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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Do you expect woman to be dressed in sussies/hold ups for a meet? Would you be disappointed if they were in just sexy knickers and bra?

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By *thwalescplCouple
over a year ago

brecon

Whilst we both love to see sexy ladies in even sexier undies, the main thing for us is that she feels comfortable.

So, if she prefers to cover up a little, a lot, or not at all, then thats what we prefer, after all, if she feels comfortable, then we are all going to have a great time!

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By *adypleaserMan
over a year ago

worcester

I expect a lady to be wearing what she feels comfortable and sexy in, sussies/hold are great but not essential, just matching knickers & bra is fab, oh and a devilish sexy mind !

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Whilst we both love to see sexy ladies in even sexier undies, the main thing for us is that she feels comfortable.

So, if she prefers to cover up a little, a lot, or not at all, then thats what we prefer, after all, if she feels comfortable, then we are all going to have a great time! "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i would just be chuffed to be getting a meet..and..if they did have em on it would be a nice bonus

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Do you expect woman to be dressed in sussies/hold ups for a meet? Would you be disappointed if they were in just sexy knickers and bra?

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To put it simply I would expect her to feel confortable yet still make an effort.

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By *ouple in LancashireCouple
over a year ago

in Lancashire

whatever the lady is comfortable in, dont expect anyone to be a mannequin in something they dont normally wear..

anyway whats between the ears is far more 'sexy' that the most expensive piece of silk..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

As the male of the couple it`s nice to see a sexy dressed woman but happy to be in their company no matter what they have on

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Eh?? You mean they don't turn up dressed/undressed like their profile pic??

Awwww, ffs, whats this world coming to?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I personnally wear matching undies, cant seem to get hold ups to suit me, short legs lol. But always make sn effort, makes me feel sexy too. But wear wot makes you happy x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i wear matching underwear as i hate to see me wearing un matching

i feel sexy in my day to day undies as well as my others

i know what suits me and doesnt

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Do you expect woman to be dressed in sussies/hold ups for a meet? Would you be disappointed if they were in just sexy knickers and bra?

"

A woman should wear entirely what she wants. i'm attracted to confident women who i find sexy physically and more importantly mentally so even if she turned up in a boiler suit i'd be happy.

hmmm... maybe i should buy a boiler suit and just wear that for a meet as i come to "fix the sink"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Single man here

What's a meet??? lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Single man here

What's a meet??? lol

"

PMSL!!!!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I am not a huge fan on wearing nylon, plus I tend to meet for a drink first so wear a nice summer dress and nice underwear (just in case).

I do make an effort, but I was just wandering if men take it as standard that woman will have on the sussies etc

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By *eaboMan
over a year ago

marden

i like a woman to be female.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The thing that your doing wrong is worrying what they expect. Be your self and what's more important is you feel comfortable they got to take you for who you are xxx good luck xxx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The 'sussies and stockings' thing is a bit of a cliche, isn't it? From a male perspective, I much prefer the woman to be comfortable in what she is wearing - not all women feel comfortable in S n'S's. And to be honest, I don't find them all that flattering or that much of a turn on either. Sometimes a slinky dress (with little or nothing on underneath..... ) hits the spot far more

On the other side of the coin, women 'seem' to like a guy in nice underwear too, but I have always gone commando for meets and have done it for so long now that it is MY comfort zone.

Each to their own.

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By *thwalescplCouple
over a year ago

brecon

..."I do make an effort, but I was just wandering if men take it as standard that woman will have on the sussies etc".

Any man who thinks like this should be avoided.

Whilst I would actually ask a meet to wear them, if she asked me what I would like to see her in, I would never expect it.

Jayne loves stockings, but she wears them for a mix of reasons, all of which benefit her.

She wears them because she feels sexy in them.

She wears them because she knows it turns me on (and other guys... and some ladies too lol!)... and this means hot, sweaty, rampant sex... her favourite lol!

And she wears them to avoid having to wear tights.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"The thing that your doing wrong is worrying what they expect. Be your self and what's more important is you feel comfortable they got to take you for who you are xxx good luck xxx "

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By *exki11enWoman
over a year ago

Bristol

I always ask what the guy would like to see me in before we meet. I like to please, and it's no good turning up trussed up like a chicken if his fantasy is virginal white cotton!

(btw, only one of my meets so far has stipulated no sussies & stockings lol)

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By *njamesMan
over a year ago

Swindon

I personally prefer the lady to be wearing whatever she wishes, whether that be sexy undies or fully clothed.

I've met a few ladies who have been fully clothed when I turned up, and that got my mind racing and even me more excited about what she had on underneath....

Either way wins

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would raather have the lady totally naked so i could explore her body without anything getting in the way.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i like sussies n dressedupness..its not a requirement though

as i do like taking pics, i love what turns other people on...so its nice when theres something sexy added to the body

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By *ouple in LancashireCouple
over a year ago

in Lancashire


"I am not a huge fan on wearing nylon, plus I tend to meet for a drink first so wear a nice summer dress and nice underwear (just in case).

I do make an effort, but I was just wandering if men take it as standard that woman will have on the sussies etc"

i think some guys would expect that 'full kit' as i once heard it referred to would be the norm yes..

probably younger and single, but not all..

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By *habsMan
over a year ago

Fortress of Solitude, Middlesex

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By *habsMan
over a year ago

Fortress of Solitude, Middlesex


"Do you expect woman to be dressed in sussies/hold ups for a m

eet? Would you be disappointed if they were in just sexy knickers and bra?

"

Getting a meet is always a dream cone true, outfits she wears (or isn't wearing) is an added bonus!

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By *njamesMan
over a year ago

Swindon


"I always ask what the guy would like to see me in before we meet. I like to please, and it's no good turning up trussed up like a chicken if his fantasy is virginal white cotton!

(btw, only one of my meets so far has stipulated no sussies & stockings lol)"

A stipulation to not wear them, that's madness

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Do you expect woman to be dressed in sussies/hold ups for a meet? Would you be disappointed if they were in just sexy knickers and bra?

"

I don't expect to find out on a first meet but if she wants to show me I won't refuse. As to what sort, I couldn't really care less as if I've got that far my blood will be up and they'll be on the floor shortly anyway.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would like them to wear a little more than just their underwear otherwise everyone would be staring lol

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By *ouple in LancashireCouple
over a year ago

in Lancashire


"I always ask what the guy would like to see me in before we meet. I like to please, and it's no good turning up trussed up like a chicken if his fantasy is virginal white cotton!

(btw, only one of my meets so far has stipulated no sussies & stockings lol)

A stipulation to not wear them, that's madness "

or control...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i dont wear clothes underwear for people

i wear them for me if people dont like my choice then its tough!!

i dont need people telling me what to do and what not to do

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By *issBehavingxxWoman
over a year ago

Glasgow


"i dont wear clothes underwear for people

i wear them for me if people dont like my choice then its tough!!

i dont need people telling me what to do and what not to do "

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By *etillanteWoman
over a year ago

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I fulfilled a fantasy of mine on Friday by turning up at a meets hotel room wearing nothing but a smile under my coat.

I'd also driven to meet him with just the coat on.

The effect when he realised was instantaneous

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Nobody has asked me to wear them or complained that I don't, but I saw on another thread that it was thought of as standard so I thought I would ask the question.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"i dont wear clothes underwear for people

i wear them for me if people dont like my choice then its tough!!

i dont need people telling me what to do and what not to do "
wow really confident if you don't wear anything on meets

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The frisson of excitement is imagining what she might be wearing.

If she is comfortable, she will exude sexiness irrespective of what she is actually wearing.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well I never go with any expectancy, that way if for some mad reason we don't click, I'm not dissappointed.

I'd rather my meets feel comfortable, than done up like a dogs dinner.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If i had lovely long slender and toned legs im sure id feel sexy in them..

however my legs are by far my worst feature and certainly dont want to draw any attention to my thunder thighs and stumpy little legs.. urghhhh

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham

i like to look nice for my meets (hopefully anyway lol)

hold ups under a dress make me feel sexy and can flash a top or two while they go to the bar to let them know i am interested

bit of cleavage on display and a necklace that dangles just into it. ocasionally playing woth it to draw the eye....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Well I love stockings but as long as the lady your meeting is comfortable in what ever shes got is fine but it's the person not the clothes your meeting

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"i dont wear clothes underwear for people

i wear them for me if people dont like my choice then its tough!!

i dont need people telling me what to do and what not to do wow really confident if you don't wear anything on meets "

done it before now

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

When I wore stockings to the meet, she ran so fast I couldn't catch her in my heels.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Does it really matter as long as you get along and really enjoy each other

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By *uckknowsMan
over a year ago

here


"Do you expect woman to be dressed in sussies/hold ups for a meet? Would you be disappointed if they were in just sexy knickers and bra?

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No, naked's even better

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Do you expect woman to be dressed in sussies/hold ups for a meet? Would you be disappointed if they were in just sexy knickers and bra?

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Nope

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

sometimes wowing someone works wonders

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If i had lovely long slender and toned legs im sure id feel sexy in them..

however my legs are by far my worst feature and certainly dont want to draw any attention to my thunder thighs and stumpy little legs.. urghhhh"

just open ur legs, pull flaps apart...everything else will just fade outta _iew

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham

i do how ever sometimes take requests from people

for instance a good friend of mine will tet me the outfit he wants me to wear and how he wants to find me

very sexy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If i had lovely long slender and toned legs im sure id feel sexy in them..

however my legs are by far my worst feature and certainly dont want to draw any attention to my thunder thighs and stumpy little legs.. urghhhh

just open ur legs, pull flaps apart...everything else will just fade outta _iew "

Oh Padster you do have a way with words.. sadly my legs just truly are tragic

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

whatever the lady feels comfortable and sexy in

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"whatever the lady feels comfortable and sexy in "

Do bin bags count? lol

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By *un_JuiceCouple
over a year ago

Nr Chester

Not disappointed either way as long as the connection was established and she was sensual, kinky and passionate. The more adventurous the better though ie PVC catsuits & gauntlets even better

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would love to meet with a woman wearing suspenders and the full outfit as I'm sure most guys would but also aware woman need to be happy and comfortable in what they wear so if i turned up and she was wearing wellies and a flat cap then so be it

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"i do how ever sometimes take requests from people

for instance a good friend of mine will tet me the outfit he wants me to wear and how he wants to find me

very sexy"

ive done it once or twice

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

well been with some trashy women in my time...

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

I like wearing stockings but i wear them cause i like them. Ive put on outfits that i know are guys favourites but i dress for me.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I like wearing stockings but i wear them cause i like them. Ive put on outfits that i know are guys favourites but i dress for me. "
exactly how it should be !

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By *phroditeWoman
over a year ago

(She/ her) in Sensualityland


"whatever the lady is comfortable in, dont expect anyone to be a mannequin in something they dont normally wear..

anyway whats between the ears is far more 'sexy' that the most expensive piece of silk.. "
There's hope for me

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By *appyTrancerMan
over a year ago

Bristol

I wouldn't "expect" anything (outside of a clean pair) unless we'd discussed it previously. I'd "hope" for at least matching bra and knickers to show she's at the least a bit interested though!

I know people like to put in a bit of effort for meets, and lingerie goes with that, but whats the point if they dislike wearing stockings etc? Unless they like being put outside their comfort zone lol.

HT

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By *he_original_poloWoman
over a year ago

a Primark shoebox in Leicester

If most men were honest they'd tell you it wouldn't be a deal breaker if you wore your Grandad's Y-fronts and a bin liner as long as a blow-job was on the cards.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If most men were honest they'd tell you it wouldn't be a deal breaker if you wore your Grandad's Y-fronts and a bin liner as long as a blow-job was on the cards."

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By *iewMan
Forum Mod
over a year ago

Angus & Findhorn

does nowt for me..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

depends on the meet.........if meeting for the first time and in public, sexy bra and panties are fine. maybe after a few meetings and respect is gained, the lady might want to dress to impress or to the mans liking.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We never 'expect' anything at a meet other than for people to be clean and respectful.

How they dress is entirely up to them

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

One meet wasn't wearing any and it still went down well so I guess it really doesn't matter all that much.

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By *Ryan-Man
over a year ago

In Your Bush

As long as you take your rollers out

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"As long as you take your rollers out "

but i feel sexy in them,, thought you liked them

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By *ouple in LancashireCouple
over a year ago

in Lancashire


"whatever the lady is comfortable in, dont expect anyone to be a mannequin in something they dont normally wear..

anyway whats between the ears is far more 'sexy' that the most expensive piece of silk.. There's hope for me "

ditto lol..

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By *gentprovocateurWoman
over a year ago

leeds


"If most men were honest they'd tell you it wouldn't be a deal breaker if you wore your Grandad's Y-fronts and a bin liner as long as a blow-job was on the cards.

"

sad but true ha ha

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If it makes you feel sexy wear them.

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By *empting Devil.Woman
over a year ago

Sheffield

I dress to please myself. As a general rule that's a nice dress, my lingerie matches and if the weather calls for it either stockings or hold ups. I rarely wear tights, they're not comfortable!

When I get to know people that is when I start to dress to tittilate.

I recently asked a fb how he would like me to be dressed and he said that my everyday was far more exotic than previous women he'd known, so whatever I choose would be exciting! I was surprised since I hadn't even started on the exciting end of my undies drawer!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If most men were honest they'd tell you it wouldn't be a deal breaker if you wore your Grandad's Y-fronts and a bin liner as long as a blow-job was on the cards.

sad but true ha ha"

Allthough I can only speak for myself, the sexiest thing a woman can wear is her own confidence. Id much rather meet someone in y-fronts and a bin liner if she felt sexy than someone wearin sussies and the rest who was constantly looking to me for reassurance.......

Of course, a blow job doesnt hurt in either case.....

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By *he_original_poloWoman
over a year ago

a Primark shoebox in Leicester


"I dress to please myself. As a general rule that's a nice dress, my lingerie matches and if the weather calls for it either stockings or hold ups. I rarely wear tights, they're not comfortable!

When I get to know people that is when I start to dress to tittilate.

I recently asked a fb how he would like me to be dressed and he said that my everyday was far more exotic than previous women he'd known, so whatever I choose would be exciting! I was surprised since I hadn't even started on the exciting end of my undies drawer! "

You really don't understand 'man speak' do you. Basically he's saying he couldn't care less as long as there's head.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I dress to please myself. As a general rule that's a nice dress, my lingerie matches and if the weather calls for it either stockings or hold ups. I rarely wear tights, they're not comfortable!

When I get to know people that is when I start to dress to tittilate.

I recently asked a fb how he would like me to be dressed and he said that my everyday was far more exotic than previous women he'd known, so whatever I choose would be exciting! I was surprised since I hadn't even started on the exciting end of my undies drawer!

You really don't understand 'man speak' do you. Basically he's saying he couldn't care less as long as there's head."

I'd listen to Polo, she seems really smart. When I'm having me knob chomped on the very last thing going through my mind is what she was wearing 15 minutes previously. Don't really give a stuff what she'll be wearing 15 minutes later either if I'm honest.

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By *empting Devil.Woman
over a year ago

Sheffield

But he has noticed that they all match and that none are cotton belly warmers! Even with the exemplary head

The fact that no other women have bothered says more about them then him. He might not mind but I do! As I said, I dress for myself.

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By *he_original_poloWoman
over a year ago

a Primark shoebox in Leicester


"But he has noticed that they all match and that none are cotton belly warmers! Even with the exemplary head

The fact that no other women have bothered says more about them then him. He might not mind but I do! As I said, I dress for myself. "

Not many men are dumb enough to say "You wear the 4th sexiest underwear out of the women I've seen this year. Janet has some like yours but they fit her better".......... especially if there is head involved.

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By *phroditeWoman
over a year ago

(She/ her) in Sensualityland


"

I'd listen to Polo, she seems really smart. When I'm having me knob chomped on the very last thing going through my mind is what she was wearing 15 minutes previously. Don't really give a stuff what she'll be wearing 15 minutes later either if I'm honest. "

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By *abloBackMan
over a year ago

London

I like sophisticated conversation with a slutty outlook!

Dress to impress girls, you know us single guys are at a premium

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By *phroditeWoman
over a year ago

(She/ her) in Sensualityland


"I like sophisticated conversation with a slutty outlook!

Dress to impress girls, you know us single guys are at a premium "

So a touch of philosophy with a hint of Dita von Teese while simultaneously having the best BJ ever?

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By *abloBackMan
over a year ago

London


"I like sophisticated conversation with a slutty outlook!

Dress to impress girls, you know us single guys are at a premium

So a touch of philosophy with a hint of Dita von Teese while simultaneously having the best BJ ever? "

Got it in one, make your way to the cave

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By *phroditeWoman
over a year ago

(She/ her) in Sensualityland


"I like sophisticated conversation with a slutty outlook!

Dress to impress girls, you know us single guys are at a premium

So a touch of philosophy with a hint of Dita von Teese while simultaneously having the best BJ ever?

Got it in one, make your way to the cave "
Digging out Humes and Descartes, bestest basque ever and preparing sat nav

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By *abloBackMan
over a year ago

London

Park at the bottom of the cliffs, the guide with the donkey will be waiting

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By *phroditeWoman
over a year ago

(She/ her) in Sensualityland


"Park at the bottom of the cliffs, the guide with the donkey will be waiting"
Hung like ... or genuine?

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By *irtydanMan
over a year ago

Blackpool

Whatever she's comfortable in

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