FabSwingers.com forum: Should it actually matter...

By *eorge Jetson OP Man
over a year ago

Middlesbrough

Where you live to accommodate?

Assuming your able to host for company is it really important what your accommodation style is.

5 bedrooms, 3 floors with 2 acres of land or rented bedsit and everything in between.

If it's clean, well kept and presentable does it matter or d'you have your style and standards you won't divert from.

My accommodation is very rare due to permanent family circumstances and I can't host often. But on the rare occasions I could my home is a 1 bed 1st floor flat. Complicated circumstances but it's well kept, tidy, clean and homely and I'd like to think the abode I dwell in is presentable for others to be happy to kick of their shoes and make themselves comfortable.

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By *rincess peachWoman
over a year ago

shits creek

If I had the choice of meeting 2 people who I liked equally and the only differencewas the location, I'd go with the one with the bigger property. It would be a treat! I don't have a fancy house, I don't have a bath (only a shower) so call me shallow or materialistic but yeah, that's what I'd do.

A meet for me is the overall experience, an adventure, a big picture.

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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound

Accessibility might be an issue.

I think if someone is going to judge your ability to shag on the accommodation you live in then you probably won't enjoy meeting them.

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By *acey_RedWoman
over a year ago

Liverpool

I think the only type of home that would potentially bother me (apart from unclean as you've already covered) is a big, shared house with little privacy. If they had a ground floor bedroom and lots of people in the living room/kitchen areas particularly.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If I had the choice of meeting 2 people who I liked equally and the only differencewas the location, I'd go with the one with the bigger property. It would be a treat! I don't have a fancy house, I don't have a bath (only a shower) so call me shallow or materialistic but yeah, that's what I'd do.

A meet for me is the overall experience, an adventure, a big picture."

6 bedroom house here Peaches, disclaimer not all mine tho

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By *ho am IWoman
over a year ago

Mids

If it came down to a choice between 2 and all other interests being equal, I'd always pick the bigger property ... more space and rooms to explore and christen

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By *abs..Woman
over a year ago

"I think the only type of home that would potentially bother me (apart from unclean as you've already covered) is a big, shared house with little privacy. If they had a ground floor bedroom and lots of people in the living room/kitchen areas particularly. "

I feel the same way

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By *gent CoulsonMan
over a year ago

Secret hideaway in the pennines

A meet for me is the overall experience, an adventure, a big picture."
I have a bath

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By *gent CoulsonMan
over a year ago

Secret hideaway in the pennines

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By *ed VoluptaWoman
over a year ago

Wirral.

"Where you live to accommodate?

Assuming your able to host for company is it really important what your accommodation style is.

5 bedrooms, 3 floors with 2 acres of land or rented bedsit and everything in between.

If it's clean, well kept and presentable does it matter or d'you have your style and standards you won't divert from.

Discuss..... "

If I like the person, I don't care where they live.

Clean, tidy & a warm, welcoming atmosphere is all I need x

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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago

East London

I met someone years back who lived in a studio apartment that was smaller than my hallway.

It was cosy, compact and tidy.

The only problem was the bed was about 2 feet from the ceiling and the ladder was very difficult to climb.

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By *ady LickWoman
over a year ago

Northampton Somewhere

No, it doesn't matter to me as long as he doesn't live with his parents or house share.

I met a guy who was renovating his house, had to walk over a plank of wood at the top of his stairs to get to his room!

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By *otSoPoshWoman
over a year ago

In a ball gown because that's how we roll in N. Devon

Makes no difference to me if I like the person x

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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound

"I met someone years back who lived in a studio apartment that was smaller than my hallway.

It was cosy, compact and tidy.

The only problem was the bed was about 2 feet from the ceiling and the ladder was very difficult to climb.

That would be a no for me. I have enough problems regaining my balance after I orgasm without adding falling down a ladder.

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By *erces LetiferMan
over a year ago

Somewhere off the edge of the map... 'ere there be monsters

A meet for me is the overall experience, an adventure, a big picture."

Bath's running. How hot d'you like it?

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

As long as it’s clean, I don’t mind. Size doesn’t matter....oh! Houses?!!??

Actually, same applies.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No, i can accommodate but choose not too for privacy reasons.

id sooner meet at a hotel neutral ground, safe and relaxing that goes for if the other person can accom, id still sooner book a hotel

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By *edeWoman
over a year ago

the abyss

As long as the person I'm meeting is genuine and the place is clean then I couldn't care less

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By *edeWoman
over a year ago

the abyss

"No, i can accommodate but choose not too for privacy reasons.

id sooner meet at a hotel neutral ground, safe and relaxing that goes for if the other person can accom, id still sooner book a hotel

^^ Also this

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By *superfuse663Man
over a year ago

manchester

Wouldnt be as comfortable in a house share for me, but not a deal breaker if a social was involed before going there ect.

But a nice place with a decent view would be nice. doesnt have to be big, just a decent location. Sea view would be a bonus

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

Couldnt careless as long as its not a house share

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"If I like the person, I don't care where they live.

Clean, tidy & a warm, welcoming atmosphere is all I need x"

This

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It's about the person for me not where they live, as long as it's clean and there's privacy!

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By *hrista BellendWoman
over a year ago

surrounded by twinkly lights

No. I prefer hotels and air bnb's on a weekend away, adds to the adventure feeling

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

It should not be an issue.

A clean , dry warm place. That's all.

However some things need to be taken into consideration .....

e.g. a rough area ? I might decline politely unless I was escorted to and from .... or knew the person really well.

a tent ....... hmmmmmmmm pass.

a garage ..... even kitted out... pass.

A protest site with temporary accomodation ........ pass...

A lorry cab ..... pass.

A portable home/cabin on a site for a cocky watchman ......... pass

Campervan ......... pass

Cosy shed ........ pass ....

I'm starting to realise that yes it matters.....

Hotel or regular home please. Regardless of size.

Yes it matters.

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By *ranny-CrumpetWoman
over a year ago

The Town by The Cross

After reading the above........ No shared houses either ..... I'm not banging away while someone's shouting from downstairs if we want chips.....

House divided into flats is fine....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No flat shaming!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I lived, for a while, in a 1 bed flat above a shop

I would only accom when the shop was closed

I didn't really fancy my landlord listening to me shagging

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By *urplechesterCouple
over a year ago

chester

It makes no odds to us what a ladies house is like! Clean and private that’s it! Who are we to judge? It’s about the lady for us 100%, Miss PC xx

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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago

East London

"I met someone years back who lived in a studio apartment that was smaller than my hallway.

It was cosy, compact and tidy.

The only problem was the bed was about 2 feet from the ceiling and the ladder was very difficult to climb.

That would be a no for me. I have enough problems regaining my balance after I orgasm without adding falling down a ladder.

I stayed the night, but I was crapping myself trying to negotiate the very slim, wooden ladder. I couldn't get up and down it now. I've had a few issues over the years with my knees and steps.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A meet for me is the overall experience, an adventure, a big picture."

I get that PP

When I was going through that period where you've broken up, but are still living together, my 'escape' was going to stay with a guy who had a lovely home

It sounds awfully mercenary of me, but I didn't fancy him all that much, but he had a lovely place, was great company and kept me fed & watered. The other plus, of course, was that it kept me out of that awkward atmosphere.

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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound

A meet for me is the overall experience, an adventure, a big picture.

I get that PP

When I was going through that period where you've broken up, but are still living together, my 'escape' was going to stay with a guy who had a lovely home

Did he mind? If not, that sounds like a win/win.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This is a swinging site and not 'Call the cleaners'. Just a clean person is fine for me. By all means throw the hoover around if it makes you feel better.

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By *iscean_dreamMan
over a year ago

Llanelli

A meet for me is the overall experience, an adventure, a big picture."

I'd lose every time then because I live in a caravan

Although there's hundreds of acres of farm to explore and lots of horses

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

"This is a swinging site and not 'Call the cleaners'. Just a clean person is fine for me. By all means throw the hoover around if it makes you feel better.

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I don’t want to shag in someone’s scummy flat!

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By *rincess peachWoman
over a year ago

shits creek

A meet for me is the overall experience, an adventure, a big picture.

I'd lose every time then because I live in a caravan

Although there's hundreds of acres of farm to explore and lots of horses "

That'd be an adventure weekend. See, I'd come help with the horses and whatnot rather than expect an indulgent evening of sensuality and wearing my highest of heels.

Bigger picture once again. Depends so much on the kind of meet you're wanting or expecting, but I ain't feeling sexy up to my ankles in 'orse shit

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"No, i can accommodate but choose not too for privacy reasons.

id sooner meet at a hotel neutral ground, safe and relaxing that goes for if the other person can accom, id still sooner book a hotel

Same. I wouldn't ever go to a stranger's house and they won't ever be coming to mine.

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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago

East London

"This is a swinging site and not 'Call the cleaners'. Just a clean person is fine for me. By all means throw the hoover around if it makes you feel better.

I don’t want to shag in someone’s scummy flat! "

On a pillow smelling of bed-head.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"This is a swinging site and not 'Call the cleaners'. Just a clean person is fine for me. By all means throw the hoover around if it makes you feel better.

I don’t want to shag in someone’s scummy flat! "

I met someone that claimed he had a 'large town house '

It was actually a dark basement room in a shared town house that was filthy with dirty ashtrays everywhere

I was afraid he was going to make my skin into a lampshade

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By *rongstantineWoman
over a year ago

hull

In fairness I did briefly accommodate whilst I was in a shared house and I was practically living out of my bedroom, which wasn't ideal and I hope he has no horrific memories. It's not something that I would normally do or repeat.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"This is a swinging site and not 'Call the cleaners'. Just a clean person is fine for me. By all means throw the hoover around if it makes you feel better.

I don’t want to shag in someone’s scummy flat!

I met someone that claimed he had a 'large town house '

It was actually a dark basement room in a shared town house that was filthy with dirty ashtrays everywhere

I was afraid he was going to make my skin into a lampshade

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By *iscean_dreamMan
over a year ago

Llanelli

A meet for me is the overall experience, an adventure, a big picture.

I'd lose every time then because I live in a caravan

Although there's hundreds of acres of farm to explore and lots of horses

That'd be an adventure weekend. See, I'd come help with the horses and whatnot rather than expect an indulgent evening of sensuality and wearing my highest of heels.

Bigger picture once again. Depends so much on the kind of meet you're wanting or expecting, but I ain't feeling sexy up to my ankles in 'orse shit

The space is what you make it and you can make a evening indulgent anyway

Get some riding breeches on and you will feel and look dead sexy

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

"This is a swinging site and not 'Call the cleaners'. Just a clean person is fine for me. By all means throw the hoover around if it makes you feel better.

I don’t want to shag in someone’s scummy flat!

On a pillow smelling of bed-head."
or worse, smeg-head

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think it’s just about communicating what your place is like if worried or feeling like it’s not ideal / comfortable, or hopefully getting vibes off the person you’re in touch with that they won’t judge.

But a clean and tidy place is a must, surely

I would only go to someone’s house as well if I knew they lived there alone, I think shared housing is probably not a comfortable place for either party otherwise.

Meeting at a neutral venue isn’t hard, and respects privacy of both / all whilst maintaining the adventure feeling.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A meet for me is the overall experience, an adventure, a big picture.

I get that PP

When I was going through that period where you've broken up, but are still living together, my 'escape' was going to stay with a guy who had a lovely home

Did he mind? If not, that sounds like a win/win.

He enjoyed the company and the fun

I did stop going though

He started getting too clingy for my liking right at that time

He's a nice bloke, we still stop & chat if we see each other out

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

As long as it's clean and private, I don't care.

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By *icketysplitsWoman
over a year ago

Way over Yonder, that's where I'm bound

"I think it’s just about communicating what your place is like if worried or feeling like it’s not ideal / comfortable, or hopefully getting vibes off the person you’re in touch with that they won’t judge.

But a clean and tidy place is a must, surely

I would only go to someone’s house as well if I knew they lived there alone, I think shared housing is probably not a comfortable place for either party otherwise.

Meeting at a neutral venue isn’t hard, and respects privacy of both / all whilst maintaining the adventure feeling. "

I can offer clean but not tidy. Before my new boiler was installed my place was always cold too. I have to know someone well for them to be invited here. I'd rather pay for a room.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I dont think it does matter does it, if you lived in a prison it may be tricky but I don't think house has ever come into my meeting criteria

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

But a clean and tidy place is a must, surely

I would only go to someone’s house as well if I knew they lived there alone, I think shared housing is probably not a comfortable place for either party otherwise.

Meeting at a neutral venue isn’t hard, and respects privacy of both / all whilst maintaining the adventure feeling.

I can offer clean but not tidy. Before my new boiler was installed my place was always cold too. I have to know someone well for them to be invited here. I'd rather pay for a room.

I'll come and tidy for ya Lickety

I like a good tidy

I should charge untidy swingers for it really, it's like a pre-fluffing service

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I book hotels. Not really into bringing strangers home as had a few nutjobs over the years after meets .

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By *a LunaWoman
over a year ago

South Wales

So long as clean and tidy I’m not bothered. We live with my mum so I’m hardly in a position to judge other folks living accommodation.

I love looking around other peoples homes though. Especially if they’ve got interesting Knick knacks.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

But a clean and tidy place is a must, surely

I would only go to someone’s house as well if I knew they lived there alone, I think shared housing is probably not a comfortable place for either party otherwise.

Meeting at a neutral venue isn’t hard, and respects privacy of both / all whilst maintaining the adventure feeling.

I can offer clean but not tidy. Before my new boiler was installed my place was always cold too. I have to know someone well for them to be invited here. I'd rather pay for a room.

I'll come and tidy for ya Lickety

I like a good tidy

I should charge untidy swingers for it really, it's like a pre-fluffing service

I'm in on that business idea Bussy 'Untidy Swingers'

I like a good tidy too.

Organising mess brings me joy - yes I am that sad

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

I don't want to come to your house if

You share it with other people permanently.

It's filthy.

It's more than an hour away.

Other than that it's a pleasure to be invited to people's homes

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By *ustBoWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere in Co. Down

It wouldn't bother me where someone lives or what sort of place they live in as long as it is clean .But then I prefer to meet somewhere neutral like a hotel especially if it's a first time play meet.

I will only bring people to my place if we have met a few times already.

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By *allySlinkyWoman
over a year ago

Leeds

The smell matters. I can't bear somewhere smelling of smoke, damp or cat piss.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"No, it doesn't matter to me as long as he doesn't live with his parents or house share.

I met a guy who was renovating his house, had to walk over a plank of wood at the top of his stairs to get to his room!"

This actually sounds pretty cool

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By *xhib12Man
over a year ago

Blyth

The size of a place wouldn't bother me, how it was kept would be much more telling as to what the person was like.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I guess the accommodation doesn’t really matter as long as it’s clean and tidy and their own space. I’m not fond of shared spaces. I’m an over thinker. If two people on the same day offered to meet and those were the options, yep I’d choose the massive house just for the experience. Never seen a property as massive as you’ve described

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We dont accommodate at home, that's our families private space. But we happily accommodate in private rented accommodation or hotels (usually hotels)

If someone is good enough to accommodate us we are happy with any kind of place, as long as its clean and tidy

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

It's the person, not the place that guides me

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