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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Has anyone convinced there mrs into 3sum? And what was the tactic!

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By *orthern StarsCouple
over a year ago

Durham, North Yorkshire and can travel

There shouldn't be any tactics. It should be a joint decision after lots of talking together about it.

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By *rder66Man
over a year ago

Tatooine

You souldn't have to convince anybody of anything.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

urmmm.. maybe not 'convincing' them in the first place?

convincing is a lot like coercing... If she doesn't want a threesome.. you're not having a threesome pal.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yup, I'll tend to agree. I think the convincing you are talking about should be rephrased to 'how do I broach the subject of wanting to involve another partner in our play-whilst trying to find a way of explaining why I joined a swinger site, potentially without prior consent'

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By *annaBeStrongMan
over a year ago

w


"Has anyone convinced there mrs into 3sum? And what was the tactic!"

The tactic?

This poor woman

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By *heekyFlirtyCoupleCouple
over a year ago

Stockport

Lol someone just needed to plant the seed with me! Be careful though as the person that planted the seed years ago wasn’t the person that ever see it actually happen!

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

The tactic to use in suggesting a threesome is loving and open communication coupled with respecting her answer.

I'm guessing that you probably worded your post wrongly and didn't mean it quite the way it sounded

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Thank you for rephrasing me!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The tactic to use in suggesting a threesome is loving and open communication coupled with respecting her answer.

I'm guessing that you probably worded your post wrongly and didn't mean it quite the way it sounded "

That's what I said! Obviously a miscommunication, as no reasonable thinking person would actually try and trick their partner in to a threesome!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sure as hell would try and coerce anyone into it it’s just wrong

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

King's Crustacean


"Thank you for rephrasing me!"

What time is it where you are O.P. ?

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By *amie HantsWoman
over a year ago

Atlantis

Write the idea on a small piece of paper, put it in a fortune cookie.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

18:16pm

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By *imi_RougeWoman
over a year ago

Portsmouth


"urmmm.. maybe not 'convincing' them in the first place?

convincing is a lot like coercing... If she doesn't want a threesome.. you're not having a threesome pal. "

This

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

OK so you've got an active mind and would prefer your partner to lean the same way you are .broch the subject in a general way and see what the reaction is. If its positive expand on it till you get to threesom .Maybe start with sexual habits and positions, fantasy,s

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

King's Crustacean


"18:16pm"

Okay thanks

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

King's Crustacean

O.P. This is a serious Q ........

3 SOME...... is that You. The Mrs. + Another Bloke ( she gets 2 blokes )

Or is it...... YOU. The Mrs. + Another woman ..... ( They do the lesbian bit for you )

Or is it..... YOU The Mrs. + Another woman and you get to bang them both

Orrrrrrrrrr YOU . The Mrs. + Another bloke and she gets to watch the two blokes at it like knives ?

I think the scenario matters in amongst all the coaxing......

I mean ...... I don't think a 3 course meal of soup n soup n soup cuts it for me .........

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By *erDirtyRockstarMan
over a year ago

buckinghamshire

Group sex Porn. It's a way of exploring inside your bubble. If she isn't getting off on it with you. It's a no.

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By *lasphemousGirlWoman
over a year ago

Cambs

Your wording is concerning OP, nobody should be pressured into anything, honest open communication is the most important thing, if she's not interested drop it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Has anyone convinced there mrs into 3sum? And what was the tactic!"

Does she want a new flash car

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't think you need to convince your wife you should read the signs that's how I ended up opening up my fantasy with my wife. I hinted at stuff she bited . I mentioned it once left it and she came to me asking my fantasy and what I'd like etc and went from there . Still haven't gone the whole way yet but we role play alot

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By *omRachCouple
over a year ago

Wirral


"Has anyone convinced there mrs into 3sum? And what was the tactic!"

I suggested the idea and it was batted out of the park, however she would mention it at times when we fucked and she would start to ask who/when/where etc. I mentioned the name of one of my mates - who lives 200 miles away - and I did notice a smile.

Then, a few months later he was down for a visit and after a long day drinking at a family function we headed home and to bed (him in the spare room).

When in bed she asked me if i still wanted her to fuck him - and I said yes.

She then said to me 'then go and ask him, before I change my mind'.

That was the start of a 19 year on/off MFM/MMF where a lot of fun was had.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Has anyone convinced there mrs into 3sum? And what was the tactic!

I suggested the idea and it was batted out of the park, however she would mention it at times when we fucked and she would start to ask who/when/where etc. I mentioned the name of one of my mates - who lives 200 miles away - and I did notice a smile.

I’ve been the lucky other guy chosen

Then, a few months later he was down for a visit and after a long day drinking at a family function we headed home and to bed (him in the spare room).

When in bed she asked me if i still wanted her to fuck him - and I said yes.

She then said to me 'then go and ask him, before I change my mind'.

That was the start of a 19 year on/off MFM/MMF where a lot of fun was had."

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By *uke olovingmanMan
over a year ago

Gravesend

Hi hunny..I got you a surprise....tadaaa ..meet dave

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No convincing and no tactics. Have a honest conversation with her then respect her decision whatever it is.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It always astounds me how many men don't understand the difference between reality and fantasy roleplay.

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By *aomilatteCouple
over a year ago

Midlands


"I don't think you need to convince your wife you should read the signs that's how I ended up opening up my fantasy with my wife. I hinted at stuff she bited . I mentioned it once left it and she came to me asking my fantasy and what I'd like etc and went from there . Still haven't gone the whole way yet but we role play alot"

OP was last logged on over a year ago, he probably won't read this unfortunately.

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By *i_guy_sloughMan
over a year ago

Langley

Like others have said, just open and honest discussion, if it is not something she is interested in then that isn’t going to change just because you want it, no means no.

This is why My wife and I have an ENM relationship, if there’s anything we are not interested in then the other can find a partner who is to satisfy that need.

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