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By *lackhammerbbc OP   Man
over a year ago

Chester

why do people get so mad that people don't read every word on their profile like i get its annoying but not like i was rude or disrespectful chill out ffs

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't have time to read that. ^

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By *lackhammerbbc OP   Man
over a year ago

Chester

exactly

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By *igT-Time-4-FunMan
over a year ago

Leicester Le3 Apartment.SOCIAL or sex let's chat

Its disrespectful not to read.

It shows all you want is a fuck and you don't care who they are what they like or even if your not there type.

SO NORMALLY = BLOCKED tbh

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By *ce WingerMan
over a year ago

P.O. Box DE1 0NQ

Some profiles are "Will fill in later", after having been on her for over a year, others are like War & Peace, mostly full of SHOUTY DEMANDS that make ma eyes bleed

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By *xydadbodMan
over a year ago

Milton keynes

I always read it as it normally gives me an idea of what the person is searching for and to be honest, it does saves them and yourself from wasting each others time. Admittingly, some can be quite too long but I suppose everyone is different. Maybe I should try turning mine into a mini story. Not sure how it will be recieved but I would definitely read it if someone did that lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I don't have time to read that. ^"

And we don't have time to waste with people who don't do the basics.

LIKE SEND PHOTOS WITH FIRST MESSAGE AND SOME DETAILS ABOUT THEMSELVES SO WE KNOW WHAT YOU LOOK LIKE AND WHAT YOUR SITUATION IS.

When you don't send photos or details, my first message back is ALWAYS going to be send me some photos of you so I can SEE if I'm attracted to you or not, and send some details, like where you are based, are you single or married, what your after etc so that I can assess and make up my mind about whether I wanna get involved in that.

Basics, people, basics. Most men stumble on the basics, and they don't even have the basics on their profile for me to check myself. I don't have the time for message ping pong either, so you just send up getting BLOCKED.

If you wanna be blocked, ignored or generally start a convo by frustrating the girl, then ignore her profile. You will be one of many also ignored by her. If you want to stand out, read it and adapt your messages accordingly.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If you haven’t got time to read my profile (my normal one), I haven’t got time to engage with you, and you won’t have time to put the groundwork in for a meet?

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By *edeWoman
over a year ago

the abyss

Because if you read the profile it cuts out quite a lot of people. I know not everyone is going to want the same as me so state in my profile. If we don't match then why would you message?

You don't have time to read my profile and yet you expect people to take the time replying to someone who they'd never meet as per profile?

This is why a lot of guys complain of unread/deleted messages

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Because if you read the profile it cuts out quite a lot of people. I know not everyone is going to want the same as me so state in my profile. If we don't match then why would you message?

You don't have time to read my profile and yet you expect people to take the time replying to someone who they'd never meet as per profile?

This is why a lot of guys complain of unread/deleted messages "

Exactly! Thank you!

A classic example:

I'm out of the country. It CLEARLY states this on my profile.

Yet I have men from up and down the country messaging me asking if I can Fuck "NOW".

Er, unless you are willing to travel 7000 miles, no!

READ THE PROFILE!

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By *ausageNmashCouple
over a year ago

Andover


"exactly "

Exactly

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You do need to read the profile. Otherwise you may send out a message showing that you haven't done so.

Also add something expressive to your own profile, as folk can get a bit peeved to find theres nowt init to help them assess you.

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By *hrista BellendWoman
over a year ago

surrounded by twinkly lights

You wouldn't go to the pub and not read a menu if you didn't know what food was on offer, profiles are there to stop unnecessary conversations with incompatible people, why waste both of our time for the sake of a couple of mins read

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By *orksRockerMan
over a year ago

Bradford


"why do people get so mad that people don't read every word on their profile like i get its annoying but not like i was rude or disrespectful chill out ffs "

Seriously... How hard is it to just to read

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Most profiles are written to help you not hinder you in your hunt for cunt/cock so if you can’t be bothered to spend three whole minutes then that tells us what kind of person you are and will help us and hinder you.

Simple really!!

T

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By *ea monkeyMan
over a year ago

Manchester (he/him)

Imagine what you can do with all of the time that is saved by not reading profiles...

I’m certain that it’s into the minutes!

I’m sure that a busy man such as yourself OP has life planned out to the second and the value of a minute is indescribable, so just consider how much time you’re saving by not having sex either

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By *abs..Woman
over a year ago

..

It costs you more time and effort if you don’t read profiles doesn’t it? In the long run.

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By *aekaeWoman
over a year ago

Between a cock and a soft place


"why do people get so mad that people don't read every word on their profile like i get its annoying but not like i was rude or disrespectful chill out ffs "

You get that's it's annoying but wonder why people get mad.

I think you just answered your own question..

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By *wingsnroundabouts82Couple
over a year ago

Fucksville


"I don't have time to read that. ^

And we don't have time to waste with people who don't do the basics.

LIKE SEND PHOTOS WITH FIRST MESSAGE AND SOME DETAILS ABOUT THEMSELVES SO WE KNOW WHAT YOU LOOK LIKE AND WHAT YOUR SITUATION IS.

When you don't send photos or details, my first message back is ALWAYS going to be send me some photos of you so I can SEE if I'm attracted to you or not, and send some details, like where you are based, are you single or married, what your after etc so that I can assess and make up my mind about whether I wanna get involved in that.

Basics, people, basics. Most men stumble on the basics, and they don't even have the basics on their profile for me to check myself. I don't have the time for message ping pong either, so you just send up getting BLOCKED.

If you wanna be blocked, ignored or generally start a convo by frustrating the girl, then ignore her profile. You will be one of many also ignored by her. If you want to stand out, read it and adapt your messages accordingly. "

Exactly this, simply couldnt have put it better!! X x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes. They do.

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By *urls and DressesWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere near here

By not reading profiles makes you appear desperate to me, you’ll attempt to sleep with whoever. Surely if you don’t have time to read profiles, you don’t have time to message the person and get to know them? Don’t you want to rule out whether they’re a weirdo or not?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"why do people get so mad that people don't read every word on their profile like i get its annoying but not like i was rude or disrespectful chill out ffs "

If you don't have time to read a profile, you definitely don't have time to meet!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Of course they have the time, they just couldn't be arsed

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By *torm in a G cupWoman
over a year ago

Land of the Long White Cloud

If I like the look of someone in chat or their pictures then I will read their profiles.

I sometimes reply to messages without reading profiles, but usually only when saying "thanks, but no thanks."

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By *stbury DavenportMan
over a year ago

Nottingham

You don't have time to read profiles, but you do have time to come on the forums and vent about it. Righto.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Imagine what you can do with all of the time that is saved by not reading profiles...

I’m certain that it’s into the minutes!

I’m sure that a busy man such as yourself OP has life planned out to the second and the value of a minute is indescribable, so just consider how much time you’re saving by not having sex either"

_ea monkey Thanks for the morning laugh.

I am really loving all of the replies to this thread so far

Spot. On.

BRB with my own thread people.

I'm off to message everyone and then wonder why profiles where our interests list do not match and who are not seeking curvy bi non submissive Black women either don't reply to my messages or block me....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"why do people get so mad that people don't read every word on their profile like i get its annoying but not like i was rude or disrespectful chill out ffs "

You won't be the first man who didn't read every word of their profile. After 30 messages all asking for something that the person specifically says they *won't* do, it gets annoying.

Welcome to the forums.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I bet posting this thread has saved you some time in the future - I wonder how many women have preemptively blocked you after reading it.

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By *irginieWoman
over a year ago

Near Marlborough

I don’t give a rat’s arse if you read my profile or not . I’ll reply or not reply.

V x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I just ready everything in your thread post op. You are welcome.

Why are you getting so miffed at someone you have never spoken to? Don’t worry about it.

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By *athan 123Man
over a year ago

rochdale oldham border

I’m not being funny but half these messages are too long lol just cba tryin to read em !! ( jokes )

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I never learnt to read

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I don't have time to read that. ^

And we don't have time to waste with people who don't do the basics.

LIKE SEND PHOTOS WITH FIRST MESSAGE AND SOME DETAILS ABOUT THEMSELVES SO WE KNOW WHAT YOU LOOK LIKE AND WHAT YOUR SITUATION IS.

When you don't send photos or details, my first message back is ALWAYS going to be send me some photos of you so I can SEE if I'm attracted to you or not, and send some details, like where you are based, are you single or married, what your after etc so that I can assess and make up my mind about whether I wanna get involved in that.

Basics, people, basics. Most men stumble on the basics, and they don't even have the basics on their profile for me to check myself. I don't have the time for message ping pong either, so you just send up getting BLOCKED.

If you wanna be blocked, ignored or generally start a convo by frustrating the girl, then ignore her profile. You will be one of many also ignored by her. If you want to stand out, read it and adapt your messages accordingly.

Exactly this, simply couldnt have put it better!! X x "

We second that...so many messages get just deleted...or users blocked..

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By *etcplCouple
over a year ago

Gapping Fanny

You don’t have time to read the profile, but you do have time to message them?

That doesn’t work for me.

What you mean is some people cant be fucked to read profiles and instead see the pretty pictures and want to put P in V?

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By *sm265Woman
over a year ago

Shangri-la

By not taking two minutes to read a profile you are demonstrating that you aren't actually interested in the person behind it. It's a mistake many people make & then don't understand why they get a immediate "no thanks" without any conversation.

Why should I spend my time responding to someone who thinks their time is more precious than mine.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

They can decide for themselves whether to read it or not.

If they don't, chances are they'll find themselves on our block list tho.

Our profile answers 99% of the questions we get in our inbox. And it specifically asks men NOT to send dick pics. We still receive dozens each day. THAT is fucking disrespectful imo.

Use the site how you see fit. It'll either work or it won't...

Lu

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By *a LunaWoman
over a year ago

South Wales

If you were on a specialist site looking for (for example) a car, would you not take a few minutes to read the bumph? So you’d know what you were getting? The specifications, the small print?

If you were in Tesco looking for a Lasagne, would you not read the packet to check the expiry date? Whether it was for 1 person or 2?

So if you’d do that, what’s wrong with taking a few minutes to read the wordy delights of someone on Fab. Speed read till you get to the good bits

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If you were on a specialist site looking for (for example) a car, would you not take a few minutes to read the bumph? So you’d know what you were getting? The specifications, the small print?

If you were in Tesco looking for a Lasagne, would you not read the packet to check the expiry date? Whether it was for 1 person or 2?

So if you’d do that, what’s wrong with taking a few minutes to read the wordy delights of someone on Fab. Speed read till you get to the good bits "

yeah! I don't really understand why people don't. I wanna know some information before I decide if I'd quite like to fuck a stranger

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My profile specifically states the types of guys I am looking to connect with. I like older, chunky, bear-type guys. So when a young slim lad messages me, asking if I want to meet, and then gets pissy with me because I tell him I’m not interested, I just think that whole awkward and aggressive interaction could have been avoided if he had just read my profile.

Or, demonstrating the importance of reading profiles, in Fab terms, would go like this...

Straight guy: “I’M STRAIGHT!!! WILL GUYS STOP F*KN MESSAGING ME?!”

Gay/Bi guy who didn’t read their profile: “Hi, straight guy. Wanna blowjob?”

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If you were on a specialist site looking for (for example) a car, would you not take a few minutes to read the bumph? So you’d know what you were getting? The specifications, the small print?

If you were in Tesco looking for a Lasagne, would you not read the packet to check the expiry date? Whether it was for 1 person or 2?

So if you’d do that, what’s wrong with taking a few minutes to read the wordy delights of someone on Fab. Speed read till you get to the good bits "

I just find the lasagne that looks good. Then realise it needs eating that night as the expiry date is today.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Sorry I didn't have time to read tge thread FAF anyone?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If you were in Tesco looking for a Lasagne, would you not read the packet to check the expiry date? Whether it was for 1 person or 2?"

To be fair, I never read the packaging for how many people it serves.

“This trifle serves four people”. Errr, I’ll be the judge of that, thank you!

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham


"why do people get so mad that people don't read every word on their profile like i get its annoying but not like i was rude or disrespectful chill out ffs "

Tl:dr

What reasons are there to not have the time to read a profile other than so many profiles to message?

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By *a LunaWoman
over a year ago

South Wales


"If you were on a specialist site looking for (for example) a car, would you not take a few minutes to read the bumph? So you’d know what you were getting? The specifications, the small print?

If you were in Tesco looking for a Lasagne, would you not read the packet to check the expiry date? Whether it was for 1 person or 2?

So if you’d do that, what’s wrong with taking a few minutes to read the wordy delights of someone on Fab. Speed read till you get to the good bits

I just find the lasagne that looks good. Then realise it needs eating that night as the expiry date is today. "

See! You need to read the bumph

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By *AYENCouple
over a year ago

Lincolnshire


"why do people get so mad that people don't read every word on their profile like i get its annoying but not like i was rude or disrespectful chill out ffs "

We don't get annoyed

We don't get mad

We don't think it's rude

We don't think it's disrespectful

We chill and block ffs

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By *renzMan
over a year ago

Between Chichester and Havant

If you don't have time to read my profile then you wouldn't be someone I would want to meet. A couple of minutes of your time? Obviously too busy planning all the meets you are having!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"why do people get so mad that people don't read every word on their profile like i get its annoying but not like i was rude or disrespectful chill out ffs "

Basically its not that you don't have time to read the profile, you just cant be bothered to put in the effort and don't have the patience to.

Which , if that's your attitude to just a few seconds on a profile, shows your attitude towards actual meets.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I tell ppl not to read mine

Its peaceful

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It costs you more time and effort if you don’t read profiles doesn’t it? In the long run. "

Very correct observation

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It can be said that a lot of men don't read profiles before sending a message and a lot of women don't read a message before deleting it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"My profile specifically states the types of guys I am looking to connect with. I like older, chunky, bear-type guys. So when a young slim lad messages me, asking if I want to meet, and then gets pissy with me because I tell him I’m not interested, I just think that whole awkward and aggressive interaction could have been avoided if he had just read my profile.

Or, demonstrating the importance of reading profiles, in Fab terms, would go like this...

Straight guy: “I’M STRAIGHT!!! WILL GUYS STOP F*KN MESSAGING ME?!”

Gay/Bi guy who didn’t read their profile: “Hi, straight guy. Wanna blowjob?”"

Brilliant example. I can't imagine how many messages from cocksuckers some of the rough and tumble straight men with big dicks get on here. Even though they clearly state it on their profile. I can feel their frustration through the CAPS and!!!!

Tip for straight guys: you can actually BLOCK men from messaging you completely. Just go to the options.

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By *iss LovelyWoman
over a year ago

Here and There

If you CBA to read a profile, then I think you’d be a terrible meet. I think it shows a total lack of interest in the person and that your approach is chucking out a load of (probably cut and paste) messages to see if you get a bite. Which means you’re not fussy, you’re not looking for a mutually respectful meet because you clearly don’t care if you meet the persons needs because you haven’t checked what they are at the outset. I think it shows complete disrespect for the other person right off the bat.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You can normally tell from the first few lines if the person is someone your interested in and vice versa

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If you CBA to read a profile, then I think you’d be a terrible meet. I think it shows a total lack of interest in the person and that your approach is chucking out a load of (probably cut and paste) messages to see if you get a bite. Which means you’re not fussy, you’re not looking for a mutually respectful meet because you clearly don’t care if you meet the persons needs because you haven’t checked what they are at the outset. I think it shows complete disrespect for the other person right off the bat. "

xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If you were in Tesco looking for a Lasagne, would you not read the packet to check the expiry date? Whether it was for 1 person or 2?

To be fair, I never read the packaging for how many people it serves.

“This trifle serves four people”. Errr, I’ll be the judge of that, thank you! "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Totally, we all live busy, hectic lives and I ain’t taking two minutes out of my day to read a profile, then compose a message, even if that person is my future life partner, I’m just gonna wing it and hope that my generic, copy and paste message hits the spot.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Always worth reading the profile to save you from that irrational, seething rage that affects fellas when they don't receive the response they want.

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By *razytimesinloveCouple
over a year ago

SW Scotland


"why do people get so mad that people don't read every word on their profile like i get its annoying but not like i was rude or disrespectful chill out ffs "

If people won’t read the profile, why should we read their message ?

Clearly states no single guys on ours yet that get an attitude when we tell them we’re not interested

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You can tell when someone hasn’t read your profile. The issue is when your profile clearly states what you are or aren’t into which people disregard for a pointless “hi” or “look sexy”.

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By *ssex_tomMan
over a year ago

Chelmsford

It's a bit like going for a job interview. Do your homework and read about the company. Then decide if you really want to join them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If someone can't take a couple of minutes to read my profile, I can't be bothered to engage with them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You have to accept that there is a wide spectrum of people on here...each looking for there thing...you can't please everyone, take the rough with the smooth..you can use message filters

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You don’t have time to read the profile, yet have time to message...

By not reading the profile you are probably wasting your own time sending a random message. If you read the profile and fit what they’re looking for cater a message to them and you have more chance of getting one back...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If people don't have the time to read our profile, I don't have the time to message them. Why should my time be less valuable?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"You don’t have time to read the profile, yet have time to message...

By not reading the profile you are probably wasting your own time sending a random message. If you read the profile and fit what they’re looking for cater a message to them and you have more chance of getting one back..."

And you will still get people who read and those who dont

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By *acavityMan
over a year ago

Redditch


"why do people get so mad that people don't read every word on their profile like i get its annoying but not like i was rude or disrespectful chill out ffs "

Yeah, every holes a goal. Why bother finding out anything about them.

(Sarcasm)

It's quicker to read a profile and not send a message to an person who isn't interested, than to write a message.

Unless the message is "fancy a fuck" or a cut'n'Paste standard letter.

Quality rather than quantity is the key to success.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Our profile isnt too long to read, yet clearly some people cant be bothered and just fire off really lame messages, then get upset when they get ignored.

If you arent interested enough in us to take the time to read a few words about what we like, we dont think you would take the time to please anyone but yourself during a meet.

So, thats a simple no response and delete from us..

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If you've not bothered to read my profile, all that tells me is that you've seen the pic of my tits and decided that's grounds enough to want to bang me. I am very selective about who I'll meet or chat with, and I expect the same in a potential playmate.

Superficiality is a big turn-off.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Op has gone a bit quiet..

Im guessing the he hasnt got time to read these responses..

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By *lirty-CoupleCouple
over a year ago

Bexley


"why do people get so mad that people don't read every word on their profile like i get its annoying but not like i was rude or disrespectful chill out ffs "

Substitute 'every word' for 'a single word' and you'd be more accurate. It's so annoying because it happens sooooooo often - multiple times a day! Because these people haven't bothered, they have no idea what we're looking for or whether they would be at all a match. Not only that, but when you turn them down because they're not a match, they often start arguing about it. Now that's really disrespectful.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Some profile descriptions are WAY too long-winded. I honestly could not be bothered to read the long ones

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

if you dont have time to read the profile how do you have time to chat

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Can I ask the single guys....do you look and read every profile then send a thought out message?

I only read a profile if I like the look of that persons face or body so im selective on who I message

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"if you dont have time to read the profile how do you have time to chat "

Ooooh burn

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"You don't have time to read profiles, but you do have time to come on the forums and vent about it. Righto. "

This

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"if you dont have time to read the profile how do you have time to chat

Ooooh burn "

i’m serious . a conversation surely takes longer than reading a profile - and foreplay DEFINITELY should take longer

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By *offiaCoolWoman
over a year ago

Kidsgrove

This is not a porn magazine with pictures to wank over, it is a site to find like minded people. The words give an indication of compatibility of meeting like minded people.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"if you dont have time to read the profile how do you have time to chat

Ooooh burn

i’m serious . a conversation surely takes longer than reading a profile - and foreplay DEFINITELY should take longer "

I agree haha

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By *ionelhutzMan
over a year ago

liverpool

There must be some very slow readers about.

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By *renzMan
over a year ago

Between Chichester and Havant


"Can I ask the single guys....do you look and read every profile then send a thought out message?

I only read a profile if I like the look of that persons face or body so im selective on who I message "

I wouldn't read the profile of someone that didn't interest me, that would be rather pointless.

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By *ancer36Woman
over a year ago

Stirling

So your basing every message you send on image alone...

Profiles are there to be read, it gives an indication of common ground, interests and snippet of someone’s personality. If you don’t have time to read a profile then expect someone to take the time to meet you there’s something a little off balance with that x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Playing devils advocate here but I've been guilty of maybe flirting with someone in the forums then realising I'm not actually what they were looking for after reading their profile fully.

I do tend to skim read though.

Generally that only happens if I like what they are saying. So I have done some groundwork, just overlooked the finer details

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's a strange one really. If I meet someone 'out out', they don't hand me 3 pages of A4 that I have to trawl through before I can speak to them.

We smile and say hello... .

*mind blown*

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

In the defense of men who don’t read profiles it’s not actually their fault as it’s down to a little known medical condition called “Tit blindness”.

They see tits and go blind but manage to send messages so let’s feel their pain here.

T

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Oooh, I'm in. I hope this is more productive than the find a friend game.

Oh wait a minute...... I didn't read that properly.

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By *ittyandtheboyCouple
over a year ago

Back of the bins.

We’ve spent an entire weekend writing ours, it’ll take you 2 minutes to read. If you’re not interested in putting in two minutes of effort, I don’t think you’ll be good in bed...

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By *o new WinksMan
over a year ago

BSE

How can you not read a profile ?

Whats the point of even copying and pasting a message if she/they don't meet...bald men...(insert criteria for yourself)?

Thats at least 3 clicks wasted.

I suppose, if you are playing the numbers game...

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By *sm265Woman
over a year ago

Shangri-la


"why do people get so mad that people don't read every word on their profile like i get its annoying but not like i was rude or disrespectful chill out ffs "

I actually think failing to read a profile is pretty disrespectful.

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By *o new WinksMan
over a year ago

BSE


"It's a strange one really. If I meet someone 'out out', they don't hand me 3 pages of A4 that I have to trawl through before I can speak to them.

We smile and say hello... .

*mind blown*"

But at least you get a feel for them, before they feel you

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By *ittleAcornMan
over a year ago

visiting the beach


"It's a strange one really. If I meet someone 'out out', they don't hand me 3 pages of A4 that I have to trawl through before I can speak to them.

We smile and say hello... .

*mind blown*

"

But during that initial interaction, you will be doing the equivalent of reading their profile.

At which point you'll either continue or realise they are not for you (or vice versa).

It's very rare you'd decide you have nothing in common, and want different things out if the evening, but still decide to take them home for a shag surely?

The profile saves you having to buy a drink to find this out!

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By *rder66Man
over a year ago

Tatooine

Sorry, I read the first line of the OP and the last line of the last comment.

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By *sm265Woman
over a year ago

Shangri-la


"Can I ask the single guys....do you look and read every profile then send a thought out message?

I only read a profile if I like the look of that persons face or body so im selective on who I message "

Some seem to just fire off a "hey" message to any female who happens to be online at the time

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By *lirty-CoupleCouple
over a year ago

Bexley

It's not necessary to read a profile from start to finish in order to establish whether that person is a) attractive and b) at least likely to be reasonable match.

Just by way of an example, we don't wish to meet bi/bi-curious guys. It takes about 10 seconds to see that very clearly at the top of our profile.

Q: Why then do we still get messages from bi guys?

We can't accommodate and only meet locally due to personal commitments and make it quite plain so we don't waste anyone's time.

Q: Why then do we still get messages from guys who live 100's of miles away and why would we bother to reply to them?

A: Because they didn't bother to even look at our profile, let alone read it.

Seriously how long does it take to scan a few paragraphs to pick out the salient points?

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By *ecadent_DevonMan
over a year ago

Okehampton

“Yesterday I was clever, so I wanted to change the world. Today I am wise, so I am changing myself”. Rumi

((Please cut and paste the above for every thread that complains about how other people do things and why they don’t behave how YOU want))

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I don't have time to read that. ^"

Oh Jim

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By *oxy lady40Woman
over a year ago

bridgwater

I can tell straight away , if someone hasn’t bothered to read my profile, it is very disrespectful, so auto delete

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By *olly_chromaticTV/TS
over a year ago

Stockport


"If you were in Tesco looking for a Lasagne, would you not read the packet to check the expiry date? Whether it was for 1 person or 2?

To be fair, I never read the packaging for how many people it serves.

“This trifle serves four people”. Errr, I’ll be the judge of that, thank you! "

Oo yes the tesco chocolate trifle! All chocolate and creamy goodness!!

What was the question again? I got distracted by trifle...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

For people saying their profile only takes 2 minutes to read, if say I’m messaging 15000 profiles of an evening, if I had to read everyone that would take me till July and in July I like to be down on the beach, I very much like to feel the ocean breeze in my hair and the salt air on my senses, the waves have a calming affect and remind me of better times, plus they haven’t got 4G there, so I’m totally offline most of the day.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If someone can't be bothered to read my profile then I can't be bothered to reply to them.

It works both ways.

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By *elpful and caringMan
over a year ago

Scarborough

I always read profiles to see if there might be some sort of attraction.

I ask that others read mine as well just so they know I am married.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I made mine extra simple, just read the first line "if you don't know me personally please don't message me". Even that's too much for some

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By *he Queen of TartsWoman
Forum Mod

over a year ago

My Own Little World

They don't have time to read a profile but have time to write a message and any reply they get?

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By *pursChick aka ShortieWoman
over a year ago

On a mooch

When they don’t even get past the first line above your picture “not looking, not meeting”, only have to read four words. If they can’t understand that, it is just them trying their luck and will get an automatic delete

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By *entlemanrogueMan
over a year ago

Motherwell


"why do people get so mad that people don't read every word on their profile like i get its annoying but not like i was rude or disrespectful chill out ffs "

You dont have tine to read a profile, but do have time to meet and have sex with them?!

these numbers do not add up.

If you cant respect someones profile, do you think they will expect you to respect them?

Of course not.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If you haven’t got time to read my profile (my normal one), I haven’t got time to engage with you, and you won’t have time to put the groundwork in for a meet?"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"When they don’t even get past the first line above your picture “not looking, not meeting”, only have to read four words. If they can’t understand that, it is just them trying their luck and will get an automatic delete "

Right?!

My delete button needs holidays.

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By *entlemanrogueMan
over a year ago

Motherwell


"I can tell straight away , if someone hasn’t bothered to read my profile, it is very disrespectful, so auto delete "

Happy birthday.

Guess what OP, i know this bause i read it, on Foxys profile.

Imagine that, the sharing of information, its like something from the future¿

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By *ev_1Couple
over a year ago

Bickliegh

Fine if you don't want to read the profile just don't presume or moan at the reply you receive

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By *acDreamyMan
over a year ago

Wirral

I messaged someone yesterday after reading their profile. I tailored the message to imply that I had. No code word was demanded and all criteria were met.

The response.... Read my profile.

I re-read it several times to see what I had missed. Clearly I had the wrong decryption codes for my fab enigma machine!

There's no pleasing some people!

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By *partharmonyCouple
over a year ago

Ruislip


"why do people get so mad that people don't read every word on their profile like i get its annoying but not like i was rude or disrespectful chill out ffs "

So you have time to shag somebody but not time read the things they would like you to know about them?

It sounds to me much less like you don't have time and more like you can’t be arsed, but I'm not sure because I zoned out half way through your post.

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By *o new WinksMan
over a year ago

BSE


"Fine if you don't want to read the profile just don't presume or moan at the reply you receive "

You reply to those who don't read your profile ?

How do you have time...?

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By *urrey_2011Man
over a year ago

Dorking


"why do people get so mad that people don't read every word on their profile like i get its annoying but not like i was rude or disrespectful chill out ffs "

Just common decently to read a profile prior to messaging someone!

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By *iddlesticksMan
over a year ago

My nan’s spare room.


"I messaged someone yesterday after reading their profile. I tailored the message to imply that I had. No code word was demanded and all criteria were met.

The response.... Read my profile.

I re-read it several times to see what I had missed. Clearly I had the wrong decryption codes for my fab enigma machine!

There's no pleasing some people! "

And yet, there is pleasing some people.

Actually I’ve just realised that if somebody can be bothered to reply with Read the profile, then why not actually reply properly or just ignore.

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By *otsossieMan
over a year ago

local, but not too local


"why do people get so mad that people don't read every word on their profile like i get its annoying but not like i was rude or disrespectful chill out ffs

So you have time to shag somebody but not time read the things they would like you to know about them?

It sounds to me much less like you don't have time and more like you can’t be arsed, but I'm not sure because I zoned out half way through your post. "

This. And I get that it’s purely a physical attraction, but it really would help if you get on with each other

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By *S2004Man
over a year ago

Bromsgrove


"why do people get so mad that people don't read every word on their profile like i get its annoying but not like i was rude or disrespectful chill out ffs "

Exactly the problem. Not reading a profile is disrespectful, it shows you you have no interest in the person who’s profile it is. Swinging is not just about fucking randoms. My partner has a single profile and the amount of completely pointless messages from those who haven’t read the profile is ridiculous and reduces the chances of picking out genuine potential meets.

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By *ictoria_1976TV/TS
over a year ago

Truro

I don't have time to read the other 113 posts on here!

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By *artender_onthelooseMan
over a year ago

Dublin

No problem reading profiles but when it starts becoming an essay like so many on here time to move on

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Whats this thread even about, I couldn't be arsed reading the op

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By *otsossieMan
over a year ago

local, but not too local


"No problem reading profiles but when it starts becoming an essay like so many on here time to move on "

Thing is, that’s the trigger to not contact them.

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By *ilvery brownMan
over a year ago

lewisham

My profile is pretty long. Do appreciate when it's read as it's meant to give an idea of who I am.

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By *rincess peachWoman
over a year ago

shits creek

Not everyone has the time to read your whole profile before speaking to you. Interesting.

So you literally stick your dick in any receptacle you've had no convo with? Interesting.

The way I see it, a profile IS a conversation. One person speaking, the other person "listening" and either agreeing or disagreeing and deciding whether they wish to continue that conversation further.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

One theory is that if you read the profile, tick all the boxes and jump through all the hoops, then hone a message for them and still don’t get a reply then it can only be you they don’t like, however if you wing it and send a generic message and don’t get a reply the man can then think, oh well must have been cause I didn’t read the profile and not cause they didn’t fancy me. But this is purely just a theory.

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By *ilvery brownMan
over a year ago

lewisham


"Not everyone has the time to read your whole profile before speaking to you. Interesting.

So you literally stick your dick in any receptacle you've had no convo with? Interesting.

The way I see it, a profile IS a conversation. One person speaking, the other person "listening" and either agreeing or disagreeing and deciding whether they wish to continue that conversation further. "

Precisely. Couldnt have put it across better

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Depends how long the profile is... if it’s short then it doesn’t take long but some profiles are practically a trilogy and I don’t blame you

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By *artender_onthelooseMan
over a year ago

Dublin


"No problem reading profiles but when it starts becoming an essay like so many on here time to move on

Thing is, that’s the trigger to not contact them. "

It's a good trigger so

Job done lol

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By *lirty-CoupleCouple
over a year ago

Bexley


"One theory is that if you read the profile, tick all the boxes and jump through all the hoops, then hone a message for them and still don’t get a reply then it can only be you they don’t like, however if you wing it and send a generic message and don’t get a reply the man can then think, oh well must have been cause I didn’t read the profile and not cause they didn’t fancy me. But this is purely just a theory. "

Yes that's quite possible. It could also be that they've just had rather a lot of messages and simply can't reply to them all. There are many more guys here than females or couples so the latter are bound to get far more messages.

Incidentally, we just read our own profile and timed it at just over 2 minutes. Not exactly War & Peace...

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By *elaxedsexyfunMan
over a year ago

Northants


"If you haven’t got time to read my profile (my normal one), I haven’t got time to engage with you, and you won’t have time to put the groundwork in for a meet?"

I couldn't be arsed to look at your profile but I did perve at your pics. Not bad by the way!

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By *ittleAcornMan
over a year ago

visiting the beach


"Depends how long the profile is... if it’s short then it doesn’t take long but some profiles are practically a trilogy and I don’t blame you

"

Even the longest profile isn't going to take more than 5 mins to read. Takes me longer than that to make a coffee.

However, if it was long, and full of SHOUTY CAPS, or terrible grammar/spelling I'd probably abandon the effort.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think it's important to read a bio. What's the point in sending a message if you're not what they're looking for? I have a long bio myself, so it works both ways

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By *oxy lady40Woman
over a year ago

bridgwater


"I can tell straight away , if someone hasn’t bothered to read my profile, it is very disrespectful, so auto delete

Happy birthday.

Guess what OP, i know this bause i read it, on Foxys profile.

Imagine that, the sharing of information, its like something from the future¿"

thank you x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So your basing every message you send on image alone...

Profiles are there to be read, it gives an indication of common ground, interests and snippet of someone’s personality. If you don’t have time to read a profile then expect someone to take the time to meet you there’s something a little off balance with that x"

I guess yes...if im not physically attracted to them then no point in reading profile, if I like the look ill read profile to decide if first off im what they are looking for...pointless otherwise

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By *oncupiscence73Woman
over a year ago

South

If you don’t have time to read my profile I don’t have time to reply or meet you .... sorry.

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By *annaBeStrongMan
over a year ago

wokingham

Bit rude not to

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By *oncupiscence73Woman
over a year ago

South


"So your basing every message you send on image alone...

Profiles are there to be read, it gives an indication of common ground, interests and snippet of someone’s personality. If you don’t have time to read a profile then expect someone to take the time to meet you there’s something a little off balance with that x

I guess yes...if im not physically attracted to them then no point in reading profile, if I like the look ill read profile to decide if first off im what they are looking for...pointless otherwise "

Exactly this ... photos first profile second.

Amazing how many cock photos I get then when asked why send it it’s because they can’t be bothered to read the profile. What’s the point of that then eh?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"So your basing every message you send on image alone...

Profiles are there to be read, it gives an indication of common ground, interests and snippet of someone’s personality. If you don’t have time to read a profile then expect someone to take the time to meet you there’s something a little off balance with that x"

Basing it on image to look at profile and read it

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By *oncupiscence73Woman
over a year ago

South


"Some profiles are "Will fill in later", after having been on her for over a year, others are like War & Peace, mostly full of SHOUTY DEMANDS that make ma eyes bleed "

Yeah I used to wonder why women had shouty profiles ... after two years on here now I know why. You should run a single female profile for a while - I guarantee that would make you shout.

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By *oncupiscence73Woman
over a year ago

South


"One theory is that if you read the profile, tick all the boxes and jump through all the hoops, then hone a message for them and still don’t get a reply then it can only be you they don’t like, however if you wing it and send a generic message and don’t get a reply the man can then think, oh well must have been cause I didn’t read the profile and not cause they didn’t fancy me. But this is purely just a theory. "

Generic messages for me tell me they’ve blasted every female within a twenty mile radius abs ‘any hole’s a goal’ ... nah not for me

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By *entlemanrogueMan
over a year ago

Motherwell

I wonder how many women have now blocked the OP having read this post.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We get it that some of you single guys are lazy and can't be arsed to read profiles, and all you want is to fuck. We want to fuck too but not with lazy fuckers.

Sometimes one of you may get lucky and we'll interact with you. However, if it is obvious you haven't read our profile, we have no time for you.

Some profiles are very interesting, some are humorous and some are both. Read them and you may find you are incompatible. Then you've only wasted a minute or two instead of all the time it takes to ping pong messages back and forth. To then find you're incompatible.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It's a strange one really. If I meet someone 'out out', they don't hand me 3 pages of A4 that I have to trawl through before I can speak to them.

We smile and say hello... .

*mind blown*

But at least you get a feel for them, before they feel you "

You're back!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"It's a strange one really. If I meet someone 'out out', they don't hand me 3 pages of A4 that I have to trawl through before I can speak to them.

We smile and say hello... .

*mind blown*

But during that initial interaction, you will be doing the equivalent of reading their profile.

At which point you'll either continue or realise they are not for you (or vice versa).

It's very rare you'd decide you have nothing in common, and want different things out if the evening, but still decide to take them home for a shag surely?

The profile saves you having to buy a drink to find this out!

"

But the initial interaction is surely the same as only scrolling through a few of their pics.

Reading the profile/ finding out if they are a Cliff Richard fan/ like to shag with the lights on come when you're having the drink together later on.

Unless they are already wearing a Cliff tshirt... in which case it's straight behind the bins at Aldi for a shag.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We get it that some of you single guys are lazy and can't be arsed to read profiles, and all you want is to fuck. We want to fuck too but not with lazy fuckers.

Sometimes one of you may get lucky and we'll interact with you. However, if it is obvious you haven't read our profile, we have no time for you.

Some profiles are very interesting, some are humorous and some are both. Read them and you may find you are incompatible. Then you've only wasted a minute or two instead of all the time it takes to ping pong messages back and forth. To then find you're incompatible."

But if you have your tick list shouldn't you block singles and you do the searching?

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By *rder66Man
over a year ago

Tatooine


"I can tell straight away , if someone hasn’t bothered to read my profile, it is very disrespectful, so auto delete "
I read yours everytime I have a steaky perv.

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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago

East London

If you don't have time to read all of a profile, don't be mad when someone doesn't have the time to reply.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We get it that some of you single guys are lazy and can't be arsed to read profiles, and all you want is to fuck. We want to fuck too but not with lazy fuckers.

Sometimes one of you may get lucky and we'll interact with you. However, if it is obvious you haven't read our profile, we have no time for you.

Some profiles are very interesting, some are humorous and some are both. Read them and you may find you are incompatible. Then you've only wasted a minute or two instead of all the time it takes to ping pong messages back and forth. To then find you're incompatible.

But if you have your tick list shouldn't you block singles and you do the searching?"

We don't have a tick list. We occasionally play with single guys so why should we block them? We will engage with interesting single guys who take the time to read our profile.

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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago

East London

It doesn't really matter if they haven't read my profile. I'll look at theirs for 5 seconds and decide whether to respond.

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By *ittleAcornMan
over a year ago

visiting the beach


"

... Unless they are already wearing a Cliff tshirt... in which case it's straight behind the bins at Aldi for a shag.

"

Well obvs, I feel that doesn't even need saying.

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By *heonixRaven 777Woman
over a year ago

Guildford

If you haven’t got the time to read my profile, then sorry I am way to busy to open my legs for you.

It also tells me you are only interested in meeting your own wants /desires and not interested in me having a pleasurable experience.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"We get it that some of you single guys are lazy and can't be arsed to read profiles, and all you want is to fuck. We want to fuck too but not with lazy fuckers.

Sometimes one of you may get lucky and we'll interact with you. However, if it is obvious you haven't read our profile, we have no time for you.

Some profiles are very interesting, some are humorous and some are both. Read them and you may find you are incompatible. Then you've only wasted a minute or two instead of all the time it takes to ping pong messages back and forth. To then find you're incompatible.

But if you have your tick list shouldn't you block singles and you do the searching?

We don't have a tick list. We occasionally play with single guys so why should we block them? We will engage with interesting single guys who take the time to read our profile."

Sorry I read it as you wanted single guys...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If you can’t be bothered to read profile we can’t be bothered to respond

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By *aunchy RaccoonsCouple
over a year ago

Exeter

If somebody can't be arsed to read a profile for 2-3 minutes then we can't be arsed to speak to them.

Don't think anyone can moan about being rejected because they're too lazy to read somebody's profile...seriously how can they be surprised?

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

Reading the details is to prevent even more time being spent and wasted by both sides. It doesn't seem very intelligent to want to do something that is totally avoidable and creates hassle. It hints at lack of interest and respect for a partner's needs, which is a huge stay away warning.

If you're not going to read the whole profile and message someone, at least have the honesty - if honesty is a trait you possess - to let them know in the first line of your message.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Did I just read that?

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By *oxy lady40Woman
over a year ago

bridgwater


"I can tell straight away , if someone hasn’t bothered to read my profile, it is very disrespectful, so auto delete I read yours everytime I have a steaky perv.

Xx

"

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I understand that not everyone is going to read all my profile but I would expect them to read at least the first paragraph.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"You wouldn't go to the pub and not read a menu if you didn't know what food was on offer, profiles are there to stop unnecessary conversations with incompatible people, why waste both of our time for the sake of a couple of mins read"

This!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Op you don't need to read mine if you want me to fuck you, just wink at me x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"If you haven’t got the time to read my profile, then sorry I am way to busy to open my legs for you.

It also tells me you are only interested in meeting your own wants /desires and not interested in me having a pleasurable experience. "

This xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If I lose interest while reading a profile I know I won't be interested in meeting that person so wouldn't bother messaging them.

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By *crumdiddlyumptiousMan
over a year ago

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I find it hard to read all the profile while wanking and looking at the pics and if its especially long I've usually cum by then anyway and move on

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By *astesLikeMagicWoman
over a year ago

Newcastle

[Removed by poster at 29/03/21 16:27:51]

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By *astesLikeMagicWoman
over a year ago

Newcastle

I'm not mad about it but I'm not interested in men who can't be bothered to spend 30 seconds seeing if our profiles match, imagine how shit and effortless he'd be in bed

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By *ampshirehotwifeWoman
over a year ago

Hampshire

Taking the time to read a profile will take the best part of a couple of minutes....unless it's mine! You'll need an hour or so and I suggest a drink too you will definitely need it.

Personally I feel that someone who is willing to put in a bit of effort by reading my profile will be a inclined to put in the effort when it comes to meets.

Everyone has their own way of doing things on this site and that's their perogative.

If your message suggests that you haven't read my profile then I'm not going to reply. It's there for a reason.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If you be bothered reading a profile, then can't see how your going to know a little of who your talking to. Bit disrespectful really, can't be bothered to know your likes? Then sorry can't be bothered to know you either

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If you think your time is more important than mine, i.e wasting my time with a message when you could be 5ft5 and clearly a no from me, then I would consider my time too important to explain your failings.

Read profile = Read message

It is very simple

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By *ionelhutzMan
over a year ago

liverpool

I actually enjoy reading the profiles.

I love it when someone actually puts a bit of effort on to describe the type of person they are and who they are looking for.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I'm not mad about it but I'm not interested in men who can't be bothered to spend 30 seconds seeing if our profiles match, imagine how shit and effortless he'd be in bed"

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

If you don't have the time to read my profile, I don't have the time to deal with you.

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By *ustyshowoffCouple
over a year ago

Cyprus

We get a little frustrated when we get “love your profile, do you fancy meeting up? Not an unreasonable question when safe to do so but the first line of our profile clearly says we live in Cyprus full time.

You’d think they could manage to read line one

Mark

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think you're all missing the point people - this is not book club - just spread em

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By *uriousscouserWoman
over a year ago

Wirral


"If I lose interest while reading a profile I know I won't be interested in meeting that person so wouldn't bother messaging them. "

Spot on, there are some profiles I've read where I know it would be a total waste messaging, but I've also read some quirky profiles full of personality that have really attracted me to people I probably wouldn't normally have thought to message.

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By *itty9899Man
over a year ago

Craggy Island


"why do people get so mad that people don't read every word on their profile like i get its annoying but not like i was rude or disrespectful chill out ffs "

If you are that interested in said person you would take interest in their profile.

If you don't do the homework, you won't get the grade you want.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I think you're all missing the point people - this is not book club - just spread em "

I know right this is not fabreaders its fabsexsiteswingerz so get nude and get sexing

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By *inkylipsWoman
over a year ago

Debauchery

It’s annoying when people can’t even be bothered to read the most important things in the first few lines on my profile. When you get the same repeated questions and waste both our times repeatedly. This winds me up so no I won’t lighten up

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By *ex HolesMan
over a year ago

Up North

Not had time to read up there^^ but great thread everyone

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By *ex HolesMan
over a year ago

Up North

^^ this

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