Copy and paste them all to me. I'll reply to all of them ![]() | |||
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"In my case, I don't send messages as my insecurities get the better of me. So I hope that if someone is interested in me they'll message me and I can reply. Probably not the best way to be on a site like this, but I'm fairly new to this. ![]() Your a pretty girl ![]() | |||
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"In my case, I don't send messages as my insecurities get the better of me. So I hope that if someone is interested in me they'll message me and I can reply. Probably not the best way to be on a site like this, but I'm fairly new to this. ![]() ![]() A very pretty girl! | |||
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"In my case, I don't send messages as my insecurities get the better of me. So I hope that if someone is interested in me they'll message me and I can reply. Probably not the best way to be on a site like this, but I'm fairly new to this. ![]() I tend to do that, unless it is part of a forum game. It is tough having these feelings, but you'll be fine soon enough xx | |||
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"So after reading all that thread, question for the women folk, what are the top three reasons why you don’t send first messages to men? Hundreds of men are keen to understand your thinking." Massive fear of rejection. | |||
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"So after reading all that thread, question for the women folk, what are the top three reasons why you don’t send first messages to men? Hundreds of men are keen to understand your thinking. Massive fear of rejection." Nah, just do it!! Better to regret something you have done, than something you havn't | |||
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"In my case, I don't send messages as my insecurities get the better of me. So I hope that if someone is interested in me they'll message me and I can reply. Probably not the best way to be on a site like this, but I'm fairly new to this. ![]() Yep I'm exactly the same, anonymous messages I'm more than happy to do ![]() | |||
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"So after reading all that thread, question for the women folk, what are the top three reasons why you don’t send first messages to men? Hundreds of men are keen to understand your thinking. Massive fear of rejection." I wrestled with that conundrum for seconds and came to the realisation that there are only 2 reasons, not 3. They like you or they don't.... ![]() ![]() | |||
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"Is it just me or do women not send many first messages on here? I see a lot of ladies saying they have hundreds of messages. Should men stop sending as many messages, or should ladies send out more, or both? " difficult to generalize I guess I always answer the messages I get, rude not to... always say thank you for compliments and so on. I tend to only "cold call" messages to the ladies coz it feels... wrong... to strike up uninvited conversations with guys due to the way I was raised. | |||
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"So after reading all that thread, question for the women folk, what are the top three reasons why you don’t send first messages to men? Hundreds of men are keen to understand your thinking. Massive fear of rejection. I wrestled with that conundrum for seconds and came to the realisation that there are only 2 reasons, not 3. They like you or they don't.... ![]() ![]() Smooth talker ![]() | |||
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"So after reading all that thread, question for the women folk, what are the top three reasons why you don’t send first messages to men? Hundreds of men are keen to understand your thinking." *I don't want to speak to them with the intention of meeting, coz I'm not looking for that at the mo. *I don't want 1-1 convos. Too much pressure to respond in a timely fashion. I'll talk to a few I know won't take it personally if I don't reply for days. *If they seem to be having a big ole flirt with others I don't see the point, let em crack on. I'm not at the stage where I'm enthusiastic about anything so feel like I'd be taking up attention that would be more fruitful spending on someone else. | |||
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"So after reading all that thread, question for the women folk, what are the top three reasons why you don’t send first messages to men? Hundreds of men are keen to understand your thinking. Massive fear of rejection. I wrestled with that conundrum for seconds and came to the realisation that there are only 2 reasons, not 3. They like you or they don't.... ![]() ![]() ![]() I have a ghost writer lol ![]() | |||
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"So after reading all that thread, question for the women folk, what are the top three reasons why you don’t send first messages to men? Hundreds of men are keen to understand your thinking." I don't fancy them Something in their profile puts me off I'm not looking to meet anyone new | |||
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"So after reading all that thread, question for the women folk, what are the top three reasons why you don’t send first messages to men? Hundreds of men are keen to understand your thinking." I can imagine from comments I've seen that a lot of women get quite a few messages a day, maybe after reading/replying, hitting the search box doesn't come to mind? Or that they just don't need to? | |||
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"I send out hundreds each day. He’s never replied to one of them though ![]() Haha,very funny. | |||
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"Is it just me or do women not send many first messages on here? I see a lot of ladies saying they have hundreds of messages. Should men stop sending as many messages, or should ladies send out more, or both? " Cant remember the last time I seen my inbox light up | |||
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"Hubby gets my messages sometimes it is funny. Does that classify as men getting messages ![]() ![]() Well I'm counting the ones that tell me to go away but not so polite. | |||
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"Hubby gets my messages sometimes it is funny. Does that classify as men getting messages ![]() ![]() Well then they are assholes ![]() | |||
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