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The term ‘MILF’ - is it offensive?

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

There is a bit of a debate playing out on Twitter about the term ‘MILF’ and how it is offensive, with some arguing it basically says “despite your body being ruined by having children” you’re “still fuckable”. In other words a negative perception to elicit percieved ‘sexual gratification’

I’ve only ever used the term to be something positive and a way to signal to a mother of children she is attractive and sexy.

Have I missed something ?

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham

It's offensive to me because I'm Not a mum, yet guys still message saying I'm such a milf

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By *edeWoman
over a year ago

the abyss

I missed that memo!! My sons friends used to call me one just to try and piss him off - I thought it was hilarious. Never once been offended by it, I'm a mother and if someone genuinely thought I was fuckable then I can't really be upset by that

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By *emorefridaCouple
over a year ago

La la land

I don't personally like it. To me it's putting worth on my reproductive capabilities. My friend whose not able to have children has been called a MILF just because of her age and appearance. And it distresses her when men do. So I think it's best not to presume if someone has had children or not.

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By *phroditeWoman
over a year ago

(She/ her) in Sensualityland

I dislike it because it singles somebody out based on one criterium "ability to reproduce" which I find rude and unethical even if it does not apply to me.

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By *atricia ParnelWoman
over a year ago

In a town full of colours

I thought it originally was from the naughty taboo of wanting to fuck your mates mum

People will change it to whatever suits their cause I suppose

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By *arkus1812Man
over a year ago

Lifes departure lounge NN9 Northamptonshire East not West MidlandsMidlands

What are peoples views on GILF's then?

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By *phroditeWoman
over a year ago

(She/ her) in Sensualityland


"What are peoples views on GILF's then?"

Just as offensive to me - again it singles somebody out based on one criterium. I dislike being approached for being a mature" woman... it disregards the rest of me, my personality and everything that goes with that.

In a nutshell, I would like to be approached as a person... not a pussy, a Milf or anything else that represents a category.

Does that make sense?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Generalise people into a category and you will always upset some.

I am a milf and a bbw and a redhead and tall. I like some of those, so will subscribe happily!

Others make me feel bad, so I dont.

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By *emorefridaCouple
over a year ago

La la land


"What are peoples views on GILF's then?"

Falls in the same category as MILF assumed that they've borne children.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

to me? no.

to others? maybe.

Px

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I thought it originally was from the naughty taboo of wanting to fuck your mates mum

People will change it to whatever suits their cause I suppose"

Yeah I thought this... was it not Stifler’s mom in American Pie that brought the hype, or maybe it was even before that? I guess I’ve always thought the meaning is a term for guys who thought their mates’ mums were hot, not necessarily just because they’ve had children

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By *AABMan
over a year ago

Not far

It’s a judgemental term at the end of the day designed to assign value to some women and not others, and isn’t generally intended for the recipient to receive it as a compliment. When I think of the first time I heard it in the film American Pie, it strikes me as being childish. But that’s just me.

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By *hubaysiWoman
over a year ago

Leeds

No need for labels.

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By *offiaCoolWoman
over a year ago

Kidsgrove

Not all women's bodies are 'ruined' by having children. As long as I have heard the term, it has just reflected the age group, as in older than the person saying I fancy that Milf.

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By *phroditeWoman
over a year ago

(She/ her) in Sensualityland


"It’s a judgemental term at the end of the day designed to assign value to some women and not others, and isn’t generally intended for the recipient to receive it as a compliment. When I think of the first time I heard it in the film American Pie, it strikes me as being childish. But that’s just me."

^^^ Exactly - well said.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I thought it originally was from the naughty taboo of wanting to fuck your mates mum

People will change it to whatever suits their cause I suppose"

Yes, I think guys generally use it for and attractive lady that is older than them. Regardless if they have children or not.

It's not meant to be offensive, but people are always offended by things...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Different terms and words can have greatly varying meanings to different people. Always try to be respectful and non-offensive, but in saying that, sometimes the levels some people take in being offended has gotten ridiculously over the top especially on Twitter

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don’t like it, but I don’t like any terms like that really. Why the need to categorise?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Better than somebody saying "her with the big tits" or I hate being called "the wife" milf is good thanks x

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By *emorefridaCouple
over a year ago

La la land

Is it really a necessary term though? Why not a lady in their.....?

It's not a case of being offended for my friend. It's a reminder of the countless miscarriages she had and failed IVF attempts. And it brings up bad memories and feeling as if she's not a "proper woman" as she calls it. I've seen her tears and pain over the years, yes it's a throw away easy abbreviation but the word mother carries a lot of emotions to some.

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By *phroditeWoman
over a year ago

(She/ her) in Sensualityland


"Different terms and words can have greatly varying meanings to different people. Always try to be respectful and non-offensive, but in saying that, sometimes the levels some people take in being offended has gotten ridiculously over the top especially on Twitter "

I can see where you are coming from and these days, it does feel a bit like everything can be taken the wrong way.

In truth, most things can be misconstrued or interpreted as intentionally malicious.

I also think that with your attitude..."Always try to be respectful and non-offensive" you hit the nail on the head. Trying to be non-offensive suggests to me that you have self-awareness - you are therefore not likely to be offensive. Does that make sense?

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By *ssex_tomMan
over a year ago

Chelmsford

I don't hear it used often in male company apart from a few years back when it first became a saying.. I only really see it on porn sites like 'amster.. I would never use it in open conversation with a female and I can understand why some girls might find it offensive.. it's a bit like calling your liver a slut . Some girls detest the use of it and a few really embrace the title in the right context for the right situation .

I don't like upsetting women so would not use it unless for some reason she liked it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don’t like the term purely because I don’t like anything sexual being linked to me being a Mum.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Different terms and words can have greatly varying meanings to different people. Always try to be respectful and non-offensive, but in saying that, sometimes the levels some people take in being offended has gotten ridiculously over the top especially on Twitter

I can see where you are coming from and these days, it does feel a bit like everything can be taken the wrong way.

In truth, most things can be misconstrued or interpreted as intentionally malicious.

I also think that with your attitude..."Always try to be respectful and non-offensive" you hit the nail on the head. Trying to be non-offensive suggests to me that you have self-awareness - you are therefore not likely to be offensive. Does that make sense? "

Absolutely it does

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Remember that it's a phrase from a movie. It was supposed to be shocking and used by teenagers.

Never in my life I have I ever looked at a woman and thought... shes a milf.

I had never actually put much thought into it but the comments above make sense. If it's a mom you would like to fuck, it implies there are more moms out there who you wouldnt fuck.

And knowing teenage boys thats never ever been the case. 99% of straight teenage boys would fantasise about any and every woman they thought would have sex with them.

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By *ools and the brainCouple
over a year ago

couple, us we him her.

What a vanilla, sterile humourless world we are heading towards.

Is there literally nothing that anyone can take offence to now?

We may as well communicate via a third party and have everything we say moderated...

Oh wait a minute aren't we halfway there already?

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By *ools and the brainCouple
over a year ago

couple, us we him her.

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By *luebell888Woman
over a year ago

Glasgowish

Women's bodies do not get ruined due to pregnancy they just change a bit.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Load of rubbish. I love a hot MILF and use the term often. Most milfs love to here it too. With everything in life someone will find offence with it but thats their issue not mine. Long live the MILFs i say

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By *rHotNottsMan
over a year ago

Dubai & Nottingham

I don’t particularly like it , would never use it, I think it just sounds chavy and something 15yrold boys say but I’m not going to get too offended on behalf of others. I prefer Yummy Mummy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I use the term on my profile for two reasons...

1) I am just that... A Mum some like to fuck.

2) A way of saying I'm not available 24/7 to meet because I have the responsibility of a child.

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By *ssex_tomMan
over a year ago

Chelmsford

Does the term DILF ever get used... Dad's I'd Like to Fuck..

Or FILTH..

Father's In Law To Have sex with

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By *affron40Woman
over a year ago

manchester

It reminds me of teenage boys who’ve watched too much porn and cannot communicate with a real woman to save their life. It’s a good filter of who to avoid.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

aye it's offensive

offensive to all the ugo's out there

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By *r TriomanMan
over a year ago

Chippenham Malmesbury area


"I thought it originally was from the naughty taboo of wanting to fuck your mates mum

People will change it to whatever suits their cause I suppose

Yeah I thought this... was it not Stifler’s mom in American Pie that brought the hype, or maybe it was even before that? I guess I’ve always thought the meaning is a term for guys who thought their mates’ mums were hot, not necessarily just because they’ve had children

"

Same here; having seen the film, I've only ever considered it to be a teenager thing about fancying your mates mum. More to do with them being the only mature women that these guys would have encountered other than teachers and nothing to do with them having given birth.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"What a vanilla, sterile humourless world we are heading towards.

Is there literally nothing that anyone can take offence to now?

We may as well communicate via a third party and have everything we say moderated...

Oh wait a minute aren't we halfway there already?"
vanilla is an incredibly expensive and tasty flavouring. We would be lucky to live in a vanilla world.

I would suggest a non seasoned world as the one to identify as a place to avoid.

And yes. Humour can be hard when you cant make fun of people for their sex, orientation, colour or religion. But it's not impossible. Just try harder

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By *rMrsBrightsideCouple
over a year ago

Newcastle

Honestly, I think life is too short to be offended by everything.

The people I know who use the term I don't think mean any offence by it. It is not a term I either like or dislike.

Kx

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By *ools and the brainCouple
over a year ago

couple, us we him her.


"What a vanilla, sterile humourless world we are heading towards.

Is there literally nothing that anyone can take offence to now?

We may as well communicate via a third party and have everything we say moderated...

Oh wait a minute aren't we halfway there already?vanilla is an incredibly expensive and tasty flavouring. We would be lucky to live in a vanilla world.

I would suggest a non seasoned world as the one to identify as a place to avoid.

And yes. Humour can be hard when you cant make fun of people for their sex, orientation, colour or religion. But it's not impossible. Just try harder "

How patronising!

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By *EAT..85Woman
over a year ago

Nottingham


"I don’t like the term purely because I don’t like anything sexual being linked to me being a Mum. "

This

I got labelled as one for the first time last year and it threw me for 6.

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By *arlomaleMan
over a year ago

darlington

I find the term milf silly along with gilf and dilf

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By *emorefridaCouple
over a year ago

La la land

Isn't cougar similar without bringing motherhood into it?

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

King's Crustacean

I'm not offended by it however I find it unnecessary , demeaning, creepy ..... objectifiying ...

Why does whether a woman has children or not have any bearing on how attractive she is ???

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

King's Crustacean


"I find the term milf silly along with gilf and dilf "

What about WILF ?

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By *inky_couple2020Couple
over a year ago

North West


"Women's bodies do not get ruined due to pregnancy they just change a bit."

#notallwomen

Pregnancy has quite literally destroyed my body. Triple pelvic organ prolapse, L4/5 lumbar disc prolapse and pelvic nerve damage, which is why I use a wheelchair. I am disabled because I had my daughter.

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By *arlomaleMan
over a year ago

darlington


"I find the term milf silly along with gilf and dilf

What about WILF ?"
what’s that ?

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

King's Crustacean


"I find the term milf silly along with gilf and dilf

What about WILF ? what’s that ?"

Woman.........

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By *arlomaleMan
over a year ago

darlington


"I find the term milf silly along with gilf and dilf

What about WILF ? what’s that ?

Woman......... "
another one to my list of annoying words/labels

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By *atricia ParnelWoman
over a year ago

In a town full of colours


"I thought it originally was from the naughty taboo of wanting to fuck your mates mum

People will change it to whatever suits their cause I suppose

Yeah I thought this... was it not Stifler’s mom in American Pie that brought the hype, or maybe it was even before that? I guess I’ve always thought the meaning is a term for guys who thought their mates’ mums were hot, not necessarily just because they’ve had children

Same here; having seen the film, I've only ever considered it to be a teenager thing about fancying your mates mum. More to do with them being the only mature women that these guys would have encountered other than teachers and nothing to do with them having given birth.

"

Yes staying over his friends house and he gets a glimpse of her sexy underwear and blushes as he gets a hard on, its quite stereotypical in films

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

King's Crustacean


"I find the term milf silly along with gilf and dilf

What about WILF ? what’s that ?

Woman......... another one to my list of annoying words/labels "

I just made it up.

What about Filf ?

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By *uncan LynnCouple
over a year ago

Kilmarnock


"There is a bit of a debate playing out on Twitter about the term ‘MILF’ and how it is offensive, with some arguing it basically says “despite your body being ruined by having children” you’re “still fuckable”. In other words a negative perception to elicit percieved ‘sexual gratification’

I’ve only ever used the term to be something positive and a way to signal to a mother of children she is attractive and sexy.

Have I missed something ? "

The offensive part is anybody thinking having children ruins your body

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By *ustyshowoffCouple
over a year ago

Cyprus

Oh dear, something else for the over sensitive to find offensive !!!

Mark

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By *inky_couple2020Couple
over a year ago

North West


"There is a bit of a debate playing out on Twitter about the term ‘MILF’ and how it is offensive, with some arguing it basically says “despite your body being ruined by having children” you’re “still fuckable”. In other words a negative perception to elicit percieved ‘sexual gratification’

I’ve only ever used the term to be something positive and a way to signal to a mother of children she is attractive and sexy.

Have I missed something ?

The offensive part is anybody thinking having children ruins your body

"

I'm well aware I'm not the norm, but having kids can and does ruin some women's bodies. Mine is absolutely knackered and I now use a wheelchair as a consequence.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I thought it originally was from the naughty taboo of wanting to fuck your mates mum

People will change it to whatever suits their cause I suppose"

It definitely meant that when I was young and my kids were young and never used outside of that to be fair!

I have a few friends that don't have kids and the assumption that they've had children, just because of their age, really pisses them off. On that alone I think it's a disrespectful term in all reality

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By *arlomaleMan
over a year ago

darlington


"I find the term milf silly along with gilf and dilf

What about WILF ? what’s that ?

Woman......... another one to my list of annoying words/labels

I just made it up.

What about Filf ?"
fanny I’d like to fuck

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By *nottygirlWoman
over a year ago

Glasgowshire

I thought it was originally a term used by young guys' mates to say they fancied their Mum and evolved into a broader meaning of a guy wanting to fuck a somewhat older woman. Similar to cougar? An age thing rather than if she has had a child, old enough to be his Mum.

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By *ssex_tomMan
over a year ago

Chelmsford


"Isn't cougar similar without bringing motherhood into it? "

No. Cougars prey on younger

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By *ssex_tomMan
over a year ago

Chelmsford


"I'm not offended by it however I find it unnecessary , demeaning, creepy ..... objectifiying ...

"

Bit like Crumpet then...

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

King's Crustacean


"I find the term milf silly along with gilf and dilf

What about WILF ? what’s that ?

Woman......... another one to my list of annoying words/labels

I just made it up.

What about Filf ? fanny I’d like to fuck "

I was thinking FEMALE but you can say fanny

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

King's Crustacean


"I'm not offended by it however I find it unnecessary , demeaning, creepy ..... objectifiying ...

Bit like Crumpet then... "

Yeah ....... bit like that Tom.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I dislike it because it singles somebody out based on one criterium "ability to reproduce" which I find rude and unethical even if it does not apply to me.

"

You’re one of these people that likes finding new things to be offended by, aren’t you?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Isn't cougar similar without bringing motherhood into it?

No. Cougars prey on younger

"

If you want to be technical, in the wild, cougars prey on the smaller, the weak and the older, affording them a higher chance of catching their prey and a lower chance of expending vital energy which could otherwise be used for surviving.

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