FabSwingers.com forum: Loneliness

By *uscularLove OP Man
over a year ago

london

Whats some good idea to keep this horrible feeling at bay?

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

It's difficult at the moment because making face to face contact with other people is really restricted.

Phone calls, face time of chatting on here are temporary measures.

Do you have work?

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By *uscularLove OP Man
over a year ago

london

Yeah I'm a PT most days but it's been hard since covid.

I've been trying to keep optimistic but at times I get really in my own thoughts

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Do you have family or friends you can turn to?

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By *gent CoulsonMan
over a year ago

Secret hideaway in the pennines

I know how you feel, and the only thing I can say is try to stay positive, lockdown is almost over, the worst is almost over

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By *uscularLove OP Man
over a year ago

london

No I'm not in contact with family they live abroad and I got a couple mates but it's not like that I guess I just mix the comfort of having someone close

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Productivity has helped me, plenty online courses to look into, if your a PT there are many specialist areas to research, even social media influence techniques.. plenty to be looking at to keep the mind busy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"No I'm not in contact with family they live abroad and I got a couple mates but it's not like that I guess I just mix the comfort of having someone close

I hear you. It’s really tough at the moment.

Hang in there.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I understand. as a PT you are probably used to a lot of physical touch. its a human need. hard to love without. well done on keeping going so far. try a bolster pillow along along you in the bed, or a teddy or pet also people say weighted blankets are good for that sensation of contact.

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By *uscularLove OP Man
over a year ago

london

Thanks for the support guys

If anyone is feeling the same don't hesitate to get in contact, we need to stick together

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By *inister_SpinsterWoman
over a year ago

Manchester(ish).

Its difficult being alone.

There's lots of stuff online.

New skills.

Do you cook?

Learn to juggle?

Do a Turkish Get-Up?

Draw, paint, sing..

Stay positive OP.

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By *uscularLove OP Man
over a year ago

london

"I understand. as a PT you are probably used to a lot of physical touch. its a human need. hard to love without. well done on keeping going so far. try a bolster pillow along along you in the bed, or a teddy or pet also people say weighted blankets are good for that sensation of contact. "

Yeah was thinking about getting a kitten just for something to be around lol

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By *oelDorianMan
over a year ago

vanaheim

Start a new hobby possibly I’ve gotten back into my art and it has helped drastically

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By *inky_couple2020Couple
over a year ago

North West

Yeah was thinking about getting a kitten just for something to be around lol "

Only get a pet if you know you can meet its needs for the whole of its life, which for a cat can be 20yrs plus. Too many lockdown pets are being handed to rescue places and they are overwhelmed.

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By *inister_SpinsterWoman
over a year ago

Manchester(ish).

Yeah was thinking about getting a kitten just for something to be around lol "

Please don't get a pet for that reason.

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By *uscularLove OP Man
over a year ago

london

Yeah nah on second thoughts you guys are totally right

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By *inger_SnapWoman
over a year ago

Hampshire/Dorset

"Yeah nah on second thoughts you guys are totally right

You could always foster a pet, rescues always need foster homes! All the fun and no long term commitment. Cats are great company. It can be very rewarding.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

you aren't alone OP.

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By *rincess peachWoman
over a year ago

shits creek

Yeah was thinking about getting a kitten just for something to be around lol

Only get a pet if you know you can meet its needs for the whole of its life, which for a cat can be 20yrs plus. Too many lockdown pets are being handed to rescue places and they are overwhelmed. "

This is the reason I've not got one. I've sobbed at times so overwhelmed by the feeling of wanting another fur baby, knowing that I could offer it a loving home. Yeah, that's all well and good until I go back to work which wouldn't be fair on any animal and wouldn't be fair on myself by restricting my earning capacity by refusing extra hours coz I need to get home for the dog/cat.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have found this second lockdown much tougher than the first and had periods of feeling alone

After all my clothes had been sorted in to type/style/colour.

I bought plain shoe boxes because the mismatched ones I had got on my tits, then photographed the shoes in each box and stuck the picture on the front of each box. I soon realised why I was single !!

Can I suggest if PT is the job you absolutely love, use this time to really think how you can develop that.

Lots of businesses are considering home working as the new normal after Covid, can you see how you could work with companies to provide PT services to their homeworkers ? Group sessions on line would keep people connected to their co workers as well as help with posture.

What else could you add? things like mental well-being is such a critical issue, diet advice ?

Just a thought to keep you occupied and help get your business to grow in what will be a very different working environment

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

At times during lockdowns I've found spending time outside helpful , potting in the garden, just doing odd jobs.

Going for a walk/ run the fresh air is just cathartic.

Im also a creative person so have been occupying myself that way too

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I have found this second lockdown much tougher than the first and had periods of feeling alone

After all my clothes had been sorted in to type/style/colour.

I bought plain shoe boxes because the mismatched ones I had got on my tits, then photographed the shoes in each box and stuck the picture on the front of each box. I soon realised why I was single !!

Can I suggest if PT is the job you absolutely love, use this time to really think how you can develop that.

What else could you add? things like mental well-being is such a critical issue, diet advice ?

Just a thought to keep you occupied and help get your business to grow in what will be a very different working environment

That is really good advice

Providing PT services to homeworkers.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The only emotional link i have to the uk is my parents who are both in their 60's. What this pandemic highlighted to me is that i need to get back to college and look to build a new career for myself and build a new life for myself. That initself will be exciting and fun. So i'd be able to go anywhere i want. This pandemic has been like a rollercoaster ups and down's, it should be treated like a marathon, concentrate on reaching the finishing line.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Been dealing with loneliness for years. The only thing I can suggest is keeping busy in some way shape or form and look after your health as far as possible.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"The only emotional link i have to the uk is my parents who are both in their 60's. What this pandemic highlighted to me is that i need to get back to college and look to build a new career for myself and build a new life for myself. That initself will be exciting and fun. So i'd be able to go anywhere i want. This pandemic has been like a rollercoaster ups and down's, it should be treated like a marathon, concentrate on reaching the finishing line. "

I think that is a great attitude, the pandemic has damaged so many lives in so many ways.

However it will create opportunities as well, I’m not talking about profiting on the backs of others misfortunes. Home working is going to be a significant shift in the way many people work.

Whist it’s been a necessity for many it has been done with makeshift solutions. If an employer insists on homeworking then there is a legal obligation to ensure the environment is appropriate, desks chairs etc.

So a whole industry can be supported to create efficient office spaces in homes, or I have seen small prefrabicated office “sheds” that can be cranes into gardens. All these will need power, WIFI etc.

As per my earlier post employers would see health and well-being given to their staff as a benefit and also a recruitment tool.

So I apologise to the OP this won’t stop the loneliness but it could give you a real positive outlook for the future

Just my thoughts and ramblings

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By *ikerdude2017Man
over a year ago

Rotherham

Yeah I hate being single, and not good at making friends even worse due to pubs being shut. and no hope for singletons when they open as you have to book tables and not able to prop up the bar and chat to random people which I really miss. My new skill to keep my mind off the negative is leather making. I think a lot of single people are in the same boat at the moment. I guess enjoy the little things and keep in contact with people you can

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Excercise & hobbies.. build excercise into a hobby, excercise releases endorphins which create a positive & lift in mood

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By *ubal1Man
over a year ago

Newry Down

Loneliness is a very individual issue and where it is perceived to be a problem the potential solutions differ for each person.

Generally, the best solution is to keep as busy as possible in activities that you really enjoy.

This last 18 months have been very difficult for everyone, with the lockdown restrictions.

I lost my only employment last year due to a work-induced injury; my employers sacked me because I was unable to return and wete not prepared to until I had rehabilitated this injury.

I have designed my life to have 'multiple strings to my bow', but this does not generally involve contact with anyone, although I am active online.

Thankfully, although I was raised in an abusive and dysfunctional family culture I have never had to deal with any mental health issues, such as clinical depression.

Daily exercise is a proven method of raising one's mood, by stimulating natural hormonal processes such as endorphin release; the high enjoyed by runners.

If depression is leading to extreme lethargy or suicidal ideation, a visit to the GP is advised.

So, get out and get active.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I find it a state of mind to a large extent. I’m not one who is frightened by my own company, but even for me this is getting a bit much, especially through the week sitting at home working on my own. Best thing I do is make sure I go out for a walk and also go into town and get a coffee and sit on a bench. I find that just being in the vicinity of other people helps.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's difficult at the moment but it does look as if the restrictions are slowly being lifted.

I don't have any great suggestions other than to say you can usually find someone to chat to on the forums. Also feel free to message me x

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By *hatawasteMan
over a year ago

stafford

"Whats some good idea to keep this horrible feeling at bay?"

Hey, it's a tough time for a lot of us at the moment so you aren't alone.. Most go to PT or some sort of exercise. Which for you will be like busmans holiday!

You could try learning something.. An instrument perhaps.. I'm learning guitar in lockdown just to keep my brain working.. But anything really.. Draw, paint, write etc

If it gets too much make sure yiu reach out to those who are near you.. Best of luck OP.. This will all be over one day soon hopefully

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By *uscularLove OP Man
over a year ago

london

Thanks everyone for the support I really appreciate it let's all help eachother to feel a bit less lonely

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