FabSwingers.com forum: First impressions!

By *nabelle21 OP Woman
over a year ago

B38

When you meet people for the first time what kind of impression do you think you leave them with?

Do you come across how you want to?

Or, do people just not get you?

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By *ick_and_BickerCouple
over a year ago

Nottingham

"When you meet people for the first time what kind of impression do you think you leave them with?

Do you come across how you want to?

Or, do people just not get you?"

I'm an acquired taste.

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By *nabelle21 OP Woman
over a year ago

B38

"When you meet people for the first time what kind of impression do you think you leave them with?

Do you come across how you want to?

Or, do people just not get you?

I'm an acquired taste.

A bit like an olive

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think I'm fairly similar, just takes me a few minutes to feel comfortable

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By *ick_and_BickerCouple
over a year ago

Nottingham

"When you meet people for the first time what kind of impression do you think you leave them with?

Do you come across how you want to?

Or, do people just not get you?

I'm an acquired taste.

A bit like an olive

Exactly that. I used to hate them, now I have them in every salad I make.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

We hope so.

Bubbly friendly people!

Her x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It’s difficult to know.

They mostly seem to like me and want to keep in touch so I reckon I give the first impression that I’m a friendly guy that just looks a bit Grrrr.

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By *nabelle21 OP Woman
over a year ago

B38

"When you meet people for the first time what kind of impression do you think you leave them with?

Do you come across how you want to?

Or, do people just not get you?

I'm an acquired taste.

A bit like an olive

Exactly that. I used to hate them, now I have them in every salad I make.

I couldn't stand them but now love them with a glass of wine

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm pretty fucking awkward at first, only really when I'm meeting multiple new people who all already know each other though

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By *affron40Woman
over a year ago

manchester

God I have no idea.. I think it will vary dramatically depending on how overwhelmed I am and if I’ve had gin

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By *andare63Man
over a year ago

oldham

"God I have no idea.. I think it will vary dramatically depending on how overwhelmed I am and if I’ve had gin

That's so cute. By the way I'm 95

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By *razzyhorseMan
over a year ago

cambridge

Does anyone really come across how they want to when you first meet?

Might get a slight impression but usually nerves get in the way of a real picture.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

False

No they don't..

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By *layfullsamMan
over a year ago

Solihull

"When you meet people for the first time what kind of impression do you think you leave them with?

Do you come across how you want to?

Or, do people just not get you?"

I'm just me, I don't put on an act and people either get me or they don't

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By *amie HantsWoman
over a year ago

Atlantis

Some say charming and warm, some say underwhelming and jarring.

Personally, I think I’m a hoot.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

You only get one chance to make a first impression

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Depends which version of me you meet. Bloke half is probably more reserved, certainly more drab. Nice bloke but nothing to get excited about.

Drag half, a bit up herself at times, can be funny, a bit sarcastic, occasionally bitchy, occasionally arrogant, often loud, but sometimes shy.

Kind.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Some say charming and warm, some say underwhelming and jarring.

Personally, I think I’m a hoot. "

And slightly whiskery?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I like to think I put people at ease.

We are pretty laid back and chatty.

No complaints so far haha

Depends also if you want them to see the 'real' you.

Mrs x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Usually come across as just me, I'd like to think a good impression, but I'm sure I'm not everyone's cup of tea.

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By *nliveneTV/TS
over a year ago

Selby

"When you meet people for the first time what kind of impression do you think you leave them with?

Do you come across how you want to?

Or, do people just not get you?

I'm an acquired taste.

A bit like an olive

Exactly that. I used to hate them, now I have them in every salad I make.

I couldn't stand them but now love them with a glass of wine

I'm the same , olives,wine, can i bring some cheese and bread sticks to deep

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

I hope I come across as polite, friendly and interesting.

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By *amie HantsWoman
over a year ago

Atlantis

"Some say charming and warm, some say underwhelming and jarring.

Personally, I think I’m a hoot.

And slightly whiskery?

Sometimes I clap my hands and bounce a beach ball on my nose, yes.

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By *nabelle21 OP Woman
over a year ago

B38

People don't go out of their way to avoid me after...so I'll take that as a positive

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Some say charming and warm, some say underwhelming and jarring.

Personally, I think I’m a hoot.

And slightly whiskery?

Sometimes I clap my hands and bounce a beach ball on my nose, yes. "

Well done.

Here, have a sardine

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By *nabelle21 OP Woman
over a year ago

B38

"Some say charming and warm, some say underwhelming and jarring.

Personally, I think I’m a hoot.

And slightly whiskery?

Sometimes I clap my hands and bounce a beach ball on my nose, yes.

Well done.

Here, have a sardine

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By *nabelle21 OP Woman
over a year ago

B38

"When you meet people for the first time what kind of impression do you think you leave them with?

Do you come across how you want to?

Or, do people just not get you?

I'm an acquired taste.

A bit like an olive

Exactly that. I used to hate them, now I have them in every salad I make.

I couldn't stand them but now love them with a glass of wine

I'm the same , olives,wine, can i bring some cheese and bread sticks to deep

To deep?...I'm not sure what that is

But yeah..I love cheese and bread sticks too

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By *ea monkeyMan
over a year ago

Manchester (he/him)

It’s hard to say. I try hard in first social situations to not let my awkwardness out but I large groups I tend to wait and work people out before engaging.

That can mean that people read me as quiet and reserved

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

I'd like to think I do but we all (or at least most of us) have an impression, a bias of someone before we meet them.

On the whole, and because I'm having a good day, I'd say yes, I am like how people imagine me to be. It depends on how comfortable and confident I feel, in my surroundings and with them.

I'm not sure how I want someone to see me. That varies a lot.

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By *HaRiFMan
over a year ago

Beyond the shadows.

I'm not entirely sure, hopefully come across in a positive way but Im far too old to learn new tricks now

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

not a clue

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I can appear aloof, but it is just shyness.

I have had clients that I have chatted with over the telephone who have thought I was a completely different person on meeting me. The bubbly, warm personality is suddenly swapped for a very quiet, timid soul.

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

"When you meet people for the first time what kind of impression do you think you leave them with?

Do you come across how you want to?

Or, do people just not get you?

I'm an acquired taste.

Same

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By *a LunaWoman
over a year ago

South Wales

"I can appear aloof, but it is just shyness. ."

This for me too. I’ve been told I come across as aloof but it’s because I’m that shy that I just won’t approach anyone to chat, because inside I’m cringing and thinking of an escape route, or wondering where the Bar is, or the toilet.

I’m lovely really. Once you get past my social awkwardness

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Hard to say ... others can sometimes see us differently to how we view ourselves.

I guess if they still want to know you afterward you made a good first impression xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If I meet one to one then I think I come across as I am, more or less. In a bigger social gathering I'm usually more shy or more extrovert, depending on my mood, and that's not so accurate.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I can appear aloof, but it is just shyness. .

I’m lovely really. Once you get past my social awkwardness

It is tough isn't it.

I went to my first group social just before lockdown not knowing anyone. I am still not sure how I stuck it out for 3 hours. Included in this was a lot of time looking at my feet

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes I think so. I have one those typical irish personalities whereby we are fairly laid back, dont take anything too serious and having a laugh has to be at the centre of everything. As long as people think I'm genuinely nice and good fun to be around then I'm happy. Maybe I'm not wacky enough for some but we all have our place in the world and gotta just embrace that!!

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By *nliveneTV/TS
over a year ago

Selby

"When you meet people for the first time what kind of impression do you think you leave them with?

Do you come across how you want to?

Or, do people just not get you?

I'm an acquired taste.

A bit like an olive

Exactly that. I used to hate them, now I have them in every salad I make.

I couldn't stand them but now love them with a glass of wine

I'm the same , olives,wine, can i bring some cheese and bread sticks to deep

To deep?...I'm not sure what that is

But yeah..I love cheese and bread sticks too

Deep bread sticks in virgin olive oil

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By *pursChick aka ShortieWoman
over a year ago

On a mooch

That I’m just as I am when we chat online before meeting. It won’t be a quiet time as we’ll be talking and laughing.

Anyone else that doesn’t know me beforehand or that I have no intention of getting to know better, they will get a polite hello and I’ll move on.

For both of these their first impression is up to them, but I won’t be something I’m not to create a good impression to please others.

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By *iaisonseekerMan
over a year ago

Liverpool

I think I make a good first impression but I wouldn't say it's the real me - especially in a professional context.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"When you meet people for the first time what kind of impression do you think you leave them with?

Do you come across how you want to?

Or, do people just not get you?"

I would hope they would leave having had a pleasant experience

I would hope they would pick up on self assurance well mixed with deprecation, a humour, a warmth, a friendliness and an openness

A wish to find out more would also be nice

I'd hate to think I'd bored someone

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I think I make a good first impression but I wouldn't say it's the real me - especially in a professional context."

I would echo this - work me is very different to me me

A former colleague who is now a great friend said I 'scared' her at interview, she thought I was really on point, focussed and professional, to the degree she didn't think she'd meet expectations if I offered her the job

She was surprised how laissez-faire I actually was to work with / for once I saw she complimented the other staff and the business

She was even more surprised when we became friends out of work

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It depends on the situation and the people as I can shown different sides to my personality and character, depending on how I feel and the vibes im picking up...goes deeper but ill not bore you all with thst one lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm like marmite. People either get my humour and find it hilarious or they think I'm a twat.

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By *den-Valley-coupleCouple
over a year ago

Cumbria

Cunt

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By *arte_Blanche_NECouple
over a year ago

Northern

"When you meet people for the first time what kind of impression do you think you leave them with?

Do you come across how you want to?

Or, do people just not get you?"

Suppose it depends on the person/people but we seem to do pretty well at making and keeping friendships on and off the scene xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't try

If someone wants to meet me they will already have formed their first impressions of me and it's not likely to change

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By *irtydevil666Man
over a year ago

bristol

"I'm like marmite. People either get my humour and find it hilarious or they think I'm a twat.

Marmite somes it up people will either like me or not on first impression

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

Depends on the circumstance - at work I'm usually forced to put on a "work" face relevant to the meeting.

One to one with someone I have got to know virtually beforehand then I'm the same person they've got to know.

One to one with someone I've never met before, or in a group situation I'm quite shy, reserved and awkward until I am comfortable and therefore probably come across as quite aloof initially - once comfort levels kick in though I can be quite chatty, relaxed and easy going.

One thing I don't do though, is put on an act or pretend I'm someone that I'm not - yes work protocol, or specific circumstance may dictate behaviour to an extent but it's still authentically me

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

That i dont stop talking

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By *hrista BellendWoman
over a year ago

surrounded by twinkly lights

Generally most think I am the same as on here, fun and chatty. Fab socials are great as I find it quite easy to strike up a convo

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I play it very safe when I first meet people. Essentially, I want to go away with them thinking "well that guy's not a total prick"

Hopefully that can then become a base for me to open up a bit the more we get to know each other

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Cunt"

Everyone loves cunt.

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By *heNYCSausageMan
over a year ago

Everton

"When you meet people for the first time what kind of impression do you think you leave them with?

Do you come across how you want to?

Or, do people just not get you?"

I’m shy and clumsy until you get to know me, then I’m just clumsy haha

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By *orthern StarsCouple
over a year ago

Durham

Most people we have met want to keep in touch so we take it that we come across ok. We are easy going fun sociable people to be around so we hope that's what people see in us.

If they don't then so be it. You can only be yourself, we don't pretend to be something we aren't.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I've always had people say positive things when they tell me about about they thought of me the first time we met.

It's usually smiley, kind and I have got told I come across as posh. I have no idea why people say posh as I'm really not well spoken at all. I think it's because of my immaculate dress sense.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I have been called laid back at work. Beyond that Im not sure.

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By *asilyled1Man
over a year ago

ogmore valley

I hope I come across as friendly and quite an easy going guy. If I really like someone I do tend to either yap nervous crap or go all shy

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By *iscean_dreamMan
over a year ago

Llanelli

Usually get told I'm easy to get on with and people feel at ease around me so I think I come across ok

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

They either think I'm super nice + friendly with high energy, or that I'm really reserved and quiet

I think it depends on the setting.. Generally it's the former

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By *emorefridaCouple
over a year ago

La la land

Well M thought I was a bitch when we first met, so I'll go with I don't make a great one oops

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I used to leave people with a pretty good one of Mavis from Coronation Street.

Not many people remember who she is these days though so it's often just awkward

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By *iscean_dreamMan
over a year ago

Llanelli

"Well M thought I was a bitch when we first met, so I'll go with I don't make a great one oops "

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By *edeWoman
over a year ago

the abyss

People must be terrified after meeting me. I quite often cover my nerves with constant chatter and babble so much they must think I've taken something

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

i try david attenbrough impression never goes done well

maybe because i am not very good at it

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By *emorefridaCouple
over a year ago

La la land

"Well M thought I was a bitch when we first met, so I'll go with I don't make a great one oops

Oh and add totally square

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By *xfordshireCoupleMFCouple
over a year ago

Nr. Oxford

I’m a 50/50 depending on if we click. If we do people think I’m lovely, calm and supportive. If we don’t I can come across awkward (I lose the ability to socially interact and John normally has to save me), quiet and defensive. I try for the former but sometimes the later happens, not often though.

Lily

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"People must be terrified after meeting me. I quite often cover my nerves with constant chatter and babble so much they must think I've taken something

I actually prefer it when people are more chatty than I am. Because you're happy talking about yourself, it encourages me to be as open back

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I used to leave people with a pretty good one of Mavis from Coronation Street.

Not many people remember who she is these days though so it's often just awkward

Well I don't really know....

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

It always varies, due to their tastes, but they will mostly get a reasonably good grasp of me.

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By *iscean_dreamMan
over a year ago

Llanelli

"Well M thought I was a bitch when we first met, so I'll go with I don't make a great one oops

Oh and add totally square

I'll be sure to leave appropriate feedback

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"When you meet people for the first time what kind of impression do you think you leave them with?

Do you come across how you want to?

Or, do people just not get you?"
People rarely get me (Rick}

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By *hunky GentMan
over a year ago

Maldon and Peterborough

"When you meet people for the first time what kind of impression do you think you leave them with?

Do you come across how you want to?

Or, do people just not get you?"

That I'm cheeky, flirty, charming, funny, 'not bad on the eye', great company and fat.

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By *edeWoman
over a year ago

the abyss

"People must be terrified after meeting me. I quite often cover my nerves with constant chatter and babble so much they must think I've taken something

I actually prefer it when people are more chatty than I am. Because you're happy talking about yourself, it encourages me to be as open back

Well as long as you don't mind the conversation going to some random places at the same time

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By *iamondCougarWoman
over a year ago

Norfuck! / Lincolnshire

I’m actually quite affable in person and probably not quite the same person people think I am here in the forums.

My softer personality only comes out when I’m comfortable, in the company of the person I’m talking to, if I’m not I will also exchange a polite ‘Hello’ and move on.

People like people who are like themselves

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"People must be terrified after meeting me. I quite often cover my nerves with constant chatter and babble so much they must think I've taken something

I actually prefer it when people are more chatty than I am. Because you're happy talking about yourself, it encourages me to be as open back

Well as long as you don't mind the conversation going to some random places at the same time

I wouldn't call your bedroom random

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By *indergirlWoman
over a year ago

somewhere, someplace

I'm 50/50 I'm either really quiet or I'm chatty, depends on how I've connected with the person prior to meeting x

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By *nabelle21 OP Woman
over a year ago

B38

"I’m actually quite affable in person and probably not quite the same person people think I am here in the forums.

My softer personality only comes out when I’m comfortable, in the company of the person I’m talking to, if I’m not I will also exchange a polite ‘Hello’ and move on.

People like people who are like themselves

People like people who are like themselves.....

I really like that

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By *arker secrets 321Man
over a year ago

West Bromwich

Even better in real life then I am on here .I hope x

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If we click I usually get the feeling like we’ve known each other for a long time if that makes sense

I’m usually quite chatty like an open book. I think people get the impression I’m down to earth...

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Smiley and approachable, although a little quiet at first. At least I think that's the general first impression I give. It's hard to actually know since I lost my mind reading abilities.

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By *edeWoman
over a year ago

the abyss

"People must be terrified after meeting me. I quite often cover my nerves with constant chatter and babble so much they must think I've taken something

I actually prefer it when people are more chatty than I am. Because you're happy talking about yourself, it encourages me to be as open back

Well as long as you don't mind the conversation going to some random places at the same time

I wouldn't call your bedroom random

Sshhh don't let people know my house is 'normal'

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

"Smiley and approachable, although a little quiet at first. At least I think that's the general first impression I give. It's hard to actually know since I lost my mind reading abilities."

Don't you get people to fill out a feedback form? I thought everyone did.

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By *ingle ex cuckMan
over a year ago

chester

People don’t get me especially women and younger men

Only the mature experienced bulls seem to relate

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Smiley and approachable, although a little quiet at first. At least I think that's the general first impression I give. It's hard to actually know since I lost my mind reading abilities.

Don't you get people to fill out a feedback form? I thought everyone did."

Thats the verifactions page lol

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By *hunky GentMan
over a year ago

Maldon and Peterborough

"I’m actually quite affable in person and probably not quite the same person people think I am here in the forums.

My softer personality only comes out when I’m comfortable, in the company of the person I’m talking to, if I’m not I will also exchange a polite ‘Hello’ and move on.

People like people who are like themselves

Naaaaah. I like sexy ladies.

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By *oungAtHeartCurvyCoupleCouple
over a year ago

Glasgow

Mr- easy going chatty friendly

Mrs- shy and reserved cautious a few vodkas can change that tho lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Smiley and approachable, although a little quiet at first. At least I think that's the general first impression I give. It's hard to actually know since I lost my mind reading abilities.

Don't you get people to fill out a feedback form? I thought everyone did."

I tried once but they gave me the stink eye

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By *ea monkeyMan
over a year ago

Manchester (he/him)

"I’m actually quite affable in person and probably not quite the same person people think I am here in the forums.

My softer personality only comes out when I’m comfortable, in the company of the person I’m talking to, if I’m not I will also exchange a polite ‘Hello’ and move on.

People like people who are like themselves

Maybe your last statement is true of a lot of people but for me, I like people who are genuinely themselves, that’s when I feel comfortable around others.

People who are fake or false give me a sense of discomfort and mistrust. I read people very well and am very rarely wrong

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By *ultry SuccubusTV/TS
over a year ago

London

Intimidating.

I think people are intimidated as they can actually see the masculinity that is not visible on photos, when I open the door.

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By *heNYCSausageMan
over a year ago

Everton

"Smiley and approachable, although a little quiet at first. At least I think that's the general first impression I give. It's hard to actually know since I lost my mind reading abilities.

Don't you get people to fill out a feedback form? I thought everyone did."

Did I ever send you your feedback form back?

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By *entleman JayMan
over a year ago

Wakefield

I used to talk too much. Now I try and let them do the talking. I once spent two hours hearing someone’s life story. To be fair it was interesting. On the second date it was my turn.

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"When you meet people for the first time what kind of impression do you think you leave them with?

Do you come across how you want to?

Or, do people just not get you?"

Can you control how you come across to people? Everyone has a whole history of influences behind them that will inform how they perceive you. I try to smile and he friendly and leave the rest up to them.

Some get me, some don't.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

The soft Dublin accent usually puts people at ease.

How I come across?...Other people have eyes and ears....he says in A Dublin soft Brouge.....

I am who I am....but I'll take notes from others who aren't assholes

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By *eoeclipseWoman
over a year ago

glasgow

"When you meet people for the first time what kind of impression do you think you leave them with?

Do you come across how you want to?

Or, do people just not get you?"

most don't get me tbh, I don't fit into any box because I don't even know where the box is.

far too many to lists and some conflict with others from the outside view i.e gearhead (largely repairs & resto) VS environmentalist put it that way, it'd be worse than my usual essays

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think people feel comfortable around me - but I can never know for sure.

I've been told I look friendly ( maybe they need to get to know me before they realise I'm not

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Children and animals always like me so maybe that's a good sign

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Like a box of chocolates..

In 30 seconds... A spark

In 2mins... Intrigue

In 10mins... Tell me more

In 30mins...I'll have another

In 2hrs... Well....

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By *urls and DressesWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere near here

I think (I hope) I come across well, I’ve not been told otherwise.

I have however been told I look naive and innocent upon first appearances, I assure you I’m not though!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’d like to think people like spending time in my company and think am a nice intelligent funny guy

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I’m actually quite affable in person and probably not quite the same person people think I am here in the forums.

My softer personality only comes out when I’m comfortable, in the company of the person I’m talking to, if I’m not I will also exchange a polite ‘Hello’ and move on.

People like people who are like themselves

Maybe your last statement is true of a lot of people but for me, I like people who are genuinely themselves, that’s when I feel comfortable around others.

People who are fake or false give me a sense of discomfort and mistrust. I read people very well and am very rarely wrong"

In person or online?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

First impressions are not just up to us...

You are relying on so many other factors out of your control which influence how someone will perceive you. IMO

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By *parkle1974Woman
over a year ago

Leeds

I hope I leave a lasting impression

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By *ld StrumpetWoman
over a year ago

Telford

I’m told I make people feel comfortable

I am just myself. I’m chatty open and swear like a docker and not in the slightest bit interested in mirroring someone else or trying to be what I’m not

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

Have I read somewhere that first impressions are formed before you even open your mouth?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Have I read somewhere that first impressions are formed before you even open your mouth?"

Yes you have, and it’s so true!

That’s why I’m saying it’s not just up to us how we make the impression.... some people will instantly form opinions based on clothing, body language, skin colour, literally everything contributes and it’s impossible to please all.

The amount of times by the end of the day someone has came to me and apologised saying ‘I thought you were going to be a typical jock geordie shore type but your nothing like that haha’

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By *icecouple561Couple
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over a year ago

East Sussex

"Have I read somewhere that first impressions are formed before you even open your mouth?

Yes you have, and it’s so true!

The amount of times by the end of the day someone has came to me and apologised saying ‘I thought you were going to be a typical jock geordie shore type but your nothing like that haha’ "

I posted up thread that I don't think we have any control over the first impression we make. It's too wrapped up in other people's experience.

Some people like me on first impression some people don't. I've got a lovely coat that makes a big impression on people to the point of them often approaching me in the street to comment on it. They go away with a completely different impression of me to when I'm wearing one of my other coats.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Have I read somewhere that first impressions are formed before you even open your mouth?

Yes you have, and it’s so true!

The amount of times by the end of the day someone has came to me and apologised saying ‘I thought you were going to be a typical jock geordie shore type but your nothing like that haha’

I posted up thread that I don't think we have any control over the first impression we make. It's too wrapped up in other people's experience.

A pastel coat like the Queen would make a different impression to a full length red shiny latex coat.

I agree... I think there's not much point in worrying what other people might think. If they or I are having a crap day, our first impression of each other will be very different to on a good day.

Etc etc

I've been told at socials that I'm nicer than they expected, they thought I'd be an angry sod. And told by other people at the same social that I am lovely, as they expected.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A whirlwind of red hair and scruffiness!

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham

"A whirlwind of red hair and scruffiness!"

This is true

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham

They probably think I'm a lot less grumpy in real life lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm just myself, I don't try and impress. People either like me or they don't.

They either get me or they don't.

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By *etite_delightWoman
over a year ago

BunnyLand

I have no idea how I come across to be honest and this is something I always want to know

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Like a box of chocolates..

In 30 seconds... A spark

In 2mins... Intrigue

In 10mins... Tell me more

In 30mins...I'll have another

In 2hrs... Well.... "

Coffee

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I’m often misconstrued....though I’m used to it and it no longer bothers me at all...if anything I find it mildly amusing. On getting to know me people realise how different I am to how I’m perceived to be. From strangers I’d often get the “but people like you don’t.....”

We are programmed to judge people’s and situations quickly....but knowing this I’m very mindful of doing the same and don’t jump to conclusions!

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

"Have I read somewhere that first impressions are formed before you even open your mouth?

Yes you have, and it’s so true!

The amount of times by the end of the day someone has came to me and apologised saying ‘I thought you were going to be a typical jock geordie shore type but your nothing like that haha’

I posted up thread that I don't think we have any control over the first impression we make. It's too wrapped up in other people's experience.

A pastel coat like the Queen would make a different impression to a full length red shiny latex coat.

I agree... I think there's not much point in worrying what other people might think. If they or I are having a crap day, our first impression of each other will be very different to on a good day.

Etc etc

I've been told at socials that I'm nicer than they expected, they thought I'd be an angry sod. And told by other people at the same social that I am lovely, as they expected.

A shiny, red latex coat, now there's an idea

People don't often tell me what they think of me, that's probably a bad thing

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Just me.

No act

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"God I have no idea.. I think it will vary dramatically depending on how overwhelmed I am and if I’ve had gin

As above but Vodka..lol

Quiet until i feel comfortable.

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