FabSwingers.com forum: Online dating sites...

By *mileTogether69 OP Man
over a year ago

Brighton

Godsend or a Curse..

I fall on the side of curse really.

Think its made people far more fussy, insuler to actually meeting.

Certainely more judgemental , people seem less open to who they may meet simply by stepping out there door.

Another big gripe is I,m not one of the most " photogenic" persons. Yet often get comments like " i don,t believe your single? " hhhhuughh ?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I either get the religious ones, timewasters,,scammers, fantasists. I sometimes see people from fab on online dating sites. Summing up, online dating sucks.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Most are scammers you will eventually get the I need money to pay for this or that not all are scammers but a hell of a lot are

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By *r. Pepper...Man
over a year ago

liverpool

I'm on a few of them and they just seem to have turned in to places for girls to advertise their only fans/Instagram/Snapchat pages

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By *partharmonyCouple
over a year ago

Ruislip

I have had generally good experiences of internet dating. A lot of it is down to how people behave. An ass-hat in real life now has the option of being an ass-hat online too.

I saw a memorable profile of a lady once. In the section headed "Describe an ideal date with a man" she put "He doesn't use Internet porn". Either she was thinking of the section headed "Describe your ideal man" and got mixed up, or she's been on some pretty shocking dates!

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By *acey_RedWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool

Online dating is hard but so is meeting strangers to date out in the real world. Online dating has done me very well. I've also met a lot of bad matches and had some weird or even disturbing experiences. I don't agree that online dating makes people fussier. I've probably met a much higher proportion of the people I've spoken to on online dating than I have people who I've been hit on by out and about. Sometimes though online dating can help you to filter out people who you aren't a good match with before having to go on a few dates before finding out you have a really significant incompatibility.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Tinder is perfect. Just need Boost

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By *ersey GirlCouple
over a year ago

Glasgow

Most of the time people aren't themselves on dating sites then moan that people don't get them or want to go further. Stop putting filtered photos, be positive and just be yourself and you'll attract the right kind of people

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Tried them all I think (or at least it felt like it). Gave up a long time ago.

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By *a LunaWoman
over a year ago

South Wales

I never seem to find any men on dating sites with my sense of humour where you just click. They seem to take themselves and life is very seriously, which is fine if you’re that way inclined, but it’s not for me.

I’ve been much more successful on here in that regard.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Tried them all I think (or at least it felt like it). Gave up a long time ago.

did you purchase Tinder Boost?

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By *tephTV67TV/TS
over a year ago

Cheshire

Come off them for now, due to the Pandemic. As the conversations can get tiresome if you can’t plan to meet in person anytime soon.

However I have had some great meetings with women on the site. Two good friendships have emerged from being matched together.

I’ll consider going back when we can meet with strangers again but for now, I’ll stay single

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've had alot of fun on them, be straight up n honest, I find they can be worth it, had some great meets

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Tried them all I think (or at least it felt like it). Gave up a long time ago.

did you purchase Tinder Boost?"

No. No idea what it was/is to be honest.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Then that could be why you didnt succeed. Tinder only really works on a Boost package.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Then that could be why you didnt succeed. Tinder only really works on a Boost package.

So not true

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By *sLittleRedRidingHoodWoman
over a year ago

Magical Forrest

I found alot of people who are on here are on most other sites too...

It's become stale....

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By *tephTV67TV/TS
over a year ago

Cheshire

"Then that could be why you didnt succeed. Tinder only really works on a Boost package.

So not true

Agree I met loads of women without boost. A decent profile and pictures that look genuine was enough for me.

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By *os19Man
over a year ago

Edmonton

"Godsend or a Curse..

I fall on the side of curse really.

Think its made people far more fussy, insuler to actually meeting.

Certainely more judgemental , people seem less open to who they may meet simply by stepping out there door.

Another big gripe is I,m not one of the most " photogenic" persons. Yet often get comments like " i don,t believe your single? " hhhhuughh ?

Comments please..."
. Like you I am not very photogenic and I find online dating frustrating.Before online dating I use to attend singles events held in hotels function room this consisted of speed dating , meal and party / dancing £30 - £40 and this is what I plan to go back to once Covid19 and lockdown is over.

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By *bsinthe_boyMan
over a year ago

Luton

I met both my wives on dating sites (1997 and 2017). The trick is to have a good crap detector and to avoid sites which use algorithms to fill your inbox with fake messages. Generally, receiving a notification "bigtits1994, 1 mile away, sent you a message" is good indication it's fake. Or stuff like "I'm so lovely and horny" accompanied by a professional model shot.

I've met several lovely women on dating sites and as was as two lifelong relationships I've made some great friends.

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By *wisted999Man
over a year ago

North Bucks

Tinder is brilliant. Had some great dates from that platform. Couple of decent pics and a decent profile and that’s it really.

The Boost function worked pretty well especially on a Sunday evening.

Good times.

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By *annaBeStrongMan
over a year ago

wokingham

It’s ruined relationships because it’s too easy to move along.

Small inconveniences that no one would bat an eye lid at before become an excuse to swipe right on the next best thing.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I only find they're any good these days if you pay for them... I have more success on here.

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By *mileTogether69 OP Man
over a year ago

Brighton

"Godsend or a Curse..

I fall on the side of curse really.

Think its made people far more fussy, insuler to actually meeting.

Certainely more judgemental , people seem less open to who they may meet simply by stepping out there door.

Another big gripe is I,m not one of the most " photogenic" persons. Yet often get comments like " i don,t believe your single? " hhhhuughh ?

Comments please.... Like you I am not very photogenic and I find online dating frustrating.Before online dating I use to attend singles events held in hotels function room this consisted of speed dating , meal and party / dancing £30 - £40 and this is what I plan to go back to once Covid19 and lockdown is over."

Thats not bad advise ...thanks.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Then that could be why you didnt succeed. Tinder only really works on a Boost package.

So not true

Agree I met loads of women without boost. A decent profile and pictures that look genuine was enough for me.

I've found some decent pics works well, but above all just straight up honesty about what I'm looking for works best yes get unmatched, but get blocked on here for less,

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By *mileTogether69 OP Man
over a year ago

Brighton

"I met both my wives on dating sites (1997 and 2017). The trick is to have a good crap detector and to avoid sites which use algorithms to fill your inbox with fake messages. Generally, receiving a notification "bigtits1994, 1 mile away, sent you a message" is good indication it's fake. Or stuff like "I'm so lovely and horny" accompanied by a professional model shot.

I've met several lovely women on dating sites and as was as two lifelong relationships I've made some great friends."

thats great to hear ....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm on a few and rarely get past exchanging a few messages.

A combination of factors including:

People matching then not responding to an initial message. I assume the match was accidental or my message a bit rubbish.

On sites where men can make contact first, those who contact me seem dull, lacking intelligence or just don't appeal to me. I realise that sounds harsh, I know I'm not some supermodel but come on, attraction matters. It should be mutual.

I think perhaps I'm seeking something that doesn't exist.

Possibly being 37, divorced with children, puts people off. I suddenly feel like I'm in no man's land because older men want some one much younger. Men my own age want someone to have family with. Younger men see me as some sort of novelty.

Online dating feels a bit forced and unnatural to me but I don't meet people through work really. My friends are all coupled up, and nights out are no longer a thing due to covid.

I'm so disillusioned by it all that I fear more than ever I'm going to be on the shelf forever.

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By *inger_SnapWoman
over a year ago

Hampshire/Dorset

"I'm on a few and rarely get past exchanging a few messages.

A combination of factors including:

People matching then not responding to an initial message. I assume the match was accidental or my message a bit rubbish.

I think perhaps I'm seeking something that doesn't exist.

Online dating feels a bit forced and unnatural to me but I don't meet people through work really. My friends are all coupled up, and nights out are no longer a thing due to covid.

I'm so disillusioned by it all that I fear more than ever I'm going to be on the shelf forever.

Exactly this.

It used to be ok when it was only really plenty of fish or match, but since tinder and the like it's a nightmare.

I made some really good friends many years ago from dating sites, but there's just too much choice these days and people are like kids in a sweet shop!

And then there's all the catfish and scammers.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I also found the opening 'what's a beautiful woman like you doing on here?' messages would really grind my gears basically because my ex abused me for years and left me a full time Mum to our daughter... But it's not the most suitable of replys.

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