FabSwingers.com forum: Something in common

By *riar Belisse OP Woman
over a year ago

Delightful Bliss

Do you need to have lots in common with a person before you would have sex with them

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By *uke olovingmanMan
over a year ago

Gravesend

I want to meet common people

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By *otSoPoshWoman
over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon

Not lots in common, but the spark of connection...

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By *ucka39Man
over a year ago

Newcastle

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By *rumpyMcFuckNuggetMan
over a year ago

Den of Iniquity

Tricky ....

If I'm getting to know someone first then common interests would be a factor .

If its a rare spontaneous fuck then no , not really

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

On a very shallow level yes.

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

I want to at least vaguely like them and feel comfortable with them.

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By *ucka39Man
over a year ago

Newcastle

I wouldn't say lots but down to earth none pushy and little bit in common sense of humour

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By *ce WingerMan
over a year ago

P.O. Box DE1 0NQ

"I want to meet common people

He is Jarvis Cocker in disguise ^

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

"I want to at least vaguely like them and feel comfortable with them."

Yeah, that's it for me too.

I don't go in for deep intimacy with people I don't know well.

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By *uke olovingmanMan
over a year ago

Gravesend

"I want to meet common people

He is Jarvis Cocker in disguise ^ "

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By *offiaCoolWoman
over a year ago

Kidsgrove

I don't seek casual random sex, so to meet someone regularly, there needs to be enough in common to spend time with a person.

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By *extravagantWoman
over a year ago

Hertfordshire

No need for things in common but if opposing views on basic issues (women’s rights, animal welfare etc) then that’s a deal breaker.

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By *amie HantsWoman
over a year ago

Atlantis

Not really. I try not to discuss favourite books and films. Music rarely comes up in conversation when I’m getting ploughed.

I guess if we were incorporating food into it I would if he planned on eating shellfish out my bum crack. I can’t imagine anaphylaxis is sexy. Then again, each to their own

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

not necessarily things in common... more if i can vibe with you. easy conversation, decent craic.. oooh and fancying the pants off of you

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Shared interests, similar humor, there has to be that click... sex without that click or 'connection' is empty

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Not really. I try not to discuss favourite books and films. Music rarely comes up in conversation when I’m getting ploughed.

I guess if we were incorporating food into it I would if he planned on eating shellfish out my bum crack. I can’t imagine anaphylaxis is sexy. Then again, each to their own "

Not what you told me

you were on about sharing a Campbell's meatball bath this weekend

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By *etcplCouple
over a year ago

Gapping Fanny

"Do you need to have lots in common with a person before you would have sex with them"

The least would be a desire/interest in having sex with one another.

But unless you want to expand on the social side, then no.

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By *hesexpistolsCouple
over a year ago

Kent

"No need for things in common but if opposing views on basic issues (women’s rights, animal welfare etc) then that’s a deal breaker."

We’d add homophobia to that too. Don’t care how sexy you are if you’re a scum bag... but we do also enjoy the connection, maybe at a shallow level but having a laugh about our different experiences is always a great icebreaker...

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By *gent CoulsonMan
over a year ago

Secret hideaway in the pennines

It helps, but not a deal breaker

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By *partharmonyCouple
over a year ago

Ruislip

Not necessarily things in common, just being able to get on well.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have never got to a point where a meet was arranged so I can't comment

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By *tamford hornyCouple
over a year ago

wittering

There needs to be a spark between everyone.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A fiat or a ford at least

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By *parkle1974Woman
over a year ago

Leeds

I don't need to have lots in common but having that spark that ignites something in me is a must x

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By *elpful and caringMan
over a year ago

Scarborough

I’m with you on this sparkle.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Not particularly no. Opposites attract yea...

Once there's a

Electric Chemistry and a strong attraction to both mind and body... i.e. Personality is more important to me...than things in common

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By *ancer36Woman
over a year ago

Stirling

Opposites attract..if there’s a spark and your personalities bounce of each other I don’t think having common interests matter, were all individuals and even if I’m not into the same things I find it sexy when someone is passionate about something x

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By *riar Belisse OP Woman
over a year ago

Delightful Bliss

"I don't need to have lots in common but having that spark that ignites something in me is a must x"

Most definitely, I can fancy the pants off him and not agree with some of his views

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By *isAdventure69Woman
over a year ago

Hampshire

"I want to at least vaguely like them and feel comfortable with them."

Yes this

There has to be some appeal aside from physical attraction

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham

Nope. Sometimes just the urge to smash our gentiles together is a that is needed

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I guess there are two different types of meets.

If we were arranging a date type meet then we needed chemistry to help things along. Things in common ... that's hard to define. Take a random 40 yr old couple. If they have kids, a house, jobs and like sex then we have a lot in common. But there are a million reasons why sex might not happen.

But if the chemistry is good then sex is probably going to be on the cards even though we might have very little in common

Of course at a club or party then everything can go out the window. That level of hormones can make anyone desirable

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By *riar Belisse OP Woman
over a year ago

Delightful Bliss

Of course at a club or party then everything can go out the window. That level of hormones can make anyone desirable "

That is very true and actually what prompted the thought of this question thread in my head

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

Not neccessarily. The guy ive been seeing the longest we get on really well but have absolutly nothing in common i always joke with him that we wouldnt last 24 hrs in the real world

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

One of our favourite forms of play is getting my wife into a hormonal mess with orgasm denial and seeing what she is open to do when shes in that state.

Its fascinating

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Having things in common is not that important but having common ground is. As long as we are on the same page of what we are looking for and sexually, that's what makes a great playmate.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Not neccessarily. The guy ive been seeing the longest we get on really well but have absolutly nothing in common i always joke with him that we wouldnt last 24 hrs in the real world"

My wife and I had nothing in common on paper when we met. Different backgrounds and experiences. Different social classes and expectations.

I told my friends it wouldnt last a week when we met first. That was 24 years ago.

We needed opposites to be happy

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By *pursChick aka ShortieWoman
over a year ago

On a mooch

No, you can get on with someone without having a lot in common. As long as there is a spark, the conversation flows easily, chemistry it’s a start. There are many I’ve met where we’ve had this and have a great time but our two worlds outside of that are so different and wouldn’t mix. I’m meeting the person not their life or interests.

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By * Sophie xTV/TS
over a year ago

Derby

I like there to be a huge difference really, I do not want our genitals to match

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

"Not neccessarily. The guy ive been seeing the longest we get on really well but have absolutly nothing in common i always joke with him that we wouldnt last 24 hrs in the real world

My wife and I had nothing in common on paper when we met. Different backgrounds and experiences. Different social classes and expectations.

I told my friends it wouldnt last a week when we met first. That was 24 years ago.

We needed opposites to be happy"
thats the same with my partner. On paper we are worlds apart but when you dig deeper we have lots in common

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By *unover40Couple
over a year ago

yeovil

not necessarily lots in common but there has to be chemistry

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Mutual attraction that’s it

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By *kblokenorthMan
over a year ago

Any

"not necessarily lots in common but there has to be chemistry "

Exactly this ^^

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No, not to have sex once or very occasionally. Yes, if you're meeting regularly.

But 'in common' can mean lots of different things, you might differ on politics or music for example but share a sense of humour.

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By *a LunaWoman
over a year ago

South Wales

Not for sex no. A relationship, yes.

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By *JohnMan
over a year ago

Newcastle upon Tyne

This is where I distinguish between sex and swinging. If it's just sex, purely physical, then that doesn't need anything else.

Swinging does. I have my own idiosyncratic single-oriented definition of swinging, which not everyone will share. It involves some degree of friendship, which requires shared values at least.

Sex with friends is much more satisfying.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Not lots in common, but the spark of connection..."

This

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By *phroditeWoman
over a year ago

(She/ her) in Sensualityland

"Do you need to have lots in common with a person before you would have sex with them"

Absolutely so... for me!

I am not thinking of a perfect match stuff but I need to at least like the person. Otherwise it is easier to use a dildo - at least I do not have to make conversation with somebody I do not actually like.

As a result, I am still in contact with the people I have met and played with. We were kind of friends... and having sex did not changed that. xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Lots in common- no, as long as they are decent people who can hold a conversation.

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