FabSwingers.com forum: Feeling down

By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Really feeling down past couple of days, feel like I am falling apart being old fat and in need of a hair cut just don't feel attractive in anyway shape or form

Sorry for the depressing message but I can't talk to anyone I know

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hairdressers open soon and things are returning to some normality I’m sure you look good bud

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Judging by your pic OP you are far from being either old or fat!

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By *olden PoleMan
over a year ago

Kent

What’s brought this feeling on mate?

At 36 your certainly not old and your pic show a fine figure of a man.

Have a little think about the negatives and find a way to make them positive......physical appearance not as one would like - gyms open soon = great for body and mind

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

Not fat, not old.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Thanks everyone I just fell like things have fallen so far and I don't have the energy to put things right

Sorry for depressing posts

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By *aulo9424Man
over a year ago

hull

Keep your chin up pal. Its a long way back to normality but we will get there . Mid April will start to see things improve

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Really feeling down past couple of days, feel like I am falling apart being old fat and in need of a hair cut just don't feel attractive in anyway shape or form

Sorry for the depressing message but I can't talk to anyone I know "

You aren't alone feeling this way, a year out is a long time. Hopes being built up only to see them dissapear, plans cancelled. Stuck in a wheel of false hope. Yet still, there is hope, it's looking promising this time. Sunny days are on the way, we are nearly there, just keep going. 4 day holiday, a long walk in the sun will help chase a fat and ugly day away.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You are just a human being with insecurities, we are all the same. It’s just a case of getting through the bad days

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I hear you on all of this.

I think at the moment lockdown fatigue has well and truly set in for many people and those feelings always seem more heightened.

It's OK to feel down and to struggle and it's important to reach out to people when you are

Hopefully with hairdressers and barbers reopening soon that will at least help a little.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't think your alone OP.

Let's hope all will resume very soon and you can pamper yourself back to feeling great. Your fit,well and alive and you can talk to anyone in the forums at anytime. Glad you have spoke out. My inbox is always open if you want a general chat or to sound off. And that applies to anyone feeling low. I lived with someone with bad depression for several years and it's truly a cruel invisible disease.

Chin up OP.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think we all feel a little lacking in motivation right now and it's understandable. Bit of better weather and spring fever will set in. You'll be fine OP. Just stay positive.

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By *hrista BellendWoman
over a year ago

surrounded by twinkly lights

Take one day at a time, its so close for things to start opening up again (gyms especially will help alleviate blips)

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Last lockdown was easy, completely aced it. This lockdown despite doing the normal fitness stuff, gaming, etc has worn away at my mental health. You’re not the only one finding things difficult. This thing has gone on for far too long, we’re not meant to live like this. Things will open up soon, you just have to hang on for a bit longer. When we can all go out and socialise for a bit we’ll all feel a bit happier.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just replying your not old or fat can sometimes undermine how you are actually feeling, so I'll acknowledge that ...

But, you're going to have to be realistic and acknowledge to yourself that you know you are neither old or fat! Another point to acknowledge is that after a year of this everyone is most likely feeling that they can't take anymore and lost motivation BUT again you have to acknowledge that the gyms (fingers crossed) will open in a little over a week so ring and book in for asap! As to haircuts etc if you haven't learned how to cut your own by now then realistically they open again very soon so hopefully you're already booked in.

I know this sounds a little harsh but we're all in the same boat so show yourself and everyone else how strong you can be under pressure, a little talking to and pull yourself up, support your friends and smile and bounce for the next 11 days!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Thanks everyone I just fell like things have fallen so far and I don't have the energy to put things right

Sorry for depressing posts "

It’s ok, you feel how you feel, and that’s ok.

Can you sit with how you feel, and feel into what’s triggering it? Life is really tough at the moment, and lots of us are really feeling it.

Be kind to yourself.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You're neither of those OP for starters, but hang on in there, Barber's and Gym's opening soon to get you back on track and feeling good again.

We've all come this far, and I understand the last 8 weeks I feel have been the hardest.

Feel free to message if you need to talk. X

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The thing is most jobs involve many of the aspects of lockdown. So as it goes back to the same old drudge I think folk will opt for the caring lifestyle. Part time, self employed, stay on the dole etc.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hey NG47, I hope you are ok...we all have bad days...it will get better though

The first 2 lockdowns were ok for me as I still had to work and secretly I enjoyed the fact that I could just chill out at home on my days off. I have struggled this lockdown though as I ruptured my ACL in my knee just before Christmas so I can’t jog/run/HIIT but with the gyms opening on the 12th we can get back in there and make ourselves feel good again.

Need a chat, let me know

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hey OP, don’t worry about it! I know it’s a rubbish thing to say, like telling someone having a panic attack to calm down - “ohhh, that’s what I’ve got to do?!?! Sorry I didn’t get the memo!!!” - so I’m sorry for starting off with such an empty sentence, but hear me out...

We are living in incredibly unstable times. None of this is normal. It’s all very sensational and unknown to us, so it’s totally understood to feel low and depressed, and you know what? Your feelings are totally justified, genuine, and absolutely normal. Don’t feel like you have to be OK with all of this, just because you see others seemingly (important word) doing ok. You are allowed to feel how you are. Be kinder to yourself and allow yourself to experience these emotions, good or bad. Feeling low isn’t a sign of weakness, it’s a sign of being a normal human being, navigating a complex and complicated journey called Life, which is difficult enough without global pandemics, ffs!!

Things will get better soon enough, I guarantee you. And so will your mental health. This is all just temporary, and it will pass.

If you need someone to talk to, hit me up. Sometimes it’s good to get someone else’s perspective.

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By (user no longer on site) OP
over a year ago

Just wanted to say thank you for all your kindness this morning believe it or not I don't normally post how I feel hope you all have a wicked Easter and the only eggs I want to see are love eggs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Just wanted to say thank you for all your kindness this morning believe it or not I don't normally post how I feel hope you all have a wicked Easter and the only eggs I want to see are love eggs"

It’s good to talk

, and release those emotions.

I’m going to have to have chocolate eggs on show though

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I managed to get to the driving range last (finally) and release some frustration.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

you aren't alone OP.

without innuendo, my inbox is open if you do want to talk to a total stranger - some find it helps.

im not okay either.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hey buddy its ok to be a little glum at times .

The important thing is you recognised that you were

These are difficult times for so many buddy and you are not alone . Please have a little google about mindfulness it has really helped me

Hope you're ok buddy

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By *ocksareoffMan
over a year ago

Out n About

Old and fat... Give over fella. I'm fast approaching 40, aaaarrrhhhh! and wish I had half the muscle tone you have.

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By *incskittenWoman
over a year ago

Nottingham

Hi OP.

I just wanted to say its ok to feel the way you do.(btw you are not what you think you are , you look great)

Allow yourself bad days, we all have them.

I'm not ok either and haven't been for a while now but i know better days are ahead.

Sending hugs .

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well I'm 10yr older than you OP and a lot fatter!

Feelings are temporary, you'll be OK x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I managed to get to the driving range last (finally) and release some frustration."

Yeah, me too. The golf course staff were throwing what they could at my car to stop me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Hi OP.

I just wanted to say its ok to feel the way you do.(btw you are not what you think you are , you look great)

Allow yourself bad days, we all have them.

I'm not ok either and haven't been for a while now but i know better days are ahead.

Sending hugs .

Me too. Had a shit 12 months where bugger all had gone right for me.

I think l its all to eo with how you perceive yourself and what life throws at you.

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