FabSwingers.com forum: Dont get it

By *lder A Wiser Passion OP Woman
over a year ago

morecambe

Been on here now for many years but still hear of single men who are not guy or bi

Telling me they keep getting messages from bi/gay men wanting to go out and play with them

If a profile says Im not lookin for single men why are men messging men. To me total waist of time and I dont know why they do it

So going to open this up see what folk have to say about it

Cos for one here thinks in pointless and you only going to wind up folk so why do it

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By *renchDeliceMan
over a year ago

Consett

I thought I clearly stated I was straight and only looking for women yet , yes I do get a lot of offers from men. I kindly decline since I'm myself frustrated with ladies not declining kindly. I know they are swamped mind!

90% of my messages and views are from men.

I'm now accepting this as the norm on fab!

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By *rincess peachWoman
over a year ago

shits creek

Same way they message women even though they clearly ain't what the woman is looking for.

Same way they message women and couples who clearly state they aren't meeting, and won't be meeting.

Coz they have no respect.

However... some bi blokes put straight on their profiles coz they don't want "the stigma of being labelled bi"

So, they're hoping the straight bloke they're messaging is a liar and actually wants a dicking.

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By *rightonsteveMan
over a year ago

Brighton - even Hove!

I’m bi and don’t message men. Don’t often message women tbh. I’ve had more sex with ladies as bi than I ever did as straight.

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By *ablo minibar123Woman
over a year ago

Ask any TV/TS on here how many straight men message them looking for fun. I think gay/bi men know some guys who say they are straight on here are far from it so are trying their luck.

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

Because so many single men lie and say they are straight when they are actually bi - therefore bi men don't actually know if someone is straight or bi without asking.

Shouldn't be that way of course but that is the plain and simple reason.

If guys don't like getting messages from other guys they can of course use their filters to stop other guys messaging them.

It's really no big deal just deleting unwanted messages though - same as women do with them.

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By *ablo minibar123Woman
over a year ago

"I’m bi and don’t message men. Don’t often message women tbh. I’ve had more sex with ladies as bi than I ever did as straight. "

That's very interesting.

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By *all me FlikWoman
over a year ago

Galaxy Far Far Away

If a profile says Im not lookin for single men why are men messging men. To me total waist of time and I dont know why they do it

I think you've answered the question there OP..."if a profile says"... you are assuming a profile gets read rather than just looking at the pictures.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Improper use of filters!

If i dont want someone to message me i block their gender or set my filters to exclude an age bracket.

When guys moan about guys messaging them i often reply did you block single men? Some say no as they didnt know about the filter. Others like having someone to natter to so they leave it open.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I assume it's people testing the waters, as in see if the person is maybe hiding their sexual orientation or checking if they are "fab straight". But then again, I could be wrong.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I assume it's people testing the waters, as in see if the person is maybe hiding their sexual orientation or checking if they are "fab straight". But then again, I could be wrong. "

Good point

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By *alandNitaCouple
over a year ago

Scunthorpe

"Improper use of filters!

If i dont want someone to message me i block their gender or set my filters to exclude an age bracket.

When guys moan about guys messaging them i often reply did you block single men? Some say no as they didnt know about the filter. Others like having someone to natter to so they leave it open.

I agree, if you don't block people from messaging you, they might assume that you want them to message you.

Also, it is a well known fact that lots of people don't read profiles... so if you rely on telling people in your profile, it might fall on deaf ears.

Cal

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By *ersey GirlCouple
over a year ago

Glasgow

It baffles me the amount of things that annoy people that's none of their concen

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Men annoying men and men annoying women. Its always the same in many spheres. By the looks of it (Not sanctifying women by the way)

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By *olgateMan
over a year ago

on the road to nowhere in particular

I asked a guy why he had messaged me when my profile said I was straight, he said “if you don’t ask you don’t get,no harm done”

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

If only there was a way to block men, I guess that kind of technology isn’t available yet.

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By *ea monkeyMan
over a year ago

Manchester (he/him)

The two things are completely unrelated. It’s not a case of guys harassing people against their wishes, it’s because bisexual guys get so stigmatised that they’d rather hide their sexuality, than be honest. This means that guys don’t know who is or isn’t interested, so message prospectively.

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

"The two things are completely unrelated. It’s not a case of guys harassing people against their wishes, it’s because bisexual guys get so stigmatised that they’d rather hide their sexuality, than be honest. This means that guys don’t know who is or isn’t interested, so message prospectively.

Stigmatised or live under the false perception that by hiding their sexuality it increases their chances with those whose preference is not to meet bisexual men, whilst failing to realise that the vast majority are either not bothered by their sexuality or actively seek it.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Op presuming a profile has been read, then sone respect is shown, but unfortunately that's not always the case I guess ppl will try thrte luck regardless of what's in a profile....could always use the filters to block

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By *ea monkeyMan
over a year ago

Manchester (he/him)

I think that you’re massively underestimating the extent of biphobic attitudes that people have but I agree with your point

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

I think that you’re massively underestimating the extent of biphobic attitudes that people have but I agree with your point"

Not underestimating anything - agree they exist, but also know based on my experiences as a bisexual man here the latter is probably more relevant

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By *appydays007Man
over a year ago

bucks

I am bisexual and I get lots of offers from so called straight guys. I am happy about that.

I like both straight bi and gay. They are all yummy to me xxxx

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By *hunky GentMan
over a year ago

Maldon and Peterborough

My profile clearly states that i like blue,underwear, yet ladies still sent me pics of them in different colours.

And......

Some have a real cheek to send nudes.

Pfffffft

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I receive more messages from straight (often married) men than I do from the gay & bi ones put together

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I wish I could filter distance.

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By *emini ManMan
over a year ago

There and to the left a bit

"I receive more messages from straight (often married) men than I do from the gay & bi ones put together

Ditto and ignore them too - if they can't be "straight" (pun intended) about their sexuality I always wonder what else they're not being upfront about

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By *angbangFantasyWoman
over a year ago

London

"Same way they message women even though they clearly ain't what the woman is looking for.

Same way they message women and couples who clearly state they aren't meeting, and won't be meeting.

Coz they have no respect.

However... some bi blokes put straight on their profiles coz they don't want "the stigma of being labelled bi"

So, they're hoping the straight bloke they're messaging is a liar and actually wants a dicking.

This post right here

Of course not all the points apply to all single guys

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By *ophieslutTV/TS
over a year ago

Central

It's often said here that people are not always comfortable being 100% honest about their sexuality with themselves and others here and elsewhere. That does leave some people who may be up for more things than face value would suggest. Some people are situationally open to sexual activities, even if they are not attracted to a genders generally too.

I can't speak for bi and gay guys messaging men, they will have to do this. If they don't invest huge amounts of effort to create the well crafted first messages that many do to women and couples, it's possibly a simple copy and paste job. Some people are pretty lazy and it may appeal.

I think much lies in the fact that sexuality and interests lay on a broad spectrum. Some people may dip their toes in the water once or twice but don't really fall within the curious or bi domains. For some, some things once tried are never repeated either.

People also moan because they have little else to talk about.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

It goes with the territory. Most of the time it's harmless browsing. If someone tries to message I reply out of courtesy. That usually ends it.

However....occasionally a really convincing Asian ladyboy can upset my sang froid.

I expect the reason it's so rife is because it works. Or they are just comparing profiles and assessing competitive factors.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Block them on your messages simples

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By * Sophie xTV/TS
over a year ago

Derby

"Ask any TV/TS on here how many straight men message them looking for fun. I think gay/bi men know some guys who say they are straight on here are far from it so are trying their luck."

This completely so thank fuck for filters blocking men. If I do ever open my filters for a forum game, my inbox goes nuts even though my bio clearly states I have no interest in men.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"I assume it's people testing the waters, as in see if the person is maybe hiding their sexual orientation or checking if they are "fab straight". But then again, I could be wrong. "

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

I d9nt get all the guts complaining they are getting messages from guys, all you have to do is change your settings so men cannot message or wink you.

Sorry but if you haven't got this setting then you are saying you are open for guys to contact you.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Yes, I get messages from guys wanting to possibly get jiggly with me. Does it bother me? No not really, thy are normally polite when I state my case, and they got there own way.

Like most complaints on here, they stand out like bad reviews of restaurants, you know!

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

Any hole is a goal? Boom boom ciao?

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Any hole is a goal? Boom boom ciao? "

It doesn’t work when playing football though..you could end up loosing if you don’t know what team you are on.

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Any hole is a goal? Boom boom ciao?

It doesn’t work when playing football though..you could end up loosing if you don’t know what team you are on.

Still scored tho

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By (user no longer on site)
over a year ago

"Any hole is a goal? Boom boom ciao?

It doesn’t work when playing football though..you could end up loosing if you don’t know what team you are on.

Still scored tho

Yeh but, who’s cheering?

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