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By *gent Coulson OP   Man
over a year ago

Secret hideaway in the pennines

I have just had an off site message from an old ex.

She heard about my spitting up with my last partner and wanted to know if I fancy meeting for a chat.

She became an ex for a reason, and I don't want to hurt her feelings, but I don't want to go back there.

Best way to deal with?????

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Delete, ignore, block....

(You knew this already, but I'm happy to reinforce your own conclusions)

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

Politely refuse .

Do you think she wants to rekindle that old flame? Is it possible she just wants a friendly chat?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Run away.......run away.....

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By *rightonfranceMan
over a year ago

brighton - chalais france

as said previously.. she is an ex for a reason..

best to look forwards I think, unless you want her as an ex a second time around and she gets the last laugh on you!

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham

Just say outright that a chat is all it would be and you don't want to start anything with them. Set your stall out from the get go.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Be honest with her - only thing that’s best

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Do what you think and feel is right, you'll know the right thing to do, despite what others advise you to do, you'll come to your own decision

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By *emorefridaCouple
over a year ago

La la land

Is she someone you come into contact with? Like your all part of the same friend group?

If not just ignore the message. If you are just refuse politely.

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By *rder66Man
over a year ago

Tatooine

Thank her for her concern and explain to her your reason for not wanting to talk to about it. You can still be nice to her regardless, if she get nasty then block her.

She might could just be being friendly.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Run away.......run away....."

It’s a trap!!!!!

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

The thing is that you don't *have* to meet her. You aren't obliged to get involved at all and even if you do and she asks if you can get back together you aren't obliged to agree.

You say you don't want to hurt her feelings but in my experience trying to avoid upset actually leads to worse in the long run whereas polite honesty leaves everyone knowing where they stand.

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By *heVonMatterhornsCouple
over a year ago

Lincoln


"Is she someone you come into contact with? Like your all part of the same friend group?

If not just ignore the message. If you are just refuse politely. "

This

LvM

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By *gent Coulson OP   Man
over a year ago

Secret hideaway in the pennines

Thanks guys, you have reaffirmed my thoughts and a polite thank you but no thank you is about to make it's way to her

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would ignore it.

Replying might open up a conversation.

Exes don't bring anything new into your life - it's never a good idea.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Thanks but no thanks.

If you reply be polite then block all communication as they will always try to keep the chat going.

Rest easy.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just politely decline

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By *gent Coulson OP   Man
over a year ago

Secret hideaway in the pennines

Done and done, my headspace isn't in the best of places at the moment to start off with, so again thanks

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By *etcplCouple
over a year ago

Gapping Fanny

Meet, fuck, sleep, repeat.

After all if she’s been an ex once, she can be an ex twice!

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By *entleman JayMan
over a year ago

Wakefield

I like ignoring people who have upset me.

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