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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

I lot of singles are clearly very desperate for sex after potentially none for over a year, and understandably so.

Question, when the rules allow, if a platonic friend asked you for a fuck as a favour because they really desperately need one, would you? Or would you keep your friendship platonic but then let their unhappiness continue? Xx

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By *ittle_brat_evie!!Woman
over a year ago

evesham

I'm a single and I am not desperate for sex

I wouldn't just chuck someone a shag though just because they're a friend and desperate.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No, definitely not. No one wants to be in receipt of a pity shag and it would probably ruin the friendship

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By *gent CoulsonMan
over a year ago

Secret hideaway in the pennines

I guess it would depend on how good a friend they were, and the dynamic between you both.

If I knew it wasn't going to complicate things, I would probably consider it, if it was just sex and nothing more

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By *ookie46Woman
over a year ago

Deepest darkest Peru

I wouldn’t, I’d think of another way to spread some happiness

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By *ellhungvweMan
over a year ago

Cheltenham

I am guessing this question is going to go 50/50 - guys on one side and ladies on the other

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I lot of singles are clearly very desperate for sex after potentially none for over a year, and understandably so.

Question, when the rules allow, if a platonic friend asked you for a fuck as a favour because they really desperately need one, would you? Or would you keep your friendship platonic but then let their unhappiness continue? Xx"

No because I'd imagine it wouldn't be satisfying for either person. And I'm all about the mutual pleasure.

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By *arksoleMan
over a year ago

Birmingham

I have had sex with a platonic friend in the past, the problem came when she wanted more. Also are you attracted physically to this person.

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By *imiUKMan
over a year ago

Hereford

I, for one, have never had sex with a friend of the opposite sex.....

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I don't think friendship and sex mix

I have friends who are ex lovers

If, however, the bonding is based on friendship, that's the way it stays

I won't even fuck friends of friends

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Single..but still selective

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If the friendship is truly platonic then I don't fancy them, so no

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By *ondon MikeMan
over a year ago

St Albans

Definitely not. Don't shit where you eat.

Having said that, 10yrs ago my answer might have been different.

For me it's true to say Im missing sex in lockdowns but I'm craving human contact without screens much more. I haven't hugged a friend in over a year now

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By *urls and DressesWoman
over a year ago

Somewhere near here

Not a friend no, I wouldn’t be prepared to cross that boundary, might work out fine but is a big risk

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By *eliWoman
over a year ago

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"I lot of singles are clearly very desperate for sex after potentially none for over a year, and understandably so.

Question, when the rules allow, if a platonic friend asked you for a fuck as a favour because they really desperately need one, would you? Or would you keep your friendship platonic but then let their unhappiness continue? Xx"

I'm sure my platonic friends could find other quims so no, I probably wouldn't. Why complicate things? Also I don't like the idea of giving a fuck because someone is desperate for one... sex shouldn't be a favour.

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By *ritishguyMan
over a year ago

chatburn

Always be there for your friends

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By *hunky GentMan
over a year ago

Maldon and Peterborough

I think I'd probably set them up with another friend.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

No

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"I lot of singles are clearly very desperate for sex after potentially none for over a year, and understandably so.

Question, when the rules allow, if a platonic friend asked you for a fuck as a favour because they really desperately need one, would you? Or would you keep your friendship platonic but then let their unhappiness continue? Xx

I'm sure my platonic friends could find other quims so no, I probably wouldn't. Why complicate things? Also I don't like the idea of giving a fuck because someone is desperate for one... sex shouldn't be a favour."

This

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By *oxyvixen99Woman
over a year ago

Newtownabbey

No

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm single but definitely not desperate for sex ... but no, I'd hate pity sex

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

A work colleague offered me a shag last year. Not sure if he thought I'm desperate or if he just saw how sad I was and thought I'd be up for it because my defences were down. Don't really care.

Shagged him a few times. I went into it knowing what the situation was, it was a lot of fun for a while and a distraction.

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By *irty PrettyWoman
over a year ago

Cardiff


"I lot of singles are clearly very desperate for sex after potentially none for over a year, and understandably so.

Question, when the rules allow, if a platonic friend asked you for a fuck as a favour because they really desperately need one, would you? Or would you keep your friendship platonic but then let their unhappiness continue? Xx"

Depends. If I was attracted to them and actually wanted to then yes I guess I would. But I absolutely wouldn’t fuck someone as a “favour”, friend or not. Going without sex isn’t nice, I know that having done so for 12 years, but I also know no-one is going to die because of it, and no-one is entitled to my body however desperate or unhappy they are.

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By *edeWoman
over a year ago

the abyss

Mmm no. I'm definitely not that desperate so they can just use their hand or search elsewhere.

Also I'm so close with my friends it would feel like going with a brother and that isn't my thing

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I would take one for the team yes

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Definitely not.....

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By *partharmonyCouple
over a year ago

Ruislip

If I was single I would rule it out with most people I know, but certainly not all. Luke

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By *ad NannaWoman
over a year ago

East London

No. If I'm not sexually attracted to a friend I'm not going to be having sex with them.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Er, no.

Reasons for having sex are myriad, but "you're a friend" has never been a valid one.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think the length of time without has me feeling even more particular as to who I'll get naked with.... Always assuming I have the option lol

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"No, definitely not. No one wants to be in receipt of a pity shag and it would probably ruin the friendship"

Absolutely: I dont want a sympathy shag - that would make me feel even worse

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By *ssex_tomMan
over a year ago

Chelmsford

Well I would say no because he might want a regular thing but if you don't mind regular then say yes ..if that makes sense

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By *rder66Man
over a year ago

Tatooine


"I'm a single and I am not desperate for sex

I wouldn't just chuck someone a shag though just because they're a friend and desperate. "
This

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

This sort of thing will more often than not cause trouble. Plus sympathy sex isn't gonna be great

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex

If a friend or anybody approached me desperate for food because they hadn't eaten for a while I'd give them it.

Sex is different in my opinion and I don't want anyone to have sex with me just because they're desperate and I feel pity. What a sordid and depressing little episode that would be. Would it appear on YouTube in the acts of kindness social experiment section.

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By *inky_couple2020Couple
over a year ago

North West


"If a friend or anybody approached me desperate for food because they hadn't eaten for a while I'd give them it.

Sex is different in my opinion and I don't want anyone to have sex with me just because they're desperate and I feel pity. What a sordid and depressing little episode that would be. Would it appear on YouTube in the acts of kindness social experiment section."

Maslow's hierarchy of needs has sex on the same level as nutrition. Discuss....

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By *ancer36Woman
over a year ago

Stirling

Im single and never has it crossed my mind to give someone a sympathy fuck! Sex isn’t a favour and I personally like to enjoy it. If I was just doing it to make someone feel better I would get nothing out of that plus I wouldn’t want to blur the friendships I have with meaningless sex x

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By *etcplCouple
over a year ago

Gapping Fanny

If I were n that position and needed sex that badly, without the need to use hookup sites:apps, I would look at finding an escort before approaching any of my friends. If any of my platonic friends approached us about that, then I would make the same suggestion to them.

Lack of sex will not kill you. Its not a need, it's a want or desire. There are so many other ills and issues out there that can put the lack of sticking you dick into something into perspective.

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"If a friend or anybody approached me desperate for food because they hadn't eaten for a while I'd give them it.

Sex is different in my opinion and I don't want anyone to have sex with me just because they're desperate and I feel pity. What a sordid and depressing little episode that would be. Would it appear on YouTube in the acts of kindness social experiment section.

Maslow's hierarchy of needs has sex on the same level as nutrition. Discuss.... "

Abraham is entitled to his theory but I would feel obliged to give food to a starving person. If after they'd finished their sandwich they said "right now I need sex, hop on" I wouldn't oblige. I suppose it depends on how far another person feels they should go to satisfy someone's basic needs.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'd respect the friendship, more than the need for seual gratification

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By *inky_CarpenterMan
over a year ago

Portsmouth

Would you really be a friend if you degraded them with sympathy sex. I'd rather be celibate what accept pity sex!

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago

Thanks for the responses. It seemed harsh saying no when he knows I've shagged random guys off the net. But it would feel like I was having sex with my brother, and just complicate a friendship. Not worth it. Xx

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Thanks for the responses. It seemed harsh saying no when he knows I've shagged random guys off the net. But it would feel like I was having sex with my brother, and just complicate a friendship. Not worth it. Xx"

Good decision OP

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By *hunky GentMan
over a year ago

Maldon and Peterborough


"Thanks for the responses. It seemed harsh saying no when he knows I've shagged random guys off the net. But it would feel like I was having sex with my brother, and just complicate a friendship. Not worth it. Xx"

I thought having sex with family members was common in east Anglia.

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By *isAdventure69Woman
over a year ago

Hampshire


"I lot of singles are clearly very desperate for sex after potentially none for over a year, and understandably so.

Question, when the rules allow, if a platonic friend asked you for a fuck as a favour because they really desperately need one, would you? Or would you keep your friendship platonic but then let their unhappiness continue? Xx"

If I happened to fancy the pants of him... probably.

This said I would have probably made my move already and if he had turned me down , there would be no coming back from that

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By *icecouple561Couple
Forum Mod
over a year ago

East Sussex


"Thanks for the responses. It seemed harsh saying no when he knows I've shagged random guys off the net. But it would feel like I was having sex with my brother, and just complicate a friendship. Not worth it. Xx"

Why harsh? The fact that you "shag random guys off the net" doesn't mean you're the sexual equivalent of a food bank.

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By (user no longer on site) OP   
over a year ago


"Thanks for the responses. It seemed harsh saying no when he knows I've shagged random guys off the net. But it would feel like I was having sex with my brother, and just complicate a friendship. Not worth it. Xx

I thought having sex with family members was common in east Anglia. "

Only Norfolk xx

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By *etcplCouple
over a year ago

Gapping Fanny


"Thanks for the responses. It seemed harsh saying no when he knows I've shagged random guys off the net. But it would feel like I was having sex with my brother, and just complicate a friendship. Not worth it. Xx"

I believe it was unfair of him to even ask that question of you if it has never come up before.

Just because you have sex with other people doesn’t mean he or anyone else automatically gets a pass.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"Thanks for the responses. It seemed harsh saying no when he knows I've shagged random guys off the net. But it would feel like I was having sex with my brother, and just complicate a friendship. Not worth it. Xx

I thought having sex with family members was common in east Anglia.

Only Norfolk xx"

Whoo ouch!

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

Probably not, if I valued them as a friend.

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By *inkyRebelMan
over a year ago

Swindon

All depends on the friend and circumstance, but given the right situation yes

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By *luebell888Woman
over a year ago

Glasgowish

No. If he was that desperate than he could pay someone for a shag but i will not be used by someone just because he is desperate.

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By *assConductorMan
over a year ago

the wild

That's a bizarre question to ask a friend, are you sure he isn't actually interested in making things more than platonic?

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By *irty PrettyWoman
over a year ago

Cardiff


"Thanks for the responses. It seemed harsh saying no when he knows I've shagged random guys off the net. But it would feel like I was having sex with my brother, and just complicate a friendship. Not worth it. Xx"

Ugh, I hope I’m wrong and he didn’t act like this, but it sounds an awful lot like “yOu FuCk AlL tHeSe OtHeR gUyS, wHy NoT mE WAAAAH”. I’m glad you turned him down, I don’t think someone who demands sex like that is much of a friend in the first place.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I actually had an old friend who I haven't spoken to in years message me out of the blue yesterday wanting to hook up.

I said no. Even if we weren't all locked down I would've said no.

In the past I might've.

Saying that though, we generally only play with people we know pretty well and consider friends so I'm not sure how to answer

Lu

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By *naswingdressWoman
over a year ago

Manchester (she/her)

No. And I'd never impose on someone like that, either.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I think if you gave in once then they may view it that you could be expected to agree again whenever they thought.

Would break a friendship I think.

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