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By *partharmony OP   Couple
over a year ago

Ruislip

After breaking up with my wife over two years ago, I am finally within a few days of it coming to an end. She has consistently refused to negotiate or use mediation. She demanded that everything go through her solicitor, racking up tens of thousands of pounds in legal fees. Most cases are resolved before they gets to a final court hearing, but not ours. In my hearing I was grilled by her barrister for over four hours.

This is not me asking for sympathy or anything. I'm pleased we've nearly reached the end. I was just wondering how others have experienced divorce. Have you been able to keep it amicable? Have you had acrimonious negotiations and reached agreement? Have you gone all the way to a final adjudication? How was it for you? Luke

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

Sorry to hear that but it pleased it’s almost over for you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago


"After breaking up with my wife over two years ago, I am finally within a few days of it coming to an end. She has consistently refused to negotiate or use mediation. She demanded that everything go through her solicitor, racking up tens of thousands of pounds in legal fees. Most cases are resolved before they gets to a final court hearing, but not ours. In my hearing I was grilled by her barrister for over four hours.

This is not me asking for sympathy or anything. I'm pleased we've nearly reached the end. I was just wondering how others have experienced divorce. Have you been able to keep it amicable? Have you had acrimonious negotiations and reached agreement? Have you gone all the way to a final adjudication? How was it for you? Luke "

Been amicable is two way traffic. She clearly feels she needed a legal team. How’s it’s cost you tens of thousands of pounds? Split your assets equally and try not speak negative words about her on the internet for all too see..

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By *affron40Woman
over a year ago

manchester

Ah that sounds awful!

I was very lucky with mine. We did our own divorce with no solicitors. We sold our bigger assets and split them straight away and he stayed in the house as he had 3 kids. We don’t speak regularly but we remain good friends and I’m very close to my now grown up kids.

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By *inaTitzTV/TS
over a year ago

Titz Towers, North Notts

Sorry to hear this.

Mine was extremely amicable. Once it was agreed we were going this route, all of the previous squabbles were put to one side.

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By *orksRockerMan
over a year ago

Bradford

I won't go into detail but my ex was awful despite saying for years that we would ALWAYS be friends if anything did occur. "We're just not that kind of people." Well turns out she was.

A way of justifying her actions was to try put all the blame elsewhere. I did this BECAUSE of you!!!

I feel for you mate. It took 4 years for mine to be sorted and the future will only be brighter now. Don't let the old experiences tarnish the new. Good luck.

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By *rder66Man
over a year ago

Tatooine

My wife walked on on my daughter and me and after two years just got a divorce without having her to even sign anything.

She did clear out my back account though before she left.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I'm sorry, that sounds truly awful

Apart from a couple of mild squabbles mine was relatively easy. Changing my name appears to be proving more difficult than the divorce.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

lucky you! I'm sorry you went through that, but at least your end is nigh!

im almost 3 years down the road after filing, still no absolute in sight.. infuriating!

Px

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By *andare63Man
over a year ago

oldham


"After breaking up with my wife over two years ago, I am finally within a few days of it coming to an end. She has consistently refused to negotiate or use mediation. She demanded that everything go through her solicitor, racking up tens of thousands of pounds in legal fees. Most cases are resolved before they gets to a final court hearing, but not ours. In my hearing I was grilled by her barrister for over four hours.

This is not me asking for sympathy or anything. I'm pleased we've nearly reached the end. I was just wondering how others have experienced divorce. Have you been able to keep it amicable? Have you had acrimonious negotiations and reached agreement? Have you gone all the way to a final adjudication? How was it for you? Luke

Been amicable is two way traffic. She clearly feels she needed a legal team. How’s it’s cost you tens of thousands of pounds? Split your assets equally and try not speak negative words about her on the internet for all too see.."

Split everything equally? How do you know that's fair?

I didn't see anything negative in the OPs comments either. Bit harsh fella

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I was a complete idiot when it came to my divorce. I walked away with nothing because I thought I was doing the right thing. Had I known the extent of what he’d been up to, I would have taken him to the cleaners; I was entitled to half.

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By *iamondsmiles.Woman
over a year ago

little house on the praire

Sorry to here that. Mine started divorce in april and it was over by november

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

My ex was similarly awful, I spent almost as much on my lawyer as I did to get rid of him.

The non-mo le station orders and hearings hiked the costs up.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Mine was relatively amicable, apart from when the financial order was rejected by the judge for being grossly unfair to me. My then husband had already booked a wedding with his fiancee and having to redo the agreement meant slowed everything down and they had to postpone the wedding at great cost.

Once that was over we are good friends and make a good coparenting team.

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