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By *uscularLove OP   Man
over a year ago

london

Well well well, here we go again.

But honestly tho whats your take on the odds I'm putting in a solid 10/1

However I think most men only sign up t get quick pussy and leave after they realise all they gonna get is TS and men looking for men whilst most women are habitual meaning long-term users

5/1.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’ll have a pound each way

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!


"I’ll have a pound each way "
Phwooaar! Me too!

I’d say it’s more like 25 men to every woman. You’d think that was a ladies gang bang delight really. But that’s a mana take on it so it’s probably not at all.

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By *uscularLove OP   Man
over a year ago

london

Lol yeah I'm sure they get hounded in they're inboxes, I don't even attempt to message them anymore.

If they are that interested they will message me

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Lol yeah I'm sure they get hounded in they're inboxes, I don't even attempt to message them anymore.

If they are that interested they will message me "

Yep, if at first you don’t succeed, admit defeat and wait for them to come to you

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

Actually, having loads of men on here is a good thing.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

50 Tom Dick and Harry's to 1 Jessica

But on the other hand 7 Jessica's to 1 Morningstar

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By * Sophie xTV/TS
over a year ago

Derby


"Well well well, here we go again.

But honestly tho whats your take on the odds I'm putting in a solid 10/1

However I think most men only sign up t get quick pussy and leave after they realise all they gonna get is TS and men looking for men whilst most women are habitual meaning long-term users

5/1. "

And what make you or any of those guys think they're going to get is a TS r a TV for that matter any easier than they will a cis woman?

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By *ARPBOT8020Man
over a year ago

Spennymoor


"Actually, having loads of men on here is a good thing. "

Noooooo!! Less men would reduce the amount of easy attention the women get, which would make them feel a little less entitled, which is a major problem both here and in real life.

They would start to have actual conversations with the remaining men and realise most of us are actually pretty cool when given a chance.

Meanwhile, the missing men should be spending more time with their male mates, doing manly stuff which makes them happier than being on fab. Then they can start coming back with a spring in their step and a story to tell, forcing both the men and women to up their games, thereby incrementally improving the quality of talent on here.

Easy as that haha

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

Doesn't matter if it's 10:1, 100:1 or even 1:1 - makes no difference to the likelihood of meeting anyone - that comes down to two things...yourself and how you present yourself, and even then nothing is guaranteed - you still need someone to find you appealing enough to want to meet you

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By *heNYCSausageMan
over a year ago

Everton

Feels like 10,000/1 but like anything in life, you put the efforts in, you will be rewarded.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Well well well, here we go again.

But honestly tho whats your take on the odds I'm putting in a solid 10/1

However I think most men only sign up t get quick pussy and leave after they realise all they gonna get is TS and men looking for men whilst most women are habitual meaning long-term users

5/1. "

16 and a quarter/1

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By *harisajidanWoman
over a year ago

london


"Well well well, here we go again.

But honestly tho whats your take on the odds I'm putting in a solid 10/1

However I think most men only sign up t get quick pussy and leave after they realise all they gonna get is TS and men looking for men whilst most women are habitual meaning long-term users

5/1. "

Astute analysis.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Well well well, here we go again.

But honestly tho whats your take on the odds I'm putting in a solid 10/1

However I think most men only sign up t get quick pussy and leave after they realise all they gonna get is TS and men looking for men whilst most women are habitual meaning long-term users

5/1. "

Good luck finding a TS willing to play with you. I’m at least as picky as the other women here.

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By *uscularLove OP   Man
over a year ago

london


"Well well well, here we go again.

But honestly tho whats your take on the odds I'm putting in a solid 10/1

However I think most men only sign up t get quick pussy and leave after they realise all they gonna get is TS and men looking for men whilst most women are habitual meaning long-term users

5/1.

Astute analysis."

Great word

I actually googled that and that's a rarity well done madam

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By *harisajidanWoman
over a year ago

london

Honestly the ratio of women to men who'll actually meet (not fantasists), are sane, can hold a conversation, reliable with a working cock, not a timewaster, and have a decent profile is MAYBE 1:1.

I'm being generous with the 1:1

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By *uscularLove OP   Man
over a year ago

london


"Honestly the ratio of women to men who'll actually meet (not fantasists), are sane, can hold a conversation, reliable with a working cock, not a timewaster, and have a decent profile is MAYBE 1:1.

I'm being generous with the 1:1"

Guys dicks don't work? That's insane I guess me bring in my mid-twenties I haven't experienced ED yet.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Your odds are way off mate, more like 100/1 easily.

You also managed to come across offensive to TS which is not a good thing.

I live with a TV friend and believe me, she wouldn't touch you or 99% of other men with a 10 foot barge pole!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Ok, I just did a quick "who is local" search, here was the results for online right now

38 men

10 couples

1 tv/ts

1 woman

This is only accurate in my area right now of course, but gives you a good idea

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Honestly the ratio of women to men who'll actually meet (not fantasists), are sane, can hold a conversation, reliable with a working cock, not a timewaster, and have a decent profile is MAYBE 1:1.

I'm being generous with the 1:1

Guys dicks don't work? That's insane I guess me bring in my mid-twenties I haven't experienced ED yet."

The fact that was your only takeaway from what she said speaks volumes

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By *uscularLove OP   Man
over a year ago

london


"Ok, I just did a quick "who is local" search, here was the results for online right now

38 men

10 couples

1 tv/ts

1 woman

This is only accurate in my area right now of course, but gives you a good idea"

Yes exactly, and i also mentioned men looking for men, so I dunno why TS are getting offended in my OWN experience 90% of messages I have got are from MEN and TS/TV.

Those are hardcore facts, if I offended anyone with facts and my own experience on this site then I guess people are looking for offence

I'm not saying there's anything wrong with any sexuality or the fact that i remotely care about your friend not being interested in me loool, why would you even bring that up that's a clear attempt to offend and attack me, which is bang out of order especially the 10-foot barge pool that was really hurtful.

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By *uscularLove OP   Man
over a year ago

london


"Honestly the ratio of women to men who'll actually meet (not fantasists), are sane, can hold a conversation, reliable with a working cock, not a timewaster, and have a decent profile is MAYBE 1:1.

I'm being generous with the 1:1

Guys dicks don't work? That's insane I guess me bring in my mid-twenties I haven't experienced ED yet.

The fact that was your only takeaway from what she said speaks volumes"

Your clear attempts at spinning my words and trying to make anything I say into some sort of personal attack is very sad I hope you look into your issues cus you are clearly upset and using my as a way to vent out

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Ok, I just did a quick "who is local" search, here was the results for online right now

38 men

10 couples

1 tv/ts

1 woman

This is only accurate in my area right now of course, but gives you a good idea

Yes exactly, and i also mentioned men looking for men, so I dunno why TS are getting offended in my OWN experience 90% of messages I have got are from MEN and TS/TV.

Those are hardcore facts, if I offended anyone with facts and my own experience on this site then I guess people are looking for offence

I'm not saying there's anything wrong with any sexuality or the fact that i remotely care about your friend not being interested in me loool, why would you even bring that up that's a clear attempt to offend and attack me, which is bang out of order especially the 10-foot barge pool that was really hurtful.

"

There’s not very many ts on here and most of us are registered as women.

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By *uscularLove OP   Man
over a year ago

london


"Ok, I just did a quick "who is local" search, here was the results for online right now

38 men

10 couples

1 tv/ts

1 woman

This is only accurate in my area right now of course, but gives you a good idea

Yes exactly, and i also mentioned men looking for men, so I dunno why TS are getting offended in my OWN experience 90% of messages I have got are from MEN and TS/TV.

Those are hardcore facts, if I offended anyone with facts and my own experience on this site then I guess people are looking for offence

I'm not saying there's anything wrong with any sexuality or the fact that i remotely care about your friend not being interested in me loool, why would you even bring that up that's a clear attempt to offend and attack me, which is bang out of order especially the 10-foot barge pool that was really hurtful.

There’s not very many ts on here and most of us are registered as women. "

Well that's not what is says in my inbox, I wish I could screenshot it for you then you would see. You are entitled to be whoever you want man or women don't take this as an attack on your sexuality you are a beautiful person I'm just stating facts about what happens on this site

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Ok, I just did a quick "who is local" search, here was the results for online right now

38 men

10 couples

1 tv/ts

1 woman

This is only accurate in my area right now of course, but gives you a good idea

Yes exactly, and i also mentioned men looking for men, so I dunno why TS are getting offended in my OWN experience 90% of messages I have got are from MEN and TS/TV.

Those are hardcore facts, if I offended anyone with facts and my own experience on this site then I guess people are looking for offence

I'm not saying there's anything wrong with any sexuality or the fact that i remotely care about your friend not being interested in me loool, why would you even bring that up that's a clear attempt to offend and attack me, which is bang out of order especially the 10-foot barge pool that was really hurtful.

"

"All they're gonna get is TV/TS and men"

Was your comment I believe, if you dont see how that can be offensive to some trans then I wont bother explaining.

This is a public forum, I didnt attack you, I posted my opinion on what you said.

It also wasnt personal because as mentioned, I said "and 99% of men"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Ok, I just did a quick "who is local" search, here was the results for online right now

38 men

10 couples

1 tv/ts

1 woman

This is only accurate in my area right now of course, but gives you a good idea

Yes exactly, and i also mentioned men looking for men, so I dunno why TS are getting offended in my OWN experience 90% of messages I have got are from MEN and TS/TV.

Those are hardcore facts, if I offended anyone with facts and my own experience on this site then I guess people are looking for offence

I'm not saying there's anything wrong with any sexuality or the fact that i remotely care about your friend not being interested in me loool, why would you even bring that up that's a clear attempt to offend and attack me, which is bang out of order especially the 10-foot barge pool that was really hurtful.

There’s not very many ts on here and most of us are registered as women.

Well that's not what is says in my inbox, I wish I could screenshot it for you then you would see. You are entitled to be whoever you want man or women don't take this as an attack on your sexuality you are a beautiful person I'm just stating facts about what happens on this site "

I think your misunderstanding me as I didn’t think you were attacking my sexuality.

I was merely pointing out that the ts women on here have inboxes not dissimilar to those of the cis ladies so don’t often message guys first.

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit


"Honestly the ratio of women to men who'll actually meet (not fantasists), are sane, can hold a conversation, reliable with a working cock, not a timewaster, and have a decent profile is MAYBE 1:1.

I'm being generous with the 1:1

Guys dicks don't work? That's insane I guess me bring in my mid-twenties I haven't experienced ED yet.

The fact that was your only takeaway from what she said speaks volumes

Your clear attempts at spinning my words and trying to make anything I say into some sort of personal attack is very sad I hope you look into your issues cus you are clearly upset and using my as a way to vent out "

Being absolutely honest I've not seen anything Ivy has said as being an attack, or spinning anything, and is mostly stating facts as she sees them.

The poster who you quoted actually had it pretty spot on too - if you take away the single male profiles that just don't get the site or who it works then the ratio is a lot more evenly balanced than you might think.

Ivy was right too if your only take away from what that poster said was seeming incredulity that ED is an issue (and it's something that can and will affect all men of all ages at one time or another) that you'd missed the previous posters point.

As I said further up though, ratios are irrelevant, it's how you come across that really counts.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Doesn't matter if it's 10:1, 100:1 or even 1:1 - makes no difference to the likelihood of meeting anyone - that comes down to two things...yourself and how you present yourself, and even then nothing is guaranteed - you still need someone to find you appealing enough to want to meet you"

Sorry but that is a load of rubbish. Doesnt matter how well you present yourself or how nice and sparkly your profile is. As soon as you send a thought out polite msg it just get deleted or ignored. As someone else said a lot of women are too entitled and dont give decent guys a chance but getting to know them. Sad but true facts that a lot on here cant face.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Doesn't matter if it's 10:1, 100:1 or even 1:1 - makes no difference to the likelihood of meeting anyone - that comes down to two things...yourself and how you present yourself, and even then nothing is guaranteed - you still need someone to find you appealing enough to want to meet you

Sorry but that is a load of rubbish. Doesnt matter how well you present yourself or how nice and sparkly your profile is. As soon as you send a thought out polite msg it just get deleted or ignored. As someone else said a lot of women are too entitled and dont give decent guys a chance but getting to know them. Sad but true facts that a lot on here cant face."

I believe you're wrong. Your message or profile never stood out and that's it really.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Doesn't matter if it's 10:1, 100:1 or even 1:1 - makes no difference to the likelihood of meeting anyone - that comes down to two things...yourself and how you present yourself, and even then nothing is guaranteed - you still need someone to find you appealing enough to want to meet you

Sorry but that is a load of rubbish. Doesnt matter how well you present yourself or how nice and sparkly your profile is. As soon as you send a thought out polite msg it just get deleted or ignored. As someone else said a lot of women are too entitled and dont give decent guys a chance but getting to know them. Sad but true facts that a lot on here cant face."

My verifications alone would prove this wrong

How on earth did I get them and also make friends of every gender on here if I just deleted everyones messages

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By * Sophie xTV/TS
over a year ago

Derby


"Ok, I just did a quick "who is local" search, here was the results for online right now

38 men

10 couples

1 tv/ts

1 woman

This is only accurate in my area right now of course, but gives you a good idea

Yes exactly, and i also mentioned men looking for men, so I dunno why TS are getting offended in my OWN experience 90% of messages I have got are from MEN and TS/TV.

Those are hardcore facts, if I offended anyone with facts and my own experience on this site then I guess people are looking for offence

I'm not saying there's anything wrong with any sexuality or the fact that i remotely care about your friend not being interested in me loool, why would you even bring that up that's a clear attempt to offend and attack me, which is bang out of order especially the 10-foot barge pool that was really hurtful.

"

She's dead right, I know a large amount of both TS women and TVs who really couldn't care less for men at all and are only into women so your generalisation that TV/TS go for men due to you having some look your way is a massive faux pas on your part.

You've done nothing but made yourself look judgemental and that you are happy to cast stereotypes due to your own tiny amount of experience on here that you use to say all men experience what you do.

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit


"Doesn't matter if it's 10:1, 100:1 or even 1:1 - makes no difference to the likelihood of meeting anyone - that comes down to two things...yourself and how you present yourself, and even then nothing is guaranteed - you still need someone to find you appealing enough to want to meet you

Sorry but that is a load of rubbish. Doesnt matter how well you present yourself or how nice and sparkly your profile is. As soon as you send a thought out polite msg it just get deleted or ignored. As someone else said a lot of women are too entitled and dont give decent guys a chance but getting to know them. Sad but true facts that a lot on here cant face."

If you want to believe it's rubbish then that is of course your prerogative, but I'd suggest, with respect, that as someone who has only been on the site six weeks that if you're expecting replies every time you send a message that perhaps it's not the ladies who are entitled, and that maybe rather than blaming others for your perceived lack of "success" perhaps looking at what *you* can change to improve your experience of the site might be a good place to start.

It all ultimately comes down to expectations, attitude and approach, coupled with a decent profile and pics - get them right and it won't guarantee a thing, but it will improve your experience and perception of the site - and the best thing is, they are all completely within your control.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Doesn't matter if it's 10:1, 100:1 or even 1:1 - makes no difference to the likelihood of meeting anyone - that comes down to two things...yourself and how you present yourself, and even then nothing is guaranteed - you still need someone to find you appealing enough to want to meet you

Sorry but that is a load of rubbish. Doesnt matter how well you present yourself or how nice and sparkly your profile is. As soon as you send a thought out polite msg it just get deleted or ignored. As someone else said a lot of women are too entitled and dont give decent guys a chance but getting to know them. Sad but true facts that a lot on here cant face.

If you want to believe it's rubbish then that is of course your prerogative, but I'd suggest, with respect, that as someone who has only been on the site six weeks that if you're expecting replies every time you send a message that perhaps it's not the ladies who are entitled, and that maybe rather than blaming others for your perceived lack of "success" perhaps looking at what *you* can change to improve your experience of the site might be a good place to start.

It all ultimately comes down to expectations, attitude and approach, coupled with a decent profile and pics - get them right and it won't guarantee a thing, but it will improve your experience and perception of the site - and the best thing is, they are all completely within your control."

I am not new i have been on here twice ( once as a couple and once as a single ) you wasnt to know this so i accept your comment. Im sorry i have to respectfully disagree. All my msgs are thoughtful and polite and most just dont want to try to find out if someone is decent. I think the fact is there are so many bad guys who flood the wonen that decent guys like myself are overlooked. Aporeciate your views tho

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Sorry but that is a load of rubbish. Doesnt matter how well you present yourself or how nice and sparkly your profile is. As soon as you send a thought out polite msg it just get deleted or ignored. As someone else said a lot of women are too entitled and dont give decent guys a chance but getting to know them. Sad but true facts that a lot on here cant face."

I disagree... What you put in is what you get out, but you have to remember that doesn’t guarantee you anything. If you catch someone’s eye they will most likely reply.

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By *oreno0969Man
over a year ago

Rugby

I am a man and i have met a large amount of amazing people not just woman from here yes in real life strangest thing I don't send the first message. Ever. So maybe the odds are what the problem is

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit


"All my msgs are thoughtful and polite and most just dont want to try to find out if someone is decent. I think the fact is there are so many bad guys who flood the wonen that decent guys like myself are overlooked. Aporeciate your views tho "

But here's the thing - you may think they're thoughtful and polite, and they may well be, but if they or your profile are not of interest to the recipient then they could be the mot polite and thoughtful messages ever and still not get a reply.

Again it's not about bad guys flooding the women either - and again you're blaming others for your perceived lack of "success" - women are perfectly capable of differentiating and deciding who is appealing to them, and yes your message may get lost in the flurry of messages some women receive, but that is something you either accept happens or you look at what *you* can change about how you approach the site - it doesn't have to be about sending blind messages to profiles in the hope of a response, in fact in 5 years here I've sent precisely six of those, and got replies from all but one, none of which resulted in meeting - yet I am more than happy with my experience of the site.

It comes back to what I was saying about finding an approach that works for you

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By * Sophie xTV/TS
over a year ago

Derby


"Doesn't matter if it's 10:1, 100:1 or even 1:1 - makes no difference to the likelihood of meeting anyone - that comes down to two things...yourself and how you present yourself, and even then nothing is guaranteed - you still need someone to find you appealing enough to want to meet you

Sorry but that is a load of rubbish. Doesnt matter how well you present yourself or how nice and sparkly your profile is. As soon as you send a thought out polite msg it just get deleted or ignored. As someone else said a lot of women are too entitled and dont give decent guys a chance but getting to know them. Sad but true facts that a lot on here cant face.

If you want to believe it's rubbish then that is of course your prerogative, but I'd suggest, with respect, that as someone who has only been on the site six weeks that if you're expecting replies every time you send a message that perhaps it's not the ladies who are entitled, and that maybe rather than blaming others for your perceived lack of "success" perhaps looking at what *you* can change to improve your experience of the site might be a good place to start.

It all ultimately comes down to expectations, attitude and approach, coupled with a decent profile and pics - get them right and it won't guarantee a thing, but it will improve your experience and perception of the site - and the best thing is, they are all completely within your control.

I am not new i have been on here twice ( once as a couple and once as a single ) you wasnt to know this so i accept your comment. Im sorry i have to respectfully disagree. All my msgs are thoughtful and polite and most just dont want to try to find out if someone is decent. I think the fact is there are so many bad guys who flood the wonen that decent guys like myself are overlooked. Aporeciate your views tho "

So women and trans along with men too all look for pictures and a well written profile, the first thing with yours that would stop me if I were into men is you not having an avatar, I wouldn't even bother to open your profile.

That shows up in any inbox list so there is a huge chunk of your opportunity to make a good impression gone right there. It wouldn't matter what your profile said or what your message was like, it's going in the bin with the often hundreds of others like it so that you can then sift through the better potentials.

The sooner you and others like you see this the better as it will change your experience on fab and you'll be one less moaning about how women pass you by for other men.

You make your own opportunities on here as in life, its not down to luck.

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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago

East London

I think a lot of men joined during the pandemic because the pubs were shut where they normally pull, and thought swingers might be up for ignoring Covid restrictions on meeting for sex.

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By *harisajidanWoman
over a year ago

london


"Doesn't matter if it's 10:1, 100:1 or even 1:1 - makes no difference to the likelihood of meeting anyone - that comes down to two things...yourself and how you present yourself, and even then nothing is guaranteed - you still need someone to find you appealing enough to want to meet you

Sorry but that is a load of rubbish. Doesnt matter how well you present yourself or how nice and sparkly your profile is. As soon as you send a thought out polite msg it just get deleted or ignored. As someone else said a lot of women are too entitled and dont give decent guys a chance but getting to know them. Sad but true facts that a lot on here cant face.

If you want to believe it's rubbish then that is of course your prerogative, but I'd suggest, with respect, that as someone who has only been on the site six weeks that if you're expecting replies every time you send a message that perhaps it's not the ladies who are entitled, and that maybe rather than blaming others for your perceived lack of "success" perhaps looking at what *you* can change to improve your experience of the site might be a good place to start.

It all ultimately comes down to expectations, attitude and approach, coupled with a decent profile and pics - get them right and it won't guarantee a thing, but it will improve your experience and perception of the site - and the best thing is, they are all completely within your control."

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By *inkyInkedBiWoman
over a year ago

.


"Doesn't matter if it's 10:1, 100:1 or even 1:1 - makes no difference to the likelihood of meeting anyone - that comes down to two things...yourself and how you present yourself, and even then nothing is guaranteed - you still need someone to find you appealing enough to want to meet you

Sorry but that is a load of rubbish. Doesnt matter how well you present yourself or how nice and sparkly your profile is. As soon as you send a thought out polite msg it just get deleted or ignored. As someone else said a lot of women are too entitled and dont give decent guys a chance but getting to know them. Sad but true facts that a lot on here cant face.

If you want to believe it's rubbish then that is of course your prerogative, but I'd suggest, with respect, that as someone who has only been on the site six weeks that if you're expecting replies every time you send a message that perhaps it's not the ladies who are entitled, and that maybe rather than blaming others for your perceived lack of "success" perhaps looking at what *you* can change to improve your experience of the site might be a good place to start.

It all ultimately comes down to expectations, attitude and approach, coupled with a decent profile and pics - get them right and it won't guarantee a thing, but it will improve your experience and perception of the site - and the best thing is, they are all completely within your control.

I am not new i have been on here twice ( once as a couple and once as a single ) you wasnt to know this so i accept your comment. Im sorry i have to respectfully disagree. All my msgs are thoughtful and polite and most just dont want to try to find out if someone is decent. I think the fact is there are so many bad guys who flood the wonen that decent guys like myself are overlooked. Aporeciate your views tho

So women and trans along with men too all look for pictures and a well written profile, the first thing with yours that would stop me if I were into men is you not having an avatar, I wouldn't even bother to open your profile.

That shows up in any inbox list so there is a huge chunk of your opportunity to make a good impression gone right there. It wouldn't matter what your profile said or what your message was like, it's going in the bin with the often hundreds of others like it so that you can then sift through the better potentials.

The sooner you and others like you see this the better as it will change your experience on fab and you'll be one less moaning about how women pass you by for other men.

You make your own opportunities on here as in life, its not down to luck."

Agree about the avatar. Having no clue what the person looks like, I won’t open the message

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By *ewdtenantMan
over a year ago

Sheffield

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By *ewdtenantMan
over a year ago

Sheffield


"Honestly the ratio of women to men who'll actually meet (not fantasists), are sane, can hold a conversation, reliable with a working cock, not a timewaster, and have a decent profile is MAYBE 1:1.

I'm being generous with the 1:1

Guys dicks don't work? That's insane I guess me bring in my mid-twenties I haven't experienced ED yet.

The fact that was your only takeaway from what she said speaks volumes"

Excellent retort.

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

An abundance of men means that each of them should be better matched to the person who picks them, leaving the onus on them to do the honour appropriate to that privilege.

As for others being happy with the cast-offs Some people don't set their sights high enough or are blinkered, perhaps are just plain stupid, failed for life.

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By *heeky wiggles2020Man
over a year ago

near the seaside

When I was in a couple a few years ago on here we ( my then partner and I ) did some research into this because we like experiments and were bored and searched a man 18 to 18 , woman 18 18 for ever area repeated the search for every age

( we were very bored and very curious )

I believe from memory it worked out at around

55 -1

Basically wether it’s women or couples there will always be a huge disparity to single men as men wether really single or indeed not are much more likely to be actively seeking casual sex

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

From what i can gather its not as high as you think aboutb7/1

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Apparently it's approx 100:1 Male:Female. Defo seems that way in Ireland... Yup

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My recent bum photo has 11 Fabs, 10 of them are women, which I’m incredibly emotional about, so it can’t be that bad.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"My recent bum photo has 11 Fabs, 10 of them are women, which I’m incredibly emotional about, so it can’t be that bad. "

Now you just got another fab

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Down here it's between 75 & 100/1 ... I got bored one day and counted

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By *oroRick1027Man
over a year ago

Middlesbrough

Maybe you guys need to wait until you're older. I don't have any problems meeting women on here.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"My recent bum photo has 11 Fabs, 10 of them are women, which I’m incredibly emotional about, so it can’t be that bad.

Now you just got another fab "

Thank you

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By *etcplCouple
over a year ago

Gapping Fanny


"My recent bum photo has 11 Fabs, 10 of them are women, which I’m incredibly emotional about, so it can’t be that bad.

Now you just got another fab

Thank you "

Sooooo needy.

But +1 fab

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"My recent bum photo has 11 Fabs, 10 of them are women, which I’m incredibly emotional about, so it can’t be that bad.

Now you just got another fab

Thank you

Sooooo needy.

But +1 fab"

I am incredibly so, thanks for the Consolation Fab

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

To be fair to fab, it’s supposed to be made in conjunction with meeting at social venues like clubs, sex cinemas. You have an increased chance if you’re a couple, less chance if you’re single. At this point I’d settle for an hug.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You have the realise the odds are worse than you think.

Not only do you have to consider the amount of men looking for the same thing but also you have to factor in the women who act like men and then eliminate the ones who have no self respect and have let themselves go because they know someone will fuck them.

Just go in the chatroom late at night and see the lonely women on cam d*unk, looking like they have just crawled out of the gutter and doped up to the eyeballs. They will always find a desperate idiot to tell them they beautiful.

The classy ones who are real women, act like women and know how to talk with men these are the ones most appreciated and enjoyed by men who can see and know the difference.

So the odds are even greater against than you ever imagined.

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By *ablo minibar123Woman
over a year ago

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"You have the realise the odds are worse than you think.

Not only do you have to consider the amount of men looking for the same thing but also you have to factor in the women who act like men and then eliminate the ones who have no self respect and have let themselves go because they know someone will fuck them.

Just go in the chatroom late at night and see the lonely women on cam d*unk, looking like they have just crawled out of the gutter and doped up to the eyeballs. They will always find a desperate idiot to tell them they beautiful.

The classy ones who are real women, act like women and know how to talk with men these are the ones most appreciated and enjoyed by men who can see and know the difference.

So the odds are even greater against than you ever imagined.

"

Takes me ages to even reach the crawled out of the gutter stage, thanks.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It’s not the ratio it’s the percentage of women that are suitable for me I reckon it’s about 0.15 %

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit


"You have the realise the odds are worse than you think.

Not only do you have to consider the amount of men looking for the same thing but also you have to factor in the women who act like men and then eliminate the ones who have no self respect and have let themselves go because they know someone will fuck them.

Just go in the chatroom late at night and see the lonely women on cam d*unk, looking like they have just crawled out of the gutter and doped up to the eyeballs. They will always find a desperate idiot to tell them they beautiful.

The classy ones who are real women, act like women and know how to talk with men these are the ones most appreciated and enjoyed by men who can see and know the difference.

So the odds are even greater against than you ever imagined.

"

Or you don't think of it in terms of "odds", "luck", or any other random factor which you can't control, accept that you won't be for everyone, take a more laid back approach while presenting the best possible and most authentic "you" that you can do and find ways to make the site work for you, rather than the other way round.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Does the ratio actually matter, what matters is how you are on here and how you come across,

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By *atnip make me purrWoman
over a year ago

Reading


"Lol yeah I'm sure they get hounded in they're inboxes, I don't even attempt to message them anymore.

If they are that interested they will message me "

I wouldn't bet on it as i think a lot of woman never message first. i don't think i ever have. I have winked first a few times.

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By *atnip make me purrWoman
over a year ago

Reading


"You have the realise the odds are worse than you think.

Not only do you have to consider the amount of men looking for the same thing but also you have to factor in the women who act like men and then eliminate the ones who have no self respect and have let themselves go because they know someone will fuck them.

Just go in the chatroom late at night and see the lonely women on cam d*unk, looking like they have just crawled out of the gutter and doped up to the eyeballs. They will always find a desperate idiot to tell them they beautiful.

The classy ones who are real women, act like women and know how to talk with men these are the ones most appreciated and enjoyed by men who can see and know the difference.

So the odds are even greater against than you ever imagined.

"

Way to come across as a misogynist.

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By *harisajidanWoman
over a year ago

london


"You have the realise the odds are worse than you think.

Not only do you have to consider the amount of men looking for the same thing but also you have to factor in the women who act like men and then eliminate the ones who have no self respect and have let themselves go because they know someone will fuck them.

Just go in the chatroom late at night and see the lonely women on cam d*unk, looking like they have just crawled out of the gutter and doped up to the eyeballs. They will always find a desperate idiot to tell them they beautiful.

The classy ones who are real women, act like women and know how to talk with men these are the ones most appreciated and enjoyed by men who can see and know the difference.

So the odds are even greater against than you ever imagined.

"

Huh?? Women that act like men?

Yea, you must be killing it here.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"You have the realise the odds are worse than you think.

Not only do you have to consider the amount of men looking for the same thing but also you have to factor in the women who act like men and then eliminate the ones who have no self respect and have let themselves go because they know someone will fuck them.

Just go in the chatroom late at night and see the lonely women on cam d*unk, looking like they have just crawled out of the gutter and doped up to the eyeballs. They will always find a desperate idiot to tell them they beautiful.

The classy ones who are real women, act like women and know how to talk with men these are the ones most appreciated and enjoyed by men who can see and know the difference.

So the odds are even greater against than you ever imagined.

"

Doped up to the eye balls n from the gutter, not just highly offensive to women on here, but also to those who have addiction problems!!! Fucking shameful

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By *rincess peachWoman
over a year ago

shits creek


"Doesn't matter if it's 10:1, 100:1 or even 1:1 - makes no difference to the likelihood of meeting anyone - that comes down to two things...yourself and how you present yourself, and even then nothing is guaranteed - you still need someone to find you appealing enough to want to meet you

Sorry but that is a load of rubbish. Doesnt matter how well you present yourself or how nice and sparkly your profile is. As soon as you send a thought out polite msg it just get deleted or ignored. As someone else said a lot of women are too entitled and dont give decent guys a chance but getting to know them. Sad but true facts that a lot on here cant face."

Too entitled?

Nah, too entitled would be expecting a reply from a sent message when there isn't any interest.

Maybe they've seen the attitude/thoughts of the "decent guys" on the forum and doesn't think they're compatible.

Maybe the thought out polite message has fuck all that actually stands out, same as some of the other thought out polite mesaages they received that day.

Maybe they've realised an awful lot of blokes are big ole liars, and prefer to get a vibe off people in person at clubs/events/socials.

How the fuck have I and other women made the friends we have then if you're "facts" are to be believed? I ain't talking shagged once and barely remember their name "friends" either here, I'm talking genuine mates.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Real women to real men ration is hard to nail.

So many duplicate accounts, so many fake accounts. So many dormant account.

So the users who are real Are the ones I care about.

I am one male & I talk to many more people. So I am 1 to a dozen maybe

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Why should you presume that most men come on here for what you call the quick fuck? As it is doubtful if they in truth would want ALL their experiences to be over so quickly!

What does having a variety of sexual experiences with different people that you choose/want to have those experiences with have in common with a 'quick fuck'?

Even reading and working out the above takes time and mental energy!

The idea of the 'quick fuck' as you put it is often a surface level expression on the mind of its wearer.

Did you know that a quick fuck in the right circumstances can be as explosive as? So explosive I wouldn't even know which word could do it justice!

You obviously haven't lived if you downgrade the quick fuck!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’d say genuine and real single females profile are about 1 to every 1000 men but I’m a skeptic

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By *heNYCSausageMan
over a year ago

Everton


"Why should you presume that most men come on here for what you call the quick fuck?

"

Cause I have a lot of female friends on here and a few of them literally get 1,000’s of messages A DAY from horny single blokes wanting to fuck them even before trying to get to know them. Others get literally 100’s a day.

So it’s not a presumption lol

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By *harisajidanWoman
over a year ago

london


"Why should you presume that most men come on here for what you call the quick fuck?

Cause I have a lot of female friends on here and a few of them literally get 1,000’s of messages A DAY from horny single blokes wanting to fuck them even before trying to get to know them. Others get literally 100’s a day.

So it’s not a presumption lol"

Accurate

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By *imiUKMan
over a year ago

Hereford

I don't mind there being plenty of guys on here, it gives me a chance to showcase just how fucking awesome I am.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I don't mind there being plenty of guys on here, it gives me a chance to showcase just how fucking awesome I am. "

I am trying to get them signed up to my Fab football league.

Give them all a chance to roll around crying and shouting ‘foul’ ...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Why should you presume that most men come on here for what you call the quick fuck?

Cause I have a lot of female friends on here and a few of them literally get 1,000’s of messages A DAY from horny single blokes wanting to fuck them even before trying to get to know them. Others get literally 100’s a day.

So it’s not a presumption lol"

Hey, maybe your friends have one of those more genteel profiles and in case you didn't notice those are not the ONLY type of profiles around here!

So whilst I pity your friends! The whole story has yet to be told!!

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