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"Those from people I know. Those in response to forum games. That's it." Interesting! So from someone that’s new how do you think the best way to start off on fab is? | |||
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I saw you driving your ford fiesta on canal Street the other day. It was a great experience. " that would creep me out. Even though I don't drive a Ford fiesta haha | |||
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"Thank you very kindly! I’m not having too much success so I’m not sure if it’s my profile, my age or my messages really, just trying to improve and get a little more involved in the community " You could ask for profile feedback? I’m not sure what exactly works, I know a few words, too crude/offensive, stories, what they want to do to me, all really don’t work. | |||
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"Those from people I know. Those in response to forum games. That's it. Interesting! So from someone that’s new how do you think the best way to start off on fab is? " By not relying on messages to communicate. That's probably the biggest neon sign I can offer. The site is a tool, a platform. Part of it is closed due to lockdown, so the meets section, the events section. If you wanted to see a live band what would you do? Get tickets and go see them live. Same as people. Easiest way to speak to and meet people is by going to the places where people who WANT to meet and speak to new people are! So, organised socials. No brainer. Hmmm, do I send out 150 messages where probably 80% will get deleted and ignored which is likely to give me a complexion and make me think there must be something wrong with me, or do I go to an event where people are there to mingle, and will mingle with me too? An event where there's almost certainly a 99% chance of having a decent convo and make future plans. Work smart, not hard. | |||
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"Thank you very kindly! I’m not having too much success so I’m not sure if it’s my profile, my age or my messages really, just trying to improve and get a little more involved in the community You could ask for profile feedback? I’m not sure what exactly works, I know a few words, too crude/offensive, stories, what they want to do to me, all really don’t work. " Would you happen to have any feedback on my profile? I’d be very grateful for any pointers | |||
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"Those from people I know. Those in response to forum games. That's it. Interesting! So from someone that’s new how do you think the best way to start off on fab is? By not relying on messages to communicate. That's probably the biggest neon sign I can offer. The site is a tool, a platform. Part of it is closed due to lockdown, so the meets section, the events section. If you wanted to see a live band what would you do? Get tickets and go see them live. Same as people. Easiest way to speak to and meet people is by going to the places where people who WANT to meet and speak to new people are! So, organised socials. No brainer. Hmmm, do I send out 150 messages where probably 80% will get deleted and ignored which is likely to give me a complexion and make me think there must be something wrong with me, or do I go to an event where people are there to mingle, and will mingle with me too? An event where there's almost certainly a 99% chance of having a decent convo and make future plans. Work smart, not hard." Ahhh I didn’t realise there were events? Where would I find these? | |||
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"Those from people I know. Those in response to forum games. That's it. Interesting! So from someone that’s new how do you think the best way to start off on fab is? " By not having any expectations. By treating people in a way that you would want to be treated, or for you filthy fuckers how you would want your parents to be treated. By not assuming everyone wants to see your bits. | |||
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"Those from people I know. Those in response to forum games. That's it. Interesting! So from someone that’s new how do you think the best way to start off on fab is? By not relying on messages to communicate. That's probably the biggest neon sign I can offer. The site is a tool, a platform. Part of it is closed due to lockdown, so the meets section, the events section. If you wanted to see a live band what would you do? Get tickets and go see them live. Same as people. Easiest way to speak to and meet people is by going to the places where people who WANT to meet and speak to new people are! So, organised socials. No brainer. Hmmm, do I send out 150 messages where probably 80% will get deleted and ignored which is likely to give me a complexion and make me think there must be something wrong with me, or do I go to an event where people are there to mingle, and will mingle with me too? An event where there's almost certainly a 99% chance of having a decent convo and make future plans. Work smart, not hard. Ahhh I didn’t realise there were events? Where would I find these? " Exactly you didn't realise, which means you've done sod all research into the swinging scene. You've signed up to a site where you thought you could find sex pretty easily. Am I wrong? There will be events, munches and clubs across the entire country but they're obviously not running due to restrictions. When they're lifted the site will open that area of the forums back up, and all the info you need will be there. As for profile feedback, the dom thing. What's that all about? You tell me what being a dom means to you. | |||
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"Those from people I know. Those in response to forum games. That's it. Interesting! So from someone that’s new how do you think the best way to start off on fab is? By not having any expectations. By treating people in a way that you would want to be treated, or for you filthy fuckers how you would want your parents to be treated. By not assuming everyone wants to see your bits. " Love this. I'm totally stealing the parents bit for future teachings! It's so true. I've been known to ask chaps how they'd react to someone who said that to their sister/mum. You see them aggro right up. Yeah, I'm someones sister, I'm someones mum. | |||
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"Those from people I know. Those in response to forum games. That's it. Interesting! So from someone that’s new how do you think the best way to start off on fab is? By not relying on messages to communicate. That's probably the biggest neon sign I can offer. The site is a tool, a platform. Part of it is closed due to lockdown, so the meets section, the events section. If you wanted to see a live band what would you do? Get tickets and go see them live. Same as people. Easiest way to speak to and meet people is by going to the places where people who WANT to meet and speak to new people are! So, organised socials. No brainer. Hmmm, do I send out 150 messages where probably 80% will get deleted and ignored which is likely to give me a complexion and make me think there must be something wrong with me, or do I go to an event where people are there to mingle, and will mingle with me too? An event where there's almost certainly a 99% chance of having a decent convo and make future plans. Work smart, not hard. Ahhh I didn’t realise there were events? Where would I find these? Exactly you didn't realise, which means you've done sod all research into the swinging scene. You've signed up to a site where you thought you could find sex pretty easily. Am I wrong? There will be events, munches and clubs across the entire country but they're obviously not running due to restrictions. When they're lifted the site will open that area of the forums back up, and all the info you need will be there. As for profile feedback, the dom thing. What's that all about? You tell me what being a dom means to you." I’d say you are wrong, yeah. I’m well aware of sex clubs and swingers events in London and since moving here I’ve met and spoken to people involved. But as you say things are closed, I wasn’t aware there were fab events however. As for being a Dom, it’s just the way I tend to enjoy sex. I prefer being on top and taking control, maybe it goes hand in hand with tending to be larger and bigger than my partners. I simply naturally am more inclined to be dominant | |||
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"Thank you very kindly! I’m not having too much success so I’m not sure if it’s my profile, my age or my messages really, just trying to improve and get a little more involved in the community " All socials are banned currently due to lockdown. So the Meets forum on here is shut too since last March. When things start to open up the socials will probably start again. Many people haven't really been chatting for months. Lockdowns are depressing and most people's mojo has disappeared. Summer weather usually helps to cheer people up. Maybe chat in the forums and when covid things improve you might have made friends to meet.
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"Thank you very kindly! I’m not having too much success so I’m not sure if it’s my profile, my age or my messages really, just trying to improve and get a little more involved in the community You could ask for profile feedback? I’m not sure what exactly works, I know a few words, too crude/offensive, stories, what they want to do to me, all really don’t work. Would you happen to have any feedback on my profile? I’d be very grateful for any pointers" I would start a thread and ask for pointers. There is usually a lot of good advice given. | |||
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"Thank you very kindly! I’m not having too much success so I’m not sure if it’s my profile, my age or my messages really, just trying to improve and get a little more involved in the community All socials are banned currently due to lockdown. So the Meets forum on here is shut too since last March. When things start to open up the socials will probably start again. Many people haven't really been chatting for months. Lockdowns are depressing and most people's mojo has disappeared. Summer weather usually helps to cheer people up. Maybe chat in the forums and when covid things improve you might have made friends to meet.
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"Thank you very kindly! I’m not having too much success so I’m not sure if it’s my profile, my age or my messages really, just trying to improve and get a little more involved in the community All socials are banned currently due to lockdown. So the Meets forum on here is shut too since last March. When things start to open up the socials will probably start again. Many people haven't really been chatting for months. Lockdowns are depressing and most people's mojo has disappeared. Summer weather usually helps to cheer people up. Maybe chat in the forums and when covid things improve you might have made friends to meet.
Good luck. "Thank you very much for the advice it’s very kind of you! | |||
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"Those from people I know. Those in response to forum games. That's it. Interesting! So from someone that’s new how do you think the best way to start off on fab is? By not relying on messages to communicate. That's probably the biggest neon sign I can offer. The site is a tool, a platform. Part of it is closed due to lockdown, so the meets section, the events section. If you wanted to see a live band what would you do? Get tickets and go see them live. Same as people. Easiest way to speak to and meet people is by going to the places where people who WANT to meet and speak to new people are! So, organised socials. No brainer. Hmmm, do I send out 150 messages where probably 80% will get deleted and ignored which is likely to give me a complexion and make me think there must be something wrong with me, or do I go to an event where people are there to mingle, and will mingle with me too? An event where there's almost certainly a 99% chance of having a decent convo and make future plans. Work smart, not hard. Ahhh I didn’t realise there were events? Where would I find these? Exactly you didn't realise, which means you've done sod all research into the swinging scene. You've signed up to a site where you thought you could find sex pretty easily. Am I wrong? There will be events, munches and clubs across the entire country but they're obviously not running due to restrictions. When they're lifted the site will open that area of the forums back up, and all the info you need will be there. As for profile feedback, the dom thing. What's that all about? You tell me what being a dom means to you. I’d say you are wrong, yeah. I’m well aware of sex clubs and swingers events in London and since moving here I’ve met and spoken to people involved. But as you say things are closed, I wasn’t aware there were fab events however. As for being a Dom, it’s just the way I tend to enjoy sex. I prefer being on top and taking control, maybe it goes hand in hand with tending to be larger and bigger than my partners. I simply naturally am more inclined to be dominant" I maybe didn't make myself clear. Fab doesn't hold events. As I say, the site itself is a tool to keep up with events etc. The people holding the events will advertise them on this site. Taking control how? Why? You wanna convince people you're a Dom, you'll need to do loads better than "being on top and taking control" | |||
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" All socials are banned currently due to lockdown. So the Meets forum on here is shut too since last March. When things start to open up the socials will probably start again. Many people haven't really been chatting for months. Lockdowns are depressing and most people's mojo has disappeared. Summer weather usually helps to cheer people up. Maybe chat in the forums and when covid things improve you might have made friends to meet.
Good luck. "Agreed with this, it's the best advice so far. Not many people have the headspace for talking to new people - give it a few weeks and things might change. | |||
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"Thank you very kindly! I’m not having too much success so I’m not sure if it’s my profile, my age or my messages really, just trying to improve and get a little more involved in the community You could ask for profile feedback? I’m not sure what exactly works, I know a few words, too crude/offensive, stories, what they want to do to me, all really don’t work. Would you happen to have any feedback on my profile? I’d be very grateful for any pointers" Your profile looks good to me. You sound like someone I know.
I think the important thing is for *you* to like your profile.. like attracts like.
I think the 'will meet 18 to 99' thing means you are open to all people and don't see age as an issue.
Some will see it as being 'will fuck anything' however.
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"Those from people I know. Those in response to forum games. That's it. Interesting! So from someone that’s new how do you think the best way to start off on fab is? By not relying on messages to communicate. That's probably the biggest neon sign I can offer. The site is a tool, a platform. Part of it is closed due to lockdown, so the meets section, the events section. If you wanted to see a live band what would you do? Get tickets and go see them live. Same as people. Easiest way to speak to and meet people is by going to the places where people who WANT to meet and speak to new people are! So, organised socials. No brainer. Hmmm, do I send out 150 messages where probably 80% will get deleted and ignored which is likely to give me a complexion and make me think there must be something wrong with me, or do I go to an event where people are there to mingle, and will mingle with me too? An event where there's almost certainly a 99% chance of having a decent convo and make future plans. Work smart, not hard. Ahhh I didn’t realise there were events? Where would I find these? Exactly you didn't realise, which means you've done sod all research into the swinging scene. You've signed up to a site where you thought you could find sex pretty easily. Am I wrong? There will be events, munches and clubs across the entire country but they're obviously not running due to restrictions. When they're lifted the site will open that area of the forums back up, and all the info you need will be there. As for profile feedback, the dom thing. What's that all about? You tell me what being a dom means to you. I’d say you are wrong, yeah. I’m well aware of sex clubs and swingers events in London and since moving here I’ve met and spoken to people involved. But as you say things are closed, I wasn’t aware there were fab events however. As for being a Dom, it’s just the way I tend to enjoy sex. I prefer being on top and taking control, maybe it goes hand in hand with tending to be larger and bigger than my partners. I simply naturally am more inclined to be dominant I maybe didn't make myself clear. Fab doesn't hold events. As I say, the site itself is a tool to keep up with events etc. The people holding the events will advertise them on this site. Taking control how? Why? You wanna convince people you're a Dom, you'll need to do loads better than "being on top and taking control"" What explanation would you expect besides thats just what an individual personally ascribes to? It’s not a conscious decision necessarily. | |||
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" All socials are banned currently due to lockdown. So the Meets forum on here is shut too since last March. When things start to open up the socials will probably start again. Many people haven't really been chatting for months. Lockdowns are depressing and most people's mojo has disappeared. Summer weather usually helps to cheer people up. Maybe chat in the forums and when covid things improve you might have made friends to meet.
Good luck.
Agreed with this, it's the best advice so far. Not many people have the headspace for talking to new people - give it a few weeks and things might change."Thanks for the help! I guess once things open back up it might get rolling in earnest | |||
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"Thank you very kindly! I’m not having too much success so I’m not sure if it’s my profile, my age or my messages really, just trying to improve and get a little more involved in the community You could ask for profile feedback? I’m not sure what exactly works, I know a few words, too crude/offensive, stories, what they want to do to me, all really don’t work. Would you happen to have any feedback on my profile? I’d be very grateful for any pointers Your profile looks good to me. You sound like someone I know.
I think the important thing is for *you* to like your profile.. like attracts like.
I think the 'will meet 18 to 99' thing means you are open to all people and don't see age as an issue.
Some will see it as being 'will fuck anything' however.
Just a thought. "Oh god someone you know? That’s concerning hahah, if you think you know me message me? Can see if it’s true. Ahhh that’s fair! I hadn’t changed it as it wasn’t really something that mattered to me I guess. Age doesn’t tend to determine sexual attraction for me | |||
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"Those from people I know. Those in response to forum games. That's it. Interesting! So from someone that’s new how do you think the best way to start off on fab is? By not relying on messages to communicate. That's probably the biggest neon sign I can offer. The site is a tool, a platform. Part of it is closed due to lockdown, so the meets section, the events section. If you wanted to see a live band what would you do? Get tickets and go see them live. Same as people. Easiest way to speak to and meet people is by going to the places where people who WANT to meet and speak to new people are! So, organised socials. No brainer. Hmmm, do I send out 150 messages where probably 80% will get deleted and ignored which is likely to give me a complexion and make me think there must be something wrong with me, or do I go to an event where people are there to mingle, and will mingle with me too? An event where there's almost certainly a 99% chance of having a decent convo and make future plans. Work smart, not hard. Ahhh I didn’t realise there were events? Where would I find these? Exactly you didn't realise, which means you've done sod all research into the swinging scene. You've signed up to a site where you thought you could find sex pretty easily. Am I wrong? There will be events, munches and clubs across the entire country but they're obviously not running due to restrictions. When they're lifted the site will open that area of the forums back up, and all the info you need will be there. As for profile feedback, the dom thing. What's that all about? You tell me what being a dom means to you. I’d say you are wrong, yeah. I’m well aware of sex clubs and swingers events in London and since moving here I’ve met and spoken to people involved. But as you say things are closed, I wasn’t aware there were fab events however. As for being a Dom, it’s just the way I tend to enjoy sex. I prefer being on top and taking control, maybe it goes hand in hand with tending to be larger and bigger than my partners. I simply naturally am more inclined to be dominant I maybe didn't make myself clear. Fab doesn't hold events. As I say, the site itself is a tool to keep up with events etc. The people holding the events will advertise them on this site. Taking control how? Why? You wanna convince people you're a Dom, you'll need to do loads better than "being on top and taking control" What explanation would you expect besides thats just what an individual personally ascribes to? It’s not a conscious decision necessarily. " When you start a thread asking for pointers dont get annoyed if the pointers are not what you wanted to hear....take all the advice take some advice or take no advice | |||
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"Those from people I know. Those in response to forum games. That's it. Interesting! So from someone that’s new how do you think the best way to start off on fab is? By not relying on messages to communicate. That's probably the biggest neon sign I can offer. The site is a tool, a platform. Part of it is closed due to lockdown, so the meets section, the events section. If you wanted to see a live band what would you do? Get tickets and go see them live. Same as people. Easiest way to speak to and meet people is by going to the places where people who WANT to meet and speak to new people are! So, organised socials. No brainer. Hmmm, do I send out 150 messages where probably 80% will get deleted and ignored which is likely to give me a complexion and make me think there must be something wrong with me, or do I go to an event where people are there to mingle, and will mingle with me too? An event where there's almost certainly a 99% chance of having a decent convo and make future plans. Work smart, not hard. Ahhh I didn’t realise there were events? Where would I find these? Exactly you didn't realise, which means you've done sod all research into the swinging scene. You've signed up to a site where you thought you could find sex pretty easily. Am I wrong? There will be events, munches and clubs across the entire country but they're obviously not running due to restrictions. When they're lifted the site will open that area of the forums back up, and all the info you need will be there. As for profile feedback, the dom thing. What's that all about? You tell me what being a dom means to you. I’d say you are wrong, yeah. I’m well aware of sex clubs and swingers events in London and since moving here I’ve met and spoken to people involved. But as you say things are closed, I wasn’t aware there were fab events however. As for being a Dom, it’s just the way I tend to enjoy sex. I prefer being on top and taking control, maybe it goes hand in hand with tending to be larger and bigger than my partners. I simply naturally am more inclined to be dominant I maybe didn't make myself clear. Fab doesn't hold events. As I say, the site itself is a tool to keep up with events etc. The people holding the events will advertise them on this site. Taking control how? Why? You wanna convince people you're a Dom, you'll need to do loads better than "being on top and taking control" What explanation would you expect besides thats just what an individual personally ascribes to? It’s not a conscious decision necessarily. " Being Dom isn’t just a state of mind, it’s about control (of others, but more crucially yourself), consent, boundaries etc | |||
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"Those from people I know. Those in response to forum games. That's it. Interesting! So from someone that’s new how do you think the best way to start off on fab is? By not relying on messages to communicate. That's probably the biggest neon sign I can offer. The site is a tool, a platform. Part of it is closed due to lockdown, so the meets section, the events section. If you wanted to see a live band what would you do? Get tickets and go see them live. Same as people. Easiest way to speak to and meet people is by going to the places where people who WANT to meet and speak to new people are! So, organised socials. No brainer. Hmmm, do I send out 150 messages where probably 80% will get deleted and ignored which is likely to give me a complexion and make me think there must be something wrong with me, or do I go to an event where people are there to mingle, and will mingle with me too? An event where there's almost certainly a 99% chance of having a decent convo and make future plans. Work smart, not hard. Ahhh I didn’t realise there were events? Where would I find these? Exactly you didn't realise, which means you've done sod all research into the swinging scene. You've signed up to a site where you thought you could find sex pretty easily. Am I wrong? There will be events, munches and clubs across the entire country but they're obviously not running due to restrictions. When they're lifted the site will open that area of the forums back up, and all the info you need will be there. As for profile feedback, the dom thing. What's that all about? You tell me what being a dom means to you. I’d say you are wrong, yeah. I’m well aware of sex clubs and swingers events in London and since moving here I’ve met and spoken to people involved. But as you say things are closed, I wasn’t aware there were fab events however. As for being a Dom, it’s just the way I tend to enjoy sex. I prefer being on top and taking control, maybe it goes hand in hand with tending to be larger and bigger than my partners. I simply naturally am more inclined to be dominant I maybe didn't make myself clear. Fab doesn't hold events. As I say, the site itself is a tool to keep up with events etc. The people holding the events will advertise them on this site. Taking control how? Why? You wanna convince people you're a Dom, you'll need to do loads better than "being on top and taking control" What explanation would you expect besides thats just what an individual personally ascribes to? It’s not a conscious decision necessarily. " Is an engineer someone who once fixed a teapot and enjoyed it or someone who's researched, learnt, and got experience in an engineering role who understands there's many many forms and sides to engineering? | |||
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"Those from people I know. Those in response to forum games. That's it. Interesting! So from someone that’s new how do you think the best way to start off on fab is? By not relying on messages to communicate. That's probably the biggest neon sign I can offer. The site is a tool, a platform. Part of it is closed due to lockdown, so the meets section, the events section. If you wanted to see a live band what would you do? Get tickets and go see them live. Same as people. Easiest way to speak to and meet people is by going to the places where people who WANT to meet and speak to new people are! So, organised socials. No brainer. Hmmm, do I send out 150 messages where probably 80% will get deleted and ignored which is likely to give me a complexion and make me think there must be something wrong with me, or do I go to an event where people are there to mingle, and will mingle with me too? An event where there's almost certainly a 99% chance of having a decent convo and make future plans. Work smart, not hard. Ahhh I didn’t realise there were events? Where would I find these? Exactly you didn't realise, which means you've done sod all research into the swinging scene. You've signed up to a site where you thought you could find sex pretty easily. Am I wrong? There will be events, munches and clubs across the entire country but they're obviously not running due to restrictions. When they're lifted the site will open that area of the forums back up, and all the info you need will be there. As for profile feedback, the dom thing. What's that all about? You tell me what being a dom means to you. I’d say you are wrong, yeah. I’m well aware of sex clubs and swingers events in London and since moving here I’ve met and spoken to people involved. But as you say things are closed, I wasn’t aware there were fab events however. As for being a Dom, it’s just the way I tend to enjoy sex. I prefer being on top and taking control, maybe it goes hand in hand with tending to be larger and bigger than my partners. I simply naturally am more inclined to be dominant I maybe didn't make myself clear. Fab doesn't hold events. As I say, the site itself is a tool to keep up with events etc. The people holding the events will advertise them on this site. Taking control how? Why? You wanna convince people you're a Dom, you'll need to do loads better than "being on top and taking control" What explanation would you expect besides thats just what an individual personally ascribes to? It’s not a conscious decision necessarily. When you start a thread asking for pointers dont get annoyed if the pointers are not what you wanted to hear....take all the advice take some advice or take no advice" Oh don’t worry I’m not annoyed, I didn’t mean that to come across as annoyed, I’m simply asking for further advice | |||
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"Those from people I know. Those in response to forum games. That's it. Interesting! So from someone that’s new how do you think the best way to start off on fab is? By not relying on messages to communicate. That's probably the biggest neon sign I can offer. The site is a tool, a platform. Part of it is closed due to lockdown, so the meets section, the events section. If you wanted to see a live band what would you do? Get tickets and go see them live. Same as people. Easiest way to speak to and meet people is by going to the places where people who WANT to meet and speak to new people are! So, organised socials. No brainer. Hmmm, do I send out 150 messages where probably 80% will get deleted and ignored which is likely to give me a complexion and make me think there must be something wrong with me, or do I go to an event where people are there to mingle, and will mingle with me too? An event where there's almost certainly a 99% chance of having a decent convo and make future plans. Work smart, not hard. Ahhh I didn’t realise there were events? Where would I find these? Exactly you didn't realise, which means you've done sod all research into the swinging scene. You've signed up to a site where you thought you could find sex pretty easily. Am I wrong? There will be events, munches and clubs across the entire country but they're obviously not running due to restrictions. When they're lifted the site will open that area of the forums back up, and all the info you need will be there. As for profile feedback, the dom thing. What's that all about? You tell me what being a dom means to you. I’d say you are wrong, yeah. I’m well aware of sex clubs and swingers events in London and since moving here I’ve met and spoken to people involved. But as you say things are closed, I wasn’t aware there were fab events however. As for being a Dom, it’s just the way I tend to enjoy sex. I prefer being on top and taking control, maybe it goes hand in hand with tending to be larger and bigger than my partners. I simply naturally am more inclined to be dominant I maybe didn't make myself clear. Fab doesn't hold events. As I say, the site itself is a tool to keep up with events etc. The people holding the events will advertise them on this site. Taking control how? Why? You wanna convince people you're a Dom, you'll need to do loads better than "being on top and taking control" What explanation would you expect besides thats just what an individual personally ascribes to? It’s not a conscious decision necessarily. Is an engineer someone who once fixed a teapot and enjoyed it or someone who's researched, learnt, and got experience in an engineering role who understands there's many many forms and sides to engineering? " Ahhh okay! I wasn’t really attempting to frame myself as “a dom” but more someone who is naturally dominant. Thanks for the tips, I’m going to change my profile a little | |||
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"Those from people I know. Those in response to forum games. That's it. Interesting! So from someone that’s new how do you think the best way to start off on fab is? By not relying on messages to communicate. That's probably the biggest neon sign I can offer. The site is a tool, a platform. Part of it is closed due to lockdown, so the meets section, the events section. If you wanted to see a live band what would you do? Get tickets and go see them live. Same as people. Easiest way to speak to and meet people is by going to the places where people who WANT to meet and speak to new people are! So, organised socials. No brainer. Hmmm, do I send out 150 messages where probably 80% will get deleted and ignored which is likely to give me a complexion and make me think there must be something wrong with me, or do I go to an event where people are there to mingle, and will mingle with me too? An event where there's almost certainly a 99% chance of having a decent convo and make future plans. Work smart, not hard. Ahhh I didn’t realise there were events? Where would I find these? Exactly you didn't realise, which means you've done sod all research into the swinging scene. You've signed up to a site where you thought you could find sex pretty easily. Am I wrong? There will be events, munches and clubs across the entire country but they're obviously not running due to restrictions. When they're lifted the site will open that area of the forums back up, and all the info you need will be there. As for profile feedback, the dom thing. What's that all about? You tell me what being a dom means to you. I’d say you are wrong, yeah. I’m well aware of sex clubs and swingers events in London and since moving here I’ve met and spoken to people involved. But as you say things are closed, I wasn’t aware there were fab events however. As for being a Dom, it’s just the way I tend to enjoy sex. I prefer being on top and taking control, maybe it goes hand in hand with tending to be larger and bigger than my partners. I simply naturally am more inclined to be dominant I maybe didn't make myself clear. Fab doesn't hold events. As I say, the site itself is a tool to keep up with events etc. The people holding the events will advertise them on this site. Taking control how? Why? You wanna convince people you're a Dom, you'll need to do loads better than "being on top and taking control" What explanation would you expect besides thats just what an individual personally ascribes to? It’s not a conscious decision necessarily. Is an engineer someone who once fixed a teapot and enjoyed it or someone who's researched, learnt, and got experience in an engineering role who understands there's many many forms and sides to engineering? Ahhh okay! I wasn’t really attempting to frame myself as “a dom” but more someone who is naturally dominant. Thanks for the tips, I’m going to change my profile a little " | |||
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Nothing too self centred and weird. Xx"Hahah thank you very much for the advice I appreciate it! I don’t tend to send dick pics first, it’s always better to be asked no? | |||
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"Women, what is the ideal opening message from your point of view? Long, short, erotic, descriptive? What messages are you most likely to respond to?" 1 - where it's clear the message sender has read the profile and understood our wants and needs. 2 - no generic cut and pastes. 3 - Not rude. EG fancy a fuck. 4 - No hi how are you messages unless you already know us. 5 - No text speak. Proper English and the message making sense. 6 - No irrelevant messages. Short or long messages don't matter as long as you make them relevant. 7 - No duplicate messages or persistent messages asking or saying the same thing. 8 - Don't ask straight away in your first message for a meet unless replying to the fab meet request section when it's back up and running. And only ask if and when we can meet. If asking for a meet and no face photos on your profile then include one with your message to better your chances of a reply. 9 - If your message provokes interest, make sure your profile is up to scratch too including decent photos or else it may deter a response. 10 - Better chances of meeting many people is within the club scene. With that comes invites to private parties or group fun should you impress with your attitude, appearance and personality. Good verifications given by clubs, etc are priceless. Follow this and make friends without expectations and you may just get lucky!  x | |||
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"Thank you very kindly! I’m not having too much success so I’m not sure if it’s my profile, my age or my messages really, just trying to improve and get a little more involved in the community You could ask for profile feedback? I’m not sure what exactly works, I know a few words, too crude/offensive, stories, what they want to do to me, all really don’t work. Would you happen to have any feedback on my profile? I’d be very grateful for any pointers Your profile looks good to me. You sound like someone I know.
I think the important thing is for *you* to like your profile.. like attracts like.
I think the 'will meet 18 to 99' thing means you are open to all people and don't see age as an issue.
Some will see it as being 'will fuck anything' however.
Just a thought.
Oh god someone you know? That’s concerning hahah, if you think you know me message me? Can see if it’s true.
Ahhh that’s fair! I hadn’t changed it as it wasn’t really something that mattered to me I guess. Age doesn’t tend to determine sexual attraction for me "Ha nooo sorry to scare you! You don't know me don't worry.
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"The way I see it is there's no right way to approach or do this. You need to approach them in a way you think is appropriate for you. Being false or trying to say what you think someone wants to hear might improve your initial chances but will they be the right meets? Be yourself and eventually if you put the effort in you'll find what you're looking for " | |||
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